| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/25/2006 11:05:56 AM | Everyone has thier own idea of what goodlooking is. I find so many different types of men good looking, it could be his eyes, or his smile, just they way he holds himself, to the obvious chiseled features, hard body... We all have our "ideal", but Ithink we rarely meet and date our ideal, as he is probably more a character from the land of hollywood...
As far as temptation goes, I feel if you are in a committed relationship, tempting as anyone may be, they are off limits. I was with my ex for 17 yrs, 15 of them married, and tho I had been tempted on occasion, I never would cheat. I wouldn't want someone doing it to me, so I wouldn't do it to someone else. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/25/2006 11:07:36 AM | It's the overall mean of what each individual is willing to accept in a potential mate. It includes everything from looks, to personality, to self value and worth appeal, things in their past, things they do too much, it's everything. People are willing to sacrifice some things if everything else matches well. There are people at there that are zeros across the board, but perhaps just have looks going for them. Then there are some that are straight zero's accross the board.
Everyone knows online dating is centered primarily on looks though, so even with a gleaming profile and nice messages, those without pictures, those that photograph badly, and those that are "plain" or "very average" sometimes do not get the attention they deserve.
Personally I think there is beauty to be seen in every person's looks. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/25/2006 11:12:32 AM | What I found on POF is that my so-called "matches" were way less fun than the people I met on the forums.
Exterior physical appearance may be a starter but if you have verbal diarrhea and constipation of thought, you are NOT attractive.
That said, some of our past influeces our future. If I dated a tall, handsome blond and he was a complete ass I might avoid his physical type in the future. I have dated taller men (6 foot plus) when I was a teen/early 20s. But my preferences have changed over time.
As for what tempts someone, my mindset is closed to temptation. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/25/2006 11:26:51 AM | To me, attitude is more important than looks. I've had too many relationships with beautiful girls who were very insecure, and all it did was cause problems. Physically speaking, if you want to go that route, I prefer a woman with some "meat on her bones." Not obese mind you, but someone I can hold on to. I'm always afraid of breaking a skinny girl in two. I want a girl who is proud of who she is and what she looks like. Glasses are a turn-on for me, too, for some odd reason. I don't know why.
But like I said, confidence is the most important thing for me. All looks aside, I just want to find someone who's willing to be herself, no matter what. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/25/2006 12:00:01 PM | I used to think I had a "type", but I don't anymore. But I do have certain types that I tend to shy away from, probably because of a vibe that I get from their character... and sometimes their appearance is just an extension of their character, so you can get clues.
I DO think the following is attractive:
Someone who:
* Can look me in the eyes when he's talking to me
* Does not spend most of his time talking only of himself and his life
* Does not brag
* Takes care of his health and has not let himself go
* Has confidence
* Doesn't do a LOT of complaining... though everyone has to vent once in a while, I don't want to hear someone complain all the time!
* Can have an intelligent conversation with me (the brain really is an errogenous zone)
* Has manners
All these are great, but I have to say, they have to be packaged with a few other things that my eyes seem to think are attractive... nice butt, legs, arms, eyes, and smile, a scent that makes me feel like they are a match (that animal instinct), and I have to like the sound of his voice!
I think as we get older our idea of attractive changes as we admit that we are not what WE used to be, either... but we always seem to gravitate toward those who more closely match our own level of "good looking", if we are smart. Shooting too high or too low means you are likely to miss the target. Like... Julia Roberts and Lyle Lovett! | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/25/2006 12:21:53 PM | Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
It is not all physical but a combination of
many aspects of being human.
second thing:
loving someone consists of more than words... it involves
action... as to resist temptation.
How in the world can temptation get to be too much?
If there is a situation where your being tempted and you cannot resist acting out your thoughts...
remove yourself from the situation.
Love isn't words... its actions that back up the words. If you cant control yourself, your love is not as strong as
you think it is.
We all have been tempted but thinking and doing are very different things. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/25/2006 1:48:52 PM |
features linked to fertility, generally...
I agree with planetsatan. Call it shallow if you will, but you can't change your biological attraction to people who potentially produced strong healthy children. Even if producing children is not your goal, it still determines who/what you find attractive.
-Kevin  | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/25/2006 2:26:49 PM | Attraction is too subjective to define. Take a man considered handsome by most people. Is he intelligent? Killer sense of humor? Open-minded? Etc. Now take that same man and remove one component. He's handsome but completely void of humor. Not so handsome anymore and definitely NOT attractive. On the other hand, take an average looking man, add a brain a sense of humor and kindness ~ immediate attraction. On a much simpler level, I love kind eyes and a smile that is full of warmth. Mean eyes, no way will I even look twice ~ even on a physically beautiful man...the eyes tell their own story.
As for temptation ~ if you truly love someone, temptation is not a factor, it doesn't exist. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 8/15/2006 9:30:05 PM | | Chemistry transcends "good looking". It's something you can't really put a finger on, something that isn't tangable. But I sure know it when it's there. I've seen too many "mismatched" people looks-wise (in my opinion) and that tells me that it goes way beyond looks. Attractiveness to me doesn't have anything to do with a certain physical type, and the woman I'm with doesn't have to turn every man's head when we walk in someplace together. They just have to turn ME on, whatever type they they happen to be. I agree that the eyes are a big thing for me...the whole "window to the soul" thing...rings true to me. But also there is an "aura" for lack of a better term, that surrounds someone that I have a lot of chemistry with, and I just get excited being near them. That's a great feeling to have! | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 8/15/2006 11:05:40 PM | "What exactly defines Good Looking? "
Greek men....atleast most of them.
"And what tempts someone in a relationship."
Huh? If I loved him, why would I be tempted ???????
Both of your questions do not relate to each other.
That's weird.
And I think the "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" cliche
is way too stretched sometimes. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 8/15/2006 11:36:13 PM | There is this one girl on here that even before I saw her, she was one of the most beautiful women I'ver ever met. Then she put up her pic's and to see the eyes behind her inner beauty took my breathe away. Of course the distance and other factors would make it impossible to even consider a chance at anything besides a long distance acquaintance. I still think she is one of the most beautiful women I have ever met. I'm guessing that if I was with a woman I felt that strong about, nothing would tempt me.
So good-looking to me is definetly in the eyes, well and a nice set of tits never hurt either
M.A.P.T | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 8/15/2006 11:47:09 PM | Good Looking: pretty eyes, nice full lips, great smile, nice hair.
Second Thing: Temptation? I assume you mean cheating? I would never cheat one someone for any reason. It is dispicable. I would say to the man wanting to cheat to be a man and break up with a person and then go for temptation. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 8/16/2006 3:45:47 AM | I can appreciate that a guy is "good looking" but not find him attractive at all. There's a great german word "Ausstrahlung" (forget dictionary translation -there is NO English word for this - aura is not enough)it means, that which emanates or beams out of a person or the force of personality.
It's the Ausstrahlung that gets me! | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 8/16/2006 7:53:59 AM | I wouldnt say people who are good looking are always attractive.
Attractive is attractive and when you have some for someone... you
cant describe it as it may be someone who isnt considered good looking.
There can be a gal who is pretty and one who is good looking. The one who is pretty can have sex appeal
while the good looking one doesnt.
I dont know what tempts people to cheat... dont think it has anything to do with looks
myself. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 8/16/2006 8:15:26 AM | Straight and or small nose ( female)
High cheek bones,
Prominent chin,
Well groomed,
Healthy Complexion.
Straight teeth.
Sense of style (clothing)
Long hair (female)
Eyes not to narrow or too far apart.
Of course you can have all of this and an unattractive facial shape (wide face) will throw it all off.
If Beauty were in the eyes of the beholder super models wouldn't get paid what they do. Some are beheld more than others. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 8/16/2006 8:28:07 AM |
What exactly defines Good Looking?
Very few of my friends have ever thought that the men I've brought home were attractive. This tells you that a) I'm not attracted to Ken Dolls. b) I have a mind of my own. c) I'm a leader, not a follower.
I'm attracted to confidence, intelligence, thoughtfullness, respect and good hygiene.
And what tempts someone in a relationship. How far would you resist until temptation got too much?
Lots of things tempt me in a relationship. Compliments, double takes and lots of visual acknowledgement. Someone who shows a keen amount of interest in me and respects me. HOWEVER...I would never reciprocate or let him know that he had attracted me. If I want to be with him, I would have to leave my current relationship first. Honor and integrity are cornerstones to a committed relationship. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 8/16/2006 8:28:58 AM |
What exactly defines Good Looking?
Very few of my friends have ever thought that the men I've brought home were attractive. This tells you that a) I'm not attracted to Ken Dolls. b) I have a mind of my own. c) I'm a leader, not a follower.
I'm attracted to confidence, intelligence, thoughtfullness, respect and good hygiene.
And what tempts someone in a relationship. How far would you resist until temptation got too much?
Lots of things tempt me in a relationship. Compliments, double takes and lots of visual acknowledgement. Someone who shows a keen amount of interest in me and respects me. HOWEVER...I would never reciprocate or let him know that he had attracted me. If I want to be with him, I would have to leave my current relationship first. TRANSLATION...I would never let it get to the point where I was tempted 'too much'.
Honor and integrity are cornerstones to a committed relationship. | |
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