gybson
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Joined: 2/10/2008
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/1/2008 3:38:30 AM | to the point..i don't waste my time with smokers...or heavy drinkers...my dad was both of those things....i learned my lessons well from my mother and my childhood.
I have been a casual smoker...but i quit for long long long periods of time. I plan to stick it out for the long hall now. I don't think smokers realize...just how awful they smell...how bad they taste...how much money the spend on them. smoking kills! 
as for quiting for a lover...if anything i did that wasn't super important to me was holding back on a better more loving and meaningful commitment to eachother..sure. I won't quit my vegetarian lifestyle....that's about it. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/1/2008 10:07:37 AM | I'd worry more for their health-I don't smoke but I could deal with a smoker-as long as you don't have a five pack a day habit, blow it in my face and say I can't have a beer!!  If it's that important, you can give up anything... | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/1/2008 2:14:59 PM | | I had been cutting down a lot until I met my last girlfriend. She smokes a lot and I fell back into a 30 year plus pack and a half a day habit. Since we stopped seeing each other I'm now averaging about a half a pack a day. I've never considered quitting for anyone because the subject just never came up. Maybe I could do it for the right lady. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/1/2008 7:57:10 PM | | I am a non-smoker. I do not like being around smokers, much less dating one. However, I have made exceptions, thinking I could "deal". Wrong! It's a nasty habit, and I find it hard wanting to kiss the mouth of someone with that horrible stench. And fyi smokers, gum and the like do not work! | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/1/2008 8:29:27 PM | | I am a smoker and YES I would quit for that special someone if they didn't want me to smoke anymore. I have been smoking a long time and it's not as easy as just not buying them, using the patch or gum. My next try is Chantix but honestly... I really need the support of someone I admire and is willing to help me or just inspire me. When I do quit, I find myself in situations there are other smokers... many times it's not always by choice. Eventually, I end up picking up a cigarette once again. A non-smoker would never understand how hard that really is when you are honestly trying to quit. It's not just the situations you find yourself in, it's all the triggers too such as coffee, car, alcohol, everyday stress, etc. Smoking is gross. I hate the smell, I hate what it's doing to me. I will succeed but it's going to take a lot. Having a special someone to support me through that would be ideal. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/1/2008 9:04:54 PM | I quit cold turkey once for three years...I know if I wanted to quit, I could...
But...it would have to be because I wanted to..I might be motivated to want to for a special man...but, I know from experience that anytime someone demands or requests a behavior change...it's not going to work..I have to want to for my own reasons..otherwise the motivation isn't strong enough...and resentment kicks in...
Since, hard as it is to believe, I like smoking ( how terribly un-PC of me...lol), and also the fact that the last time I quit...I gained a lot of weight ( which I have now taken off...but, more to go)...I'd rather roll the dice on possible health side effects, than put weight back on after all this hard work to lose it..( I am also hoping on genetic help...my grandmother is 88...she has smoked since she was 16...and has no lung problems...ditto my mom)...maybe some day, if the weight gets stabilized..and I stop enjoying it...I might again... | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/2/2008 1:23:47 AM | | Yes I'd stop for my 'dreamboat'..my fella doesn't smoke, he used to & he says it doesn't bother him that I do. Infact he likes to get the odd wee passive inhale to remind him of what he's missing..but coz he doesn't smoke I'm paranoid and eat mints and gargle mouthwash...I can imagine not being a smoker and having ashtray kisses.. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/2/2008 6:13:09 AM | I'm a light smoker, and respect non smokers by not smoking when I'm around them. Would I quit for my "dreamboat" no but I might forget to smoke. I've never been in a situation where my smoking was a problem. I would never get involved with someone that was allergic to smoke because they would probably be allergic to campfires, outdoors and other things that are important in my life. I think a lot of the "non-smoking" demands have gotten a bit out of hand.
For many smoking is a thoughtless nasty and expensive habit.
I don't want to be around a chain smoker myself, nor a drunk, I don't drink but I'd never tell someone they couldn't have a beer. Putting demands on someone is a form of control. Who wants to be in a relationship doesn't doesn't allow them to be respected and appreciated for who they are? | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/2/2008 6:20:24 AM | Smoking is a BIG deal breaker for me
Even a polite smoker does not cut it with me.
Your bad habit is costly and I am not talking about cash portion
Your car, your house, and you still smell like smoke
I don't care how many breath mints you ingest
Don't get me started on heavy drinkers | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/2/2008 9:16:55 AM | i stopped many years ago.but the odd thing was when ever i would drink alcohol,i needed to smoke.hate it,nasty habit.chantix worked,stopped the cravings in its tracks.but it also took away my desire to drink,not that it was a problem,i would go out and have some beers once in a while,but i cannot stand the taste or smell anymore.later i read that chantix does that too.anyway,killed two birds with one stone.hope that helps somebody.to answer the question,you have to stop a habit for yourself,i do not think it can be done for a person,love them or not.its a nasty habit that can cause many problems including a slow and painful death.but you have to stop because you want to,for you.this is a very interesting post,and i like hearing the other takes on this. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/2/2008 10:24:49 AM | Well, I'm not a smoker, but since I know that if I had interest in a smoker, it would have to be HIS choice as to whether or not he would want to quit. I know that kissing a smoker is not a good experience. If he smokes and can hide that from me...perhaps there's a chance...
KK | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/7/2008 11:32:25 AM | ^^^Yes....quiting for someone else probably wont last....first trouble in the relationship, family or work stress may surprise you.... your cravings may overcome your best intentions! Mostly because you have never really had your heart in it....you may feel conditionally loved or controlled.....oh, wait....that was me!
I quit for myself....I guess I am my own dreamboat!
If you quit for yourself, you have to gear yourself up for it.
You have made a decision for your life and more apt to stave off the desire by replacement activities or methods, knowing the cravings will ease and soon the control that is the addiction will be just a memory and a deep sigh of relief...with out the cough! | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/12/2008 12:31:25 PM | | I wouldn't quit for him. If I was to quit it would be for me. But I do respect ppl that don't smoke and do not smoke near them. I find if a man told me to quit smoking just because he didn't like it. Then I would tell him to go screw himself. I have tried to quit before and its not easy. But I do find myself not smoking as much as I did before. And I am not one who likes to smoke in my place. If I do its outside. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/12/2008 6:33:52 PM | Yeah I did it! I met this awesome guy, he knew I smoked occasionally. He never asked me to quit, but I could tell he wished I didn't. When I decided I would like to be more than just friends I just put them down. Sure, it has been tough sometimes....I really would have loved to light up a few times. But it does get easier with the passing of time. It has been over a year now and it still is not always easy, but I know I am so much better off without it. And we got married a few months ago, so yeah, it has definitely been worth it!  | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/12/2008 6:40:55 PM | Chickadee.....don't know if you will check back on this thread, but I tried to contact you. It seems I live too far away. If you (or anyone else) needs support while trying to quit smoking, please contact me. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 10/12/2008 7:00:51 PM | | Doesn't it make more sense to quit for your own health? Why does it take meeting another person to make someone quit? It's ok for adults to smoke around their kids but if they meet someone new who they'll spend time with physically, they try to quit. Please, someone explain this type of reasoning to me.....I don't get it. | |
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