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Posted: 6/24/2006 6:09:40 AM | Why are you here in the West Lei? You bash christian thought yet you are here. You brought it up actually. You centre your thoughts around it. You still did not get it. What a nice double standard from someone who enjoys their holier than thou freedom. While bashing christian belief.
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Posted: 6/24/2006 6:18:21 AM | nothing wrong with it at all...in fact,,,i'm looking for someone 17yrs younger as well  | |
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Posted: 6/24/2006 6:25:34 AM | | @oizerbaf16. You (smartass) Are just an attention whore. :) | |
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Posted: 6/24/2006 9:27:40 AM | Welllllllll.... in my opinion...... 17 is too young. They aren't in the "adukt" frame of mind yet. Still at home and all that.... at least over here in the states they are. I realize that in the UK you all are done with school at an earlier age, but how quickly do you move on to the "adult"part of life?
I am almost 40. I either attract men that are 15-20 years older, or men that are 10-12 years younger. Can't seem to find the ones my own age....lol. Alot of the older men are nice because they have done everything and are more set in their lives. The younger men are nice because they are more open minded and up for new things. There are good qualities in both. And please remember I am not saying this is true of ALL men. Everyone is different though. It all depends on how they were raised. Some are more mature than others at ANY age. I have gotten the opinion on dating younger men from the men that I work with and I have to tell ya..... they ALL say the same thing. Up to a certain age, when a younger man shows interest in an older woman, it's just for sex. (the men say this.... NOT me) Up to a point, I agree with them. But.... everyone is different. It takes time to get to know someone and if you don't jump in the sack on the second date, then there is a good chance that you CAN get to know them.
But.... if I am old enough to be the guys mother.... then NO WAY!!!! That just weebs me out....lol. I think the lowest I would is about 30... and then it would be a tough decision. I leave the teenager dating up to my ex-bf. He was dating 16-17 year olds at 32!! And can you believe that the parents did nothing about it!!! I guess I was just too much woman for him....lol..... freak. And last I knew..... he is 39 and is seeing a 19 year old..... ewwwwwwww!!! Glad I got out of that.
Anyways..... just my opinion OP..... if this "relationship" is forever as you say then wait and see where he is at 3 years from now when he is 20.
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Posted: 6/24/2006 9:28:46 AM | | oops....bad typo.... that should be "adult" not "adukt" up there^ .... sorry | |
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Posted: 6/24/2006 10:50:08 AM | wow wut alot of anger in sum responses.... personally i wud not even consider dating sum1 17 years old (hes still a "BOY") or even under 30 for me... as for the question dating younger guys.. i know it can work there are lots of benefits and a few disadvantages... i have normally dated guys older than me or around my age up until i broke up with my ex husband and was single for 7 years.. i met a wonderful nice guy who is 10 years younger than me...(my 1st boyfriend since the breakup) we lived together for 2 years and we had alot of good times... the only reason it didnt last was he was a heavy drinker and cud become abusive when drunk.. i just couldnt handle it... but we are still friends to this day
so now that i have tried both sides of the coin.. i actually prefer younger men.,... they are more exciting and adventurous... while sum older men are too set in their ways and can run out of energy.. while i may not be in my 30's.. i feel like i am... the funny thing is since i have been single im finding that the younger men are attracted to older women.. i hear it all the time...as long as a younger man is mature i dont see any problems dating a younger guy at all... actually  for the younger guys  i think younger guys appreciate an older woman because she knows wut she wants... has less time for games and knows she can appreciate wut a "real" man has to offer.. and of course younger men have alot of extra benefits to offer... not to say i wouldnt date an older guy... who knows depends on the guy.. i guess... but i do prefer a younger man.. i think younger guys try harder than the older guys and still can be so sweet ...the younger guys also appreciate a woman with not just a skinny body but a woman who has sumthin between her ears too..
as for the author of this thread... 17 omg... a tad young even for a 25 year old woman... wut could u possibly have in common and wut cud u possibly talk about on the same level.. and do you really think it will last as soon as his next oldest (21) comes around... i think you will be a distant memory,... it might be good for "YOU" now...but wut will happen in the months or years to come.. it just won't last.... and isnt that why we all want a partner.. to try to have a lasting relationship... not just a few great times in bed for a short time... life is too precious to waste it on sumthing u know deep in ur heart it will never last...your asking the forums.. so thats a sign u have doubts already...i wud normally say "to each his own".. but in this case 17 is wayyyyyyy to young... do you have anything in common other than sex????
well enough said about that... and to all you younger guys....(above 30) older woman do have more benefits....
well thats just my opinion all i can say is for the cute sexy younger guys who appreciate an older woman and wut she has to offer.....
hope you all have a great day and try and stay as positive as possible.. no need for bashing of any1.... 
thanks for allowing me to post my reply
starr
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Posted: 6/24/2006 12:28:58 PM | | age dont matter one bit lol,its all about chemistry......im only 17 now an i have an ex who is 12.....thats like 12 years or so... | |
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Posted: 6/24/2006 4:28:19 PM | | I agree its between those two people not everyone else. Who cares what anyone else thinks anyway. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2006 10:40:05 PM | | @cat35 How is it you can type 17 words and I'm sitting here thinking..............You know, you're right. It was the OPs attitude that set me off. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2006 11:31:03 PM | | nope I personally date younger men all the time....age is not a problem ..just find one that has his head straight. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2006 11:09:08 AM | ive read alot of posts and i keep seeing "OP" come up alot.. cud sum1 please explain to me wut "OP" means?????
im new to the forums except the past week or so.. i thought i knew all the little things we use such as computer lingo... but i cant figure this one out  
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Posted: 6/25/2006 3:55:40 PM | empress1978
i have thought long and hard about what im doing. if his mum had asked me to walk away it would have been hard but i would have done as she requested. His mum has gave her concent and knows me im not out there to mess with his head or hurt him. im not trying to relive my youth im just living my life | |
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Posted: 6/25/2006 4:18:11 PM | you asked over a man 17 years younger....,mmmm..last i knew at 17 they are still boys.
for that it makes you a perv and screwed up having to bed down a child and no better than a pedophile.
there is something really wrong in your life to have to get into a situation with a child.  even more so with this boy's mother for even allowing it to go on with her approval.
even at 18 i would have a big disapproval with it. wether it was my daughter and a man or son with a female. there is no way that kind of age situation has anything in common. now 24 and 42 is a little better but still to many experieinces apart to be really funtional.
they have all life experiences as a young adult to learn and go through..good and bad. at 35..any adult has already lived alot of circumstanes to grow on. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2006 7:47:37 PM | If it feels right to be with someone with an age difference
And you are both happy in that relationship why waste time and worry?
Go for it and be happy - you never know what is round the corner
Take a chance at happiness it may be the last time you get to feel that way..
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Posted: 6/25/2006 8:10:20 PM | | Omg girl..he is just beginning his life and you are half way there..He couldnt know what love is, but do you or is it infatuation on his part. Let him go and find out..god has he even had a gf before? I have a child age 17rys and I would flip if she even thought about dating a man 34. But if this boy -since he isnt a man yet was 30 and you 45 thats ok as you are adults..right now your the "adult" and he is a minor...get the pic..Do you even know what love is yourself?.. omg girl your living in a fantasy...dont think he doesnt look at girls his age..come on you cant compare to them at all.Being in Love takes time, lust and infatuation is immediate -so what is it?...there seems to me to be massive confusion over the difference in this situation...as far as Iam concerned having a 17yr old..they think they know what they want, but they dont have a clue as they are not experienced nor have "wisdom" that comes along with age...good luck with this inner struggle you face with yourself, society, his-your family... | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 3:48:33 AM | wild peaches
i did let him go, but hey he came back. if i was dating a51 year old guy no one would have a problem with that but ewww i have a dad thanks i would have nothing in common with a guy that age. i like younger men because they are full of energy and up for fun. we do have alot in common and we dont spend all our time in bed. yes we are seen in public holding hands etc no one really cares to be honest.
When i first started this thread i was having a dilema because in the past i thought it was wrong, and have critisied people for doing it what i am now doing.
i can see why people have been so verbal with there responses, but my concience is clear we both no where we stand and are very honest with each other, of course he looks at girls his own age and older. So do i if a fit guy walks past you cant help but look so why would he be any different.
i no longer care what people think i dont believe it will last for ever im living for the happy memories like i have always done since i was a child.
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Posted: 6/26/2006 10:54:21 AM | | 17??.....is that years or inches? | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 1:03:40 PM | Hi there...
i have to say I dont know that I would date someone who was 17..but I'm 34...and have dated 22 yr olds..and currently am dating a 26 yr old..and I honestly dont see a problem with it. As long as his family and friends...and yours dont treat you any differently...well then it's up to you. But trust me..if the family puts up a fight on either side..hunny it's better for you both to walk away cause it will eventually just ruin anything you may have. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 3:34:49 PM | | Age isn't an issue after someone, male or female matures, but at 17 noone is mature. If you and he were both much older then yes but not with him being only 17. My son is 17 and I can't imagine him dating someone that much older, no possible way for that to be a real relationship based on love, infatuation yes, sex yes but definately not love. A lot of men never learn how to deal with women and you aren't doing him any favors. If you had a 17 year old son yourself, think how you would feel if he was dating a woman the same age as his Mother. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 7:18:17 PM | Well girl it seems you have already made your mind up and seeing him dispite what others think..thats ok..but ya did ask..Hey I get younger men chasing me too..but I dont bite as I know they are infatuated it's not love- come on I say to them at 19yrs omg and Iam 43 yrs old..Yes its flattering but reality sets in and i think omg this young man hasn t lived his life yet and if I cared at all I would get my tush out of lala land and tell him it wont work..Hell can you imagine who supports who..I aint no sugar mama..Iam a lady and expect to be treated like one..and besides I like to be spoiled..but I do spoil myself quite well so dont cha think due to my statement I need men to do so..all women do..come on we are beautiful creatures and deserve it..So all I can say, since he is a minor...under age you should have waited if you cared for him at all, allow the lala stage to pass and face reality, but it seems that your already doing what is natural in your eyes and I can only wish you well I guess. I dont want to tear you apart but you will face, see the challenges ahead and have to deal with uncertainty- I only hope you do know what love is. Good luck.. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 7:23:57 PM | | ,, sassilass, love is woth everything,,,there should be hangup's over anything, just love should be important,,, nothing else,,, we should be willing to kiss a thousand frog's to find your prince,, or a thousand toads to find your princess,,,xxx | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 7:42:01 PM | I think that the age of the people in a realtionship is only the business of the people involved.
I also hold the unpopular belief that that the "age of consent" laws are wrong. As long as someone is old enough to be voluntarily sexaually active with people their own age you should not criminaize it if they choose an older partner.
I am not saying that I think that these reationships will last. But perhaps that is not the end of the word many relationships between people of the same age don't last either. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 10:34:03 PM | | It's ok............as long as you're not 30!! | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 3:45:00 AM | hdroad king
each to there own, lets face it i would never date a man of your age, there is nothing wrong with guys your age its just not for me i find older guys boring and expect you to stay home and watch tv. younger guys are a little bit more relaxed about where you are and what you do without them around. but hey good luck in your search if you find one female who can make you as happy as i am you will be truely content with your life | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 4:07:29 AM | If you looked at it from the 17 year olds perspective, he would probably tell you'all "Mind your business I'm finally getting laid". | |
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