| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 4/22/2006 6:16:57 PM | | in my experiances i have learned that if you want a real relationship to work out you have to let go of some of the important things in your life that your spouse does not agree with. and i have had to learn to deal with taking in his believes, i have also learned how to be realy patient, understanding. the most important thing i have learned is how to have fun with out breaking is rules and feelings because i have to respect him and his believes too. | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 4/22/2006 6:30:29 PM | I learned alot about mutual respect in my last relationship. My former boyfriend is a good man, and I enjoyed our time together. Sadly we had different life goals and went our separate ways, on good terms.
I learned how to share ideas on what to do each weekend. We would take turns choosing what we wanted to do. This was great because we both had the chance to do things we liked. I like a relationship that has neither a dominant nor submissive partner. I like someone who is willing to do things I want to do half the time, while I am willing to do what he wants half the time. I think this can go a long way toward having a successful relationship.
I also learned that there are good men out there, and it's worth while to take the time to find a guy who is a good man rather than putting up with the first guy who shows interest if he turns out to be a jerk.
Wherever he is now I wish him well, because he is a good man.
DW | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 4/29/2006 5:22:21 PM | | How to appreciate someone elses view on everything . How to listen , everything about yourself ( how you've reacted in one situation or another ), What you like , what you don't (in life and bed ) How you are when she's around your friends (are you the same as when it's just the two of you,? is she ? or are you a totally different person ). This last one i find very perplexing . i've seen so many people change their personality right in front of my eyes just cause someone else comes in the room . plastic plastic plastic .lol | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 4/29/2006 5:51:22 PM | Find someone that you can totally love and accept just as they are. If you have an open or hidden agenda to change them, that will utimately cause resentment and has been the ruination of many relationships. People only successfully make changes in their life that THEY want. If someone needs a major lifestyle change, don't enter into a relationship with the promise that they will change. Chances are they won't. If you can't accept someone as they are, do both of you a favor and keep looking.  | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 4/29/2006 5:59:36 PM | I guess besides unknowningly pushing people away, it seem like the world wants me to be alone, I know that sounds weird,
We never do anything unknowingly. Tell me when you're looking at that person and saying "mhmmm, maybe not" inside your head..that it's unknowing. No really this is an excuse that we all come up with when we're having second thoughts about our actions or attitude towards the person we're with but uncertain about..been there done that. It's called sandcastle syndrome...I can't remember if that was something my shrink said way back when or if it's something I made up..lmao...but its when you take something ordinary such as sand and build it into something extraordinary...then when it's at it's best you're suddenly unsure if it will hold up, or you may think "hey I can do better" so you kick it, and smash the crap out of it...then move down the beach to another batch of sand and repeat..and repeat...and repeat...well you get the idea.
I am a classic beach wanderer...the sand might be better over there..the grass might be greener...bla bla bla...but everytime I find a patch I like I dig a little and find cat poop in my sand...or some other fluzie is sneaking around building castles in my sand...so what do you do? Throw it in her hoochie face, pee in the sand, and move on down the beach...lamo...
New headline:...nice bucket seeks supple sand to build a suitable castle by the lake? Whatcha think? | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 5/29/2006 8:22:06 PM | Hi Verissa, sorry it took so long to reply=), that is an interesting analysis, makes sense, what do I do? I guess I build a sand castle in a sand castle until it is safe from the water from the shore and other influences, then when there any indication of harm towards the inner castle I move down the beach and do the same thing but build stronger castles, but the inner castle gets deeper and deeper while the outer castle gets stronger and stronger. and it just keeps repeating until there is no sand and nothing is on the beach anymore, after this I'm trapped with nowhere to go to and if theirs a way to go it wil just hurt more. I kind of like the new headline also it seems like a tounge twister if you say it fast=) Also in my case everything is collapsing around me too.    | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 5/29/2006 8:34:43 PM | | Humiliation,pain,anger,lust,greed,love,hurt,anguish,jealousy,betrail,bloodlust,depression, hope,smiles,soft touches,pillow talk,whispering,ducking,dive and roll, kissing, hugging, holding,and just plain cover the windows(optional),hold on ter yer hat scrabble.......... | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 5/29/2006 8:38:29 PM | I've learned what I don't want...somebody that's CHEAP...that is ultimately unattractive boys...especially when you've got a great woman who is extremely giving in all ways...
someone who is dishonest...someone that doesn't treat you with respect or appreciates you...thus someone who doesn't treat you as being worthy... where are all the nice guys??? and for men the nice women... | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/1/2006 9:12:34 PM | Hi Sweetsweetangel, Please don't be offended, but I think that money is not that big of an issue, I know its a need but why does money matter above all when dating or in a relationship? Also some seriously don't have money and are trying there hardest to get money but keep coming up empty, or me for instance I basically can't work due to the disabilities I have there is alot that I can't do, mainly its from being too traumatized and it is unfixable, I have been applying for social security for 5 years and they still haven't approved my desicion, I am only 26 yrs old, and I'm not being lazy and not wanting to work if I could work I would have been doing that a long time ago, In my last two dates everything was perfect, but because of money issues one women didn't date me, the other women we both agreed that we should end our dialouge because we ran into money issues. I just don't get it I am trying my best and its not enough, I'm so close but yet so far away. In time I will have money but I'm beginning to think in order to have a date or be in a relationship I have to have money, I independant and don't like asking other people for money, to me if I liked a woman but she had no money I would still date her, I don't mean to sound angry or offensive and if I come off as that I apologize. I just don't get it. Best of Luck to you=)   | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/1/2006 9:36:20 PM | what major mistakes that are made ,,dont do it again
also to understand other peoples feeling and needs and wants | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/2/2006 1:29:02 PM | Hello sweet Angel
i have just read your message
and i agree with your line of thinking
maybe im old school but i like to be
the gentleman and open the door or
pays for the meal ,and i know how some
men don,t treat a woman properly
i see it all the time i lived through a
bad divorce(my parent,s) and years
later i found out why
my dad was this type of man
some things are not hereditary
tony | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/2/2006 1:31:46 PM | | I learned that everything that glitters is not gold and women turn psycho the minute you have sex with them. | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/2/2006 1:47:58 PM | How to listen ,with out saying a word till he is done,,as i
want in return
and more then the list i can write
understanding and being able to talk open
my thoughts anyway | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/2/2006 11:36:01 PM | I've learned being lovers don't necessarily mean that we're twins. He has his life and I have mine. In addition we contribute the same effort to work on the most beautiful one for us.
I've learned how to trust and to be trusted. But quite often people have double standard that tends to be sucked.
I've learned how to love but still can breathe, love is blind yet someone has to see.
I've learned first to give and then take, if it doesn't work, then let go quiet and quick. | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/15/2006 11:26:59 PM | Hello=)
I need some opinions please, What does anyone think about being with someone who has schizophrenia and catatonia? | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/18/2006 11:39:27 PM | | not the violant kind, or hearing voices in my head, what I have is called schizoaffective disorder, the depressive type basically it is a way of escaping reality, when too many bad things happened, I have no physical response, can't talk for example. Along with this Ihave catatonia in which I be in a catatonic state where I am unable to move or anything, i know they sound alike but they different its hard for me to explain but I hope I didn't scare anyone away. I need your honest opinion I will take no offense, to the question if someone has schizoaffective disorder and catatonia would it scare the person away or would dating a person that has this disorders be ok if the person was able to not rely on the other person for help, except for getting some fruit it helps? Thanks | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/19/2006 2:23:57 AM | | ive learned so much about who i am as a person what another person can bring out in you your good side and bad,feelings you have never felt before it the whole experience with another person sharing your time with,you learn to have self respect your learn to love and to recieve love and to grow as a person relationships of any kind are very important they build foundations on which you can grow,realationships with the right person you will find are amaizing it gives you strength and an inside energy everyone can see xxx i wish you luck on your journey xxxxx | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/19/2006 3:39:41 AM | I've known a friend who has similar situation but he is well educated with a decent career and has adorable kids. What I don't understand is why people don't go for counseling or seek for treatments if they do know they have this kind of sickness? Mental illness to me is not a shame at all, especially we're living in a world that's full of distress and mishaps. Important thing is we ought to do our best to combat or prevent these hardships or sickness in life keeping us. Oneself should not rely on others to accept who he/she is when he/she is abnormal, that's just not fair. Put in the same shoes would you do the same? Falling down is not a problem, staying down is.
For myself, I do not reject or discriminate people with mental illness. I only reject those who do not want to admit it, face it, or fix it. Dana Reeve is no doubt an admirable person in recent history showing us what unconditional love is. However, Christopher was doing a great job as well by not giving up on himself. He'd been fougth for his survival till his last breath. If Chris gave up on himself or being self-pity right after the accident, I don't think Dana could do the same job as she'd been doing. How could she continued to love her husband if her husband didn't even love himself anymore.
By all means we must learn to love ourselves first, then learn to be loved by the others. I strongly believe we're all equal regardless of our race or physical condition. This message is not intended to offend anybody, but speaking from the bottom of my heart, with countless blessings. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2006 6:36:11 AM | Thank you for your responses=), I am seeking professional help for my illnesses, but unfortunately I can only get help to a certain extent, because the medical treatment for these illnesses I am allergic too, and I do have other illnesses besides the ones I mentioned,
I can't give up because I have a daughter that I hoping to see again. Also it is not my time to go yet I will know when it is my time to go, But I have to admit that this illness is not easy, the only treatment I can get is from a psychologist, I also see a therapist and a psychiatrist, and I'll be on medication the rest of my life but that doesn't matter, I just don't want to go through alone the rest of my life and I agree with your posts and appreciate them=) Also I had biofeedback when I was young for a pain disorder so I used what I learned from there it helps, any help is better than no help in my opinion, I've been through enough truama to last 5 lifetime, I also experienced many different kinds as well. Also I am working on acceptence because I can't really be cured only recreate myself, and also that is not an easy thing to do either. but anyways Thank you both for your responses I appreciate them honostely=) feel free to post more if you like. | |
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