| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 1:16:29 PM | | I am what some would call a responable smoker. I don't smoke in my home nor in my car. Because it is my habit and no one else's. I smoke outside year around. I won't even smoke around a non smoker unless they approach me while I happen to be smoking. So to answer your question about quiting for my dream boat yeah I would. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 1:51:13 PM | | She'd have to be one heck of a woman to first open my heart, if she was able to do that then I would quit smoking no questions asked, unless she smokes herself of doesn't care if I do. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 1:56:59 PM | If you quit any vice it should be for yourself and not a luv interest. It takes at least 28 days for a new habit to fully form, most new love interests these days don't last that long.
I quit smoking 17 years ago and it felt like a heavy weight was lifted off my chest. With that being said, when I'm out clubbing and drinking I tend to sit next my smoker friends or follow them out the door so they can blow smoke in my face. I guess some habits die hard. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2006 3:38:09 PM | OP, Smokers and Non-smokers:
There are folks like myself that must face the immediate risk of ill health if they
allow themselves to be exposed to smoke and other irritating air pollutants.
It is amusing to see all the hard-nosed folks sneering at each other over this topic,
and really - if a smoker NEEDS to smoke, then a smoker they are to be - their choice.
On the other hand - love vs. breathing is a choice some must make, and I have had
to make this choice myself in the past - and it is not a choice I enjoy making.
A possibly foolish thought to share:
Say a couple gets together, and they both smoke.
Perhaps later on he finds out medically that he must quit, and he does.
It is safe to assume that if his mate continues to smoke some hard choices are
likely to surface sooner or later.
My response to my own query - wouldn't this whole type of thing be better if it
never became an issue ?
Several emotional responses to the smoking issue come to mind:
Having lost a great deal of family as a child to smoking it is very easy for me to
fear loss this way as an adult.
Also, I have a wonderful friend of many years that is a diehard smoker - and though
we are very fond of each other, visits are few and far between because I can only
tolerate the smoke once in a great while without becoming ill - and this is a sad thing.
Best Wishes to All,
mark | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/22/2006 3:52:49 PM | I already did! I haven't found her yet but I know that, when I do, she won't appreciate the smell of stale tobacco smoke on me . . so I quit in anticipation of finding her. (That and the fact it wasn't doing my physical and financial health any good)
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/24/2006 11:15:48 PM | I would try my best too but she would have to suport me in it not an easy thing for a smoker to do,and be patient We all know it is bad for us its a habbit most of us picked up in our teen years thats a long time to do something everyday but it can be done with suport and some understanding.So I say yes I have quit them before and think about it all the time expeacialy when I am out in the canoe and a good wind blows up  | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 5:46:49 AM | OP, no I wouldn't quit for someone...I tried that once and it doesn't work, at least not for me...I believe that if one wants to quit smoking, they need to do it for them self; they have to *want* to quit, or it's not going to work, regardless of how many stop smoking aids they use also.
And even if I didn't smoke, or if I quit, if I met someone who was a smoker, I wouldn't ask them to quit for me. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 6:18:54 AM | My ex husband quit for me . . . and then started back five years into the marriage. It just added one more reason I was no longer attracted to him. The taste and smell of him, yech! I should add we are still best friends, I'm just glad intimacy is no longer expected of us.
For awhile I was militant about only dating non-smokers, but once I decided to just date for fun, I tried to overlook the habit. Went out with a chain smoker the other night. He had to leave the table several times to smoke, he smoked in his car, even smoked between kissing me. Other than that he was an absolutely delightful and attractive person. I know, though, down the line the smoking will become a problem, no matter how much I try to tolerate it. I liken it to the fact that I love beer, but if I drank it constantly I'd offend others, ya know, not to mention beer breath and the stench of it coming through my pores. Sorta like permanent B.O., ya know? I have too much respect for myself and the man I go out with to do that.
I know some folks that can smoke occasionally and socially, and aren't so addicted they don't realize how offensive it can be in excess. I'm able to party with these people fairly well, but a relationship might be difficult. I've also learned that people can love you enough to quit, but if they don't think it important enough to themselves to STAY quit, they backslide . . . sooner or later.
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 6:19:47 AM | Heck Yeah! They really do have a forum for everything....
I'm trying so hard to quit smoking, and I've been doing it for 30yrs. I sure hope the dreamboats out there who DON'T smoke understand what an ordeal this really is.
Imagine doing something for so long, the habit, the "you don't even know you are doing it, when you are" feeling. It's like giving up a part of you. Not that it's a good part, but nevertheless, it's a great big part of who and what you are.
It takes time, understanding, patience, and a whole lot of keeping your mouth shut when we feel the need to light up, and start b*tching about everything. Sort of like being on your period, having a toothache, and child birth all at the same time, but you don't have a tampon, no Dentist around, and the baby refuses to come out.    | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 6:27:43 AM | *Disclaimer: I haven't read the rest of the posts. I admit it. Sue me.
You can't quit smoking for someone else. Just like you can't stop drinking for someone else. Anyone who tells someone to quit or get out obviously has never had an addiction. And if they have, they are obviously not being honest about how they dealt (or didn't deal) with it.
And as I'm sure others have said, if you're a smoker, and someone doesn't want you because of that, obviously that person is not your "dreamboat" anyway. Dump them and go find someone who loves you for you, addictions and bad habits included.
As someone in an unrelated thread said "I smoke. I don't roll around in ashtrays and say SMELL ME SMELL ME".
As annoying as the smokers are those who **** and whine about them.
*Sorry. Haven't had my coffee yet. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 6:48:20 AM | What a tough question!
I started playing around with cigs when I was 12, turned into a smoker by 14.
When I met my wife, she did not smoke. She got pregnant, and I did not want to be a Dad that smoked. So at age 26 I quit! It hurt like hell, but I quit.
Fast foward to the age of 41. My life kinda ripped apart at the seams, a pending divorce that I did not even remotely see comming and all that baggage that comes with it. My neighbor had some cigs on the table...and I reached....it took just one...REALLY...just one for the beast of nicotine addiction to rear its ugly head back into my life.
It is a love affair of sorts...I love to smoke.
Even when I was a non-smoke durring those years, I always said if I was diagnosed with some terminal disease, with months to live, I would be at the Kwikie Mart buying cigs...right away.
Would I quit again...yes
For someone else...yes...perhaps for Grandkids, a lover | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 6:50:20 AM | I wouldn't quit anything I do for anyone but me. It just wouldn't work and I think it would put a strain on any new relationship. When you meet someone you are who you are and most likely you don't want to be changed. I know I don't. If the person couldn't tolerate smoking then there would be other things they wouldn't tolerate and you would have to change that if you had quit smoking. My ex quit smoking while we were married and asked if I was going to quit. My rely was "I smoked when you met me, I'm going to smoke now". He didn't like it but he did tolerate it. I tried to be more considerate when he was around and go outside and smoke because he was my husband and of course I would do anything that made for a healthier lifestyle. It is a problem and right now I make sure if a non smoker is bothered by smoking before I take any steps and waste both of our time. I am currently trying to quit (and doing very well at it) but it was time for me to quit. Not someone elses time for me to quit!
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 6:59:53 AM | yes I would.
If I can give myself to another.. thats a HUGE thing, why shouldn't I be able to give up a super shittay habit for a partner?
The whole.. accept me for who I am thing.. Hey.. IM a smoker.. and think thats a load of crap. Seriously.. my ciggerettes are who I am? Hahah NOT.
Now, I'd have to really care for this person, it wouldn't just be any joe,****. or harry. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 7:18:41 AM | | I'm a smoker, and I'm dating someone now who doesn't smoke. I'm trying my best to quit smoking, because he just doesn't like it. If there's to be anything between us, I have to try. And if it doesn't work out between us, at least I got rid of a nasty habit. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 7:28:06 AM | i would try to quit but in all honesty...but i would have to only if i wanted too...cant make anyone quit til there ready to do so...so if its an issue from the start then it will always be an issue. it is a bad habit i agree...but then again everyone has a bad habit..lol. so people should make sure if you cant handle the smoking then dont date someone who smokes. i tried quittin for someone once...he still nagged..lol..so wasnt the smokin that bothered him..lol...so i took it up again.
i respect those who dont smoke...quite a few i hang out doesnt smoke..so i dont either. we dont smoke in the homes...always outside.
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 7:34:20 AM | WELL IN MY OPINION IF YOU DO NOT STOP SMOKING
YOU *WILL* KILL YOUR DREAMBOAT
IT IS NOW A PROVEN FACT THAT SECOND HAND SMOKE IS MORE DANGEROUS
TO YOUR LOVED ONES THAT SURROUND YOU THAN EVEN TO YOURSELF
GET HELP -- IT IS AN ADDICTION -- AND QUIT | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 7:39:39 AM | | I agree, man. The point is, though, that if you quit smoking for someone else, you will not be as successful as if you quit for yourself. And I think that's the point of the thread, as well. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 7:49:09 AM | could look at it this way...there will always be something bout me someone wont like....my weight..looks...smokin...friendly an etc....means theyre not accepting me and thats their problem not mine. i wish they would stop trying to change me...an worry bout themselves. i am who i am ...an do what i will...and choices i make will be mine to do so.
i smoke..but there are so many out there who toke an drink...not my preference. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 7:49:16 AM | I don't like being around smokers. I've dated a few and it really starts to turn me off to the relationship and they are pretty much doomed to fail (wow pessimism? :P). Maybe its being with someone with such an addictive personality that they will actually stick that nasty sh|t in their mouth on a daily basis  . I prefer strong people that don't smell like they just got out of a smokey bar at every given moment. It also affects you physically and if you don't believe it, go to a reunion and compare all the heavy smokers to the nonsmokers. My god was that a shocker. It makes you age like twice as fast. Ick.
I'll never tell someone to quit smoking to be with me. I'll let them know it bothers me and if I'm not important enough for a self-induced-change then they can find someone else.  | |
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