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Posted: 4/19/2006 5:35:23 AM | | You can help how you feel...you choose not to! You know better, but don't want to change anything. I think you are only in it for sex, and no other reason. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 5:57:36 AM | | I don't think you are really asking for advice, I think you are looking for approval. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 5:59:37 AM | Personally.. I wouldn't date a man that is more then 4 years younger then me.. only because my life experience are so different that I find it difficult to see where I would have anything at all in common with someone much younger...
however, saying that.. I also believe in to each their own.. and if you feel that you have things in common with this person.. they are over 18 years of age.. and mature enought to have a relationship then follow you heart and good luck. :) | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 7:33:50 AM | a 34 year old dating a 17 year old, hmmm how's the sex?
lots of people are in pure sex relationships, whatever floats your boat.
you probably don't care what people think or say to you when you are in public with your boy toy, but there's no other way for others to view that scenario other than you guys are into it just for sex. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 8:49:03 AM | yea, i agree with mandrake and breeze. it's interesting how, on this thread, there has been a real consensus of opinions in the negative regarding the question posed... and yet, and yet... "the sex is good so i'll stick with it" -- wow. never mind that great sex can be had with loads of people...
okay, soooooooooo next time don't waste our time.  | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 8:59:24 AM | | OP...you will do what you want regardless....but remember, you are playing with a "boy". You could cause emotional damage that can leave scars for a long time. I hope you take this into consideration. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 9:04:34 AM | yes, mandrake, agreed once again.  | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 9:16:54 AM | | Run away from this like the wind. In almost all states it is illegal and you could end up being classified as a child molester no matter what the circumstances. You certainly don't need that. If he is truly in love with you then he will be willing to step aside and wait until he is 18. Good luck! | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 9:26:00 AM | "child molester"
Guess that about covers it for me. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 9:28:25 AM |
In almost all states it is illegal
The OP is from England; who knows what the sodomy laws are like in Europe. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 9:40:05 AM | Something must be bothering you about this arrangement or you would not have ask the question. How you and your friend feel about this arrangement should be between the both of you. Heck what everyone else thinks.
Another thing sexually you are matched pretty well, men peak early women later. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 9:59:08 AM | | Wow! I am looking at this and thinking...if this were reversed, and it was a man with a 17 year old girl, posters would be all over the guy and calling him down to the lowest! I don't believe what I am reading from some of you. My youngest daughter is 17, and I would be one angry father if a 34 year old was hitting on her!! This is not appropriate in my eyes, and that is my opinion. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 11:49:22 AM | I agree - I would not want a 17 year old child of mine, male or female, dating someone 34.
I am all about dating younger men, but I mean grownups. A 17year old is just a kid. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 3:11:38 PM | Just curious.....do you help him with his homework?...lmao
What can you possibly have in common with him? Other than him just recently entering pubirty and wonders what it is like to experience sex.
Personally I think you need to seek the help of a shrink.
It would be a different story if you were both much older but come on he just got out of diapers! | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 3:20:00 PM | | Yes I do, I have been there done that, eventually it won't work. My ex-was 25 yrs older than me, I truly thought I was in love, I wound up pregnant by him with my only child. He was 59 when she was born and i was 34. We grew apart quick, I went down a rocky road with him, he refused to work, had no money and my daughter saw constant bickering. We have been apart 3 yrs and I am a much happier person. I wouldn't consider alot younger or older ever again. Take it from someone you had been there done that and by the way 17 is way to young for you, he hasn't even had his life or grown up yet. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 3:25:55 PM | 17 yo is a child
34 should NOT be a child
I believe in the French rule of 1/2 your age plus 7 as the youngest you should date....making Boy Wonder 7 years TOO YOUNG | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 3:32:09 PM | Let's face it......if I was a 34 yr old guy(I'm 39) having sex with a 17 yr old girl.....I would be drug into the street and deemed some kind of perverted,child molesting, loser who can't find a real woman.You,my dear,are a pervert!!!! LMAO | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 3:35:51 PM | hi ready4. that sounds like a difficult situation you went thru.
at the same time i think 34 and 59 is ok, and very very different from 17 and 34.
my kids are in their mid-twenties now, but when they were 17? if a 34 year old wanted to go out with either one of them at that age? or heaven forbid if they were having sex with a 34 year old? oh man, that person woulda had to deal with one pissed off mommy.
nope, it's just not cool... it reminds me, quite honestly, of sexual harassment situations in which one of the parties clearly has "power" over the other and that makes the situation not cool.
in this scenario, there is a kind of inequality in the sense that clearly one of the parties is a full fledged adult and ought to have the sense to make adult, responsible decisions. the other party, the 17 year old, is still, for all intents and purposes a CHILD.
...that case that made news recently, about the high school teacher who was having sex with some of her male students, is kind of a combination of these two issues (power, age) and that makes her REALLY doubly bad in my view... | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 3:38:08 PM | | That depends, if you are my age, it would be no problem but if you are much younger and the male is teanager and not an adult, that makes it a different matter. The young man has to be at an adult to make it legal unless you are just platonic friends. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 3:40:47 PM | Merf.....very well put!
I truly hope the OP will weigh all the posts and really think about her situation. No good can come of this, and someone is going to get hurt. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 6:05:36 PM | i don't think there's anything wrong with a large age difference as long as both parties can legally drive, vote, drink & buy a lottery ticket.
at 16 they are legal
the line has to be drawn somewhere...but nothing magical happens on their 17th birthday. i mean, one day they are a CHILD & the next they are fair game? i don't think so.
~j | |
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Posted: 4/20/2006 8:23:08 AM | "at 16 they are legal"
And I don't even agree that this should be the case. Thank you Lord for my kids coming out so conservative (my daughter wouldn't even let the world see her belly button until she was 8  )
If any old timers in their 30s every came near either of my kids, unless they were at least over 25, would be found later with attempts being made to identify the body. Or, would at least wish I had only gone that far. Some things are worse than death. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2006 2:43:58 PM | Whether it's technically legal or not isn't the issue. The issue is, why would an adult man OR woman want to be sexually involved with a teenager?
The answer? Power and control. You're the experienced adult here, and the teenager is the child half your age you're exploiting. Maybe he doesn't know better, but YOU do. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2006 2:56:57 PM | 17 and 34 ?~?!? are you serious ! thats sick .. sorry. But I have 2 daughters 23 and 18 and I,ll admit Ive seen some very nicelooking younger guys but no way in this world would I or could I ever sleep with or be in a relationship with someone that is 17.. I know teens are going to do what they want now adays ,, but if I was his mother you would not be any where near him thats for sure its just wrong! besides , cant you find a man thats closer to your age ? do you have any children ? what if you had a daughter that was 17 and she was dating someone 34-35 would that be okay ? hey to each his own.. but you did post this so you have to deal with the answers and I guess in all respect only you can make the right decision for both of you, be the responsible adult an let him have his teen years turn to a Man not a boy sorry to me anyone under 21 is a boy
Good luck | |
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