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Posted: 2/1/2007 1:52:55 PM | Ur last mail caught my eye so i read the whole thread and now in tears. My advice to u is to go...surly some1 can have your children if u explain to them
way i see it , funerals are not about good byes they are about celebrating that persons life and sending them off to a place where there is no longer suffering or pain, just pure happiness
i am a strong beliver in spirtulism, maybe u do not belive i dont know, but believing that they " live on" keeps u going
I lost two babies that i was carrying and whilst they may not have entered this world, they were alive, and now i know that if they had been born the would not have surrived in this world and they are now safe and well
i really do feel for u right now and am sending u my deepest thoughts, i think u can get a lot of support on here by what i have read
my thoughts r with u | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 2:11:10 AM | | i no what it feels like to lose a loved one. I lost my grandad i was only 11 and we were very close,he ways really funny like what grandads are normarlly like there daft,but he died of cancer and i lost my best friend that day, but my grandad always told me never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game. But what i really need is some advice i`m trying to find my dad as i have never met him before but i `ve tired everything i`m on the point of giving up, can anyone tell me what i should do. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 8:37:08 AM | How do you deal with the death of a loved one, how do you cope, how do you move on start a new life, hoe do you stop the tears......
You do it one long hard day at a time
When I lost my fiancee i was like a mummy but I was lucky because i had people to love me and help me through it...
I also got to tell him I loved him and to say goodbye... he called 2 day's before he was kia from Baghdad and said if anything happen to him he'd be waiting at the pearly gates for me
My pain became my source of hope that some day I'd see him again and til them I'm doing what he would want me to do...I'm living life
I'm sorry your going through this...God Bless you
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Posted: 2/2/2007 9:58:00 AM | you celebrate the time you spent with them on earth and you realise that someday you will meet them again, you must also realise they will always be watching over you and will always be with you, in the time that you shared with that person who died, you will always have that time, nothing can ever change that or alter that time you spent together as it is a part of history and if they do make a time machine you can always go back and see them again
death is part of life and its something although sad all of us human beings have to accept but death is an extention of life just in another form
when anyone close to me has died i've been sad cause part of me had died with them but on the other hand they no longer have to suffer what we have yet to go though, i like to think they are safe somewhere in a better place away from this planet and all the bad things that are happening and are about to happen | |
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Posted: 3/23/2007 2:47:43 PM | I too lost my husband after a 38 year marriage. It was never perfect, nothing every is...but I can't be sad now and I celebrate with my children that he was a good Dad and husband. It has been two years and I am totally ready to move on with my life. It takes a while but I have discovered how strong I am and have even found a totally new career. You will find the strength somewhere and when you do, you will be empowered by it. I am sure I will never compare another man to what I have had in the past. I am starting over and with a great deal of optimism! Love is stronger than any other emotion..even grief. Hugs dear and be strong!!!
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Posted: 3/24/2007 9:21:42 AM | | dont stop the tears,i lost my son age 13mts,in may 1991,my brother age 31 in may 1997,my husband age 34 in may 2004,the pain is always there,the love is always there,time is a healer,i truley no that,they would want us to move on,you think how will i cope,your still here so that proves that each day your getting stonger,and in time you learn to live with that,you never get over it,you never forget,the love you will always have for them will always be with you,how do you move on and start a new life,your life will ajust in time,and you will learn to live with how youe life will be,i truley believe in that,time is a great healer,i hope im living proof of that. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2007 9:57:09 AM | Beautiful-Red-Curls...what a lovely user name! And I'll bet someone told you that indeed you do have those beautiful curls.
I wish I could give you that magic reply you so desperately need, or say the healing words we all wish were there. Unfortunately I can't. People have a tendency to say the most ignorant things. I'm not sure if it's through not realizing the devistation you're feeling or just plain ignorance. I'm not going to tell you I know how you feel, because I don't. I'm not going to tell you time heals, because maybe it won't. I'm not going to tell you it's time to move on and start living again, if or when you feel that way, you'll do it on your own. I'm not going to tell you that one day you'll wake up and you life will feel normal again because in all likely hood it won't happen.
I can tell you that 5 months ago I lost my husband of 22 years to an unexpected death. Three weeks after he passed away I lost my 3 year old grandson through a massive heart attack in his sleep. To top things off, 6 days later I lost my daughter (the mother of my grandson) to a car accident. In one month I managed to loose my whole family, and I still feel the devastation, the amputation and the endless void I reside in. The tears haven't lessened nor has the heartbreak. The only thing that has eased up would have to be the nightmares - I used to experience them nightly. Now I'm down to once a week on average.
I still walk around my house talking to my husband. I still expect him to cme in the door looking for his dinner. I still wait for him to call and say he's running late. I can still see my grandson running through the house, wrecking havoc in his path and laughing as he goes. He had this beautiful slow smile that turned into huge belly laughs, such a delightful child! All this stays with me still. Things like this are not going to go away over night. I don't think they ever do. I think, over time, we learn to cope with the loss(s), and try to live as normal a life as possible.
The only thing I can tell you is to take your space, grieve your loss, cry buckets of tears, stay in bed for days on end without getting dressed or wanting to see anyone, look at a picture and keep on loving the one you miss so badly. One good rule of thumb, for whatever it's worth is to make sure you get dressed at least twice a week and go outside. It doesn't matter where, just do it, no matter hov difficult is may be. To grieve is healthy, but it can lead to depression and the best way to avoid that as much as possible is to make sure you go outside around people with some form of frequency. Don't loose all of you to that grief. It can so easily happen. When or if a time comes that you feel you need to carry on, then you will.
Should you find yourself eventually involved with someone, it's ok to still love the person who's now gone. You can't compare them, or expect the feelings to be the same because they won't be. We love different people in our lives for different reasons. The same applies to new relationships. Anyone you may meet should understand this. If he doesn't, then he's not the one for you.
What little bit of my heart is left goes out to you. I feel sad for both of us.
Time healing? Who's to say when or even if it does?
All my Best and My Sincerest Sympathies
Susan | |
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Posted: 3/24/2007 5:38:39 PM | I JUST WANT TO SAY MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU,I LOST THREE LOVED ONES,BUT IN SUCH A SHORT TIME,IT JUST SHOWS THAT YOUR NOT ALONE,AND READING YOURS,MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU,I LOST MINE IN MAY,NOT THE SAME YEAR,BUT THE SAME MONTH,WHEN MY SON DANIEL DIED AGE 13MTS,MY WORLD FELL APART,I,LL ADMIT I WANTED MY LIFE TO END,AS I FELT GUILTY FOR NOT SAVING HIM,THO I DID TRY,IT WAS A TRAGIC HOUSE FIRE,I SAVED MY OTHER TWO SONS,BUT WAS BADLY BURNT AND COULDNT FIGHT THE SMOKE,I FEEL SO GUILTY,BUT IM GRATEFUL I GOT MY OTHER TWO SONS OUT,THAT IS WHAT KEPT ME GOING,IN TIME I DID MOVE ON SLOWLY,EVERY TIME MAY CAME I JUST LOCKED MYSELF AWAY,THEN MY BROTHER AGE 31 WAS KILLED IN MAY,IN A WAY I FEEL COMFTY THINKING HE IS WITH MY SON LOOKING AFTER HIM AND THAT IN TIME HELPED ME TO COME TO TERMS WITH MY BROTHERS DEATH,MY LIFE WAS GETTING BETTER,AND THINGS WERE LOOKING GOOD IN LIFE,EVERY TIME MAY CAME I ALWAYS FELT SCARED THAT I WOULD LOSE SOME ONE,MY HUSBAND WAS SO UNDERSTANDING AND HELPED ME TO STOP THINKING LIKE THAT,THO IT WAS STILL THERE DEEP DOWN,IN MAY 2004 ME AND MY HUSBANS MARK BOTH WENT OUT ON OUR BIKES,WE WERE 50YARDS FROM OUR HOUSE WEN HE WAS KILLED.I FELL APART WHY ALL IN MAY AND IN THE SAME AREA,I GOT A LETTER OF A FRIEND,IT READS SOME OF US ARE ONLY MEANT TO TO BE ON THIS EARTH FOR A SHORT TIME,THERE HERE FOR A REASON,AND THEN THEY HAVE TO LEAVE US,I READ THAT ALL THE TIME AND IT DOES MAKE ME THINK,YOU HAVE SOMEONE FOR A SHORT TIME,BUT THE LOVE YOU HAVE AND SHARE WITH THEM WILL NEVER DIE,I TRULEY THINK THAT WERE ALL HER FOR A REASON,SOME LONGER THAN OTHERES,SO I LIVE FOR TODAY BEST I CAN,AS IT IS A TRUE SAYING,YOU DONT NO WHAT IS AROUND THE CORNER,AND CARRY ON BEST YOU CAN,I HOPE THIS HAS HELPED A LITTLE,MY THOUGHTS GO OUT TO YOU,ONE THING THAT WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU IS THE LOVE AND TIME YOU HAD WITH YOUR LOVED ONES THAT WILL ALWAYS BE WITH YOU.TAKE CARE.
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Posted: 3/24/2007 6:08:31 PM | I lost my wife to cancer!! We didn't have kids,and much of anything realy except each other!! since shes died I have strugged and clawed to cope!! I've at times taught of suicide;except if I do that;that will mean I've have turn my back of what she meant to me!! I'm starting to feel that her spirit lives on within me, and at this moment I feel alot of anger for the way,that Gods plan is not a plan!!She didn't want to leave me,and now at least I can feel she didn't!;still doesn't make it right!! Freedom with our souls comes with a high pricetag!!And it can hurt sometimes!!! | |
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Posted: 3/25/2007 8:02:49 PM | Recently I have lost both my grandfathers (One was almost three years ago and the other will be a year in August). It was hard losing both of them, but I think it was even harder losing my dad's father last August. To this day I still have my moments that are harder than others.
I cope by knowing that they are in a better place. My mom's father had been sick with cancer for over two years, but didn't tell a soul. My dad's father had Alzteimer's for a while and had been in a nursing home for about a year and a half. I know they aren't suffering now. They lived long lives.
As time goes on it gets easier, but you never really forget. You go day by day. Don't forget the good times and talk to people that knew them and share stories with one another.
As time goes on the tears will get less and less. No need to stop them or hold them back. It's a natural part of grieving. Even though it's been almost three years, I still cry. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2007 10:20:57 PM | There's no need to stop the tears. Anyone going through the loss of a loved one should take their time to get through their grief. For some it takes longer than others.
My dad is very ill and is declining quickly. I'm expecting the call any day that will tell me he's in end stage and that I have to get out there right away as at that point he's got at most 3-7 days left. I hope I'll make it in time. I did go back in Febraury to see him and visit with him and just spend some quality time with him. I'd written a letter that went down memory lane, celebrated the things he contributed to my life and how my wish for him was peace and love. I'm grateful I had the chance to let him read that letter while I sat and silently cried. I've been grieving for awhile in anticipation of it. It's so hard to watch him suffer so much. Sometimes my day is going along fine, then I think about it and just break down. I'm not ashamed of that. I'm trying to process it all.
I'll always be his baby girl. I'll always love and respect the man he is and was after he's gone. It's just so hard to wrap one's head around. One day they're there and a phonecall away, the next you grab the phone and realize they won't be there to pick up. I've been dealing with his illness for a long time now and by all rights he should have passed ages ago. I know of many situatons where people in his situation who were much younger didn't last as long. He knows his days are numbered now but is at peace about it. It just breaks my heart how much his suffering increases daily. He's been such a trooper and SO strong. He's even baffled doctors and nurses caring for him by the fact that he's gone on as long as he has. He still pushes himself to do as much as he can and keep some sort of dignity and feeling of being needed. I think the reason he hasn't let go yet is because he's really worried about what will happen to my mom after.
My mom is ill as well but somehow in her state of disease she's mustered this unbelievable strength to care for him. We're worried she will decline quickly after her partner of 56 years is gone. In all of this I choose to celebrate the lives they've lived, the amazing things they've brought to us kids, and the people they are overall. They are my true heros who've set so many examples for me throughout my life and taught me a lot about what I see wanting for myself. More times than I can count they've both had 'close calls' and yet seemed to come out of it better than ever... until now. It's hard to realize that THIS is it... there's no coming back from it, it's too far gone and now it's a matter of time.
Even though we know it's coming, it doesn't make it any easier when they pass. It's a relief in the sense of that they're not suffering anymore, but at the same time it's hard to conceive of that you'll never see them again in this lifetime... never be able to show how much you love them or miss them again. It's so final and that's what's hard to comprehend.
Too all of you who've posted your touching stories, my heart goes out to you. It's not easy no matter what the situation and but it's OK to do what you have to do in order to grieve, cry as much as you need to, then focus on the good that they brought to your life by being in it and celebrate that.  | |
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Posted: 3/26/2007 8:51:32 AM | | Hi , yes thats a good thought ... I lost my hubby while sleeping he was 50 .. it will be two years , in oct..I try and think of how much i was loved , and knowing he loved me helps me . So , sorry for everyones lost in this forum.....With the strenght of God , and Time I take it day by day. I dont take things for granite... Bren | |
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Posted: 3/26/2007 10:10:55 AM | Even though unfortunately, the time comes to us all. Grief is such a tragic yet meaningful process we all endure at some point, some move through it more quickly than others, this does not mean that we do not love the person any less if we move through grief quicker, nor does anyone have the right to say that you have been grieving for that person for far too long now. It is something that is individual to that person and the person that has died. There are various techniques that may help or then again they may too be individual to those help deal with it. But there is one that I do promote and many have said it helps. It to write a letter to the one that has died. Tell them how it felt on the time you heard of them passing, tell them how you are feeling now, and so on. You may want to tell them what you have been doing since they died. It is a hard task to write a meaningful letter. But after you have completed the letter then read it out aloud, this is also a hard task to do. Then after you have done that you need to discard the letter, usually by candle light, please ensure of a safe environment when doing so.
The aim of this is to release any feelings you may have deep inside, therefore expressing it out in writing to the person you have lost. Hope this helps xoxox | |
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Posted: 5/10/2007 2:43:00 PM | My heart goes out to all who's loved ones have died. I know & feel your pain. My dad & stepmom drowned in their car when I was 17. He never got to meet my beautiful baby girl I had 2 years later. When she was 12 years old we traveled across country to see my sister's new baby, he was 10 months old. The day after we arrived we were all in a horrible accident in which I watched my precious Korvette (my daughter) and baby Michael die. I didn't believe I could survive the pain. I tried to stop the pain & tears through drugs and alcohol. Trust me, it doesn't work. Got sober a yr. later and subsequently learned a lot about the grief process, spirituality and myself.
There are a lot of very good suggestions in this thread. Writing the letter is an excellent tool. But what I would like you to hear is what I heard that helped me the most.
You can and will cry, you can and will talk about their death. But when you cry and talk at the same time is when the healing happens. So I suggest you find someone you feel safe with be it a support group, counselor or friend and share how you feel and by all means, DO NOT stop the tears. Do not stuff those feelings because when you bury it, you bury it alive.
My ex, Korvette's dad, died 3 yrs. ago from a drug OD. He never dealt with her death. My sister died in December. I know it hurts. I know how the searing pain can be so excruciating you almost want to throw up. You are hurting, so please take these suggestions and take care of yourself. You will never "get over it" (as my boss suggested) but with time the painful days become fewer and farther between. Know that.
Namaste'
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Posted: 5/10/2007 3:45:50 PM | Have a belief that..........someday when your time comes on this earth, you will once again see that person in the spiritual world.
I think death is one stage in the life cycle and is necessary.
Please don't cry...whatever you do, please don't cry too much......your loved one would not like it.............right? Instead, why not remember them or smile each time you think of them.....BELIEVE THAT THEY ARE IN YOUR HEART OR WATCHING YOU FROM UP ABOVE......close your eyes and feel them...........................*smile* | |
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Posted: 5/10/2007 4:01:19 PM | | I lost my Father October 7, 2004. It was the single worst day of my life, so far. One way I have dealt with the pain is to keep his memory alive and talk about him. Don't keep dwelling on the fact that they are now deceased and there's nothing we can do about it. Fact is, that wont change. But as everyone has stated, time truly does heal all wounds. And as bad as it hurts now, it WILL lessen. But to be very honest, there will be little things from time to time that will just HIT you and you will break down in tears for no apparent reason. Let them flow... it's all part of the healing process. I found talking and blogging about my dad, his death, his occupation, his wit, etc all makes me feel better in the long run. Don't block the memories... let them flow and celebrate what you remember about your loved one and the times you shared together. Keep their memory alive and you will heal with a clear mind. God Bless... if you ever need a shoulder or an ear... I am only a keystroke away. Jackie | |
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Posted: 5/10/2007 5:52:24 PM | | Hello sweetie, i know how you feel i lost my husband in irag and it hurts evryday and i just think of all the times we had and some days it would hurts so bad but i would think to my self he wouldn't want me to sit here and cry and then one day i was sitting on the bed we shared and i turned the radio on and i heard this song called i want you to live by george canyon and i knew in my heart that this was he sign to tell me taht i can move on now and live and keep our memories of us and hun it will get better i can promise you that,, lots of hugs | |
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Posted: 5/10/2007 9:33:32 PM | Losing someone changes us profoundly........I have lost many dear to my in my life, the most recent being my fiance.......In 2004 Not really sure the best way to cope ??...What I can say is do what u need to do. If that is cry untill your eyes are sore than do it...If it is to retreat within the comfort of your own space , than do it...but don't isolate yourself. Talk to friends, family, pastor, someone u trust, and all of us here...I believe that everytime we cry or talk about them , it truly does help to heal.
I believe that we never "get over" a loss of a loved one...but it does change over time....Take baby steps if u must....but always remember that you are still here and have to continue on .....this journey called life.
Our loved one truly do live on, right here inside our heart and every time you talk about them or quietly sit alone and remember them....We are truly blessed to have had them in our lives, and perhaps one day will be reunited with them, for those who believe........Remember that they do live on within your soul.....and that will never die.....I wish u peace , slowly life will have meaning again....Hugs to u and all who have lost someone........ | |
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Posted: 5/10/2007 9:53:04 PM | | How do you deal with the death of a loved one?...Very slowly and at your own pace.....Its been the most difficult thing in my life to go thru...I lost my father to lung cancer in August 2005 and I learned very painfully that life is not a dress rehearsal....Everything and everyone meaningful in your life becomes more precious and more valuable because you realize how quickly time passes and how they can dissapear in the blink of an eye...Death has a way of making things real and putting everything in perspective..If its a parent youve lost, it makes you grow up fast.....It takes time to process everything the person has meant to you in your life and adjust to living with out them...If its a parent , child or spouse, it can take years to grieve..The first 6 months I was in a state of shock.....It was like being underwater all the time, I didnt want to go out and see people....Ive become even closer to my surviving family, my mother and sister because of my father's death..I dont think theres any way to stop the tears so just let em come...I still get triggered to tears in May (his birthday), certain foods, being around others that remind you of the loved one.....Sometimes I never know when its going to hit me and I have to leave a store, resturant, bank, my office, pull over on the side of the road, ect, to be alone with my tears...I think you just need to cry when you need to and not feel you have to rush it or stop it...Slowly, you begin to have days where you dont cry...You can have moments, minutes, then hours and days where you can think of the person without falling apart...I also find it helpful to make friends with those who have lost someone important to them..Im drawn to people who have experienced the death of a parent..They can understand your moods and your yoyo emotions cos they have been thru them as well..Im just beginning to be able to talk about my father and remember the happy times with others..Curiously enough, his death has made me step out of my comfort zone more and take more risks in my life...I realized living a decent life that makes me happy and him proud is the best thing I can do to honor him..In a positive way, its been a real kick in the ass for me....Music helps me tremendously...I listened to Roseann Cash's Black Cadillac for many months after his death and was comforted by her words of grief regarding the triple death of her father Johnny Cash, stepmother June Carter Cash, and her mother Vivian. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2007 10:01:49 PM | My only child born at 24 weeks gestation passed away on April 11/2006. She was only 2 years old. It's been a little over a year now. The first 6 months were the worst. I was very depressed and wanted nothing to do with the outside world. I just wanted my girl back. I tell you that it takes time to heal. You need to talk about your feelings, I go to a support group for parents that have lost their child. I reccomend that for you too. First birthdays, christmas's, first everythings are the hardest. I had to make a decision to take my daughter off life support and she passed in my arms.The toughest thing I have ever gone through in my life. But I persevere, I keep my daughters spirit alive, I have her pictures all around me, a memorial cabinet with all her special treasures. I had her cremated and I have her at home. I feel close to her this way. Tears are a natural way of healing. Crying is ok and reaching out for help is ok too. Their is no set time limit on how people grieve or where you should be. Every individual is different. I'm not sure who you lost but my sincere condolences go out to you. Here are a couple of poems that are dear to me.
I'm going to tell you something
I hope you'll never have to know,
I'll tell you how a heart can break
And tears can constant flow.
I lost my baby girl you see,
An angel in my eyes
God chose to take her hand one day
And led her to the skies
But please do not forget my child
She was a person too
And forever she will live
Inside of me and you.
So, please don't ever tell me
That time will heal my pain
Because not even time
Can bring her back again.
Just tell me she is happy
In that land way up above
She's snuggled in an angels wings
All wrapped in Mommy's love
Author Unknown
HER SMILE
Though her smile is gone forever,
And her hand I cannot touch,
I still have so many memories,
Of the one I loved so much.
Her memory is my keepsake,
With which I'll never part.
God has her in his keeping,
I have her in my heart.
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Posted: 5/10/2007 11:11:56 PM | | Death isn't the problem- It is the awful timing that usually accompany's it !! Suddenly, and swiftly, it visits... .. buckets of tears, lots of kleenex, mixed emotions-- Painful and Raw beyond feeling, numbing- awful trip that we all have to go through, when it happens...... | |
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Posted: 5/13/2007 12:46:56 PM | HI PEEPS ~
I JUST WANTED TO WISH ALL THE MOM'S THAT HAVE LOST A CHILD A HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY.. . .REMEMBER JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT HERE WITH US....DOESN'T MAKE US ANY LESS OF A MOM !!!
DON'T BE SAD TODAY...LOOK TO HEAVEN AND SAY...THANKS FOR THE CHANCE YOU GAVE ME TO BE A GOOD MOM!!
LOVE ~ HUGS~ AND UNDERSTANDING TO YOU ALL !
POUR | |
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Posted: 6/5/2008 12:08:37 AM | | Death is a real motivating force. It teaches us that we don't have forever. I have lost a daughter, a grandson, my mom, and most recently my father Jan. of this year. You begin to look at life through their eyes, or you find yourself doing things they loved to do because they no longer can. Grief takes longer than most people think. We have to give ourself time to grieve. Moment by moment, in time, it does get easier to cope with the loss. It never goes away, yet if we let their memories embrace our life then we are keeping them alive and with us always. I am sorry for everyone's loss here and my heart and prayers are with you all. Touching others and being touched back is extremely rewarding. Heaven has many angels who graced us with a bond here. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2008 12:23:31 AM | | missing that person will always be there just beneath the surface of your mind... but in time it gets easier...i lost two very close freinds of mine 13 years ago...and i think about them often.... sometimes expecially around the anniversary of their death... it will always be marked in my heart and soul with sadness... but by the same token a very wise old man gave me some advice on the matter.... be joyful for the time you had together.....and do not dwell on the time that you didnt....i miss my freinds yet to this day but with that advice in mind, i always try to remember a special moment that we shared together or a time when we shared a fit of laughter and it does help.... | |
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Posted: 6/5/2008 1:03:46 AM | On the worst day of my life, I had to tell five very unhappy little girls that their mother was not coming home. I didn't let them miss a day of school. Years later I realized how deeply all of them were affected. As for myself, I had to weep alone and be strong for other people.
At first I went quite crazy. I heard her voice, I saw her in the doorway. I would have dreams that were just fine - 'till I woke up.
Now think of Iraq. Hundreds of thousands of people, everyone of them as delicate as you or me, missing dads, moms, husbands and wives, brothers and sisters. Our tax dollars at work.
People survive all kinds of horror: war, concentration camps, etc. They go on to love again.. it still doesn't change the loss. You will never forget. But you can, must and will continue to live. Try to do it as fast as you can. Don't give yourself time to get lost in grief. | |
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