Savona
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Joined: 1/21/2008
Msg: 101 | |
| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 3/16/2008 9:32:25 AM |
I do it for amusement and to win a bet to see if they'd make a thread about it on POF.
I read your profile and I am not suprised. Thank you for at least being honest.
Amusement to stand up a woman for a meet/date I did wonder what type of person actually finds it amusing. AND now I know.
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 3/16/2008 3:48:50 PM | I know a woman in her mid-30s who is a friend of a friend. As I understand it, she mistreats guys, tries to go out with a bunch of them at the same time, and enjoys arguing with them over stupid and unimportant subjects. Anyway, she was stood up by one of those guys a couple months ago and then apparently forgave the guy and went out with him a few more times until he dumped her.
I assume that guy (and other guys who stand women up on dates) was just playing games and didn't really care whether her feelings were hurt. That guy sounded like a jerk to me, even though the woman had some issues herself. | |
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asle
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Joined: 3/2/2008
Msg: 104 | |
| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 3/16/2008 6:01:35 PM | I tend to agree with the persons that stated that people need to keep their photos updated. I have been a couple of dates, where men are really surprised. I have received comments telling me I am a lot prettier in person and so on. I think if we all put exactly what we are looking for in our profiles, it would save a lot of time. I know when a man says he's looking for someone hot, athletic, outdoors, I know not to reply to them. Why pretend to be something I am not, the truth would come out. But that's my opinion.  | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 3/16/2008 10:40:58 PM | | by not reply i hope you mean say your not interested. I don't know what kind of messages you recive, but i put a fair bit of effort into mine, to be straight up ignored (read\deleted without so much as a word) is insulting to me, if i could take 20-30 minutes of my time to try to write a nice message, i think someone could take 20 seconds of thier time to say not my type or something. | |
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Lexei
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Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 106 | |
| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 3/16/2008 11:19:38 PM | I have been stood up / blown off without a word soooooo many times it's not even funny... I don't think I have done it, I have cancelled with a phone call or message, but never just not shown.
I think there might be a lot of reasons people do it: one is because they are nervous to tell someone they are not into them any more, or that they met someone else they liked even more, or whatever. Also, sometimes people agree to things in the heat of the moment and then later don't feel so strongly.... maybe also they only said yes to it in the first place to get out of an awkward situation.
I think another reason people stand people up is because they might be juggling more than one person. Say you are in the dating phase, especially trying to get a few "first dates".... there's more than one attractive person out there so you end up making more than one invitation. Should you only have a "number one" person on your list at any one time? In my own world, if I am single, and even though I really only want to actually be with 1 person at any given time, there might unintentionally be 2 or 3 girls that I "really like" that I would say yes to a date with - and I think the same goes for any person, especially if they are young, attractive and live in the city. So... what happens if you ask "number one" for a date, and they take a couple of days getting back to you. The weekend approaching fast, no word from number one so you ask number two. And then number one calls you back, maybe because you are their number two and their number one blew them off!! Anyway, you know what I mean. Any person with etiquette should at the very least leave a message saying "sorry, something else came up can we re-arrange?" - but some people don't like to do that, especially to admit there's someone else they prefer.... they find it easier to just blank you out. I think it has unfortunately become accepted behavior.
(I also think girls are telepathic and they can sense when you have accepted a date from a rival, so they will all of a sudden call just to see if they can throw a wrench in the works.... ;) ) | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 3/17/2008 8:50:22 AM | | This is getting old. Not all guys are this cold and heartless. Less than you think. I personally would never do such a thing to someone, I know what I go through to get one. In addition, I'm getting tired of women complaining about it, it's 5 times easier for a woman to get a date than a guy, seriously what the heck. If women had it any easier in the dating scene, guys would all be puppets. | |
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fdb101
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Joined: 5/21/2006
Msg: 108 | |
| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 3/17/2008 5:26:04 PM | Dating the past 5 years.. have never stood anyone up. I've been fortunate to have been stoop up only once.. the old car broke down excuse. Why would someone say they'd go out lol
Dont let it get you.. .hang in there. "Fish" are abundant. | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 3/23/2008 1:16:15 AM |
Amusement to stand up a woman for a meet/date I did wonder what type of person actually finds it amusing. AND now I know.
Believing everything you read on the net is part 2 to the amusement.
thanks for partaking in the festivities.
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 3/23/2008 2:39:27 AM | This is getting old. Not all guys are this cold and heartless. Less than you think. I personally would never do such a thing to someone, I know what I go through to get one. In addition, I'm getting tired of women complaining about it, it's 5 times easier for a woman to get a date than a guy, seriously what the heck. If women had it any easier in the dating scene, guys would all be puppets.
I would definitely say it's not 5 times easier for a woman to get a date. It isn't all that easy to meet people in the real world, and plenty of women in the forums complain about the read and deleted. | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 3/23/2008 8:41:21 AM | 1/ Been in bad relationships and dont want to go back there.
2/ She wasnt my first choice on POF by any stretch of the imagination.
3/ An expensive divorce puts me off anything serious.
4/ Got a better offer elsewhere.
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 10/19/2009 7:03:41 PM | | Maybe because when they see the woman they are going to meet they are not attracted to her. This is old trick, both when I was in highschool and when I lived in Washington, dc. men telll the girl to meet them at the mall or union station on the lower level, they are on top level looking down to see you. if they like you ,they meet you and go on with the date. | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 10/19/2009 10:05:03 PM | | I had one show up and decide she couldn't possibly have dinner with me and made some rude comments. A couple standing close by made a comment about how nasty she was. Had my Camaro that day and roasted the hell out of the tires as I left which she got to smell all the way to her car across the parking lot, shouldn't have done that but it was deserved. Never done it to anyone even if they lied and sent a ten year old photo, I just went through it and declined any further contact. | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 10/19/2009 11:19:58 PM | It happens to me too and it really psses me off. I think a guy is coming over, wait all day into he eve and nothing.
Just don't make a date then. I think it is cruel to make someone wait all day and no-show. People have lives, you know. Maybe they can do other things like shop or go out to eat, anything besides play the waiting game. | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 10/20/2009 1:14:25 AM | I would like to say that this question should not just be for the guys.
I have had the same thing happen with women and worse,a lack of honesty in thier profile once met a 43 year old woman who turned out to be 60.so i don't really think it's a guy girl thing as much as an honesty thing and if people are dishonest probably don't want to date them anyways. | |
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| For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates?
Posted: 10/22/2009 1:50:10 PM | | i've never been stood up, but there was one time where i thought a guy was going to be much taller than he actually was....pretty awkward...(i wanted to run out the door.)but i went through with the date, turns out he was real nice and sweet, we did dutch, that way it technically wasn't a "date" and i didnt have to have any further obligation towards the poor fellow.... | |
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