| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/20/2006 2:50:42 PM | i think that some guys (& women) may just find it a bit of an ego rush to play a game with someone else's head.
as for false advertisement...ya some people are guilty of that. my photos are recent and i'm always honest in descriptions of myself, i expect the same. but if someone shows up, and clearly misrepresented themselves, i won't just pretend we missed eachother and stand them up...i'll be honest with them, politely say it was nice meeting and leave it at that. | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/20/2006 2:56:39 PM | Forget about false anything! I'm me and about as real as they come. I don't know what's going on but you women have been standing me up so much lately that I'm getting ready to turn gay! Stood up by three different women since Saturday! Two from here and one in real life. I'm fed up! | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/21/2006 1:35:24 PM | Gotta agree with eastsideeddie. I can't imagine how ANYONE would stand up beautiful ladies like gallivanting1 and iridescentelf! Do you women have bad BO you can smell a block away, or something?
And I agree with kitsguy4u. What's wrong with going out on the date even if you don't plan on seeing her again? I go out to eat, play sports, and go to movies all the time with people I'm not attracted to. | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/26/2006 6:21:35 PM | | I thought the reason cell phones were invented, was to provide access 24/7?? There are some good reasons for not showing up, but not a lot of them, like having to work late,having car trouble, bad weather. These excuses are only to show that it was beyond your ability to do what you said you were going to do (i.e.,get to your date on time.) Oh, and illness is a valid excuse too, but if a guy is too gutless to admit he doesnt want to come, he should just admit it, and dispense with lame excuses. He's either interested in you, or he isnt. | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/26/2006 6:39:04 PM | I was stood up tonight..and it dosen't feel too good. I have no idea why a man would go to all the trouble of wooing you..setting a date..getting the directions to your house..and then just not showing up or even calling. I guess it seperates a REAL man from fake one..unfortunately there are alot of fake ones around | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/27/2006 12:25:30 AM |
There are some good reasons for not showing up, but not a lot of them, like having to work late,having car trouble, bad weather.
There is never an excuse for not keeping your word and doing what you say you will do. As for cell phones, where I live they seldom work. But if I tell somebody I will do something or be someplace, I do it. If something prevents me from it, I call way before I am supposed to be there.
But it tells you a lot about the character of the person. | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/27/2006 7:11:26 AM | | You are so right it does tell you a lot about the persons character. I think the same applies to when you are talking online with someone and it seems to be going well...then they just stop with no explanation. Kudos to the people who have decency and offer an explanation. | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/27/2006 7:29:08 AM | Kudos to YOU Tink for appreciating people who respect others enough to honor committments.
I was once in a position where I was supposed to meet someone for the first time. I went out to start my car and the battery was dead. The woman had no cell phone so I couldn't call her. I couldn't call the place and describe her because I didn't know her yet and I simply couldn't describe her. So I called a friend of mine who took me to the restaurant so I could tell the woman what happened and why I couldn't stay for dinner, as I had to go buy and change my battery. We rescheculed for the next night.
We didn't hit it off, but you see the point. Gotta respect other people. | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/27/2006 7:37:29 AM | Both men and women stand people up. Myself I have never stand some one up. I have had it done to me. It lacks self-respect to stand some one up. I have wished that I had never shown up on a couple of dates. But I almost did stand some one up once, I didn't and she is my best friend now for about 10 years now, but were not dating. So when you stand some one up, you could be missing out on some thing great.  | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/28/2006 10:29:37 PM | | Kudos back to you Eddie. Even if you decide that the chemistry wont' be there I have met men online that to this day I am still good friends with. I always go into it with the thought that if they weren't dating material they just might be good friend material..and good friends are hard to come by. So nothing ventured , nothing gained. | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/29/2006 8:53:21 PM | | I've done it, cause I found something about them that became irritating. But I didn't notice it at first only after a few more dates. But then I didn't feel connected enough to them to think I should have to call to break it up. | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/29/2006 9:24:05 PM | In general i believe it to be because most men are cowards! All talk and no do. Women, even throughout history have always shown more courage.
I can understand "cold feet" but those feelings don't just happen 5 minutes before you are scheduled to show up!!!
It's not life or death, it's only a date for god's sake!!! | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/30/2006 4:16:34 AM | In general i believe it to be because most men are cowards!
Yeah, that would explain the number of men who enlist in the service to go off to foreign lands to risk their lives....
Scarletta, that might be the most ignorant, baseless, blindly feminist comment I have read in the forums yet, particularly from someone who said, in another forum, "this is 2006 time to stop stereotyping i think don't you girls!".
Eddie in Ohio
A "cowardly", yet somehow decorated, Viet Nam veteran | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/30/2006 4:39:40 AM | " maybe the man walks in, saw you, and left"
"that kinda explains it"
um, NO
that DOESNT explain ANYthing
hows about just walkin right up to zee gal, letting her know...
you do not find her 'attractive', will not be HONORING your date?
THAT would 'explain it'
(and, by and by...MOST would NOT be 'crushed')
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/30/2006 5:13:07 AM | | Well, I say women stand up men more often. I have been stood up. Thats ok it takes a loser to stand some one up on both sides. People who stand people up of both sexes, lack self-respect. I have never stood some one up. If I didn't click with the person, I told them right away. If, I'm interested, I ask them out again. I have been told by too many women they were intersested in going out again, when they were not. Ladies just be honest and say your not interested and I won't call you. The Ladies complain that the guy calls them, but thats the womens fault for not being honest with themselves and the other person | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/30/2006 5:52:24 AM | Sheesh I just commented on the flip-side of this 5 seconds ago. yup, a thread asking the women why they stand men up. Personally, I can say that I have never been stood up for a date by anyone on this site. Then again, I have never HAD a date from anyone here.  | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/30/2006 6:36:24 AM | | Well thanks for giving the ladies out here the ammo to shoot us down. Didn't have the connection to them to call and break if off. More like didn't have the balls to stand up and be a man and show someone the respect I'm sure you would want. It's guys that do things like this that make it hard for the honest........don't laugh too loud ladies there are some out here......guys to be looked at seriously. Maybe you were burned really bad and are jaded or just that your idea of what a real man is, is really messed up. | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/30/2006 6:54:06 AM | I had a guy date me for a two or three weeks, plans were made for next FALL! Then poof! vanishing act. No word. He doesn't even read the email I sent him. I have been thinking he is depressed, but now it has been two weeks and I don't know what to think. But I have a bigger trust issue than before. Very dissapointed. Not all men are like this I know, but On Line dating seems to attract the less honorable side of the dating pool. I admit that I was kind of too hastey to believe the promises, but then I don't lie so I believe what people say. We got along very well and every thing seemed great. I was just following his lead, not pushing for more than what he seemed to be offering. I don't know what to think.  | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 4/30/2006 6:56:37 AM | I have never stood anyone up, but o the rare occasion where a guy actually does ask me out I've been stood up a lot. My pics are current, no more than 6 months old and I state that upfront. I make a concerted effort to add a new one every couple of months so there is no confusion. I don't get it. I did find that one of the guys was married and I guess, luckily for me, chickened out. The rest, who knows? It sucks, but I'm confident enough not to be destroyed over it. It's their loss  | |
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