| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 2/16/2009 1:21:36 PM | the YOU was not YOU specifically and people constantly experience chemistry without physical attraction, they may be less prone to act upon that chemistry but that does not deny the chemistry.
Granted, physical attraction may cause you to look closer but chemistry can indeed occur without attraction.
I dont think we are talking about someone growing on you, when there is chemistry they dont have to grow on you... it just exists. | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 2/16/2009 2:54:29 PM | the YOU was not YOU specifically
oops well, it sounded like you were asking ME why or how I can experience it with someone I'm not attracted to, by the way the question was worded. And my answer, in turn, did not mean just ME specifically, as it's my opinion, in general.
In any event, it's certainly difficult to experience chemistry of any sort, through a computer!  At least REAL chemistry. Not to mention, whoever started this thread, was stating a question that goes both ways, ALL people are initially reacted to by their appearance usually, regardless of gender. Whatever happens after that is dependent on many other factors and chemistry comprises the physical, in my opinion, along with those many other factors. I do believe sometimes, the physical component is missing at first, but can grow after getting to know someone, in some cases. | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 2/16/2009 5:16:50 PM | [quote/then explain why you can have chemistry with someone you are not the least bit attracted to.
IMO, there has to be chemistry at all levels to be completely satisfying.
We may be attracted to how someone thinks or communicates but not physical chemistry at all.
Sometimes we find someone really hot and then as soon as they open their mouths it's over!
For me, the deal is done when physical (it's mostly in my nose),
emotional (how they feel their way through life)
intellectual and, last but least for me:
spiritual (humility is huge for me!)
In any case, people hardly look like themselves in photos anyway. In my experience they always look better in person, when animated.
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 2/16/2009 6:24:24 PM | Well Demi Moore,Cher and Madonna have helped women out somewhat with regards to dating a younger man....but.......we still have a long way to go!!!Just as not all women are equal .......neither are men.Many men age quicker than their counter part....and it is a fact that we[women] live longer[about 8-10 yrs] and therefore can deal with an age difference as well.Not all older women have flabby butts ,bad attitudes and a mutitude of issues........many are active ,energetic and take care of themselves...perhaps you just haven't met them ,but we are out there and some of us are visiting Florida presently and thought it would be fun to answer you back.
Take care: 
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 2/17/2009 1:37:17 PM |
how they feel their way through life Life is like riding a lion; You can either hang on for dear life knowing eventually the lion is gonna toss you off and eat you OR you can tame the lion and ride it to your destination gracefully. | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 2/17/2009 2:29:41 PM |
Froggy, I'll let you be the one to take the first ride on the lion and you tame it. I have been trying to tame the lion for the better part of 50 years. Just when I think I have it tamed it tries to bite me... but as each day passes I believe I have more and more tamed so hopefully, I will get that graceful ride in the end.
If not, I'm gonna kill that damn lion and eat him!  | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 3/1/2009 11:14:31 AM | OP, If you consider yourself, a realistic an down to earth person, don't worry what people think of your looks. Happiness comes from within of loving yourself. You learn as you go along. It works both ways (man or woman). These forums can be not only, self centered, but also down right cruel. Believe in yourself, an dont let anyone tell you different.  | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 3/1/2009 11:25:27 AM | | One thing about these older threads is that some of the OPs are no longer on POF. This thread has lost the OP. Might consider looking at the OP or other posters to see if they still exist LOL | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 3/1/2009 12:03:29 PM | Your right Cajun, but I'm confused I didn't think Cajun wrote to delete the thread , just making an observation. I just took it as when you answer someone you may want to check if they are still a member? Heck I wasn't even a POF member when this thread started but I found it interesting non the less.
I had to respond because I like putting in my .oo1 cents worth in.
We may be attracted to how someone thinks or communicates but not physical chemistry at all.
So true this is why making friends is easy but finding a mate is more difficult. Most of us want the chemistry and the communication. What good is love affair when you don't want a little hanky panky to go along with the great conversation. I do believe that chemistry can grow on a person, and person doesn't need to be "picture perfect" for chemistry to happen. I have sometimes found a man "hot" and my girlfriends will think I'm nuts. It's in the eyes of the beholder. Chemistry is one of those great mysteries
Sometimes we find someone really hot and then as soon as they open their mouths it's over!
Don't you hate it when that happens!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/1/2009 12:05:54 PM | | Not at all. The subject is valid. New people here see it and respond with their thoughts. My only observation was that she was speaking to the OP who no longer exists or has changed names. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2009 12:17:23 PM | Nancy, is it me? Is it you? I still don't think she is reading what we are saying.
I'm not trying to be rude or just argue because I'm known in this forum to stay away from insulting or bashing women. I'm not doing that. I'm pointing out something that even Nancy can see. I guess my question would be "did you read all of what we said and what you said"? We can all miss something. Two have opted to note it and read it over. Two have the same conclusion. I'm sure that others would see it that way too. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2009 12:20:06 PM | now, now you two don't get all testy here. Cajun you are right, and I was able to read it right.
The thread was asking about judging people by their looks. Maybe we should get back on topic. | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 3/1/2009 7:21:23 PM | Keep checking. Just asking ? message 218 ,2nd paragraph, 3rd sentence: "I'm pointing out something that even Nancy can see" LOL. Hmmmmmm and you want an invite.
Oh message 214,
Just so you know: I actually posted something that contibuted to what was being said on the last few post, about the topic
We may be attracted to how someone thinks or communicates but not physical chemistry at all.
So true this is why making friends is easy but finding a mate is more difficult. Most of us want the chemistry and the communication. What good is love affair when you don't want a little hanky panky to go along with the great conversation. I do believe that chemistry can grow on a person, and person doesn't need to be "picture perfect" for chemistry to happen. I have sometimes found a man "hot" and my girlfriends will think I'm nuts. It's in the eyes of the beholder. Chemistry is one of those great mysteries
Sometimes we find someone really hot and then as soon as they open their mouths it's over!
Don't you hate it when that happens!!!! | |
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| why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 3/2/2009 5:51:17 AM |
Most of us want the chemistry and the communication.
Picture a world where we are all blind until one year after finding our true soul mate. Would we not have found true love while searching only with our hearts and not our eyes? Would we not have found happiness with our minds and not what others that can see perceive to be happiness? Until we as a people can find love without looking so much on the outside, and look a little closer at what is on he inside and what beautiful people we all are in our own way, then collectively, we are all truly in darkness. | |
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