| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/27/2006 2:11:54 PM | | There is nothing wrong with "Corky" living with his parents but wtf anyone over the age of consent still living in their parents home needs to consider an institution | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/27/2006 2:30:45 PM | To the person that excused moving into her mommies home because of your son that's a cop-out 1) you don't have a great job you have one you like doing...I'ld like to sell ladies lingerie door to door but it wouldn't pay the bills so off to work I go. A great job is one that earns enough income to take care of yourself. Wake up this is 2006 5oG's won't keep him in sneakers 2) He's YOUR son take care of him and show him how to grow up to be self sufficient and take care of himself and his children
I know I'm sounding like an ass but I'm tired of people making decisions to bring children into the world when they are not able to even care for themselves. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/27/2006 2:46:38 PM | | my son has special needs and requires alot of help being a single father it is hard something you know nothing about so keep quiet. and because i work alot cas wasnt going to give him to me because i work so much my parents help watch him before and after school, because of my ex being stupid cas got involved other wise i would be in my own place. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/27/2006 2:46:52 PM |
There is nothing wrong with "Corky" living with his parents but wtf anyone over the age of consent still living in their parents home needs to consider an institution
Is that how you make yourself feel better, or are you just jealous? | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/27/2006 3:58:26 PM | | I have an interesting situation. My parents own a farm, my father has drove semi otr most of my life. I run the family farm but do not own it. I don't make much money at it but love the lifestyle. I live on the farm property but not in the same home as my folks. My sister and brother-in-law also live on the property in a seperate home. Many have said how can you live so close with your family. I don't find it to be that much of a problem. Eventually my parents will retire and seeing all expenses are met will become our responsibility. We all have good jobs and side businesses as well and all share in the responsibilities. We have benifits others do not have we can split expenses, care for each others kids or critters and someone is almost always around to keep an eye on things. Works great for us, I consider it still living at home with my folks but we still have our own lives and privacy to a point as well. Without the situation as is I could not afford to buy a farm myself. My folks would have to sell the farm and live a life they would not so much enjoy as they could not keep it up. My sister & bil would have to spend far more money to live on and would not be able to spend as much time with family. We all would loose by living seperately in more ways than one. This used to be a common lifestyle but not so much anymore, too many folks live in their own little worlds and do not value family as they should. As our parents get older we will care for them as they did for us and not put them in a warehouse and let the state pay someone to do what is our responsibility. Most of the world lives in extended family units many out of neccessity but not all. As America is forced to compete in a global economy this may become more common here as well. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/27/2006 4:02:30 PM | Nothing wrong with that.
too many folks live in their own little worlds and do not value family as they should.
It's quite evident in this thread.
As our parents get older we will care for them as they did for us and not put them in a warehouse and let the state pay someone to do what is our responsibility.
That's good to hear. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/27/2006 4:18:43 PM | My brother is 32 and still lives at home. He has never moved out and seems to have no intention to in the near future anyway. He finished high-school, got a job, started earning money by the time he was 19 and never gave any to my parents. He is so tight with his money, lives like a pauper, hamsters his money away in a bank account. He has the idea that he wants to buy a house with cash so he saves every cent he has earned since he was 19! He has squillions in the bank and while my parents are barely able to support themselves financially, he expects them to pay for his food, all the house bills etc... He sees renting as a waste of his money, especially when he can live at home and not pay a cent.
My mum washes his clothes, makes him dinner, even throws his old socks away when they are too holey and buys him new ones (cos he's too lazy to do it himself).
He has his life plan all worked out, 1. get a girlfriend, 2. buy a house with her, move out of my parents house and get married!. He is depressed because the "get a girlfriend" part doesn't seem to be happening and he can't seem to work out why! I told him that he has no special circumstances that mean that he should still living at home, so he needs to get out and live his own life. But he is just scared and lazy, he is petrified actually. It seems all too hard for him. He can't see that the only way that a girl is going to be interested in him is if he grows up, moves out and becomes independant. He asks everyone for help to find a girlfriend, and everyone tells him that he has to take responsibilty of his own life first and grow-up before a girl will be interested, but he doesn't get it. It's not like he even has a nice situation there at home, he has a tiny room right next to my parents bedroom in a tiny house. My parents agree that he should have moved out by now, but are to chicken to tell him to leave. It's not even a family where we have close loving family bonds either, he is just damn lazy.
I understand all you people who say you are living at home for a good reason (divorce, no money after backpacking around Europe, helping parents out, etc.. ). If I was in trouble I'd like to know that my parents would provide a roof over my head for the little while it would take me to get on my feet again, but you have to realise too that there are people out there like my brother who are a combination of lazy and scared of the real world! He sponges off my parents, is socially unprpared for life and thinks that moving out is a waste of money for him! I moved out at 19, went to university, moved overseas and now live happily renting an apartment by myself. I don't have a stack of money in the bank, but at least I can say that I have a life! | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/27/2006 4:19:17 PM | Lucky Me... people will always judge others.. and make theres comments to boost there 'little' ego's.. and yeah..most of the time they are jeolous, because they probabaly left home at a young age all pissed at mom and dad and got married then divorced, now they have kids to pay for 'child support' e.t.c... just think about it... if you take the time to post and knock down others, YOU have issues that are eating at you but you cant face them so you take it out on others... I.e divorced,paying child support,looking 'middle aged'lol! out of shape e.t.c.. I do feel for them a bit.. we all need lovin | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/27/2006 4:35:32 PM | | I can't imagine wanting to live at home at the age of 30. I moved out when I was 19 and never moved back, even with financial issues from time to time. And if you are still living at home and working you SHOULD be helping out with the finances. It just doesn't seem right that an adult would want to take advantage like that. People should live back at home only if their are health issues on either side, or if the parents could use the extra cash to get by. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/27/2006 5:56:11 PM | purplefruit
Sounds to me like your brother needs the boot.
I am thirty, I live at home and I have paid to live here since I was 18. I touched on why I live here, or stayed here or whatever in the beginning of this thread. I can tell you right now, that me staying here was great for my parents, but probably one of the bigger mistakes in MY life. In my eyes I lost a $100k by not moving out and buying a place of my own when I was younger, I almost did a few times but thats another story that I don't feel like writing out.
Anyways, there is nothing wrong with living with your parents if it is beneficial to both parties. I'm not sure I can say it is in my situation (for myself that is) anylonger. But if I look at my 50 year old cousin, he has always had a great job pulling in 100k per year, he is the only child and he still lives at home. My siblings knock him, but why? Because they are jealous. He is best friends with his dad, they share a hobby of restoring cars, he has a great job, a girlfriend and one hell of a comfortable future. And do you know what? There's nothing wrong with it. He's happy. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/27/2006 6:43:00 PM | since i graduated from high school i have moved out from my parents place and back a total of 6 times ( i bought my own place last year , a great burden was lifted off of their shoulders and mine 
most of it was from financial difficulty )i.e. credit card debt | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/27/2006 9:51:45 PM | Yeah, wouldn't it be great if we could all run home to mommy and daddy...
Nope, for me I much prefer to see the character that develops when people get through life's trials and tribulations on their own. Afterall, it's not that people go through but how they handle it that shows the strength of an individual.
Be strong, be independent...be free  | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 5/27/2006 10:17:18 PM | | I find that those who deride people who still live with their parents to be quite naive. I was very close to continue living with my parents into my 30's but the commute, lack of a life, and mind- and soul-numbing boredom of suburbia got to me. So now I have no commute :-O. The "development" and "changes" that happen to you because you move out on your own are debatable and overrated if they are even negligible. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 6/1/2006 8:41:40 PM |
my son has special needs and requires alot of help being a single father...
...Um... why would you want to help him be that? | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 6/1/2006 8:54:36 PM |
too many folks live in their own little worlds...
I agree; too many people live in their own little worlds instead of getting out into the bigger world and building their own lives.
As our parents get older we will care for them as they did for us and not put them in a warehouse and let the state pay someone to do what is our responsibility.
I agree with that sentiment but do not agree that we should live our whole lives with them, including before they reach the point of needing our help.
As America is forced to compete in a global economy this may become more common here as well.
That's a very interesting thought; good point! The pendulum is already swinging back to a bigger difference between the Haves and the Have-Nots in the U.S.A. and Canada. It will be interesting to see whether our societies largely revert to older, more communal standards, or will evolve in a new way. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 6/1/2006 9:18:34 PM |
I (consider) those who deride people who still live with their parents to be quite naive.
That generalization makes you sound naive.
The "development" and "changes" that happen to you because you move out on your own are debatable and overrated if they are even negligible.
Ah, that's why. So you didn't experience any growth when you moved out. Well, most people do, so it might not be wise to make such derisive generalizations. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 6/3/2006 7:41:18 AM | I live at home, mind you i moved back with my dad for good reasons. I pay rent, do all the cooking and cleaning. I can see why this is a turn off for people but some of us have very good reasons for moving back. I lived on my own for 7 years and had to move back home due to someone watching me through the window taking a shower everyday, through the little tiny slits in the blinds. He went to jail for it and i had a restraining order against him but that only lasted a year, and did not stop him. I got another restraining order against him and he continued to phone me, i moved and he still called so i moved back home with dad where i feel much safer. I own a house but do not live in, my sister lives there instead . So do not judge anyone until you know the whole story. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 6/3/2006 3:34:37 PM | When I was 30 I built my parents a new house.
It's how I was raised. Do unto others as they do unto you. If they loved you you love them back.
I have absolutely no negative thoughts about anybody who is 30 or any age living at home or with their parents whatsoever. The family is a good thing. The family should always stick together and help eachother regardless of age.
This separation of children and family is for commercialism, to sell more products to lonely people. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 6/3/2006 4:53:43 PM | I've been out of the house and in the Army since I was 17, two weeks out of high school.
But I think it's like anything else. It depends on the person's specific situation. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 6/3/2006 5:49:50 PM | I am a divorced 49 year old mother of four(3 girls 18, 27 and 31 and 1 boy 22). All of them but the 18 year old are on their own. I love the last one dearly, but frankly will be glad when she moves out, then I can be free to do more.
What's up with all of these people in their early 30's who have parents that need so much help in basic living? My kids just wish they could keep up with me.
I might add that if and when I get to a point where I can not take care of myself, I have already told my childen I will not allow them to take care of me. They know I would want to be in a home. I refuse to be a burden to my children. Yes I took care of them when they grew up, but I was the one that brought them into the world. They owe me nothing. They will all most likely have a family and perhaps children of their own. Two of the four have a family now, and one has two children: age 5 and 9.
How can you ever hope to have a family of your own, if you are still at home with your parents?
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 6/4/2006 10:32:17 AM | | Failure to launch was only mildly amusing. Hell I was out at 16 and wouldnt move back for nothing. These guys need to see a shrink. Yeah my parents are great and supportive and would take me in right away if I went crazy like that. But WTF would I be doing? I value my seperation from parents. | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 6/4/2006 11:59:43 AM | | What emotionally stable mature person at 30 would want to live with there parents.... Jeez mine had me on my own at 18. Parents shouldnt enable kids to live with them over 30 unless they are handicappped or something then too i think they should be on there own | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 6/4/2006 6:53:12 PM | | What emotionally stable person at 30 would want to live with there parents 'parent'??..... read the above posts before judging...jezz people make me laugh..lol! well what can I expect our society is very judgemental to begin with..oh well! | |
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| over 30 and still living at home
Posted: 6/5/2006 12:22:07 AM | | Exactly what are the negative attributes that are being given to someone who lives at home? On any scale, a single, employed person that lives at home has more (real world) responsibilities than someone who lives on their own that can pretty much live a hedonistic lifestyle with minimal responsibilities. | |
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