| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 7/16/2006 4:32:28 PM | hey anni, no one knows wht's in the future at 10 much less 30,40 etc. I'm watching my son go into the navy and remember when I was drafted into nam. Myself at that time I didn't even know if I wuold ever have kids. but time has been told and here I am , back in my teens and 20's trying to get to know someone. So in essence, I didn't have a clue! LOL, have a good day, qwerty | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 7/16/2006 4:55:21 PM | never even imagined 50. thought it would be better to be dead by 40. LOL. 50 was last year. never felt sooo good. happy and EXCITED....to be ..alive, just going through my day.
what i didn't know then was that older people don't feel and actually aren't old. we all feel between 6 and 36. want to feel 6; walk in the wet grass in your bare feet, amazing. 12 and 1/2; stand up while riding your bicycle. 36; answer that 30 something guy as if you are seriously thinking of considering his repeated request for a date. actually that last one isn't much fun.
so, the next time you are biting your tongue and trying to sit still in order to impress others with your maturity, realize that we are all going through the same thing. the older we get maybe the younger we feel (after 50); seems so, so far. | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 7/16/2006 4:58:35 PM | why is their so many goodlooking guys around in their fifties, at one time i would not have looked at someone that age but now i find i fancy men that age, maybe it has something to do with being 46. Age and wisdom are desirable charasteristics.
I have learnt to be thankyou i am alive now, i have lost so many people. Even nearly lost my own life once. but i am happier now more contented in myself than i have ever been. | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 7/16/2006 6:57:03 PM | Wow. Great to find this thread. have several commentsl
1. so refreshing to run thru a complete three page post and not find one airhead young person in their 20s who...( as we all know from experience) allready is an expert on everything! ha ha I love young people... but their opinions often leave a lot to be desired.
2. I was 50 when my youngest was born. I have spent the last decade chasing after him. It hard to be a couch potato with a young little guy around. It sure wasn't what I had planned, but then... what the hell did I ever plan anyway. ha.
3. I have allready attended my 40th reunion. If I do say so myself, I was the best preserved one there...among the men anyway. I was astounded at all the old white haired, decrepid looking guys. ha. But I will say this.... at the big dinner on sat. nite.... My car was the ugliest and oldest clunker in the lot, which was filled up with shiney 40 thousand dollar suvs! So... I still climb mountains but, I don't have shit. (material stuff, that is. ) I guess God has a way of equalling things out. ha!
4. NO. I didn't think it would be this way when I was (50?)....60. I sure as hell didn't think I would have been single for the last 8 years and looking to find my true partner...at 60??? What the hell is that all about. Of course, I thought I would have aquired more material wealth too....? Boy.... I guess, my "golden" years will have to be delayed a score or more! ha ha. One thing I think I do know..... I don't think we were designed to be alone at this age. It just doesn't feel right. I have had single periods in every decade of my life... and up to 50, it was effortless. Whether I was in a relationship or not.... it didn't much matter... nothing changed much. When I was with someone... I was with them, all the way. When I was not.... the ladies were like fruit on a prolific tree. (my 50s really don't count, cause that decade was basically taken away from me with recovery and intense child rearing!)
My parents were dying at this age! I have allready outlived my mother. And in about 4 years will pass up my father. And, if I had used them as models for this age, it wouldn't be old...it would be ancient and very sickly. They both died of emphsema.... both heavy smokers. Drinkers. So glad I didn't follow in any of those footsteps! I have lost two younger sisters to alcoholism too. Never thought that would happen either. But... I am very healthy and robust, and eagerly look forward to whatever life has in store! | |
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Leinna
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Joined: 3/27/2006
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 7/16/2006 10:42:13 PM | | I remember crying when I was about ten because my mother was turning 30 and I thought she was so old she was going to die. That got a big laugh in my family. That I perceived thirty like that is pretty funny now that I'm 55. I really don't think 50's are so bad. There are a lot of things that make 50's better than 20's, 30's or 40's. For one thing, I don't worry about what I look like in a bikini (don't wear them), have become my own person and while I'm flexible about a lot of things, I don't compromise when it comes to what I really believe. I also went from getting attention because of my looks to now being a "grande dame" and getting attention for intelligence and confidence. So I say rejoice in our 40's and 50's, ladies. It can be very liberating :-) | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 7/16/2006 11:38:14 PM | ..Isn't that something how most of us all thought 50 was ancient. Now here I am, 50 something and its not bad. Like most of us here, I have grown and am comfortable with who I am. My daughter just said the other day that she wished she had the confidence that I do.
Its funny when I think about my mom too, I aspired to be just like her. | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 7/17/2006 8:19:33 AM | Lois...I'm sorry for all the pain that life has thrown at you recently. I won't be so crass as to say I know how you feel,no one knows how another person feels until we have walked down the same road. I just hope that things get better for you and that you find the peace and happiness you deserve.
Sincerely...Gene | |
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| Life at 50
Posted: 10/15/2006 8:19:26 PM | | MY UNCLE ONCE SAID HITTING 50 IS LIKE FALLING OFF A CLIFF. IT ALL DEPENDS ON ONE'S MENTAL,PHYSICAL,AND SPIRITUAL HEALTH. MY GOAL WAS TO REACH 33 AGE WISE. I AM NOW ALMOST 56 AND I THINK LIFE IS ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL. ABEIT THAT, I AM INFLUENCED BY MY CATHOLIC UPBRINGING,CHILDRAISING,VIETNAM,PARENTING,GRANDPARENTING,AND MY SOCIAL DISORDERS. I KNEW IT WAS RISKY LEAVING THE WOMB. NOW I HAVE TO SPEND MY REMAINING TIME FIXING MY WRONGS AND HELPING OTHERS. MY FOND GLIMPSES AT MY PAST AND MY HORRID EXPERIENCES LEAVE ME IN NEED OF OIL,(AS IN THE TIN MAN. WIZARD OF OZ). I AM DOOMED AND KNOW THAT. YET I AM A SURVIVER. AS I HAVE READ...LIFE GOES ON. | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 10/16/2006 2:57:03 PM | | I remember thinking how old I'd be in 2000 and it seemed like a million years away, but I never thought I'd be single. Also, I never thought we would live in such a sick, sick society as we do. I feel like I've grown up and reached a level of wisdom and maturity, but life around me hasn't grown up somehow. Look at Iraq ...I mean, is that not Viet Nam all over again? Didnt we learn ANYTHING from those years? | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 6/19/2007 9:50:01 AM | I never even dreamed that I would be where I am today, I enjoy this age most because things that use to mean so much to me have changed. I have learned to cope with life in a new and better way, and that is something wonderful.
I love seeing my grandchildren, and aspecially one little guy 6, the others are far away, but just when you think your children are grown and moan a sigh of relief that you have made it with them....these other lives come along and here you are again being a part of new life.
Not only, my grandchildren, but I take in an occasional homeless person, and I have no time to be old. Its the time to reach out to life as something new and different all the time instead of just planing to get old and die. On one of the threads about if one could live a thousand years; I was surprised at how many people accept these few years. Those that believe in a higher power, what about heaven? It is more than
1000 years then.
My motto, is live as long as you can, in fact plan to never die. | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 6/19/2007 1:29:57 PM | | In the past, I never thought about what my life would be like in my 50's, nor do I think about what it will be like in my 60's or 70's. I have always found a way to enjoy my life, not matter what curves life through at me. It is all about the attitude we live each phase of our lives with. | |
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Joined: 4/15/2006
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 9/26/2007 1:28:42 PM | we arent older we are better,,,,,,,,life is good and I think i enjoy it as much or more then ever before,,,call me when iam 65 and we will talk about this again..... | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 9/30/2007 2:21:23 PM | Before I reached 30 . . I never gave 50+ much thought . .
But . . when I lost my wife , at 43 . . I didn't think I'd SEE 50 . . !!!
...All I can say, Now, is . . ' Not All The Good Ones Are Taken '. . !!! . .  | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 9/30/2007 3:00:54 PM | The only thing that makes me feel 50 is that it seems like I have been in the working routine for an eternity and wish I could afford to retire now.
Pete ..
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 9/30/2007 4:41:04 PM | To answer your question ... NO, I never thought my life would be like this at age 50. I always thought I'd be retired with grandkids and enjoying life to it's fullest with the love of my life. Well, I've got the grandkids (2 terrific grandsons & a granddaughter on the way), retirement is no where in sight and the love of my life? ... well we divorced a little more than 3 yrs ago.
Now, on the surface ... it may sound like I'm bitter or dissatisfied with where I expected to be and where I ended up, but nothing could be further from the truth. Along with my terrific grandkids, I've got two of the most wonderful children that any father could hope for. I'm very proud of the great adults they have turned out to be. My daughter is a wonderful, loving mother. She has overcome so many challenges to arrive at where she is in her life. My son has not only my love but my admiration. In two months he will don law enforcement blue and start his career as a police office ... fulfilling a lifelong dream.
While my divorce from my wife of 30+ yrs was the most difficult thing I have ever experienced, I feel I am a stronger person now and I've turned the page and gone on with my life. Becoming single at the age of 50 really was like starting my life all over again. Every day I seem to learn a little bit more about myself. Life is exciting again and I look forward to each and every day.
No I didn't think think I'd be where I am today at age 50 but I'm just beginning to realize how good things are.
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 9/30/2007 5:36:15 PM | 50???? Try 56. And I thought we would have blown the planet up by now! So, no I never even considered life at 50.
Not to bad though. I live in a great place. I have good family and friends. I've got alot of dumb stuff out of the way and turned into a pretty cool lady, if I may say so myself!
AND I have all of my original teeth! | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 9/30/2007 5:50:22 PM | I remember being in high school thinking that the teachers - who were probably in their 30s or early 40s - were ancient. One of them got married for the first time when she was 42. Well, here I am at 53, never having been married, no children....
But the bottom line with me is that my life has been a good one. I have a large, close group of friends, a church family that I love, and a job that is the best one I've ever had.
My life may not have turned out the way I'd hoped, but I still have many years left to live to the fullest. Considering the doctors told my parents back in the '70s that I wouldn't live to see the year 2000 without surgery, I'm thankful that I have the opportunity to be here. My life is a gift, one that I will cherish and enjoy. | |
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Kvass
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Joined: 1/6/2007
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 10/1/2007 8:23:02 AM | No, I didn't....I thought by age 50 I would be retired, the mother of an attorney who was married to another attorney, and I'd be happily taking care of my grandbabies while their parents were out dazzling the world with their legal skills, and I would be teaching my grands the lyrics to "Family Affair" by Sly and the Family Stone, and other rock classics.
Alas, the Universe had other plans for me, and I'm adjusting and loving the life I now live so I can live the life I love! | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 10/1/2007 9:11:03 PM | Like what? Oh, what it is?
Never spent too much time thinking that far down the line, and mostly just went whatever direction seemed best at the time. So I guess that means since I didn't know where I'd be at. And still don't, that must mean I've made it. Eeeeeeeeeeeewwweeeeeeeee!!
Boy thats a load off my mind, break out the party favors!!!  | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 10/4/2007 7:03:49 AM | I remeber seeing my father when he was 40 and thought, God I hope I don't have dress like that or be so stuffy.
I am now 52 and if my father was alive now I think he would have a lot to say about the way I act. I have long greying hair, dress like i'm in my 20's or 30's and live like to the full.
My sex drive is bigger and better than it was when I was younger. I look for so many things in women and find women of all ages and sizes sexy in so many different ways. Where as, as a younger man your mind seemed to home in on a set age range and size.
Life has been good and still is ...............roll on 60 and 70.........it can only get better
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 10/4/2007 2:18:25 PM | | I never thought I'd be single, working more than ever. I also never thought I'd be so comfortable with myself. I no longer need to impress anyone like I thought I had to when I was younger. I no longer wonder where my life is going, I enjoy it right where it is. | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 10/4/2007 2:49:34 PM | Hey gang, look at the bright side....at least we ain't fifty in the nineteen-fifties! I work with elderly folks in a nursing home. Sometimes they "go back in time" to their 20s and 30s. Now, just think what it will be like for us to relive those times!!! Woohoo!javascript:smilie('')
"Life is a daring adventure, or nothing at all." Hellen Keller | |
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