| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 11/21/2007 1:32:45 AM |
Everyone must admit that the first thing they look at is the photograph - again is this really right??
I would understand this idea as we all would like to know more about the person in question and a pic gives that another missing piece to an answer. However, there are on here fake pics or no pics but I give credit to those with no pics if they participate on forums. One can create their pic in mind and if 'stumbling on' each other turns into more than accidental way the picture does follow. Hmm ... sometimes it is still not enough. And even if meeting does happen I bet it must be kind of Blind Date.
If a person is deceptive on the internet, they will be deceptive in person.
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 11/21/2007 8:54:37 AM | | Because it is where the losers can hide and pretend to be whatever they want to be. You can be married, separated, a pedophile, a rapist, anything, and you can get on POF and pretend to be a knight in shining armor. It is where you can play with someone's mind and emotions as long as you can get away with it. They place fake photos, old photos, lie about their weight, jobs, income, anything to hook a gullible fish and then they toy with them until they get tired of them and then they throw them back and move on to the next victim. I believe more men do this than women. Men use it as an ego boost due to a boring life, which is made more exciting because they are doing it in secret, so their wives do not find out. It is exciting and gives them a rush. It is like a drug. I believe over half the people, more men than women, on POF are married. There should be some way to filter these people out. I think internet dating is far worse than picking up someone in a bar (which I would never do anyway). At least you can look in their eyes in a bar. POF is a bar but everyone is hiding behind a screen so you cannot see them. It is exactly the same, only you are not drunk or drinking, (well, some people meet in bars and get drunk anyway). I like this site for the forums only. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 11/21/2007 10:29:59 AM | | It's not so bad; it can be fun if you don't use it as the ONLY means for dating, you have a good screening process, you don't have really high expectations (you're not trying to make a spouse out of every person you meet) and you don't take it too seriously in general. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 11/21/2007 11:19:52 AM | You said: "Oh bum, I've just given up on dating!!"
You are clearly British.
Murricans NEVER say "Oh bum." | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 11/21/2007 1:04:01 PM | | Of course we look at the photo if one is available. I certainly would not want to waste a someone's time if they saw me and hated what I looked like. What a waste of time for the both of us. I am not saying looks are everything. But we all want to be physically attracted as well as emotional and intellectually. If I spelled that wrong I apologize. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 11/21/2007 10:56:51 PM | ^^ A waste of time eh? And what if the person you meet turns to be the best friend you've ever known in your life? Not such a waste of time right?
Stop looking for the fairey tale romance novel drivel story to happen to you. It's not going to happen.
Use this site to meet people and check them out as a friend first. I have been on this site for almost a year, met some really nice cool people, been on a few dates, met some crazy people.
More importantly Keep Fishing! Whether it be on here on IRF, keep on keeping on. Giving up is boring and trite and overdone :)
Happy Fishing!
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 11/21/2007 11:07:53 PM | Giving up is boring,nuff said. We are all here looking for something different . Life is full of challenges and it is our need to meet those challenges. All sites expose us to the world, to be noticed , so have fun with this as in life,T.R.7 | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 12/9/2007 5:18:11 AM | | internet dating is not a safe place any more there are scammers and fakers as well i am a member of this site and a fewdays a go i desided to hide my profile becouse i dont want any girl to contact me at all becouse if you send a reply to a girl you never here back from them and that does happen since i got black mailed it has put me off dating sites for good no harm becouse there not to be trusted anyway the girl tryed to get money out of me but it didnt work i told her to **** off i said your getting **** all money from me thats why i desied to hide my profile i dont care where the girl is from | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 1/1/2008 5:01:12 AM | Hmmm Sister ZanyGirl, the nun...
Now what would a nun be doing on an Internet Dating site? Aren't you married to God? Well even if you're not, I'm Ok with it. Nuns are human too.
However when I first read the subject line in the forum list, I figured some bloke was making is sound so sexual. Excuse the pun. Then I read your profile. Mary Poppins comes to mind... just kidding.
Why would you give up on dating? How does one date a nun anyway? I have so many questions and I'm not sure I want to find out the answers. Oh well. Your picture says a 1000 words and you're cute too. Would you find a priest on POF too? What sort of bloke are you fishing for? Better still, how does a nun fish? What would you use as bait? Perhaps I'm being a little too facetious and pretentious, please accept my apologies, I meant no harm.
May you find the answers to your prayers... 
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 1/1/2008 8:22:17 AM |
'Cuz they pretend to be what you want them to be... it's a nasty game.. get out in the real world.. and use this avenue for entertainment purposes only.... I just again realized how FAKE some people are... never let your guard down on here....
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 1/1/2008 8:46:27 AM | In the six years I've been online on various dating sites, here are a few observations:
- Photos ARE the first thing that people look at .. but words, language, and spelling ability are very significant (if they read them AND actually can read).
- If a guy emails a woman ... 99% of the time there is NO response (whether the guy posts a photo or not.) This is true even with a genuine, polite, and sincere email.
- If a woman emails a guy first ... 90% of the time she is ONLY fishing for: (1) compliments and (2) an opportunity to send the 'kiss of death' email: "good luck on your search".
- If a woman put you on her favorites list but does not send an email ... 90% of the time she's simply looking for a positive response so she can send you the 'kiss of death' email: "good luck on your search
- If you look better than Brad Pitt ... you have a good chance of getting some emails.
- If you're in the lower 99.99% on the attraction scale ... probably should get a pet and find some new hobbies ... that you can do solo. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 1/1/2008 10:59:10 AM | I have met all kinds of people on here and have had a couple of real love relationships come out of them over the past 5 years.
The best value for me now is the social interaction on these forums. It is a great learning experience. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 1/1/2008 3:36:53 PM | puff egos... I loved that!
Frankly, "yes" I love attention. Show me someone that does not like attention and I will show you a liar.
Was it not that Freud guy that made the theory that people are attracted to each other first out of looks and then are held together by personalities and such? But what does he know, he was just one of the great psychologists of all time that had a drug habit. javascript:smilie('')
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 3/18/2008 8:56:19 PM | | As for myself, I find internet dating so difficult cause there are so many men/women to choose from. It's like a candy store and at times it's like if they don't like you within 5 min. it's over, then onto the next. Also, I find that men/women are chatting with more than one at a time and don't give it a chance with just one to see where it goes. In the real world if you met someone out somewhere you get to know someone without any outside distractions............ But, what do I know, just my opinion, is all. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 2/20/2009 10:39:54 AM | | Well because people just want to play games and really not want to put any effort into getting to know someone you know they say one thing but then they do another,seems both sides are playing hard to get if someone wants something then pursue it but it does go both ways.If they dont then just move on cause they arent worth your time. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 2/20/2009 5:12:16 PM | | You just have to be patient, I have met some great people and some not so great people. Sometimes I get emails from people I have nothing in common with, other times I fit someone's description to a T and they read my message and view my profile and I still don't hear back. Another thing to remember is some people get a ton of messages, and a lot of times someone reads all their emails with the intention of responding, but just don't get around to it. The next time you read a new message from someone, you'll be surprised how often you read it and move on without thinking twice. A friend of mine is an attractive lady, and she gets 40-50 new emails a day. To expect everyone to respond is impossible, although everyone agrees it would be nice! | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 2/20/2009 5:51:35 PM | | One thing about internet dating is the harder you search, the less likely you will find someone.... kinda like watching the kettle and waiting for it to boil.... it seems to take forever!!! ... You may decide to become a regular in the forums..... most of the women I have conversed with have confirmed that they get the most interest from men who have read something they have posted here. It might be worth a shot.... have fun in the forums, (although you gotta have a pretty thick skin sometimes!! LOL) and relax about meeting someone.... if it's meant to be, it will happen | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 2/20/2009 8:58:41 PM | | Dating as a whole is just harder as we get older...internet or in real life. I understand. I've been on here for over a year myself. Some dates have been good, some have been bad. I really have no idea if it gets any better...but I'm not quitting yet. :) | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 2/22/2009 4:49:32 PM | | Well I can only comment from my past experiences dating online. 1st. I,ve met women for coffee that not only lied about there age by hmmm 10 years, their weight by 85-100lbs. So how can you keep believing women that lie all the time. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 2/23/2009 2:24:19 AM |
Cuz they pretend to be what you want them to be... it's a nasty game
yes this..plus the fact that they have a LOT of "options"..and because of that OP when you go on a date with someone, the slightest "fault" they find with you..they tend to "give up" and move on simply because they can easily say.."well who cares, i have other options so i dont need to waste my time on this one" etc..its terrible..thats the MAIN problem i see with internet dating..no one wants to give the other person "the benefit of the doubt" liek you said... | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 2/23/2009 10:06:25 AM | I also think too many join these sites looking for the kind of people who don't need these sites to find a mate...so they look around, email a few, maybe a date or two, but aren't really into the people who are on the site.
It becomes hard because it's not natural. It's forced. We force ourselves to email, to reply, and to go out with a total stranger feeling like our best friend set us up on a blind date. Even then there are way more people who are iffy or ready to delete that account because they feel embarrassed to be on a site. | |
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