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Posted: 7/16/2006 9:09:31 AM | I think it depends on the exact age of the people in the relationship, not the age difference between the two. When I was 17 I had no idea what love was! I thought I did, but at that age, I thought I knew everything! lol I've been in 3 major relationships in my life and I was so young for the first 2 (17 and 21) that neither of them lasted. I had no idea what it would take to make a relationship work. My 3rd was the worst to deal with because at that point, I truly was in love. We were together for 6 years and when he broke it off, it hit me like a Mack Truck. Anyways, back to the subject.... I think that anyone under the age of 25 should stick with dating until they really realize how much work it really is to be in a serious, happy, permanent relationship.
But, I will add this.... I'm 33 yrs. young, and I still won't seriously date anyone under the age of 25, because of what I have learned in my life. And, when my son is 17, (he is 14 now) if he brings a 34 yr. old girl home for me to approve, I will beat him like the child he is, and she better not be wearing heels cause she's gonna want to run!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 4:41:56 PM | [QUOTE] @hugmetighter. Good for them. Is Ashon 17 now?? Yea good argument there. Younger men of course are fasinated by older woman for a variety of reasons. Lets see now... hmmmmm oh yeah SEX and then theres SEX and of course how could I forget, an older womans mind of course. [/QUOTE]
Aston is 27, Demi is 43. FYI...and i will give you some examples of why they are fascinated by older women..
we aren't dazzled by jewellery and possessions
we don't really care if you want to spend a night with the boys
marriage isn't on our mind, neither is the house with the white picket fence
we are into "them" not into ourselves
we are self sufficient, independent and happy with who we are
we know how to be sexy..with class
an evening in is not a sacrifice...but a welcome change to a busy life..
i could go on forever...get the picture now spacemanspiffter?? are you really from outer space..geez..u think????  | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 5:16:15 PM |
Younger men of course are fasinated by older woman for a variety of reasons. Lets see now... hmmmmm oh yeah SEX and then theres SEX and of course how could I forget, an older womans mind of course.
I hate to break it to you, but it's not all about the sex.
Any relationship I have is not going to be all about sex, whether it's with a woman younger than myself, my age or older than myself.
How you are raised and the experiences you have in life shape who you are. Where I've come from and what I've gone through in life so far? I find I have much better conversations and friendships (Relationships in general) with people older than I am. I've been through a lot in life (Good, bad and otherwise) and while most 9 year olds were playing games, I was helping to birth calves. When most 14-15 year olds were spending summers being lazy, playing video games and goofing around, I was running herds, working stockyards, and breaking horses. When most 17 year olds were just out of high school and wondering what to do in life, I was two weeks out of high school and into the Army. The past few years while most people my age were in college, hanging out, partying, dating, etc? I've been on countless deployments to countries most will never go to. I've seen and done things most people never will in a lifetime. (Some things they are missing out on, some things they should never have to know) I know beauty and tragedy like most never will. My life does not parallel most of those who are my age and consequently, I have little to discuss with them. Not better, nor worse...but my perception of the world, my experiences in life and my interests are different. The fact is, most people my age or even generally close in age...do not have any idea where I am coming from.
It's not all about the sex.
Colin | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 7:07:34 PM | Hey no hard feelings. This is a thread based on 17 and 34. Don't even go there trying to tell me a 17 year old guy is into an older woman for anything but the sex at that age. The only reason I responded to hugmetighter is she was talking Ashotn and Demi and I responded Is Ashon 17 now. Of course as age goes upward things change. Now Colin I could be wrong on this but I do not believe you hate breaking anything to anyone. :)
I thank you. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 8:02:00 PM | | Sorry, but you really need to grow up, that is just too silly for words. Yes, I'm being dismissive of your so called feelings. I know, you can help him with his homework from school... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 9:06:06 PM | I hate to break it to you, but it's not all about the sex.
Any relationship I have is not going to be all about sex, whether it's with a woman younger than myself, my age or older than myself.
How you are raised and the experiences you have in life shape who you are. Where I've come from and what I've gone through in life so far? I find I have much better conversations and friendships (Relationships in general) with people older than I am. I've been through a lot in life (Good, bad and otherwise) and while most 9 year olds were playing games, I was helping to birth calves. When most 14-15 year olds were spending summers being lazy, playing video games and goofing around, I was running herds, working stockyards, and breaking horses. When most 17 year olds were just out of high school and wondering what to do in life, I was two weeks out of high school and into the Army. The past few years while most people my age were in college, hanging out, partying, dating, etc? I've been on countless deployments to countries most will never go to. I've seen and done things most people never will in a lifetime. (Some things they are missing out on, some things they should never have to know) I know beauty and tragedy like most never will. My life does not parallel most of those who are my age and consequently, I have little to discuss with them. Not better, nor worse...but my perception of the world, my experiences in life and my interests are different. The fact is, most people my age or even generally close in age...do not have any idea where I am coming from.
It's not all about the sex.
Colin
Good on you, Colin, but you are the rare, rare, rare, rare, and did I mention, R-A-R-E exception, and not the norm.
I interact with a few hundred kids in that age range on a daily basis - let me tell you that you did not represent the average 17 year old.
In this case, it IS all about the sex, and anything else is a footnote, at best.
BTW, how would we describe A MAN who is "a few extra pounds" and who says he drinks "often <3 times a week".....fat drunk, maybe? Now how would we describe him if he were 34 and boinking a 17 year old girl? | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 9:19:58 PM | fat drunken PERVERT
same as I would describe a woman with the same bad habits | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 4:38:03 AM | BRING ON THE INSULTS YOU SAD BUNCH OF AMERICANS GET A FCUKING LIFE | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 4:46:52 AM | well im 21 now, i wouldnt want to date anyone thats not 18+, and i wouldnt mind being a little adventures and try out someone thats 25 and above no older than 30 :) just for a bit of fun!! I don't seriously think u can be in love with such a huge age gap...
-Cheers | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 4:49:57 AM | Some of us americans didnt insult you. and c'mon! you asked for this! Dont get upset becuase they are answering your question.
Id understand if you were minding your own life and someone noticed your man was young and started slamming you for it... then you should get angry, but you asked folks what they think... dont be upset or suprised if they think angry things.
J | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 5:11:31 AM | Or are passionate about certain things and don't put up with pompous attitudes.
@LIannazulu. And how did that work for you? | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 5:14:11 AM | | well when i had sex i was omly 13 when i firsted had sex | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 9:24:38 AM |
BRING ON THE INSULTS YOU SAD BUNCH OF AMERICANS GET A FCUKING LIFE
I'm canadian thanks Miss had to email me to insult me. Apparently I'm no oil painting :) | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 9:54:45 AM | age difference can hurt a relationship if your base foundation and *belifes* are very different which is the case alot of the time but if you like him and he knows your age and dosen't have a problem with it i'd say go for it. you have a few more things that might get in the way of a relationship but, no more then the avergae now days lol
have fun
and good luck | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 9:29:39 PM | | I am 37, thought it would be cool to date 20 year olds. Turns out it was not so cool. I felt a couple of things... first I felt like they could not relate to many things I was into. I also did not like the way friends and co-workers would look at her and then look at me and then smile and nod. It was not really fair to her at all. Nothing I said changed it. I was always looked at like a older dude nailing a younger chick. Even if that is totally not what was happening. Way bad... Then, I was given some good advice... Half your age plus 7 years is your minimum. I'm ok with that. I have also been asked if I would date a 50 year old woman. My answer was yes, if I was attracted to her, and she to me, and we liked doing the same stuff and had a great time together, why not. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 9:46:30 PM | Absolutely not . IF you have feelings for each other then there is nothing wrong with it.
If a relationship is influennced by what others may think if the two of you are together then you're focusing on others and not the person in question which is the most important factor.
We have all been led to believe that broad differences in age are not socially acceptable. What on a personal level do we really care about what society thinks and feels about our personal lives ? What will society do for you if you do not date someone with a vast age difference ? Nothing. There's no prize, reward or material gain that you will be given for complying with a social norm. Solomon had a lot of wives and yes we all know that is against the law but the point I am making is How old were his wives ? Even from a religious stand point there is no age indifference shown.
From an image view point there is a point that is valid . IF you look at someone and they do not fit the visual image of what you desire then probably you shouldn't be with them because if you do that then you most likely will not be satisfied with them and your future relationship will most likely suffer making the proability greater that your eye will seek someone you do desire that fits your desired image of what you want.
If the person you want is based on looks to fulfill your desire then go with that. If it is based on how a person cares for you, treats you and how important they show you are to them ; then go with that .
For me it is a combination of both.
Many younger and also older men and women make decisions with regard to what others think without actually knowing through experience what the deal really is because they were really in that situation or experienced it first hand . Doing things because it is what others would do, or because other members of society may frown upon a decision if you chose it is much like being a Leming ( Those small little artic animals that follow each other off the cliff to their deaths) :))) . Have you been with an older woman or man ? If your answer is no then you don't know anything about it and until you have you'll never know and your friends with their infininte wisdom can't make you experience it by thier explanations and their experiences.
I see a lot of posts on many sites in forums talking about " why is he or she not interested in me " In all of the case these people go around every possible variable in hopes of making that person change missing the one factor that is creating the problem . I'll write it in big letters DESIRE!!!! when one of two people lose that your done . Desire comes from within you because you and you alone feel that desire for someone else and if it goes away your not going to be intimate with the other person or want to be . Another person cannot make desire in someone else only they can. Desire can be forever or very short lived ( Heat of the moment ). So if your in a situation where you take all your clothes off come up to your buddy and softly grab his  being sexy and nothing happens but his continued efforts to watch football then there is definately a desire problem going on and you'll have a really difficult if not impossible time changing that in your relationship | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 10:30:21 PM | | Unfortunately, I dated an older man, and it's the one of biggest mistakes of my life. I admit it, I did it for all the wrong reasons. Thus, here's my warning to all younger girls out there: DO NOT, AND I MEAN, DO NOT DATE OLDER MEN. They are just immature men looking for some tail, and aren't really interested in any emotional or intellectual connections. A lot of these older men are established and are financially secure, and they end up going for younger attractive girls because they can get "whoever they want." They don't want a serious relationship, just to have some fun. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2006 2:23:14 PM | | Hes 18 noe does that make it more acceptable | |
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Posted: 7/23/2006 6:28:52 PM |
DO NOT, AND I MEAN, DO NOT DATE OLDER MEN. They are just immature men looking for some tail, and aren't really interested in any emotional or intellectual connections.
This was my experience as well, and I whole-heartedly agree. If I had a daughter, I would warn her against dating someone so much older than herself. Either these people are terribly immature and she will grow tired of them, or they will use and discard her like a toy without regard for her feelings.
Either way, there's an ominous agenda at work in that dynamic that does not benefit the younger partner. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2006 6:43:17 PM | | If your not enjoying somebody because of their age, your stereotyping its that simple. Age is only a number. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2006 9:04:55 PM | | @ top it. Okay here we go again. Soooooooooooooooo 17 works for you too then??? Since age is only a number right? | |
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Posted: 7/24/2006 10:33:05 PM | | i read a lot of comments saying, "well if you were a female of 17 and dating an older guy it would be horrible," etc. When I was 17, long ago, I did date LOTS of older men and lots of guys my own age. I was living on my own and going to college and frankly didn't think much about it. I even dated guys in their forties and (gasp) fifties. Nowadays, as an older woman I've turned down guys under 21 who've approached me on the internet (and yes, that has happened) because I just don't know what age they really are and have told them to quit bothering women since we don't want to get involved with jailbait, but there are 16 year olds out there, throwing themselves at women like me, and one simply has to throw the spicot off, lol. But I do date younger men (over the age of 21) who have a mature attitude and I have a great time doing it. I just try to make sure they're of drinking age, lol. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2006 10:39:53 PM | | A long as he's legal ...................Enjoy..........just be fair to him as he is still developing socially | |
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Posted: 7/25/2006 5:50:59 AM | | @jdtallfem: You dated guys in their forties and fifties when you were 17??? (GASP) | |
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