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| True or False, Men turn pages. Women close books.
Posted: 5/10/2008 10:14:55 AM | NO-- my ex's all RUN FOR THE HILLS! LMAO
grin... really I dont think you can peg this either way-- there have been ex lovers whom I would have LOVED to get back together with but they just closed the book -- I on the other hand would have been happy to turn the page... so you can judge this as a failure on my part or you can see this as an experience that simply refuses to quantify your declaration! lol | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 10:24:27 AM | Just from my own experiences, I have to say that your post rings true. I know once I finally end a relationship for good, I don't go back...and certainly not just for sex.
My ex on the other hand, when we decided to split, asked if he could "come around" once in awhile. I don't remember what my expression was, but I do remember laughing hysterically....umm ya, that would be a definite NO.. | |
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| True or False, Men turn pages. Women close books.
Posted: 5/10/2008 10:48:54 AM | Not even close to my reality OP.....
I have had "ex's" that have come back over and over to try again, or to just enjoy a short term connection. There have been some that moved on dated and married others, and returned hoping to rekindle something, even if just for the short term benefits, and maybe the security of it all.
I believe both men and women turn pages and continue reading that book, just depends if they are on the last page, and the book is now over, or somewhere in the middle and ending just a chapter.
The biggest difference I have seen for many, is that most women will be reading "novels", and most men seem to get caught up with "comic books"........ 
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Posted: 5/10/2008 3:38:35 PM | I must be a woman then !
I never go down the sane street twice, once a relationship has gone bad I just let it go and move on.
New relationships are much more exciting than one you have got bored with.
Next ! | |
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| True or False, Men turn pages. Women close books.
Posted: 5/11/2008 6:42:41 AM | | Women close books on lames because lames aren't interesting or creative. In my experiences, my exes all tried to get back with me and keep the relationship going at least on a friendly level. | |
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| True or False, Men turn pages. Women close books.
Posted: 5/11/2008 8:06:09 AM | in my opinion or experiences i have found that men and women both turn pages for a while. It could be that we are convinced that it may have a different ending. It could be because we don't want to face anything new and are comfortable in what feels familiar. Or we think that there is no one else out there. But in general i have found that women have closed the book before the man does. Maybe women are willing to accept change quicker and move on quicker then men.
But in the end we don't change who we are no matter how we read the book the ending is sure to be the same.
We have to change not ourselves but to realize who we are and what we can do to improve our happiness. After all if we are happy, all falls into place doesn't it?  | |
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| True or False, Men turn pages. Women close books.
Posted: 5/11/2008 9:48:24 AM | Yep. It is true. My ex husband insisted for almost three years after we split that he could " fix" whatever was wrong in our relationship. He seemed to think that I was merely angry at him for the way he treated me; he failed to comprehend that the way he had treated me, over time, caused my feelings for him to change, and what was lost could not be gotten back. All the positive changes he made toward the end really just pissed me off, because it was so frustrating to realize that he had been capable all along of being a great partner, but witheld that from me until I had my hand on the door, ready to leave. His efforts were not necessarily too little, but far too late.
As far as sex goes, I had sex with my ex a few times after the split, and it was always good. I had to stop doing that, though, because I didn't want him to think I wanted to get back together.
I have to say, though, that his feelings have made me a bit wary of believing other men when they say they are over their wives. My ex husband has a steady girlfriend, but told me just weeks ago, that all I have to do is say the word, and he'll break it off with her, and put our family back together. I would hate to be in the position of being the girlfriend, as I suspect she thinks he is fully invested in his relationship. I think that there are some men who, when they fall in love, stay in love. I dunno...if I meet a man who is divorced or separated, I really only feel secure if the ex wife is remarried, or has has children with a new man. | |
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| True or False, Men turn pages. Women close books.
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:34:13 AM | | whats the point in turning the pages, when the chapter is closed??? i would and always have done (as you've said) finished with the book, and moved on.....nice way of putting it... | |
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| True or False, Men turn pages. Women close books.
Posted: 5/14/2008 8:58:19 AM | Yup. When I am done I am done. That's why men should take it slow with women like me. If you push the envelope and it was so so. As much as you would call or want to get together I'd be done. I'd have you over, but there would probably be another guy over or a whole bunch of friends just to make sure you don't have an opportunity to flirt or push the envelope again. If the feelings aren't there their not. The sex isn't as good for me. I can't get excited or wet, so what is the point? I'd rather wait until I find someone that I am interested in.
I don't watch movies or read a book twice unless I thought I missed something. The problem is I have got a good memory so it is rare I do go at it again. It's boring and dull. When it becomes so it's work. | |
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| True or False, Men turn pages. Women close books.
Posted: 5/16/2008 10:31:07 AM | | I agree with guitarman and ashley, books "re-read" are usually the most interesting ones. I've closed books, and re-read others. There is no mystery to re-reading, only enjoyment. You kinda figure, unless you are hopeless, that it is ___ that keeps bringing you back. That ____ can be anything from family, sex, security, money, loneliness, or whatever. But if that book offends or brutalizes you enough- you will finally close it for good!! Better not to teeter totter on a dangerous novel. | |
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| True or False, Men turn pages. Women close books.
Posted: 5/16/2008 12:21:10 PM | There is only one man-er book-I have read many times that I would read once more. All other books were returned to the library, and have never been signed out by me again.
I think the OP's anaogy is correct for most women, for most of thier relationships...but there is always an exception...like my 'one book' above. Good reading that one was! | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:33:08 PM | “Men turn pages … Women close books”
I think for the most part, there’s a lot of truth in this analogy.
Women typically develop an emotional connection with a partner far sooner than a man does. When one relationship ends, a woman may be heartbroken, but only until an emotional connection is established with someone new. Hence the old adage “the quickest way to get over someone is to get under someone else.” Once that new connection happens, she usually doesn’t have any interest in returning to a former partner, and any feelings she may have had for that person will have been replaced by feelings for someone new.
Men however, develop that deep emotional connection over a longer period of time. Once they do, they tend to find it very difficult to let that go and move on. A man is much more likely to “carry a torch” for a woman, long after the relationship is over and therefore is more likely to turn back a page because he still feels a connection. Especially if he has yet to develop that connection with someone else.
Of course there are exceptions and the circumstances of a breakup and subsequent relationships will dictate whether there are any feelings remaining, on either side, to go for round two (or three or four )
LH | |
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| True or False, Men turn pages. Women close books.
Posted: 5/17/2008 2:17:10 PM | I definitely close books.
It takes a lot for me to get to the point where I am 'done,' but it isn't like there wouldn't be any warning about it.
I NEVER threaten about anything.
If I say I am done, it is because a lot of thought and soul-searching, and reason, and tears have gone into it actually being the end of the relationship.
--It isn't something to ever to be taken lightly.
There is that part of me that has remained friendly with my exes.
Now, it isn't always possible to keep in contact with them
(like weirding-out my ex-husband's new wife, so I no longer call to wish him a happy birthday, or anything, to be respectful of her),
but if we were in a relationship to begin with, we would have had enough love and respect for each other to remain civil to each other after the relationship is over.
To me, it is only right.
It isn't like we try to hang out with one another, or anything like that...
'Just say "hi" to your mom for me' is sometimes plenty.
I can't answer for anybody else but me. | |
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| True or False, Men turn pages. Women close books.
Posted: 5/17/2008 3:36:40 PM | This is a great topic! I can say I have always closed the book, not that I didn't consider turning a page but I never thougth I could do it with out getting my feelings involved again.
I think I am the only one of my girlfriends that has never used a spin ticket...
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