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|msg 154 NO make that GOD be praised! all that INTELLIGENCE. would be DETRIMENTAL! to the well being of every male on the planet. just stick to looking good for the guys girls! we had a woman running the country. and she was a bloody disaster. enough said. |
Posted: 4/28/2006 12:10:09 PM
|Having dated both intelligent women and those... not so much... I'd much prefer the intelligent ones.|
The worst is the one who was ... not so much... and sensitive about it. She berated me for belittling her whenever I told a joke she didn't get... which was almost every joke I told (mostly plays on words or puns).
Posted: 4/28/2006 3:11:00 PM
|I think it depends on how much smarter the women is... I think this goes back to the way guys communicate we like mostly to have one person being the teacher and the other persons listening being the learner. So when you are with someone who is smarter then you the chances of you getting to be incharge of the conversation is less and thus as a guy you kinda feel like you're out of your element. I myself would have no problem dating a girl who is *smarter* then me but she would have to understand that I dont want to be talked down to ever because of it...|
Posted: 4/28/2006 3:17:22 PM
|^^^^^^ I smell chauvinism......|
Posted: 4/28/2006 3:22:46 PM
|Dang .. how do I reply to that without sounding like a know it all???|
Ya know us "smart" women need love too... and sheesh golly be hold... we have warm hearts too.... and not to boot... we ain't ugly neither.
Ok enough with the slang
I am far from perfect.. but I am neither dumb or ugly... and I am seriously starting to believe that I am really a put off to most men because they think... "sheesh.. by golly.. she would never be happy with me"... well guess what?? If your honest and can stick to one woman and you can win my heart.. why not?? I dont mind if your not as well educated or life smart as I have been forced to be.. Love is Blind.. remember???
And you cant find Good "SEX" with a smart man :P (dont fry me for that comment... it was a joke)
Posted: 4/28/2006 5:17:37 PM
|Hmm. Why is a desire not to be "talked down to" chauvanism? I've seen people smarter than myself talk down to people all the time. It's a common experience in a software environment and a term has arisen to explain this: the "big brain syndrome". So it's not at all uncommon.|
Posted: 4/28/2006 7:02:53 PM
|Duhh..didn't even start wearn' shoes till I was 30..and still DON'T..I live in Florida!!!! Seriously, some men are very intimidated with smart women..why?? Red flagg..if they have control over the 'little woman' then their manhood is validated. I, myself prefer a man that can can discuss current events, actually has been to Europe (and knows that there are 320 steps that you have to climb to get to the top of the Cathedral in Vatican City), Real men adore smart women. |
Posted: 4/28/2006 9:03:52 PM
|msg 161 you wish.|
Posted: 4/29/2006 3:08:41 PM
|It would depend upon what she uses that intelligence for; Hitler was very intelligent and we all know what he used his intelligence for.|
Regarding education, I have to say that I've been pretty much in touch with every "circle" of society and got to know highly educated people from both sexes who are very rude, and have a very disrespectful type of behavior, as well as very kind people with exquisite manners.
And people with hardly some education, or not education at all with same results as above.
So, for me that’s not even relevant, and definitely is not one of the real important things that I would look for.
There are dishonest people in every area of society, some of them are very intelligent and well educated, and some of them are not.
I would add that I agree with the person who wrote this:
"Having been attracted to brains and beauty and number of times I can say say this: as for me, neither brains nor beauty is of much importance. I prefer a woman with a warm heart. I prefer a woman with an inner beauty. I prefer a woman that understands happiness comes from within. I prefer a woman who is basically....nice"
Posted: 4/29/2006 6:34:27 PM
|I greatly prefer women that have a brain and a passion for something. I come across so many profiles here on PoF from women that say practically nothing. All they do is post a cute pic and say that they like to "have fun, clubbing, shopping, etc." It's as if they don't think they have to have any substance because of their looks. Then they cry about how they only get messages from cheesy guys and jerks. |
Physical stimulation is temporary. Intellectual stimulation can last a lifetime.
Posted: 4/29/2006 8:34:30 PM
It would depend upon what she uses that intelligence for; Hitler was very intelligent and we all know what he used his intelligence for.
an excellent point, maverick. i recently dated (for a short while only) a guy who was very smart but used his smarts, i came to realize, to take advantage of people (in a finance context) and i didn't like that at all.
Posted: 5/4/2006 7:34:54 PM
I have a profile that has nothing to do with shopping and such frivolities. I change my profile to suit my mood.
I get a lot of first responses, not many second.
This could be partly because I let them know that if they cannot mentally stimulate me with a reply, they'll have no luck in real life.
Men, please, please remember that punctuation and proper grammar can be your friend in this arena.
Posted: 5/8/2006 8:37:08 PM
|I just went back to Boston this weekend and participated in an outing where there are lots of very smart and very well educated women. I forget how sexy intelligence is (although the five girls from HBS are not so cool)! |
Posted: 5/8/2006 9:11:29 PM
|I think that looks (for both men and women) will only get you in the front door. There has to be some kind of fire behind those eyes.|
Posted: 6/3/2006 12:52:40 PM
|if a guy is not into intelligence on a girl than i'm not into him|
Posted: 6/5/2006 10:06:25 AM
|i think gmaverick's comment dominates once again|
he's definately up there with having very wise thoughts to pass on
Posted: 6/12/2006 12:38:03 PM
|In any relationship (friends or lovers), if one tries to lord their "intelligence" over the other the relationship is doomed. Almost everyone (I said ALMOST) has their "bright spots". My ex had a PhD, very competent in her field but had the common sense of a shoe. Education does not equal intelligence but it does prove that one can finish what they started. (i may be one of those) Some of the most exciting women I have known have been intelligent but not formally educated. Then there are people skills but thats a different subject.|
Posted: 1/19/2007 11:04:42 PM
|I agree with the intelligence has nothing to do with formal education. Smart people will learn whether its from books or their surroundings, the thing is...they are always learning, growing, and making connections which is what makes them so smart.|
I think it makes people who are highly educated feel better about their intelligence to say these things though.
What I wonder though, is if you found the female you were interested in was well versed in most topics even more so than you were, would you be intimidated by that?
I've always prided myself on my intelligence and competence but often take the back seat and just let it go when male pride kicks in. I'm a lot older now though and its much harder to pretend I'm stupid just to preserve someone's ego.
Posted: 2/11/2007 3:10:06 PM
|i think most male phd's, md's, jd's, etc. prefer a woman with those same (or similar) credentials AND looks. i know that's my preference in men.|
Posted: 2/11/2007 3:23:31 PM
|I love educated girls, I married the smartest girl I ever met.|
Posted: 2/11/2007 3:31:14 PM
|Yes I agree with that completely, I relate as I am in that category education wise. Its nice to have someone at your level to talk to.|
I am very aroused by a smart woman, it does make me smile when I listen to her.
I mention this in my profile in fact.
Posted: 2/11/2007 3:33:26 PM
|I as well married the smartest girl Ive ever known. I've sometimes wondered how much that was a factor in falling in love with her.|
Too bad she had other problems along with it though.
Posted: 2/11/2007 4:32:45 PM
|"Intellectual stimulation can last a life time...."|
I agree...but intellect is only helpful if the person can communicate. I have met many an intellect who cannot have a conversation.
Posted: 2/11/2007 4:43:11 PM
|Ups!!! uhm!!! maybe thats why smart intelligent and educated women dont get that much e-mail, men intimidated by them. Let me see, am I intelligent ? maybe, and surely I am educated. |