| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 7:59:29 AM | I myself don't think that a habit should be the deciding factor on who your with or not. If it is then that's superficial. people tend to bend the rules to what they will tolerate according to what they want or need.
eg: a non-smoker says it's a disgusting habit, says it's bad for health reasons, but yet will in the next breath jump into a car or truck and run to the store.
Each and every one of us are gonna have ahabit that the potential signifcant other dioes not like. Some of these habits will not surface untill months down the road when the comfort zone is reached. By that time, you will like the person enough to not let it be your sole judgement. Smoking is a habit that just surfaces up quite quickly is all.
Cig's are a pollutant for sure, but so are cars and industry as we know it today, and the vehicles and industry is what is truly ruining our air quality.
Myself, I am trying to quit, just gave it a go last week, failed, but each time i try, I get closer.
If i do manage to quit (which I'm sure I will), I still know that I would not refuse a smoker not to be able to smoke in my house.
Now, what i do acknowledge is that a confined space of cig smoke is not healthy. I quit smoking in my place, and noticed my sons chronic cough is gone.
But one thing I find ironic is all the non-smokers that claim to be allergic. And the smoking is the main cause of their allergies. C'mon, look at your environment, thats the main cause.
Well thats my two cents worth, most likely not gonna be liked by many. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 8:13:58 AM | I wouldn't tell someone I love, to quit smoking. If he's got any bit of a similar character to mine, any such demand would probably make him smoke twice as much 
And so it goes very true for friends, but if I were to live with a smoker.... at the beginning, if he didn't smoke a lot and wouldn't do that in the house I think I could easily get over it. But with time I'm sure I'd get more and more worried about his health and shape and that alone would make it impossible for us to be together..
I also don't believe in smoking if there are kids in the house...
Still, it's pure guessing, I've never been there... :-)
OTOH, as much as I wouldn't change myself for anyone, I would definitely quit any harmful addiction for the one I love. No doubt about it. That's if I had one
ok, I'll quit the forums.... or I'll cut down on them lol | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 8:16:46 AM | Though I try regualrily to decrease my smoking (one day it may not be there LOL) thats an issue for me not for someone else. Tell me..if i quit for someone else, then things didnt work out, would i be required to start again?
The question then should be
Would you change yourself for someone | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 8:24:22 AM |
The question then should be
Would you change yourself for someone
Very good point, Wizard. When one loves, they have to love the person as they *are* not as how they want them to be.
When one falls in love, they fall in love with the person...and while habits are part of that person, does the fact that one smokes versus drinks to such an extreme excess that it changes their personality make a difference? To me, it does. I'll take a smoker over a drug or alcohol addict any day, as a cigarette smokers' personality doesn't change (I smoke but don't get nicotine fits and turn crabby when I can't have one).
While I understand that some people simply can't handle smoking and smokers, and don't want to be around one, that's fine. But I'm more concerned about someone being nasty, abusive, having no intelligence and common sense, etc. I'd much rather have someone who's not those things, whether he's a smoker or not. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 10:12:08 AM | Ok you're right, but not supposed to be bashing smokers either...
Anyway, I've decided to quit for many reasons.
1. It stinks
2. My kids make me feel like I'm evil, not to mention they use that "LOVE" word..
You know, the "If you love me you'll quit".
3. My dreamboat could be very well on this site.
4. Can't afford it!
5. It sometimes rules what and where I go.
6. I would love to breathe again.
7. Would love to just roll over and go to sleep after sex, without having to jump outta bed and go smoke one, giving "WHOMEVER" the chance to fall asleep before me. (Selfish huh)
Now if I could find ONE reason TO smoke.. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 10:30:04 AM |
Most here has issues and like to transfer all that to all men. Not men's fault, women are so bitter here, I am glad I will never meet any of you!
I am quite sure the feeling is reciprocated ten fold.
I don't think anyone should ask anyone to "change", if you're concerned, there's a way to express that. Chances are if a smoker and non-smoker hookup, and the smoker is looking to quit, it might be easier for them being around a non smoker. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 10:36:18 AM | | I agree with ya Shan... it is each persons life.. and if ppl don't like it than, it is THEIR issue, no doubt about that. Personally, if someone was going to judge my character on whether I smoke or not, doubtfully that'd be a person I'd wana be around anyhow. | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 10:55:26 AM | Well, let me throw this down and see who stomps on it.
People who want to pose and toe the hard line about "You have to take me like I am" and all the yada yada, and then complain in the next post about not enough eligible people to date might consider that they might have more options when you factor in how many people won't date a smoker.
The defensive pose on ANY subject, smoking, drinking, weight... is just another form of denial and rationalizing why you don't have a mate.
Take this sentence: I won't date you if you: _______________
Put anything i there you like.
Smoke.
Drink.
Use drugs.
Wear your hair long.
Wear your hair short.
Drive too fast.
Eat peanut butter.
Grow a beard.
Watch COPS on Saturday night.
Wear sweats when you go out.
Speak French.
Are those not all conditions of preference by a prospective suitor?
So why the militant pose about smoking?
Yes, you have the right to smoke. Others have the right to date whomever they please. And if they are anti smoking, they won't date you. And you can stay home alone at night with your 7 cats and smoke all you like.
What if smoking was THE one thing that was keeping you single and browsing the same 50 faces on POF for the rest of your life?
Isn't the idea of being with a partner trying to please that partner? Trying to do everything you can to make that partner happy? At the point where you say "F*ck you. I'm going to smoke whether you like it or not.", what kind of lack of respect is that to someone you allegedly love?
Take that last quote and put in any of the other variables from above and see how ridiculous it is.
F*ck you. I'm going to ____________ whether you like it or not."
Drink.
Use drugs.
Wear my hair long.
Wear my hair short.
Drive too fast.
Eat peanut butter.
Grow a beard.
Watch COPS on Saturday night.
Wear sweats when I go out.
Speak French.
Isn't it supposed to be about being nice to each other?  | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 11:02:26 AM | The thing is eastside is that your mate accepted you for who you are bad/good habits included. Ive found that if Im with a woman and she changes to suit my likes and dislikes then really, is she the woman that i fell for? (sidenote: my ex had that chameleon problem where she changed her personality to match the person she was interested in..lots of failed relationships there)...You need to be yourself..If you are the type that doesnt care about meeting in the middle about certain issues then its your mates choice whether they want to be with you or not. So whether its smoking/wearing certain clothing in public/eating habits..whatever...both need to decide where the compromise line is drawn.
2 people meant for each other compromise without knowing they are compromising but they also need to remain true to themselves about who they are | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 11:04:27 AM | good point but remains who I am and not a deficit providing the health holds out. There is someone for everyone...smokers included.Speaking of which I am lighting one now.
Damn does this mean I have to give up drinking and drugs???? | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 11:09:26 AM | Man, some of you, and I suspect know who you are, way over think and rationalize this stuff.. bottom line, be who you are and want to be.... if someone accepts you as is... great, if they don't... oh well, on to another...     | |
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| Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat?
Posted: 4/25/2006 11:13:03 AM | If you follow the logic you would also have to give up looking at men, probably be consigned to wearing not so hot clothing etc
WTF??? feel free to not look and address the mind.
Just a smoker...like Jack too... if someone has an issue with that its their problem.
I don't give a rats a-s
As I am or not at all. | |
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