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Posted: 3/17/2009 3:50:59 AM | yea, maybe so, grantmoore. but it's weird because in both cases the guy initiated contact with me and kept talking about how very very interested he was in me...? i was wondering also if it's a problem with people online not really being sure they want to find somebody, despite what the profiles say, like a kind of general cold feet thing?
Maybe you didn't show enough interest. Just yesterday, I sent an email to a woman in whom I was very interested, that said, ``Nevermind. Thanks for your time,'' although last week, she said she'd meet me for dinner. The reason I did that is because she didn't indicate enough interest. The problem is not that I don't want to ``find somebody,'' it's that I don't want to waste my time with someone who doesn't act interested enough. Among other things, that means not leaving my emails unread or replying to them in timely fashion. If someone doesn't answer an email the next time she's online, that's not a timely enough fashion for someone who's supposedly interested in going out on a date. So, perhaps you aren't acting interested enough for someone to want to follow through. It's not a ``cold feet'' thing. It's an, ``I want to get the show on the road, so don't be wishy-washy'' thing.
Some will want to meet right away to see if you are desparate and willing to give them sex.
If someone doesn't want to meet me right away, she isn't interested enough. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2009 4:18:29 AM | the real fact is, not why people do what they do, they do it!
its fact they disapear for what ever reason, dont take it as a ego hit, or that Your not good enough, or anything else, You dont know these peoples so you have no idea why they are not interested, from A to Z the main thing is, feel lucky your not stuck with them!!.
let Me also say that alot fo people are upgrading, they have You then see a brighter spot on the sea shore and off they go! is it right no, does it feel good, no! but it is what it is. the internet while a amazing tool that brings all the oppertunitys of finding some one , weather it is your busy life style, kids, area, it is a good thing, but on the other hand it also brings with it the "public" those that are not so good, but thank goodness there are , people here who want long term, short term, fling, rings! some one for every one! wade thru the mess, take heart, the person for You isnt going to pass You by! , some one trolling for a career in dating isnt who You want to pay attention to You if You want long term only. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2009 4:36:58 AM | Just count your blessings that he's not one of those who call 1,000 x's in a 24hr. day.
At least ya dont have to worry about your battery on your phone ending up dead!
(hate when that happens) Sure makes ya lose ALL interest!  | |
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Posted: 3/17/2009 9:17:51 AM | Many people from both genders do the disappearing act. Here is a personal example. I went on a couple of dates with a woman. We had made plans for a third date. She sent me a text message stating that she was still interested, but needed to reschedule the date. I called her a few days later and left a voice message. Asking her when she would be available. Never heard back from her again. The vast majority of women I have talked to or met on dating sites have done 1) the disappearing act OR 2) aren't completely upfront. They will ignore me for 1-2 weeks. Then they tell me that they aren't interested. Byt that time I had figured that they weren't interested and had already moved on. The bottom line is this. Many people who the disappearing act are flakes. Or they don't have the courtesy or courage to tell you that they are no longer interested in you.
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