| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 8/27/2009 12:22:43 PM | I'm half-way past the 19th Anniversary of my 35th B-day....
...and don't plan to get any older ...for a long time...
But...11 years ago, when I lost my wife, I was Sure that I'd never See '50'...!
Luckily, I had a life-preserver thrown my way, recovered from a serious depression
and put ~One-foot-in-front-of-the-Other~ to trudge on and search for the last love of my life..!!
Sure...I'm starting to show the basic signs of age, but refuse to _Feel_ over *50*!!
~One day at a time~ and keep the spirits up...!!!
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 8/29/2009 6:06:18 PM | Topjack, here are a few reasons why some women are not into traveling alone.
Consider that on average 3 women per day are killed by an intimate partner and 4.8 million intimate partner related physical assaults and rapes are reported every year. Conservative estimates double this number of actual acts of violence against women. The FBI reports more than 600 stranger rapes per day and estimate this is only one third of the actual rapes occurring in the US on a daily basis. Violence against women is so pervasive it is now classified and tracked by the CDC as an epidemic. Women are the primary targets of serial rapists, killers, muggers, and con-artists. Many of us are physically smaller, weaker, and less prepared to defend ourselves in times of physical danger. Is it any wonder many women are not comfortable undertaking adventures by ourselves? We are taught there is safety in numbers and we are safe with a man at our side. So, some of us wait for a group and some of us look for a man to share with and some of us never leave the safety of our hometown.
I travel with friends! | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 8/29/2009 6:15:43 PM | From OP "Did I miss the growing up gene?"
I just bought the new (just released) PlayStation 3.
While some guys are chasing females.
I am chasing software generated cars and space ships.
My hope is to be recognized as the oldest video game geek ........ in the history of the world.
1. Will be granted into Ripley's .......
2. CNN will run my story for days on end
3. Book deals
4. Movie deals
5. Money
6. Red sports car
7. 10 girlfriends
Who says I don't have a plan? | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 8/29/2009 6:41:02 PM | | I have a huge rebellious streak in me and abhor classifications. Whatever age "means", whatever being 50 or 60 or 75 is supposed to connotate, I hope I smash the preconceived notions, the "you shoulds" and even worse, the "at your age you shouldn't"..... at my age I shouldn't what??? Dance with abandon at a rock concert? Wear tight anything? Still enjoy bubble gum? WTF? Life is life, just live it boldy and passionately and with gusto and enjoy the hell out of it at any age. period. | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 8/29/2009 8:20:08 PM | | No....I had no idea that when I turned 50, life would be what it was at that time. I am now 52, enjoying life. Its not what I thought it would be, but its good. One thing I know, I donot think online dating is for me....Just the forums.....*S* | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 8:24:14 PM | I never dreamed I would life to be 50 cause 50 was old when I was 15 I never thought I would be alone, take care of myself work all the time and forget my surroundings stuff that was important then is not know what I use to do now would take me all night to do,Have not met anyone that I would want to try that with over 50 you are suppose to chase grandchildren around and be there for all, but no one there for just you.All that carzy stuff adults told you about over forty is a lie, Have fun when you can do not throw nything away that you may back some day, Enjoy every day you have at any age. Life and Love have no age limit . | |
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Posted: 11/11/2009 9:39:39 AM | When I thought about myself being in my 50's I said would be retired.. Since I did not have a crystal ball I really did not think much further than that. I had no idea what interests I might have at that age etc.
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 11/11/2009 9:46:02 AM |  Babyboomers!!!....When I grow up I want to be The Fruitcake Lady!  ORRR better yet Dr. Ruth, ahhh the knowledge!
Yes, who would of thought, we would be filling out a Bucket List in our Fifties!
To go back and read some post, before I forget....some posted hit a real chord with me...
(and really sorry, I do not have the techy know how to re-post the quotes)
Sunny- I had those same visions, support-hose, blue rinse etc...
April- About growing backwards verse 
Aylia1- very similar thoughts
Wayward- Saw that movie Logans Run, yeah...what if ehh!(glad that is not so)
Picket- Ditto! on the World Peace!
Moraima- I agree, you Can travel with a friend...and who knows, on those travels you may meet someone!!!
Scott-
thought Ild be seeing those too!!!
Well I am Happy to say, I can still play ball, pretty decent too, but no grandchildren yet!
 , someday!!! Sooo hopefully take this life full blast, sliding into homeplate, with as much zen as possible, knowing I lived it to the best of my ability, with the love of my family and friends inside me!
Now excuse me I have to go  and hopefully find someone to share what life has to throw at us!
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Posted: 11/11/2009 4:04:33 PM | | I thought at 50 I would be settle in life and looking foward to spending quality time with my soul mate not still looking for that soul mate again. I often wonder how do people stay together for 60 years like my parents did? | |
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Posted: 11/11/2009 4:21:33 PM | I NEVER thought that my life would SUCK this much at 50. My dreams were to be married have a family, adore each other, a couple of children (grandchildren), the dog the white picket fence, a decent home, growing old together.
Life is what it is...I am basically happy regardless of the past pains of an abusive marriage. Life is what we make of it, I just never thought though that I would spend my life being a single parent and then when my son was grown life was nothing as expected. I just had to reply to this with feeling, because it is the honest truth.
As a little girl I loved my dolls as babies and so wanted a happy loving marriage, unfortunately who we chose as our soul mate can really change our whole life. Life is a learning experience. There was so much that I learned and there are many blessings, yet did I EVER expect my life to have turned out this way? Absolutely not.
I do have a dog though, a wonderful son, new dreams...and my family of friends at church.
Thank you, God for every day...even though I don't understand why life happens as it does. | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 11/11/2009 6:14:01 PM | | When I was in my teens, I didn't envision reaching even 30, then all of a sudden I had a ocuple kids and no time to worry about the future. But when I was 50, I was working two full time jobs, more than enough volunteer work, critters to take care of, and a husband, and we needed some time together. I think I was too busy to wonder about whether I'd ever thought it would be like that. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2009 7:44:48 PM | Life at 50? Who can predict anything. I guess it's up to each individual and how their cards fell. Obviously, all our lives hit bottom (or we wouldn't have wound up on this site). Financially, most of America is feeling the pain; I felt the pain with the stock market in 2000/2001, and the effects of the agriculture/textile changes in North Carolina that has happened over the last 2 decades. We men are horny as ever, trying to chase slender, hot bodied women (of all ages) - just like we were programmed. Women are out looking for prince charming on that white horse, and many fail to compromise. That lack of compromise leaves them sad and lonely. Same with us guys. I tell my friends to go out with the lady that asks you, despite any unattractive feature that may be pounding you in the head. She's typically a nice girl. We all mean well, but it just is a weird world. As with most these posts. I don't think much has changed now we're at this age. Although most of us are mindful of our expenses and savings, I think most of us aren't worrying about financial gains, educational goals, or carrer progression. I think the lack of those woes is what gives us the stress-free life we are starting to enter into. Our goal now is to find that other significant partner that we can share the next few year with without tremendous termoil.
P.S. By the way, I had invisioned me as being a millionair with a tall, slender blonde snuggled up to me at 50. I'm no where near that goal. Where will I be when I'm 60? Probably plugging along day by day just like now. | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 11/11/2009 8:05:13 PM | | How can I possibly be 50? How did this happen? I'm one of those old people now, one of those people who were at least ten eternities removed from me when I was a teenager. I thought old people were just born old back then. And young people stayed that way. I was misled. I didn't sign up for this. I was just in grad school in my earlier 30's a few weeks ago. I swear it. Someone's going to pay for this. | |
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 11/13/2009 6:13:39 PM | At age 50 I hydroplaned and roll my truck over a bunch of times.
So nope, I didn't think life would be like this after age 50. 
But I can honestly say.. ain't life grand?!!
At ANY age, all we can do is make the best of it.. find the happiness that IS there.
Truly has nothing to do with the number of our years.
When I was younger, I don't think I wondered/thought about what I'd be doing at age 50.
Kinda like I am not wondering/thinking about what I'll be doing at age 75.
I'm just living! | |
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Posted: 11/13/2009 7:35:50 PM | The two women I "worshiped" in my ancestry were a great aunt who pulled a handcart across the plains, and a great grandmother who caught pneumonia chopping wood in the orchard in January at the age of 92, having out lived three husbands. I kinda jus' *knew* I'd gotten special genes, lol! I planned to live long, and have a fascinatin' life. . . .
I was 30 before the "don't trust anyone over 30" became the vogue saying of the day, so I didn't worry. When I turned 40, I was living in China, teaching at a University.
At fifty, I was happily married to a gorgeous fella I was madly in love with. At fifty-one, I was alone, and getting ready to file for divorce. . . . At fifty-four, I was living with a college sweetheart. At fifty-five, I was bizzy nailing my own house together.
At 64, I fell in love with an actor, and moved to NYC to be with him. At 66, I was "widowed" and came home to the wilds of West Virginia.
Told you that to tell you this: there is no way I, or any of the rest of us, could possibly have imagined what life would be like in the future. (Thank Godde!) It has simply been more wonderful, heartbreaking, and just plain interesting than I could have even begun to imagine at 10, 20, 30, or 40. . . . or 50. . . . .
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 11/14/2009 1:06:39 AM | When I was young I thought that by this time I would have figured out how to date and how relationships became succesfull- intimate.
Imagine my surprsie when I realized I am in the same quandry as when I was a teenager! | |
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Posted: 11/14/2009 3:10:57 AM | ok people, time for some quick maths, if you think you are old
when I was 20yrs, you were 10yrs = 50% my age
when I was 50yrs, you were 40yrs = 80% my age
when I was 100yrs, you were 90yrs = 90% my age
So my dear, soon we will be the same age, near enough! | |
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Posted: 11/14/2009 4:20:44 AM | Nope I didn't think life would be like this at 50.
first I was sure by now we would all be zooming around in flying cars, where's my
flying car?
Thankfully most of the woman have avoided looking like Aunt Bea. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2009 7:01:07 AM | and "NO" damn it,,,
I thought I would be a movie star or astronomer or trillionaire or inventor of antigravity or ,,,
instead,,,
I'm a frikken loser trolling the internet for a date,,,
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| Did you think life would be like this at 50?
Posted: 11/14/2009 8:35:26 AM |
instead....I'm a frikken loser trolling the internet for a date,,,
Uh huh....apparently I didn't get the memo.
Had coffee with some of our maintenance guys yesterday and casually mentioned that my eyes were burning from staring at the computer screen all afternoon. One of them piped up with, "Well then stay off those single sites"
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