| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 1/13/2007 8:51:32 PM | You're correct OP. There is no reason to be rude. Especially when you've given someone a compliment. His actions were uncalled for and showed his lack of integrity. I think we've all experienced that unfortunately.
I don't know how to cast a vote on your list but I think most people are mostly honest.....
I also think you will find different levels of honesty with different age groups. The older, the more likely to find honesty because time has taught us how to scope out crapola better. | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 1/13/2007 10:39:09 PM | [put some stinkin clothes on, you ain't all that and a bag o' chips/]
Spyder.. is it?? Guys like you are the reason this thread started... opinions such as those are better left unheard.
As for Witty woman.. you look great sweetie, don't let the rude ones get you down. Guys like that certainly are not worth it.
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 1/13/2007 11:24:55 PM | Hi Witty,
I think it's the age old adage.....peole don't understand the art of letting somebody down with there dignity! What's the point in gutting a fellow human bieng?
we all deal w/rejection and it's just a fact!If I had a nickel for all that shot me down I would be rich! Just yell next and move on.........people w/ no class don't desrve any thing good anyway. people like to confuse honesty w/ tact.Just because you might say one is honest-doesn't mean one has to be brutal.
I find myself in similar situations.........I like very petite women.Sorry just do.....I can't really help that either. I find a lot of people get mad about it,I don't understand it.Women shoot me down because I have ink,earrings and a shaved head! Some like something diff.-It's there right to do that and I respect that! Just want to be treated w/ courtesy and dignity!
peace..........Hank | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 1/14/2007 7:03:42 AM | put some stinkin clothes on, you ain't all that and a bag o' chips
Wow....is it lonely up there in your ivory tower? Or is the air just a little too thin?
Your statement to Witty is exactly the reason why men and women are alone, it's a mine field out there. Social grace goes by the wayside behind this veil of anonymity.
Would you combust if you were forced to say something nice? | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 1/15/2007 4:35:53 PM | Wow... I'm having trouble picking my jaw up from my lap. I am aghast at the things that some of the people are saying on here.
First things first... that spyder guy??? I happened to meet him, not as a date but he was in a social situation where I was present, the women were laughing behind his back (as they didn't want to be downright rude) and he is no prize for anyone, so don't take anything he says seriously. He's the type of man who has shallow relationships because he has very little self esteem, and probably very little body parts as well. Putting up a photo of yourself sitting on a bike in a dealership doesn't mean you ride or own one. Standing next to a fancy car also doesn't mean it's yours. Unfortunately, the anonymity of internet dating allows some folks to make themselves out to be something they are totally not.
I have been dating in this medium for a couple of years now. This is the best site I have found so far. Three of the men I met online were not someone I wanted to get involved with, as there was no "spark". However, all three are now married to my girlfriends who DON'T internet date, but they were the perfect couple and I knew it right from jump street. I am ecstatic that they are married, and am happy I could be a part of bringing two lonely souls together. I have been to one POF party in Jacksonville and it was the best time I have had in years. I did not meet that special someone, but I made some wonderful new friends.
I have met some of my best friends online, but we all have to remember that people come into our lives for a REASON, a SEASON, or a LIFETIME. Some will become friends that will last forever, some are just for a short time, but they are all precious. People (male and female) usually come into this medium for the basic reason of looking for someone to connect with and I make a conscious effort to answer all emails that I get. I guess I am fortunate that I have never received one of those nasty emails, but WE ALL HAVE THE POWER TO HIT DELETE. I've only been on this site for six weeks, and I know that the first two weeks are the intitial deluge of the creepy crawlers who are trolling for new blood, as they have run through all of the others already.
KARMA..... what you put out there, will come back on you. It's only a matter of time. One guy that piqued my interest turned out to be someone who was gratifying himself when he called me over the phone. I am no longer on his favorites list, as I deleted it. Try to remember that the rudest ones have the lowest self-esteem.
And they can all be reported to the moderator. One guy was going to parties trying to financially take advantage of women, was reported and he is no longer on this site. If you don't like what they're saying/doing/inferring, there are rules to follow and you can do something about it. | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 1/20/2007 3:35:49 AM | First of all it not just men, women are just as bad as men....as for honesty probably far more dishonesty online...phoney pictures, names lots of players both male and female...I love when I read no pic no response lol, a picture is not who a person is nor can you be sure it's the real person. Taking the time to communicate with someone can provide a lot of information on the person, look for red flags changes in writing styles and personality just some of the gave aways a person is not who they say they are...I for one find personality to be my biggest deciding factor not looks...One must learn beauty comes from within...
Life is full of rude people, just drive down a busy highway, go to a crowded store, call a companies customer service for help...it's not just a male or female problem it's a people problem...it's a me me me world...sad but true... | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 1/20/2007 11:12:51 AM | | Gypsy: Bravo! You got the point across perfectly. People like Spyder have to bring others down to build themselves up. The fact that not one person on here seems to have agreed with him or given him the virtual high-five speaks volumes. OP, I hope that one stupid comment didn't bring you down at all. I mean, look at the guy, sitting on a bike in a showroom, gosh, that's pretty cool, he must own it. Don't let the losers in life get to you, they are low, shallow people with absolutely no manners, morals or self-esteem, we should all pity him. | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 1/22/2007 4:35:21 PM | sorry I didnt read the last 3 pages of posts but after your title and initial post. I gotta say somthing. first off, you seem too and shouldnt, judge men in general for the acts of few. this man is high on cloud 9 if he truly thinks this way, sadly its probably a life where no one was truthfull with him, never gave him the honest reality check most centred men have. and secondly. Obviously women are just as bad if not much worse. a guy will stare at you oggily eyed like he dosent know better. take it as a compliment though. a woman can look at you, your shoes, pants, skin and nails and judge so fast a man would honestly think she never even noticed him, let alone looked at him. women are much worse for standards and this means judgmental. how many sorry guys you met that sleep or date sub par women regardless, theyre jus not that picky as they get older. how many women do that?
and still I dont judge women by the girls I see around me | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 1/22/2007 5:09:35 PM | | There is something that I really dont understand when it comes to some of the men on here that judge by looks, maybe someone could explain it to me, I am real honest about myself and how I look, my pictures are very recent, I am not an unattractive woman, I'm smart, caring, funny, employed. but what seems to happen is I will talk to someone and deceide to meet and I get looked at like something is wrong with me, out of the 8 men I have met on this site only 2 were very attractive, good jobs, very nice men that made me feel very attractive, the other 6 were average looking at best, financially unstable, looking for a supermodel, whats up with that? | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 1/22/2007 5:46:44 PM | In my experience with women on this site, my being honest in my profile shows me that women are no better then the men you speak of. They want looks or money, and that seems to be about it.
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 1/22/2007 5:59:51 PM | | being male and not the best looking male i find that women do the same men and women both are human and attraction is where it starts mainly visual then if you do talk and take the time to learn about the person looks become secondary sometime EXAMPLE (tim you are a nice guy but i am looking for someone who is better looking than you ) what dose something like that do to anyones ego | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 1/22/2007 7:14:38 PM | I was not going to do this but.... here are my 2 cents on this matter....
Men as well as women are very judgemental... people feel that the outer appearance has to be perfect or somewhat close to what they (the individual looking) are desiring or they care less about the person >>> feelings then get hurt, self esteem takes a dive,and the person who was turned down sometimes wonders what they could have done differently... all the while they were not the ones at fault...
People are cruel,insensitive,and sometimes heartless....plain an simple....
If people would just be honest and tactfull I feel the searching half of the world would be better off ...
I am a large person some say i am a big woman yea they are hatefull and call me fat but I overlook their lack of intelligence and realize they themselves will never truly be a happy person and that " they "will always be in search of the mcdreamy person and I wish them all the luck...
I have said many times tho and that is people have preferences and what they seek and what they desire so we all search till we find that which we feel will bring us the happiness we seek...
I do not mean to offend anyone but this is my 2 cents
Creamy
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 3/29/2007 6:13:42 AM | | Oh man you must have me confused with someone else, where exactly was this chance encounter allegedly to have occurred? Another thing why are you so angry? I'm not sure to what you refer but I must have hit a nerve with my comments...If you wanted a date you should have just asked... the truth is I don't think that we have ever met...Oh by the way grow up, you sound like a small child throwing a temper tantrum... | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 3/29/2007 6:26:56 AM | | I just went back and looked at the post I had previously written and to my surprise all that I saw was a comment for some guy to put his shirt on , no I'm not homophobic but a person that reveals himself and herself is the one with low self esteem and should take stock in themselves I think that a guy that bares himself is insulting to everyone, especially women. All I can say is you intellectual giants have made up your minds without the least bit of information...so continue and blame someone else for your shortcommings ..have a day.. eliminate two fingers! ha ha ha !!!! could it be a wafture? | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 3/29/2007 7:16:12 AM | If I were the person that you had say you had met at some social function I think that your comments speak volumes about the kinds of people you are associated, why would anyone bother to talk behind someones back? dis-ingenious self gratification maybe they are the ones that lack self esteem, childish nonsense i say..You probably never realized that being an over educated under achiever allows me time to be prolific.. I never thought that I would enjoy this electronic banter as much as I do. please regale me with more fodder for comment.. | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 3/29/2007 8:29:03 AM | | Talk about self absorbed. whom ever would self gratify themselves with a pic like that has some pretty low standards, I see that it was you that mentioned parts of someones anatomy I fail to see how that affects ones ability to be a good person..I guess it is easy for some to be so condescending..You talk about your virtue and elude to how unfair my comments are but you by the same token take every opportunity to berate someone that you never met and as far as honesty in profiles what does average mean? as compared to what? a plow horse..I get it..Man this is great..I do hope you are enjoying this as much as I am...I just can't contain my self gratification in the form of laughter.... | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 3/29/2007 9:25:16 AM | WHOA! While some men may be rude to women there are also women who, by virtue of their "needs & wants list" can be rather insulting to men as well--though it is true that some guys will be downright nasty; especially if rejected, as I have been told --- so what's the deal here? The deal is, not everyone is going to find everyone else their "dreamboat" so the only thing that should be applied here is good manners and being polite -- if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all, you know?
The internet allows people the anonymity of saying exactly what's on their minds whereas in 'real-time' they would not do so. This is unfortunate because rudeness is childish and inexcuseable.
Best thing is not to take it personally. Think of it this way: if someone is that rude or offensive to you in an email, you should almost thank them because you have then spared yourself the waste of time and effort to actually meet these clods in real-time. If they persue you, be truthful but try a bit of tact-- if they aren't your "heart's desire"..
Just say thank you but not really my cup o' tea.... You see "looks" are the primary reason we are attracted to one another; other things follow... when it works. If we were all blind it would be a totally different world -but we aren't.
Nature sets us up to size each other up in a matter of seconds the first time we meet it's all visual--- maybe that's why 'internet dating' creates such a huge dissapointment in expectations... but sometimes it seems to work for some....... | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 3/29/2007 10:04:29 AM | It not about 'judgement'... that's for after the two of you decide to meet.
When it comes to that initial email and the first meeting... then you can have an opinion. A pic and a few words is simply to 'set the tone'. But a guy or a gal would be their own worst enemy if they hit the 'delete' button with no idea if they 'shoulda' or 'shouldn't have'... to win ya gotta gamble! | |
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