| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/6/2006 10:29:05 PM | You really seem to think that because I live at home i'm some kind of LOSER...WRONG!
You say: "i dont pay a single thing while i play on the puter cause im a loser and its one thing to move there for medical reasons i.e parents sick etc."
Well if you knew the whole story you would be singing a different tune. BUT i don't have to explain myself to you or anyone else.
I am a real woman, I do pay bills, buy groceries and all the stuff all you people who say consists of living in the real world.
I don't live in loserville, because if I did we would be neighbors. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/6/2006 10:40:58 PM | | You will always come across people that will judge you... no matter what, people that take the effort and time to do this, do it to 'build themselves up'...as far as 'real world costs'... just because someone lives at home dos'nt mean they dont know about 'real world costs' I'am sure if you give your parent $1200.00 a month to cover bills, have a $400.00 car payment plus 250.00 Insurance,RRSP contributions,GIC's,gym payment,gas,personal expenses, you have a bit of a 'grasp' of real world costs..lol! Now of course theres people that live at home and 'mooch' and thats just plain 'Wrong' and 'inmature'! dont judge anyone until you know them and there whole situation, but then again... its 'human' nature to be judgmental! | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/7/2006 5:38:55 AM | I share a home with my mom and my daughter (15 years old). We have shared a home for 4 years now. I do not "depend" on my mom to take care of me or my daughter. I live at home because mom is getting older and needs me. I pay half of the bills (no house payment cause house is paid off but when we rented a place in another state and rented out our house here I paid half the rent) plus all of my own bills ie visa student loans etc. I do all of the maintenance on the house if I can't fix it I find someone who can. I do 90% of the cooking and 50% of the cleaning.
Before this arrangement I lived on my own with my daughter after my divorce for 7 years, went to school for 3 of those years and worked my butt off at the same time. Now I have a little breathing room where I don't have to kill myself working and can concentrate on building a career out of my photography. I still work just not as hard as I used to because we both shoulder the finances.
It is very hard to make it on two incomes nowadays let alone one. I am a mature adult and readily take on the responsibilty of supporting an aging parent (my older brother takes none of this responsibility I have shouldered it all including two hip replacements and a knee surgery over the years I have been the one to step in and take over).
So call me immature, not willing to grow up whatever but I know who I am and I know that I am doing the right thing. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/7/2006 7:57:19 AM | | I figure if I can make it on my own, why can't everyone else? How will they survive once Mommy and Daddy are gone? I am not into guys who can't take care of their self enough to live on their own. I sure am not gonna get serious with a guy who doesnt know how to pay the electric bill!!! | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/10/2006 4:48:23 PM | Yeah, My ex still lives with his mother, he's 34, unemployed, doesnt take care of himself and lets himself go. It seems he wants a "mother" doing things for him, including cooking meals. He is old enough to have his own house and alot more if he wanted...what is he waiting for?!   | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/10/2006 6:56:17 PM | I have to ask a couple of logical questions
Whenever this issue is raised why does EVERYONE assume that the person living at home is MALE. When in fct there are more 30s females still living at home.
Dont deny it. Untill some male who is still living at home, comes onto the board and rips your self righteous gossip to shreads you always assume its male. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/10/2006 7:04:33 PM | I figure if I can make it on my own, why can't everyone else? How will they survive once Mommy and Daddy are gone? I am not into guys who can't take care of their self enough to live on their own. I sure am not gonna get serious with a guy who doesnt know how to pay the electric bill!!!
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Not yet taken.
I've got the lawn mown, the clothes on the line and the fresh picked (from the garden) vegs steamin away there for dinner so lets just see how good you really are.
Have you ever
- changed a tyre
- changed an engine
- Serviced a sewing machine
- Installed a hot water service.
- Built a carport (either assembled from a kit or built from the raw girders)
- Welded metal
- Mixed concrete
- Repaired fibreglass
- Mown a lawn
- Pruned trees
By gum I didn't know I was so useful. Yes I have done all of these things arudn the house.
Now think about it. Plenty of cheap shots are taken at guys who can't sew up a split in thier pants but these are taken by a few pathetic girls who are far more helpless than any guy ever was. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/10/2006 7:06:45 PM | Not so sure
You an my pal Dennis would get on great. He can barely see and is legally blind and his mum is legally crippled.
So he helps her in and out of the car and onto her walking frame and she drives him eveywhere. Nothing wrong with her eyes. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/10/2006 7:22:33 PM | Actually freckle
I'm Australian but I still DO understandthe European situation. I have plenty of Italian friends where three or even four generations live in the same household.
Shezza da big Italian house all right Jusepie but shezza full of people love an happiness. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/10/2006 10:37:17 PM |
I have to ask a couple of logical questions
Whenever this issue is raised why does EVERYONE assume that the person living at home is MALE. When in fct there are more 30s females still living at home.
Dont deny it. Untill some male who is still living at home, comes onto the board and rips your self righteous gossip to shreads you always assume its male.
To answer your first (and only) question, they don't. Maybe some do, but not everyone. Did you read a fraction of the comments and assume they are all about men?
What are the logical questions you said you had to ask, by the way? | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/14/2006 2:22:57 PM | Well sparticuss you seem to think i'm some kind of loser and have a little dig for everyone on this forum. Well here is a little bit of info that you don't know about me so you can keep your comments to yourself. From your above list of great things you have done like:
-Changed A Tire -Changed An Engine -Mixed concrete -Mowed a lawn -blah -blah -blah. Well there are a few things that I as a GIRL have also done besides those things!
"YES I DO KNOW HOW TO CHANGE A MOTOR AND TRANSMISSION IN A AUTOMOBILE! I also pump my own gas, mow the lawn, work a full time job, do dishes, cook, clean, do laundry, and wash my own car!
Just because I live at home with my parents doesn't mean that I am a LOSER It just means that I still have respect for them enough to help take care of them as they are getting older.
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/14/2006 9:37:12 PM | my ex bf is 42 and is still living with his mom and so is his 35 year old sister.
One of the reasons why our relationship failed was because he was too much of a mama's boy to get out and be a man and was unable to make a committment to me. During our relationship I never once asked him why he still lives with mommy. One of his friends told me it was because of the way his dad treated his mom but hey, his dad died 9 years ago. Yes, in some cases adults live at home to help take care of them as they get older. But in his case, he was simply a little boy in a man's body. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/15/2006 7:45:23 PM | | Huh!!!!lol... committment.. he was your 'boyfriend' was'nt he? maybe he just felt the need to take care of his mom was more important, family comes first. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/15/2006 8:01:53 PM | | My concern is that so many "adults" on these boards are taking fiction such as movies like "failure to launch" or TV programs like "sex and the city" and kidding themselves that this is real life. It's scripted. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/15/2006 8:28:55 PM | I think it really depends on context. For example, I technically live with my father...but I pay half the rent (and all the other bills). He has functionally moved in with _his_ mother (he promised that she would not be put into a care home), but maintains a room here. I don't really see this as any different than having a roommate, since we generally get along.
However, a situation where a 30 year old is living with their parents and does not help with the household maintenence is mooching off their parents. That isn't good. In that case, the person's psychological development stopped at some point. I wouldn't seriously date someone in that situation, since they'd likely just start mooching off of me instead. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/25/2006 3:40:45 AM | "YES I DO KNOW HOW TO CHANGE A MOTOR AND TRANSMISSION IN A AUTOMOBILE! I also pump my own gas, mow the lawn, work a full time job, do dishes, cook, clean, do laundry, and wash my own car!
Glad to hear it Not so Sure
Have you had a look at the rest of the board.?? You are ONE girl who has done it. But so far, you are the only one. Thats just my point.
Gentlemen! Who among us has NEVER cooked dinner?? Not a snack. Dinner! | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/25/2006 3:45:15 AM | To answer your first (and only) question, they don't. Maybe some do, but not everyone. Did you read a fraction of the comments and assume they are all about men?
Luv Monkey.
The fraction I read was the first fraction. It was the only fraction I needed to read. I've read so many of these poasts so many times before.
It was about ONE solitary personal experience and one fictional movie. And the poster definitely assumed that the only 30 year olds living at home were men and also that they mooched off their parents rather than them caring for them
And, untill a few of the guys raised merry hell and told a few people the time of day that assumption persisted. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/25/2006 3:49:29 AM | my ex bf is 42 and is still living with his mom and so is his 35 year old sister.
One of the reasons why our relationship failed was because he was too much of a mama's boy to get out and be a man
Err Footballl mum.
Now I simply HAVE to know. Where do you live ie Parents, renting, mortgage, inherited place, paid off, what???? | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/25/2006 4:26:20 AM |
my ex bf is 42 and is still living with his mom and so is his 35 year old sister.
One of the reasons why our relationship failed was because he was too much of a mama's boy to get out and be a man
And these people are not from the movies. I agree there may be men and women who live at home who are NOT at all like this, the above is what most of us have been exposed to and therefore give all people who live with parents a bad name.
And I guess it is hard for some people to get past a stereotype - we are surrounded by them..... | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/25/2006 4:40:33 AM | | I had a hard childhood and was kicked out of my home off/ on during my teen years finally leaving at 18- so I can't imagine having it so good to still be living at my parents house at 30..all I can say is MUST BE NICE | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/26/2006 10:21:10 PM |
The fraction I read was the first fraction. It was the only fraction I needed to read. I've read so many of these poasts [sic] so many times before.
Alrighty then! Since you believe in making broad assumptions based on previous and not necessarily related experience, and in replying without bothering to read what you're replying to, I'm sure you'll understand when we make the assumption that anything you say is irrelevant and not worth paying any attention to. But you have fun making your assumptions and talking crap! It's an open forum. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/26/2006 11:27:22 PM | | Yes, but what about the ones that live at home because their parents are ill or infirm, so moved back as carers. Are they mummy,s boy ..Daddy,s girl?????? | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/26/2006 11:33:25 PM | mom does it all cooks cleans launders...tells him what to do makes his lunch...watches his own kids..i dont give a rats flying fart about my ex but with that new movie out FAILURE TO LAUNCH out now more and more ppl are shocked to hear about the so called ADULTECENTS still at home...
Id love to hear what you guys think about ppl over 30 still at home..
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I'll tell you what I think.
You said his mum watches his own kids. Exactly who's kids are we talking about.?? His and yours?? Or his and some previous ex gf's.
I'm asking you thins because the courts still only award custody to a father if he's so good that he's father of the year material. OR unles his ex is so worthless that the kids would be removed from her custody and placed in foster care if the father didn't want them either.
Worthless fathers NEVER get custody of thier kids. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/26/2006 11:38:17 PM | He is old enough to have his own house and alot more if he wanted...what is he waiting for?!
Sassy.
Counting counting counting.
I know but TWO single women who were paying off a mortgage in thier thirties. BOTH were in highly paid jobs and could easily afford the payments.
I know many more DIVORCED women in the same circumstances but these women took the house, in the divorce settlement , when most of it had been paid off.
If I include myself I know over TWO DOZEN single men in thier thirties who are paying off thier own homes.
Whats wrong with the women. What is SHE waiting for. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/27/2006 12:35:42 PM | | i live at home with my parents but that isnt by choice i have a great job aprox $50,000 yr yes i could live on my own but i wouldnt have my gotten my son from my ex. Because i live there at my mom is able to help me out CAS helped me get him full, my ex will never see him again, so you can say that i am at my parents for my son. | |
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