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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/23/2006 2:05:27 PM | If you are a man and 30 and still living at home. Can we say mama's boy! Run as fast as you can girls. I married a mama's boy. And wasted 17 years of my life. Always fighting off mama for his affection
Yes, plz run away! Far away! 
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/26/2006 10:44:10 AM | I am over 30 and living at home. There, I said it. Out loud even.
I left what I recognised was becoming a potentially abusive situation, walked away with my truck, the clothes in my closet, some personal items, a mortgage payment and significant credit debt, all of which are in my name. My life is worth more than "stuff".
I could live in my house, drive 3-4 hours a day to get to all 3 jobs I have only to go home to an empty house, just to sleep for 6 hours and get up and do it all again, 7 days a week. That' not a life.
Instead, I have the house for sale and I live at home, with parents who sleep better at night knowing I am safe and happy. The financial responsibilities I carry are not mine alone but the only thing I want from my x is to be left alone. Even if he did bother to take responsibility for himself, I STILL wouldn't want his money. I could piss and moan and fight, HOOP THAT, not my style. I would rather live at home than feel like I have to be indebted to him in any way. And my parent feel the same.
Although I can not contribute much to them financially now, I do not cost them anything either. To boot, I am rarely home and we see each other as often as any other kid who stops in for a home cooked meal. I pay my bills and when my house sells, I'll have the downpayment to buy us all a house we can share, basement appt included of course, where none of us will have to give our hard earned money to a stranger every month.
In my lifetime I have had over 30 roomates and I gotta say, Mom and Dad are the best ones. Call me a loser if you want, I see it differently. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/26/2006 11:57:16 AM | I haven't taken the time to read all the posts in this thread, but here's my opinion.
I don't see the problem with being over 30 and still living at home provided one condition is met: The "kid" is a productive member of society. Which is to say, working and/or going to school.
Sometimes there are health reasons that result in a 30-something still living at home. I feel that is acceptable too.
Contrast that with a cousin of mine. The guy is 31 and still lives at home - actually, to be more precise, he lives in his dad's SHED. Ha ha, yes, I know that sounds like something off of 'Trailer Park Boys', but it's true. He has never held a job longer than two or three months, he hangs out mostly with people in their teens/early twenties (apparently, his current Girlfriend is 16 or 17), and he deals crack..but he's not even successful at that, as his suppliers recently took his parent's laundry machines and snowblower because he was in debt to them (his suppliers) and couldn't pay up.
This guy is a loser with a capital 'L'. And sadly, his parents enable his crap...
P.S I don't live at home myself, I left for good at 21, and can't imagine moving back in with my parents (I am almost 32, and they are on the other side of the country anyways...) | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/26/2006 9:27:39 PM | I love it when people come up with all the excuses for living with mommy and daddy
there others in the same boat yet they didnt run home to mommy and daddy, excuses are just that excuses | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/27/2006 5:00:42 AM | ^^run home?
I never left...
And when I do get my house built, I really don't see how doing my own grocery shopping & laundry is going to change my life so drastically that ppl like you will magically see me differently... If that happens, I'll know who to stay away from!
I just think you're somewhat arrogant in your POV. And you really seem to have something against ppl living at home, really don't understand your dislike for these ppl.
But, as I have my opinions about certain ppl, you have yours... | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/27/2006 12:07:15 PM | OOOH, I saw this and had to comment, I met a guy here, and he was almost perfect, but he lived at home in the comfort zone of Mom, dad, and grandma... mind you he said that he was paying rent, and helping out with grandma who was in a wheel chair, but his profile said long term, and when I asked when we would be able to see each other, for longer than 38 hours a week, after 4 months of weekend overnighters, he said he had no intention of moving out anytime soon..By the way, he was also the Taxi for his older brother everyday ..I had to let this keeper go, cause I am looking fo a "real" long term relationship.. I was totally disappointed..  | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/27/2006 12:28:32 PM | you think im arrogant in my POV??? gee lets see Im not the one bragging about when I get my house built am I? true wealth isnt bragged about ....... You dont know me so dont pretend to be Dr Phil, I can afford to be arrogant because i can back up my lifestyle but I dont have to brag about it.
I dont believe especially men should live at home with mommy and daddy ,unless like I said before, they are helping the parents as children should do, the parents are Ill and/or needs financial help, the guy is in school to further his education etc, able bodied people residing under their parents roof to save money?? yep.
So you judge people who judges you for living at home but its not right for them to judge you but you judge them for judging you?
to that sparklin lady, what does me searching for FWB have to do with this thread? | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/27/2006 4:38:43 PM | ^^LOL If you are such a stud and can "backup your lifestyle" what the hell are you doing here? You can afford to be arrogant, OMG, whatever dude...
And how am I braging about my weath by stating why I live at home, and my plans to build my house? LOL... How exactly is that bragging?
I don't understand your problem with me, but I'm done caring, so have fun looking for whatever your looking for...
Hope your not this much of an ass to the women you meet... | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/28/2006 5:21:47 AM |
If you are a man and 30 and still living at home. Can we say mama's boy! Run as fast as you can girls. I married a mama's boy. And wasted 17 years of my life. Always fighting off mama for his affection
That seems a little harsh. Especially consdiering that there is always a degree of potential friction between mother and girlfriend or father and boyfriend, regardless of living arrangement.
But regardless of the living arrangement there are these things called *boundaries* that responsible adults acknowledge and respect as an important aspect of productive social interaction. The closer your living arrangements, the greater the awareness and , hopefully, the greater the respect.
And there is also this thing called *being a man* that operates regardles of the size of one's household, or the abscence of any significant household. A pushover mamma's boy is a pushover mamma's boy no matter if he lives alone or with his mom. And a man is a man by his own virtue, not based on where or with whom he lives.
If a man is not a man, I could see how he could get all hung up on the "I've-got-my-own-pad-and-you-don't" thing. As for the women, by all means, chose who you will. Just stop the complaining about the men you chose. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/28/2006 10:00:15 AM | Mecheng001, im going to see if i can dumb it down for you dude.......
I have a career as a Mechanical Engineer, and do very well in that regard. I also own 60+ acres of land and a bunch of machinery I purchased to develop that land into my ideal home...-mecheng is that not bragging?
2) you should learn how to read, never said I was a stud, and what the hell am I doing here? do I need to discuss that with you?
3) I can afford to be arrogant because I am ARROGANT and loving it, there's a difference Im not trying to be a nice guy like YOU, some women dont like me nor do I care, and some do, and Im meeting them without the nice guy phony attitude
4) I dont have a problem with you, I DONT KNOW YOU, I just gave my opinion and you dont like it just like you gave your opinion of me and quote and quote
Hope your not this much of an ass to the women you meet...mecheng001 hmm nice quote guy
but no matter what you think of me, Im still meeting ladies, getting what i want they get what they want and youre still at home being bitter | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/28/2006 10:33:17 AM | Tonydaboss: just to return some of your own words back to you: your advice is like a a$$hole, everyone got one and doesnt need another one. FYI: Major difference in being arrogant and being just a plain old a$$hole. You, babe, are not arrogant but on the other, you are entertaining.  | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/28/2006 11:43:31 AM | you think Im a azzhole, gee Im all choked up ................ im over it now
i am arrogant and you can call me what every you like cupcake, by the way I never gave any advice | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/28/2006 11:47:09 AM | but no matter what you think of me, Im still meeting ladies, getting what i want they get what they want and youre still at home being bitter
Uhm, I'm not bitter, and I am meeting ladies, just happen to not like any of them... You're the one who seems to have a problem with me, and a general hatred for those of us living at home...
FantasyWanted summed it up pretty well.
Good luck with the ladies studly... | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/28/2006 12:01:35 PM | once again gagoots , maybe you can read it slower this time
I dont have a problem with you I DONT KNOW YOU , and I dont have a hatred for anyone living at mommy and daddy, care to point out where i said that stunad??
<div class="quote">Good luck with the ladies studly... and you talk about me having a problem? | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/28/2006 2:53:07 PM | Tonydeboss: Mea Culpa, you are absolutely, totally correct . . . do you wish me to revise your words appropriately or can you figure it out, my sweet subservient one?
p.s. thank you for the compliment – most gracious of you | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/28/2006 3:17:22 PM | Im not sure If I agree that a man after the age of 30 should be living at home? while I dont subscibe to what Society says or thinks........... but and I did say BUT there is the exception to the rule
Elderly parents, Ill parents, parents needing financial help, financial devestation to the son, natural disasters among the few I can think of, I think that men who live at home for the sake of laziness,skimming off parents or just plain being a deadbeat well in my opinion is wrong.
@ MECHENG001, I dont agree with the statement regarding a man getting his own place is a player? Ithat to me was a irresponsible post on your part, there are many reasons why Men live on there own, having sex everyweekend isnt one of them, Ive had my own place for years, and Im proud to say the bank doesnt own it, I prefer living on my own because to me its a form of responsibility & something that I work for with out my folks help and by the way My mom comes by my place more often for dinner vs me going to her place which is just as nice I might add.
Maybe one shouldnt judge too? whats the ole saying Judge not, and you will not be judged.??
just my 3 cents. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/28/2006 3:22:52 PM | I think that men who live at home for the sake of laziness,skimming off parents or just plain being a deadbeat well in my opinion is wrong.
That's just it, ppl assume that's what I'm doing, it's not...
However, it really doesn't matter. I'm going to do what I set out to do, I have lofty goals and I will achieve them... When all is said and done, what other ppl think isn't going to change me as a person, nor would moving out and renting a place change me at this point in time, as it would be a measure taken to satisfy others, not myself...
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/30/2006 8:30:26 AM | Me thinks Tonydalittledick is trying too hard to compensate for his lack in other areas...lol
My best friend in the whole world still lives at home....and she will continue to do so till she marries.
Its her family tradition.
She is extremely smart, gorgeous, and financially very well off.
But like all of the kids in her family, and her parents before her, they stay in the family home till they wed.
Out of the 5 kids in her family, 2 remain unwed and at home...yes both are over 30 now.
So far I have not seen any man worthy of her hand in marriage....and her brother who is still home is also very smart, witty, and successful, and as far as guys go he to is a good looking dude.
Personally I like the idea of that tradition.....Unlike myself that hated living at home due to an abusive father, and moved out the week I graduated from grade 12.
I would have preffered a loving home enviroment, that encouraged me to stay, instead of pressured to leave since i was the ripe old age of about 12......... | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/30/2006 8:40:25 AM |
to that sparklin lady, what does me searching for FWB have to do with this thread
Dear Tony,
If you are looking for FWB - as I said in my original post - it wouldn't be very convenient to live at home with mom and dad. No need to take offense darlin', I was simply stating a fact that you put out there...MUAH!! | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/30/2006 8:55:19 AM | tiredoftheheadgames, you want to comment about my d*ick?? Is this some kind of brokeback mountain thing? just in case you cant read? i said MEN living at home, not women
glad you think you know me guy, I have to compensate eh????? thats actually funny | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/30/2006 10:32:35 AM | | I couldn't wait to get out of there, love my folks but grown women who live together clash, you have no privacy and there's nothing like getting out of your own. I would never move back, no matter what. I know people like they, they are usually spoiled rotten by their parents, have it too good but it's not healthy IMO | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/30/2006 11:07:21 AM | | In my opinion, the only time it is ok to be living at home after 30 with mom and dad, is if you are helping THEM out - ie: they are sick, financially in trouble, or disabled. If a person is living at home for their own selfish reasons (ie too lazy to move, or it is "easy" at home), then it is not right. Tonydaboss nailed it correctly in my opinion! | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/30/2006 12:32:36 PM | these people are obviously spongers! they have no independence and will probably marry someone who is exactly like their parents. i moved out when i was 19 best thing i ever did!
you can guarantee your ex will expect to have his things done for him, no matter who he is with and if he gets away with it then more fool the woman!!
self development is something that doesnt exist in these peoples lives, i have a friend who is 31 and still living at home hes a typical dunno guy! where do you wanna go? dunno.... what time are you gonna be out? dunno lol.
no ambition whatsoever its such a sad shame, i guess some people are useless at making decisions! | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 11/30/2006 1:12:45 PM | Well, to those who think I'm spoiled rotten or sponging, hardly the case...
I come from a family of 9 children, and my father was the only one who worked... He's now retired, with a decent pention, but I certainly would never let him pay for anything I need... In fact, I'm good to my parents.
All my brothers & sisters lived at home until they were in their late 20's and early 30's, guess it just runs in the family... And let me tell you, I'd never trade my family for anyone elses, that's for damn sure...
I find it funny how you think the last night I'm at home, and the first night I'm in my house, all of the sudden I change overnite into something else, lol... And if a woman thinks that, I'll never be interested in her...
At least I have plans to build a house, certainly can't wait either, it's exciting to think about!
Hmm, so I guess all my family members who are happy with their children & spouses did it wrong? According to a bunch of ppl on a dating site? LOL! Sure...
I have 23 neices & nephews in my immediate family with no divorces, and none likely... So sorry if I scoff at all the "sage advice" fom POF members on this topic... | |
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