| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/19/2006 8:25:36 AM | | When the red flag go up, stop where I am, evaluate the situation, respect and salute the RED FLAG, and if I don't, more red flags will follow, until the all fall down and hit me in the face or block my path, to get my attention. | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/19/2006 8:26:56 AM | | When the red flag goes up, stop where I am, evaluate the situation, respect and salute the RED FLAG, and if I don't, more red flags will follow, until they all fall down and hit me in the face or block my path, to get my attention. | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/19/2006 8:44:43 AM | NEVER TAKE A WOMEN FOR GRANTED, ALWAYS TREAT HER LIKE SHE IS YOUR QUEEN/ EVEN IN HER PEROID IT IS GODS CREATION NOT HER CHOICE. LOL
MAKE SURE EVERYDAY YOU BRING SUNSHINE AND RAINBOWS WHEN YOU SPEND TIME WITH HER.. ADD IN SOME FLOWERS PICKED PREFERD AND A NOTE: I LOVE YOU..
ALWAYS WALK AWAY FROM A FIGHT, NEVER INSTAGATE FOR IN THE END YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO WILL LOSE OUT!
TAKE HER OUT OF HER WORLD, FROM HER JOB, THE KIDS, THE FAMILY THE STRESS, AND BRING FUN AND LAUGHTER TO THE MEMORIES YOU INSTILL.. DON'T DEWEL ON THE BAD OR THE WORSE JUST NOTE THAT THEY HAD CAME TO 'VISIT' BUT DO NOT KEEP THEM SEND THEM BACK ON THERE WAY.
AS FOR INTAMACY MY DEAR IS THE THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO A WOMEN.. TAKE THE BRUSH AND BRUSH HER HAIR.. SIT ON THE COUCH WITH HER ON YOUR LAP SNUGGLED WITH KISS ON THE CHEEK AND EAR.. LAY IN THE BED ALL SNUGGLED AND READ HER A NOVEL SO YOUR VOICE IS TOUGHT TO RELAX HER AND SHE WILL FIND COMFORT IN YOU..
AS FOR ROMANCE MY DEAR IT IS THE SECOUND MOST IMPORTNT THING TO A WOMEN. PLAN THE DATES AND DO NOT WORRY ABOUT THE MONEY OR IT WILL BE A FLOP. BE CREATIVE LIKE GET A CARD TABLE WITH PICKED FLOWERS AND MAKE A PATH WAY.. ADD IN THE CHAIRS AND A DECK OF CARDS.. GET HER FAVIORT DRINK. A FEW CANDLES PLEASE DONT FOR GET THE LIGHTER.. LOL NOW TAKE HER BY THE HAND AND WALK HER DOWN THE PATH OF LOVE.. TO PLAY A HAND OR TOO OF FISH FOR YOU AND HER.. BLACK JACK IS NICE SO IS "UNO" ALWAYS FUN AT LAST.. THIS MY DEAR IS ROMANCE NOW TAKE HER TO THE SWINGS AND CONFESS YOUR LOVE AND TELL HER SHE IS THE MOST AMAZING WOMEN YOU HAVE EVER KNOWN..
AS FOR LOVE MAKING MY DEAR IT IS THE THRID MOST IMPORNT THING. IT IS WITH ALL YOUR HEART AND SOUL THE PASSION OF TWO HEARTS THAT BLEND INTO ONE.. THERE IS NOTHING BETTER YOU KNOW.
AS FOR THE LAST IS IS CALLED SEX.. THE MOST FUNEST THING OF ALL.. IT IS ALL THREE COMBINED FOR THE LAUGHTER AND FUN GET CRAZY ON THESE DAYS AND MAKE LIFE INTERESTING.. ADD IN THE PLEASHER OR ONLY HER NEEDS AND IN THE END YOUR NEEDS ARE MET.. SPICE UP THE SEX LIFE OFFEN YOU SEE NEVER LET IT LEAVE.
NOW THAT THIS HAS BEEN SAID.. REMEMBER YOU HAVE 365DAYS A YEAR SO DON'T MISS NOT EVEN ONE..  | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/19/2006 12:43:01 PM | [I also see a therapist and a psychiatrist, and I'll be on medication the rest of my life but that doesn't matter, I just don't want to go through alone the rest of my life and I agree with your posts and appreciate them=) Also I had biofeedback when I was young for a pain disorder so I used what I learned from there it helps, any help is better than no help in my opinion]
2a4r.......Am glad to hear you're seeking therapy to help you cope. Sorry to hear you've been suffering since you were a kid though. Can't imagine how awful it's been liked. Nevertheless, I believe an examinated life is much worth living. Don't be afraid of going through the task all alone, in time the right person will come along. Or may be she's just around the corner waiting to take you home. Hope you'd get better soon and have a wonderful life......I KNOW you will. | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/19/2006 3:11:54 PM | That if you do not look out for yourself no other begger will. No other person can make you happy you have to do that for yourself. Another person can add to your happiness but not provide it.  | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/19/2006 8:20:14 PM | Hello Everyone Thank you for your responses I am very greatfull=) And also reassuring I thank you all for that too=) Please feel free to post more on the main topic or just to tell an experience that happened in a relationship. Best of luck to you all    | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/19/2006 8:31:53 PM | | but no matter how hard it is being alone is worst ha ha no **** that being singl rocks if u want to be alone and a crazy cat person all your life ha ha jk i dont know | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/19/2006 8:46:46 PM | I have been only in 2 real committed relationships where i tried very hard. and a few relationships that i knew wasent going anywhere from the beginning.
Every relationship though i have learned something about myself, and something more about the type of man i need in my life.
So hopefully by the time i meet my mcdreamy i will be perfect from all the bad relationships ive had lol | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/19/2006 8:52:19 PM | Opposites can attract, but those with similar natures are more likely to last for the long haul.
That seems to apply for both what I see as positive (cheerful, kind, sexual) and negative (sour, mean, cold) features.
I've seen long-term relationships where both were of one nature, but none in which one person was one type and the other was the opposite.
I believe my one and only relationship worked - and it worked for 25 very good years - because we shared a similar basic nature. | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/21/2006 12:21:33 AM | | Hello everyone=) thanks for your replies very informative I guess relationships can be difficult or easy depending on the nature and compatibility of the people, not too much compatibility, but someone that experienced somewhere along the lines, the same things one person has but under different circumstances is a good or bad relationship?, Also I'm just wondering no offense to anyone why women are looking for a good man but once he is found no interest or little interest is shown? Just wondering please don't be offended=) | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 6/21/2006 12:23:48 AM | Tons! Not only who and what I don't want; but, who and what I am! Also, it teaches me what I need to learn. Humility is important for that. Not who got whom; or who won or lost; but - what did I learn from this?
Every person is important on this planet, imo. | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 2/23/2007 3:35:47 AM | Why do women leave guys that they know are good for them? Probably because thye aren't good for them as you may think. There's more they want than simply the statistics that you think you have. Some relationships can be boring.. But don't fret it, you'll eventually find someone with a spark she cannot ignore.
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 2/23/2007 4:22:33 AM | This is in reply to what you wrote about yourself in msg. 35
I can not and wont compare myself to you....our situations are extremely different, but the truth is I came back to life after my divorce. The woman I am today is so very different from the woman I was years ago. I was given a new lease on life and am loving who I am.
You can use this to your advantage. You can be who you want to be without all the baggage. That's amazing!!! A clean Slate!!! Just imagine how many people have prayed for that. How many people would love to start over fresh, because of all their mistakes.
Consider it as a positive thing.....a new lease on life. Educate yourself, make new memories, bring joy into others lives. It could be a very good thing!!!! | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 2/23/2007 4:38:55 AM | I've learned that I require certain things to make me happy in a relationship.
1. To be treated with respect. CHIVALRY.
2. Stimulating conversation.
3. A partner who is emotionally available and willing to talk about and discuss everything.
4. An abundance of affection. Which includes verbal words of endearment, MUCH touching and great sexual chemistry - OFTEN.
I've also learned that I won't get any of these things if I'm not tuned into my man and his needs. If he has specific things that make him tick and I'm ignoring them...he'll not be happy in the relationship.
It's EXTREMELY important to find out each other's needs early in the relationship. Sometimes people will volunteer them freely, other times you might need to ask them direct questions. But I guarantee you, if you don't bother to find out what they are, you don't have a chance in he1l of becoming a couple. | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 2/23/2007 4:58:42 AM | I have read a few posters say they will never get involved with a woman who has been abused..... if she has been abused, and has healed from it, she will be one of the most loving people you will ever know. As tmotts said a few posts up.... "I came back to life after my divorce. The woman I am today is so very different from the woman I was years ago." I can say the very same is true for me..... I am not even close to the same person I was 7 years ago.
As to what I have learned:
I have learned that only I can make myself happy.
I have learned that only he can make himself happy.
I have learned that in order to get love, respect and cherishing from another, I have to love, respect and cherish myself first.
I have learned that trying to make someone into who I want them to be will only end in pain and resentment and unhappiness.
Most of all, I have learned to be true to myself, to love myself first..... and the rest will fall into place, with the right person, at the right time.
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 2/23/2007 5:02:27 AM | | You learn typical things you have probably heard before like compromise. You also learn a lot about yourself ...such as, what does and does not work for you. Each relationship is unique and brings different experiences. So, it is hard to say specifically what is learned. I do believe people are brought into your life for that purpose, to help you learn and grow. | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 2/23/2007 7:55:41 AM | Q. Why is it difficult to find men who are sensitive, caring and good-looking?
A. They already have boyfriends.
Why did the man cross the road?
He heard the chicken was a slut.
Why don't men have mid-life crises?
They stay stuck in adolescence.
Why do men chase women they have no intention of marrying?
For the same reason dogs chase cars they have no intention of driving.
These are the things I have learned. | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 2/23/2007 8:39:40 AM | LOL SexyHippie!
What have I learned?
1- Always stress the fact that you're perpetually broke and can't even afford KY Jelly...
2- Never have nude pictures of your stripper acquaintances ANYWHERE around your abode...Get a safe deposit box elsewhere...
3- Password-enable your computer user settings, thus securing your emails, address book, and POF bookmarks...
4- Leave the answering machine turned off on your home phone...and get a new cellular, complete with voicemail for all the OTHER calls...
5- Go to a nightclub situated a good distance away...preferrably on the OTHER side of town...
6- Start hanging out with your partner's enemies... | |
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| What is learned in relationships?
Posted: 4/13/2007 6:28:14 PM | Every relationship is preparation for the next one...and will lead you eventually to "The One." I think the most important thing a relationship teaches us is about ourselves and how we want others to treat us. ie: what we will tolerate or not etc.
Just my 2 cents... | |
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