| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/21/2006 11:03:27 PM | | thats a gime of course i would because i have been trying to quit on and off for the last few months and this would be the best patch to quit. butt on the other hand if the lady want's you she should eccept you no matter what | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 2:25:07 AM | I have always said just give me the best d*mn kissing non smoker and you can get me to quit. It would involve a few days shacked up in some middle of nowhere bed and breakfast or cabin with no store in sight, me leaving the cigs behind, and the threat of never feeling that amazing kiss if I smoked. Everyone has a price... that is mine. Just need the right environment and incentive.
So far... the kisses have been mediocre and the weekend away non existant... so if you don't mind... I am going out for a smoke.  | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 2:48:49 AM | 1st off. There are lots of great looking women who already smoke, so chances are my dream boat is among that group.
Any non smoking woman who really want's to get me to quit,( and I doubt she exists ), just needs to give me something else to do with my hands and mouth. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 4:59:35 AM | How appropriate. Day 3 beginning. Not for any "dreamboat". For myself. The dreamboat could only be a significant part of the decision. These days smoking is like putting yourself in a box and those boxes are just limiting.
Good luck to everyone out there that is now trying ! It's hard but I know we can do it. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 5:03:11 AM | Well i'm not a smoker, but smoking isnt what makes you attracted to ur mate.. If he wanted to quit for me great.. i'm behind him 100%.. but if he didnt, well who am i to tell him not to? I would hope tho that hes considerate and maybe takes it outside or at least makes the effort to cover up some smell or anything i wouldnt wanna breathe in.. but no.. i wouldnt make him quit for me.. I mean seriously..have you ever seen someone try to quit smoking???? Holy crap!!! NO THANK YOU LOL  | |
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mogrl
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 5:34:41 AM | | i quit when i started dating my last long term "dreamboat".I broke up with him a little over a year ago and No i didnt take up smoking again.I have been smoke free for over 4 years now and i could not cope being with a smoker,cigarettes or anything else.FYI,i was a smoker for over 20 years before i quit in 2002 . | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 6:20:02 AM | I've been smoking since I was 16, I'm 45. The only times I stopped were during pregnancy, and it took parying to God constantly for help to do so then. I'd had so many miscarriages that I wasn't about to take a chance...interesting that they were more important than me, and that I'd only do so for them, huh?
But, I can't imagine anyone saying to me, "I'll only love you and stay with you IF...", because that would mean that they probably don't really love me and have no intention of staying with me because their love would be conditional. I think if they'd say that once, what would stop them from saying it again, for some other issue? Where/when would it stop?
I'll stop for myself, and maybe if I felt I was truly loved and it really upset them, in the end I'd probably give it up for someone else.
Maybe.
But he'd have to give me a lil something to satisfy all that oral gratification stuff, and on a very regular basis. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 6:27:40 AM | First of all..the person of my dreams doesnt smoke!..and If I met someone and they pulled out a cigarette..They wouldnt have the chance to prove to me..that they could be the person of my dreams..because I personally find the habit disgusting!!
I do relize that a person smokes because they enjoy doing so...and I really dont think that they should have to quit anything they enjoy doing for anyone except themselves.
No one should have the right to ask you to stop doing anything!! They either accept it..or not have anything to do with it...
I choose not to have anything to do with it! | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 6:32:18 AM | | Last year I was in a relationship with a smoker (very unusual for me). He said he was going to quit (I never asked him to) and he did try. But after 32 years of heavy smoking, the best he could do is get down to less than a pack a day (which was very good for him). I would never assume that a person is going to quit for me. I do admire those who have smoked for years and can quit, but I don't think it's possible for everyone. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 6:39:17 AM | Two things made me quit. The first was a warning sign. I had a mild heart attack. The second was the woman Iwas in love with at te time. I''d do anythign for her. Sh einsisted I quit. I did. Then a month later, the relationship ended and the smoking started back.
But I know that with the motivation from the right woman, I'd be able to quit again and would do it gladly. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 6:53:52 AM |
But I know that with the motivation from the right woman, I'd be able to quit again and would do it gladly.
Jim..I think it is sad that you cant be stong on your own..that you need someone else telling you, before you can quit something that is doing damage to yourself.. What about what your body was telling you??..shouldnt that be enough? | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 6:57:33 AM | | Well I wouldn't quit for the guy of my dreams, if it bothered him. I just wouldn't smoke around him or go to places with smoking sections just to satisfy my cravings for a cigarette while out with him..... | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 7:03:45 AM | I definately agree one should only quit nasty habits for themselves rather than for someone else. If someone else gives ultimatums to quit or else.. that's a clear sign of control and manipulation, not healthy for a relationship by any means.
The lady i'm dating now has never asked me or demanded I quit, but she has made it clear she finds smokers more or less offensive/repulsive. I'm pretty dang sure many non-smokers out there fully agree with her and understand.
I personally choose to quit for myself and my son, but the single biggest reason for myself that I want to quit, is because, of the entire pool of feelings my lady has for me, I do not want the disgust against smokers to be one of them. I figure with as much feeling is disgust against smokers, i'd rather that amount of feeling for me be love. :) (if this doesn't make sense, you are probly right. it makes sense inside of my head but.. I can't quite explain it right I guess).
Anyhow.. for those out there quitting smoking, keep it up! I am! For those that are non-smokers, great job.. dont' ever start.. trust me it's not good. :p
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 7:29:30 AM | | I smoke and my partner doesn't he knew I smoked when we first got together so if he didn't like it he should've never been with me on the other hand if he genuinely wanted me to quit I would consider wouldn't be easy but the possibility is there. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 7:30:31 AM |
Jim..I think it is sad that you cant be strong on your own..that you need someone else telling you, before you can quit something that is doing damage to yourself.. What about what your body was telling you??..shouldnt that be enough?
Hi terminallycute,
You are 100% correct. I know that I should do it for myself. But with all that's going on in my life right now, I am not in the right frame of mind to tackle it. I know I will do it and soon. But I know I have to be dedicated and determined enough to do it. OK, call me a romantic or whatever it is. I just know me, I don't do things for myself that readily. But I do things that someone that cares about me wants me to do for me. Hard to explain. I do for others before I ever do for myself. Maybe that is a fault of mine. But I have always been that way. And when the romance fell apart and ripped my heart out, I frankly just did not care about anything. I honestly felt as though I wanted to die for a few days. No, not that I would do myself in. I just did not care if I had another heart attack and it all ended. Love and the loss of love sure makes us do and feel some crazy things. Glad I got past that stage!
I had always lived for other people and not for myself. Big fault of mine. So it was easy to say to hell with it all and start back on the damn cigarettes.
It's not a matter of strong enough.It's a matter of having someone to do it for. Then I am stronger then ever. But now that I have moved on and am over the lost love of my life, maybe I'll do something for me. Believe me, I'm working on it in my head lately.
BTW, your name fits you terminallycute. So why the picture of the pooch? You look so much better! *wink* | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 7:45:55 AM | | if my "dreamboat" made it an ultimatum, then me being who I am I would have to say "no way in hell" I don't deal with ultimatums very well.....but if he came to me and suggested a compromise then I would throw them away and never light another one. If he loves me enough to accept me for who and what I am, then I love him enough to change. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 8:16:21 AM | | seems like a trend here... most women seem to be saying i wud not even try to quit if the guy is pressurising her for that. And most guys seem to be saying if their S.O would indicate or pressurize him, then they would put efforts in the direction for quitting. Is it just me or all you people there can also see this trend??? | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 9:21:24 AM |
BTW, your name fits you terminallycute. So why the picture of the pooch? You look so much better! *wink*
well Jim..I think my boy is much more adorable then I am.. but I put his pic up for purpose in a thread and I cant remember which one it was!!...laffs..
i think he looks good there anyway!!
Good luck in "quitting for youselves" Everyone.....If it is what you really want to do..then your body will thank you for it in the end..and so will WE non smokers!! | |
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Joined: 8/23/2005
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 10:22:54 AM | | I know that as a nonsmoker I have had dates with smokers...but I really don't know how I would deal with it if my match was a smoker and he had no desire to quit....it would be hard, I do not believe in trying to change the other person, it has to be his motivation, his idea, his desire. And seeing as I see the end result of what years of smoking does every day at work....I work with cancer patients.....I would find it very difficult to be with some one who has such a self distructive bad habit/behaviour. Bravo for those who said they have/are quiting....it will add years to your life!!!!! | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 12:13:58 PM | | Would I? Yes, I'd have to admit that I would. It's not that I smoke a lot though if it bothered her I wouldn't smoke around her anyway. Also, she could be the motivation for me to quit entirely. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 12:20:32 PM | | My wife did for me and I did for her, although I have not been able to give up the nicotine gum. It was too late for her. She developed lung cancer and died at a rather young age. You are right that the individual has to make the decision and it is not easy. It may be that the dreamboat wants to avoid the agony of watching the SO die. I was not and will not be a dreamboat, but I know that I would find it difficult to invest my emotions in someone that could cause me to repeat that experience. Watching someone that you love go through a process of diminishing capacity, multiple surgeries, and death can change one's perspective. | |
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