| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/16/2006 8:48:22 AM |
I think I'm going to stand firm in my belief (even tho the men are gonna flame me for this one BIG TIME..lol).....given the right time, circumstance, situation, I still believe any man can be seduced IF that woman is persistent enough....*waits for the gunfire to start*
Yeah right. 
And what exactly is the right circumstance, situation, etc.? Perhaps you can do that to a single guy, and perhaps that will work on an unhappily married guy, but otherwise I think you'd be mistaken.  | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/16/2006 5:06:31 PM | Hmm, I know that use guys can be weak fools no matter what our personal lives are like. If an attractive woman is trying to seduce a guy unfortunately I think that for the most part she will succeed. Of course it always depends on the situation. 
I would hope that guys wouldn't fall for that but we do get sort of one track minded at times.  | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/16/2006 7:09:36 PM | | We can't always get what we 'want' in life but we get what we 'need'..as f***** as that sounds but it is the truth, but when emotions come into play its painful! I know been in your situation about 10 years ago..you will get through it! bitter in the end or not..good luck | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/17/2006 7:29:45 AM |
Hmm, I know that use guys can be weak fools no matter what our personal lives are like. If an attractive woman is trying to seduce a guy unfortunately I think that for the most part she will succeed. Of course it always depends on the situation.
I think if it were to succeed, it would only be because it was such a rarity. I mean how often does it actually happen that way? 9 times out of 10 it's the guy trying to put the moves on the girl. Seldom (if ever) does it go the other way.
So it MAY succeed just for being a statistical oddity, but not if the guy is happy where he is.
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/17/2006 7:34:59 AM |
Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
And isn't it this way?.. We fall for someone who seems to perfectly reflect our expectations as our partner, and this very moment we just start wanting too much to have them.. We try hard, we don't believe we could ever be happy with anyone else, we tell them that we love them, we prove that.... and the other person just doesn't want something that comes that easy. And he/she might even fall for us in other circumstances, but having it all at their door... they start believing they can have sth better. Just because they didn't have to fight for it... | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/17/2006 8:36:15 AM |
We men have a much easier time of this than you women.
Every man in the world KNOWS which one we can't have.
We only fall for the ones we can't get !
Haha...thats a joke right? Thats not my experience at ALL! | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/18/2006 5:09:42 AM | JUGGER: I KNEW who ya meant!!! LOL Guess he had "A Bad Day"!! lol
COMPUTER: You are quite funny! And twisted...kewl!!!
I just am figuring in many cases it is easier to fall for someone with the knowledge that you won't go farther...much safer and easier. No worries...
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/18/2006 5:17:09 AM |
I just am figuring in many cases it is easier to fall for someone with the knowledge that you won't go farther...much safer and easier.
If you did that all the time, don't you think that would partly be because of some fear of commitment?? I have known people like that, they go for people they KNOW they can't have because its safer that way. Subconsciously its saving them from having to be in any commited relationship, and thats a whole other thread.... | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/18/2006 5:28:25 AM | | Maybe that is why I am that way...you know me TEE..not really a "dater" and all...but definately a "dreamer"....maybe it's just easier that way...not to try to avoid the committment, maybe just more heartache...I dunno, that's why I posed the question though... | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/18/2006 5:37:38 AM |
maybe it's just easier that way...not to try to avoid the committment, maybe just more heartache
Then I guess we'll just have to get ya moving!
Remember...better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all. Its either you take a chance and go for it, or stay alone forever, and personally I don't think many people want that... | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/18/2006 6:08:24 AM | | I doubt most do...but lack of ambition...or much else can hold ya back too...And yeah, can be better to love and lost, but also better to be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong ones.....know what I mean? | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/18/2006 11:28:31 AM | No Ohio, it's not a joke.
For every man there are 3 different types of women.
The ones who are too good for us. (They know who they are).
The ones who arn't good enough. (Our friends tell us who they are).
The ones in the middle are the ones we go for.
If we can't get them, that's when the trouble starts. | |
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Joined: 1/22/2006
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/18/2006 11:41:31 AM | | I know the feeling, at one point I found myself falling for someone that I knew I could never have but fortunately with lots of communication and care and understanding we were able to salvage the good and he is now one of my favorite people and I know I can always call on him if I need to talk and vice versa. Sometimes falling for the one we cannot have is a great opportunity for friendship, just take the good that is offered and hold it close. | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/18/2006 11:46:12 AM | | I hear ya RED...gotta appreciate the feelings we hold for THAT person and do the best we can with it...and sometimes the friendship might turn out to be one of the best things we could have never even imagined!!! Just sucks when ya still have the feelings... | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/18/2006 12:06:33 PM | | bumfuk is right..all men can be seduced. there was a tv show about that several years ago. Men were set up by beautiful woman and taped to see if they would cheat. Then if they did they were in deep sheet, cuz their girlfriends were watching. guess what..every guy cheated..100% the show was pulled..the only way we cannot or will not cheat is to get the hell out of dodge when that beautiful seductress starts her moves.. | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/18/2006 2:24:29 PM | bullshit! (sorry for the language)
I never had a girlfriend cheating on me, and i never cheated on any of my girlfriend.
So please stop that idiotic generalization, as if all man or woman are cheaters.
You simply get the fish in the pond you fishing in with the bait you are using;
(Ok true, sometimes, your simly not lucky and get had) | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/18/2006 2:53:39 PM | All desirable things in life are either...illegal, banned, fattening or belongs to someone else... lol but you know what nothing is impossible! When there's a wheel there's a way!
back to the OP: *shrugs*
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/18/2006 3:40:39 PM | sounds like a Jungian psychological phenomenon called the "imago":
An often idealized image of a person, usually a parent, formed in childhood and persisting unconsciously into adulthood.
It has to do with a feeling of safety and unrequited love for a parent of the opposite sex. The tragedy is that the most attractive feature of the beloved is their inaccessibility to the lover... | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/18/2006 3:48:17 PM | | say what you want uncommon sense! ( sorry for the misspelling ), it's the way it is. Men have millions of spermatazoa and women have just a few eggs. Little girls scream. Boys play with soldiers. Politicians lie..It's the way it is. It's the differences I love. I want to go to Target about as much as my lady wants to go to Lowes | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/18/2006 3:56:53 PM | bucsgirl........"whoa, I'm the odd woman out". Have read your post in several treads, and we think alike in so many ways. I'm another odd women out, and glad to be that way.
"Men who are taken or otherwise unavailable hold no allure for me, none. " I don't get why anyone would A) want the unavailable B) spend any energy on failure.
Oh well, we can't all be the same. If we were, we would have nothing to chat about on the theads. | |
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