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Posted: 6/20/2006 8:47:12 PM | that is one sick biotch, slamming a 17 yr at 34yrs old
whats the matter you cant get a man your age??? WTF | |
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Posted: 6/20/2006 10:44:54 PM | | well my wife is 9 days older then me | |
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Posted: 6/21/2006 9:12:40 PM | I can understand people havng a different opinion and telling this woman where you stand.
However I think the venom is really out of place.
Sort of reminds me of the fuss you would hear 30 years ago when a black dated a white.
Remeber the only choices that you can make are your own.... | |
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Posted: 6/22/2006 10:23:19 PM | @ tittiger. That Sir is by far the most unrealisitc and absurd comparison I have ever heard in my life.
Comparing a 17 year old and a 34 year old with interracial dating of 30 years ago????
I ask You. If you had a 17 year old daughter dating a 34 year old man, how would you react.
Do YOU feel this normal behavior?
I look forward to YOUR response. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2006 10:26:04 PM | I can tell you how I would feel about a 34 yo dating my 17 yo child....and lets just say Mr Louisville and I would be having a little heart to heart with the pedophile. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2006 10:36:19 PM | | Well......most ladiea that ask me out are of an age difference of around 17 years or so from me, but on the other hand, I have not dated a 17 year old since I was 18, nor would I. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 3:53:43 AM | This thread is about if you think it is wrong for a woman to be with a man 17 years younger, and NOT my life.
It has been made very clear that most of you think i am in the wrong for what im doing.
BUT this thread is not called is the op a pervert.
Yes you are all intitled to your view but it does not make your view right. but hey thanks for your views they have been read and discarded as i said we are all intitled to our views. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 4:07:37 AM | | No offense OP. YOU put it out there. YOU asked for opinions. It seems like a nerve has been hit here. Good. I'm still waiting for an answer from you which you have conveniently sidestepped. I also want an answer from tittiger. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 5:04:51 AM | Im 10 years younger than my husband, not as drastic as your situation.. but also not to very diffrent. You may want to seriously consider what they say, simply because you asked for it, so choke it down and try to learn.... while at the same time remembering not to let the herd get you down.
The bulk of western morality comes from chrisitanity, and that bible is full of this kind of thing, in much more extreme situations that your own. (the hebrew tradition made adults out of you when you were 13, the bar mitzvah is holdover from this time... but back then it wasnt just a ritual.. you were expected to make your own way in the world then)
Kong-fu-tzu (westerners call him Confucius) married a teenage girl when he was in his 50-60 age range.
The prophet muhhamud married a REALLY young girl. (pre-teen)
These are just the few examples i can come up with without researching details of similar incidents.. but theres a load of them out there.
Of corse we have a diffrent perspective now, but just about all things in life are matters of perspective, not of any sort of universal truth. now... just because im saying some things to put this in a perspective beyond the limited range of western sensibilities dosnt mean im approving (just lending a less sheltered response)... in this age we shelter our youth and he likley isnt as mentally mature as the teen bride of a bronze age chinese philosopher.
And i can totally agree with this being compared to the interracial dating thing just a generation ago (in my grandfathers day before the communist revolution, marrying a 14 year old girl was acceptable, but marrying a white man was UNTHINKABLE).... moral values shift and change all around us, they do so typically at a crawl however... so folks without the perspective of history tend to think their "right" always has been "right" and always will be... but they are wrong.
But it seems you got bored with him.... got bored with him? The way thats expressed makes it sound like you were thinking of him as a toy and not a person.... that part i find repugnant. Really, makes me think kong-tzus teen wife had a better deal than the 17 year old guy you got rid of when the new-car-smell was all gone. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 5:33:50 AM | | spaceman in responce to you i am not aware of any question you have directly asked me? no nerve has been hit in my court, just cant believe how faraway from the original question some of your responces are. i will do what i want regardless of what a bunch of people who live on the otherside of the world think. And if you all still think im a perv. i enjoy the time i spend with my younger male and if thats makes me a perv in your books then fine. i am truely happy are u? | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 5:45:06 AM | WOW What a wonderful spin on things Pujakama. This is not communist China or India of 30 or 1000 years ago. I never said I was right or wrong. I asked opinions like yours. Yes children do need to be sheltered in this wonderful time we live in. Now since you have put your two cents in. Lets look at your situation shall we. Yes you are a married woman looking for a girlfriend for your husband and yourself. Was this YOUR idea, your husbands or a mutual desire. Some people envy your situation. I do not. Why is it you two cannot find fullfilment in one another exclusively? Consider this question and I look forward to your response. There is always a chance I am mistaken on things. Wrong??? Maybe a different perspective is a better choice of words here. A western perspective if you will.
@sassilass. I never called you a perv miss. You just called yourself one. You have again sidestepped my initial question to you. No problem. Be happy. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 5:52:02 AM | @sassilass...
Awhile back you said you were a man and this was all a big joke..so now you're back to being a woman and sleeping with a baby like you originally said? They do have meds for pathological liars no? | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 6:05:31 AM | Well lets see .. The nice thing about that is you wouldent have to wine and dine expensivly. Chuckie Cheese, Mc Donalds, Burger King, and Pizza! Thats a plus so far...They would not be able to drive you anywhere you would have to do all the driving, Not good So they couldent pick you up for a date. You would have to probabbly have to keep a few bottles of Proactive acne stulff around and that crap aint cheep! Your mirror would have pimple goo on it all the time. You wouldent have to worry about where your mate is anymore, just go to the kitchen and "vwala" look tward the refridgerator. Have plenty of video games handy. and put parental control on the playboy channel and porn guard on the internet. other than that ........Sounds like a good move, I think you should go for it!  | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 9:51:18 AM | sassilass
Youre as a honest as a politican, what a bunch of BS from you
what a shame youre a disgrace to the fine folks in England, and ive met a few | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 10:11:59 AM | what do you think of a 47 interested in a 67.....I find myself with a guy who wants to date me...I am 67, he 47....this is my kid's ages......I am dragging my feet....
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Posted: 6/23/2006 10:31:53 AM | Very observant to point out that we arent in communist china nor india, but my argument wasnt based on location at all. I checked the age of consent laws for the UK and found that their age of consent for both sexes is 16. If the people of her nation are satisfied that 16 is the proper age and you americans have it set 2 years later.. who is right? (also there were no footnotes indicating you had to be within X years of your prospective mate, like american laws concerning sexually active youth.. so going off that, she is behaving within the societal norms for her culture/nation.. and the herd is calling her a pedophile, what if they guy were a few months older and 18? would it be ok then?)
when i said "wrong", i didnt say the opinions expressed here were nessesarily wrong. I said that the people who beleive their "right" with be the "right" forever, are wrong. and that ethics vary greatly from one culture, nation, and age to the next.
and spiffer said this....
"now since you put your two cents in lets look at your situation"
.. this is an open forum and my comments were on topic. you put in your "2 cents" but i didnt ask about YOUR situation... like why you were a single man without a woman, did i? no.. but your low enough to try and refocus on "my situation" as if theres some flaw in my situation that prompts my diffrent reasoning from you. ill turn it around on you.. lets ask about your situation "shall we". Should i be like you and ask if you are still single because your rude and confrontational to people who didnt ask for your attention? is this why you cant find a woman? I can understand (and actually appreciate) your harsh honesty with your answers to the OP, because she ASKED for you to speak on her situation, i didnt. (also, those questions about you are purely to reflect back at you the innappropriate nature of your own questions, please dont answer them.. i dont care to know, and it would only lead us more off topic than youve already gone)
now ill go off topic, despite how rude i find it that you thought to put some sort of spotlight on my situation. it will please me to explain it anyway.... so here comes your answer (the answer you dont deserve) prefaced by a few more comments.
first this line you used.
"Why is it you two cannot find fullfilment in one another exclusively?"
this question shows your looking for some specific answer, as if your hoping to find some shortcoming in our relationship that makes our situation less appealing and your own less unappealing. Well, sorry to dissapoint you, but we have a great relationship. Im treated lovingly every moment im with him, he respects my family and culture (lol.. he isnt afraid to eat cats, snakes and live scorpions when i take him home to visit shan dong province), and we have great sex.... so i guess your unable to fathom what would prompt someone to have threesomes when we are satisfied with each other? well, its fun. do you eat only one flavor of ice cream? maybe your that boring, maybe not.... but going out with girls on dates is a fun thing to do, one of our favorites.
not done yet... the situation wasnt anyones "descision" when i met my husband he was with another girl, he and this girl prettymuch seduced me as i was fairly innocent at the time. I liked it a lot, nice sensation having four hands massage you at once (that of corse was just a starter, but oh-so-nice). did i mention i liked it a lot? anyway... the three of us dated for about a year till we moved away from her. i got depressed about it for a while and didnt look at any other girls for about six months. my honey kept looking casually (there were a load of indian girls there, must have drove him nuts) but never once pressed me to do anything till i brought home one of my classmates from UF to "visit" us..but that was me suprising him, not him pressuring.
so perhaps to you, a couple "cannot find fullfilment in one another exclusively" when they are open and eager for a third... but this is a limitation to your mindset, not an aspect of truth. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 10:33:21 AM | | ok... i know i just posted, but i missed tattats post... and i have to say thanks, i laughed so hard i cried when i read that. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 10:42:57 AM | | Hell no! the U.S. is so into age...Europeans,Africa,Alaska,Carribean and all other countries...Don't give a Damn about age..it has nothing to do with Attractiveness,relationships etc..IT'S THE PERSON THEMSELVES.... | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 10:44:36 AM | | Get a Grip on Life...To each his own... | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 10:45:52 AM | | 17 hahah robbing the cradle! hey you know you're just using this kid as a boy toy and as long as the sex is good what do I/we care..? but! don't f*** with the kids head keep it truthfull.......... | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 1:39:28 PM | Hello Lei: Please refer to my message # 192.
You chose to respond. You admit this be an open forum. Yet when someone (me) in this instance challenges you, you spit venom. Thats okay Lei. It's an open forum and we all are entitled to an opinion. Thats what makes the WEST so great. We can give an honest open opinion. In this an open forum. All may not agree, but isn't it nice one can give an opinion without fear of retribution. Lei the only reason I singled you out was your arrogant pompous attitude. Thats right Lei. YOU are arrogant AND pompous. Nice little holier than thou catty comments like (western herd mentality). Like the (bulk of western morality comes from THAT bible is full of THIS kind of thing). Here's another one Lei. (beyond the limited range of western sensibilities). How about this one Lei So folks without the perspective of history tend to think their *right* always has been *right* and always will be... but they are wrong.
Why are you here Lei? Putting up with the herds? Putting up with the ignorants? Putting up with people who read THAT bible? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
Now. Lets carry on shall we. Passions run deep in regards to children. The OP of this thread played on the HERD Lei. Enjoyed every minute of her selfish, arrogant, and also pompous little show.
This is why the HERD rebeled. Were all comments called for. No of course not. Ever hear the HERD saying you reap what you sow Lei. I'm sure you have.
I care not what the government says about legal age. Here in Canada it is going up to 16 from 14 very soon. THANK GOD Lei.
You take care now. I choose to not respond to your other post. You would not like my HERD thoughts regarding your comments.
Derek. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 2:27:39 PM | These things your claiming arrogant statments are just true things im willing to state. sorry they dont fit in with your sheltered views. your claiming the US isnt a nation whose laws and culture are dominated by christian thought? Even if you think "im arrogant and pompus for pointing out that there more ways to look at this thing than your own... i still didnt ask for you to "single me out" i made my post for the benefit of the one asking the questions, asking for our advice.
of corse i spit venom when im confronted and didnt ask for it. the starter of this thread asked for our opinions, so i shared. i didnt ask for yours about me, or your attentions.
Why am i here? im here to get together with a few cuties and hopefully find one with an open mind and wide world view that we will want to stay with. That seems like the reason you join a dating site. so dont ask why im here... the question you need to ask yourself is why your here, soemone claiming to be happily single but lurking on a dating site?
and you didnt "rebel" thats what the herd dosnt do, you encountered the OP doing something outside your norms so you charged her... thats what a herd does, and thats why i used the word. the individual rebels, does new and diffrent things.
I will take care thanks, that sounds like a goodbye. hope so. I dont mind debating issues with anyone, but not the ones about my personal affairs that i havent invited outsiders to speak on in public. You have my thanks for your choice to not respond to my other posts. ill follow suit and return to topic and leave you be, as id have prefered you have done to me in the first place.
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Posted: 6/23/2006 4:00:52 PM | | age means nothing within reasonable guidlines..IMHO | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 10:44:29 PM |
@ tittiger. That Sir is by far the most unrealisitc and absurd comparison I have ever heard in my life.
Comparing a 17 year old and a 34 year old with interracial dating of 30 years ago????
I ask You. If you had a 17 year old daughter dating a 34 year old man, how would you react.
Do YOU feel this normal behavior?
I look forward to YOUR response.
I think the comparison is valid spaceman. I think both are knee jerk emotional reactions.
Most likely I would not have liked my daughter dating someone that much older than she was. However unlike a lot of people here my reaction would not be to castrate the male. I would place the issue with my daughter and I would also be trying to figure out what I had done wrong.
BTW I was a single parent and did raise a teenage girl not too many years ago. One of the biggest obsticles to raising her were the child welfare Nazi's who were more than willing to take action if you dared disiplined your child but on the other hand if they got into trouble from a lack of disipline they were there to terrorize you also. It was a lose lose situation. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2006 3:10:10 AM | OP,
I tend to think that when someone goes for someone SO much younger there may be different forces at play then actual feelings.
You are 34, he is 17, are you SURE that you are into him as a person, are you sure this isn't just a way to recapture your youth or makeup for something else in your life?
I couldn't say it can't work, or won't work, but I feel like you have to do a LOT of heavy duty thinking as to your motives before you proceed.
But thats just me. | |
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