| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 2/23/2009 10:06:25 AM | I also think too many join these sites looking for the kind of people who don't need these sites to find a mate...so they look around, email a few, maybe a date or two, but aren't really into the people who are on the site.
It becomes hard because it's not natural. It's forced. We force ourselves to email, to reply, and to go out with a total stranger feeling like our best friend set us up on a blind date. Even then there are way more people who are iffy or ready to delete that account because they feel embarrassed to be on a site. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 2/23/2009 10:56:26 AM | So far I've found this site (I haven't tried other internet dating sites) a lot more soul sapping then I was expecting. I figured trying to find a date on-line would have to be a little soul sapping, but this is an all out fight to not become pessimistic, jaded and bitter.
I think maybe it's because I stopped trying after I concluded that trying wasn't getting any results, but I still hoped that something positive would come about while letting it all hang out so to speak. The whole "if you be yourself and it was meant to be, then it will happen" mentality. After that stage I'm vary tempted by the "do whatever you can to get as many options as you can. Sincere and honest doesn't matter until after you have a selection to zero in on" mentality but I'm resisting it for purely sentimental reasons.
I can totally understand why some guys are photoshoping a pic, exaggerating elements on their profile and designing a really good, really generic message that reads as if it was took a lot of thought and emotional investment, then cut and paste that to every woman within 10, 25 and 50 miles. The truth is that can give a lot better results for some people then composing a genuine mail that is written to reflect heartfelt interest in what someone has written in their profile. Don't get me wrong, I still think they are dirt bags, I'm just saying that when someone tries to be a morally upstanding person of integrity and it just doesn't get them positive results, only a delusional person wouldn't reconsider what they are doing in pursuit of happiness
I feel like I can either leave PoF and forget about the whole thing, join my dirt bag brothers in the pursuit of maximum results with minimum effort, or I can leave my lover's heart on the PoF grill and hope there is someone who thinks it is worth a taste before it becomes a black smoldering piece of charcoal and ash...
Yeah, the fight on the pessimistic and bitter fronts isn't going so well, but I think I'm holding my ground on the jaded one. In fact, I have a lot more value for the sublime grace held by the confident single women I meet in person now. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 2/23/2009 1:17:46 PM | Bravo, mclaughingfish:
I can relate to the smoldering ash! Why is it that after months of contact, letting your guard down; meeting; talking; finally gathering up the courage to say I Like you, let alone the 3 words men can't say in the same room as each other and then:NOTHING!! It all evaporates like a drunken Hollywood haze...WILD! Fun, WOW!!! ARGHHH!!!    | |
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tecnic
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 2/23/2009 1:37:14 PM | | i gave up dating after i was blackmailed two years a go and since then i dont trust any site anymore since i was blackmaile i have desided not to reply to any girl ore reseve replys from them i desided also to block members from contacting me and most of the girls are married and liers as well and i am not going to fall for that and there is a chance that the member could blackmail you as well and that is known to happen i am only here for the threads thats all and if i do get a reply i will not returne a reply becouse i am not interested they say your better off being single | |
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tecnic
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Joined: 11/28/2008
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 2/23/2009 1:44:53 PM | | if you beleave in any profile on this site there is something wrong with you becouse all the profiles are fake i have been on a good few sites and they done nothing good for me the girls there great at lieing any way i have gone of on line dating it crap any way better off staying single i have been single for years and it great all profiles are fake there is no genuine profile here and i gouldnt give a dam if i never got a reply becouse i am not one bit worried i have better things to be doing and sending replys to liers | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 2/24/2009 6:53:40 PM | | Internet dating is hard because too many have unrealistic expectations or want instant gratification like everything else these days. Too many of us have "Dating A.D.D." Internet dating brings out the worst in us sometimes because it's easier to just "drop" someone online, then in person. I think it's actually made us more fickle overall. But for those of us who don't hang out at bars (like me) there aren't a lot of other options for meeting new people. So, the internet is a necessary evil for many of us. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 2/25/2009 11:33:49 AM | | Think about all the important people in your life. Did you pick them based off of a picture and a short blurb they wrote? | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 2/25/2009 1:50:16 PM | | this is just a place to hang out really...I mostly come here for the forums now...and the occasional chit chat... occasionally meet people but dont expect anything from it because that is a waste of time ...but its nice to meet new people every once in a while ...and sometimes its mysterious...I love that part...hehehee, its like whats behind door number three....oops thats the curious cat speaking in me ... | |
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