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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 3/31/2008 4:37:16 PM | as for being someone who has quit, I totally can sympathize with ya all,
it's a brutal battle, took me a few attempts, but my solo efforts paid off
as for dating someone who is a smoker, I don't think that would really
bother me, maybe a non smoking companion is just what a smoker needs for
encouragement to quit , I'm sure other things could be worked out, like breath mints
toothpastes , mouthwashes etc, also not smoking inside, , I for one would rather
live in a house with 10 smokers than 1 alcoholic though , now that would suck lol
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 3/31/2008 4:48:38 PM | Interesting topic as I am about to quit....for myself, not for a man.
I have been in this exact situation before...where the man (my ex husband) couldn't stand the fact i smoked, and he would nag me constantly. I quit...a few times! lol
I truly believe that quitting is a personal choice and you will not be effective until you, the smoker, are really truly ready to quit. I have decided it is time, i've been getting healthy in other aspects of my life so now this is yet another step to entering my 40s in a healthy state.
ok, short version...no i wouldn't quit for them unless i was really ready. i am and would continue to be respectful and not do around et al, but not quit. they should love me and all my 'quirks'...if they truly are my 'dreamboat' and i theirs.
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 3/31/2008 5:28:06 PM | I've smoked for 5 of my 50+ years,
First time I quit, had to put out several on my left forearm,
to remind me that I was done with that nasty habit.
That put an end to 2.5 years, except for when a close relative died,
I'd smoke ONE in their memory - and only one.
Just hung it up again, after another 2.5 years.
(EveryOne I worked with was a chimney).
Two months ago - I just dropped it - it was time.
Some of the most beautiful women on this world
are on this Web Site, and being a non-smoker gives
me greater range, better possiblities, and I may live longer.
Not seeing any downside to my decision to hang it up. 
Now my potentials do not have to kiss an asshtray - (not a typo).
Rockin, Rollin, and hopin to find that fine cute fish.
I'm giving up bad habits, getting cuter + more eligible by the day.
Sometime soon, I'm going to fit a beautiful gal's parameters.
Please reference the Red Rocker - Sammy Hagar (Van Halen / Van Hagar?)
Great song about the "three lock box".
And if that does anything for you - check out that other song -
"some kind of Alien" - pull that string and "Love comes walking In".
Hello - It's me. (but that was Todd Rundgren).
There are some really good quotes out on this web thing,
if you want to look for them -
Someone famous said that quitting was easy -
he did it several times a day.  | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 9/27/2008 8:33:53 PM | | this is an old post but I had to drop my 2ยข in here. How many people here said they would expect a person to quit smoking for them but on the other hand are requiring that a person not try to change them? Isn't asking a person to quit smoking trying to change them? Yes, indeed it is, just like asking someone to quit drinking. Although it is healthy to quit either one (alcohol is fairly healthy in moderation), and you may want them to for their health and because you care about them but at the sametime their parents would do the samething, so they may feel like you are trying to be their father or mother whichever the case may be. I say don't ask anyone to change for you but let change happen. It always does, sometimes for the best, sometimes for the worse. If you do not want a smoker then do not date one. it's obviously simple to avoid that situation. By all means don't preach to someone to not try to change you or act like your parent, then turn around and do that samething to someone else, that is just plain ignorant and two faced in my book. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 9/27/2008 8:50:10 PM | "I've probably answered this already, but yes, I would quit for my dreamboat. I'm trying to quit on my own already, but a non-smoking partner would be an added impetus."
What she said. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 9/28/2008 12:31:47 AM | I would only quit smoking if it became something *I* wanted to do. Dropping smoking for a "dreamboat" is no different than chaging your clothes for them, changing your style for them, your hair for them, your...well, you get the point. And before anyone goes off with "yes but smoking can kill you", yea so can driving, or walking to the store...no one expects me to stop that for them now do they?
I expect to be loved for all that I am, good and bad. If I should ever feel compelled to quit I would. But I would never quit just because I found my "dreamboat". Nope. Not ever. I quit that for them, there'll be something else they'd wanna change right after that.
So yea, HELL NO I wouldn't.
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 9/28/2008 1:41:48 AM | I'm a non-smoker, and I wouldn't demand someone stop smoking, but I would have a hard time being around them. I'm the kind of person who gets dizzy and nauseous when I pick up even the smallest amount of smoke. I nearly fainted when I had to sit for half an hour in someone's house when they were smoking.
So for my own health and well-being - and not preaching for theirs - I couldn't do it. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 9/28/2008 10:08:09 AM | I quit for my son, does that count? LOL
No I can't cope. I had no idea how bad my mouth tasted until I kissed a smoker after I quit. I had no idea how bad my cloths smelled or how bad the smoke bothered others who didn't smoke until I became a non-smoker. I have been a non-smoker for three and half years and there is no way in h$ll I will ever be a smoker again. Sorry, but I would rather not date a smoker. I have made exceptions but this is because he didn't subject me to the smoke or smokers breath. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 9/28/2008 1:26:18 PM | No if i am willing to accept them as is they have to accept me as is; changing someone isn't going to work. I will quit when i damn well ready and not before hand, trying to break a habit to be with someone new is really stupid.... | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 9/28/2008 1:57:09 PM | They will say they will and they will try but when the relationship goes back to the daily ho-hum level, they will smoke again.
It's a cycle, seen it first hand, never again will i be with a smoker. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 9/28/2008 3:41:45 PM | You should decide for yourself whether or not you are willing to date a smoker. If you are not willing then don't fool yourself that this love interest is the one of your dreams, obviously is not.
You should not quit smoking because you want to satisfy someone else, if you want to do it, then you should do it for yourself only, otherwise it never works. Eventually you will start smoking again.
If you are willing to give up on habits just for them to like you more, then that is not right, it means you are willing to give up a lot more of yourself, and sooner or later the other person will take advantage of that leading to controlling you without you even knowing it.
We should accept the other person as who they are, no one is perfect, thats the only way to find true happiness, not trying to change the other person.
I wouldn't change myself for someone, if you don't like it then leave, there are many waiting to take your place, and true love can be found, just like soul mates, you can have more than one. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 9/28/2008 6:29:01 PM | This is very revealing. Most of the answers exclude consideration for the person who smokes.
A persons personal habit is their choice, not mine. I don't drink but have dated guys who drink. I would even think about making them feel like they had to quit just because I don't drink. That said, I would NOT date someone I knew was an alcoholic or turned into an a s s when they drank ( over-indulgent drinking ).
What if you both smoke and one quits? Should the smoker quit too? Should the reformed smoker lay a guilt trip on the partner? I don't think so. It's manipulative and selfish. What if you're both non-smokers when you fall in love, and down the road the other begins smoking? Are you going to abandon them, destroy the relationship over it? Or decide, again, to lay the old guilt trip and whine and plead like a little child for them to stop; and then if that doesn't work, threaten to break things off? And if that doesn't work, decide you don't love them anymore and leave?
Oh no, and then what if they develop interests in sports you don't like? Or music? Or they change their political allegiance? Of course! Break it off. Immediately! <--sarcasm
Ruling a person out because they smoke or don't smoke is, IMHO, an incredibly myopic mindset and reflects a kind of disposition of a spoiled child. "Play in my sandbox my way..or else!"  | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 9/28/2008 8:54:51 PM |
Ruling a person out because they smoke or don't smoke is, IMHO, an incredibly myopic mindset and reflects a kind of disposition of a spoiled child. "Play in my sandbox my way..or else
niko, you have set the measures of a true relationship.(~~~ or to bail out of one``` )All the characters are here. The Good & bad,the obligations,the bonding that's so important~ Thank You! We should all print this and put it on our refrigerator's! ( no pun intended!)
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 9/30/2008 9:04:10 PM | A persons personal habit is their choice, not mine. I don't drink but have dated guys who drink. I wouldn't even think about making them feel like they had to quit just because I don't drink.
nikoblue: the difference is you are not endangering your health sitting next to someone who drinks (unless you are a passenger in their car) like when you are sitting next to a smoker. Second hand smoke is a real danger. When I quit smoking my son stopped getting upper respiratory infections and I stopped having to use an inhaler. There are real links to second hand smoke contributing to heart decease. Dating a drinker is not going to cause you to have heart problems or lunge cancer but dating a smoker can.
I agree that it is their choice and I would not ask them to quit for me but it is also my choice not to date them because of it. Of course, the OP's question wasn't if you would make them quit for you it was would you quit for them. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/1/2008 2:57:52 AM | | I wouldn't even consider being with someone who was a smoker, no matter if I liked everything else about her. Nor would I be with an alcoholic, drug user, or a former or current tramp. | |
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