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Posted: 4/26/2006 6:49:00 PM | | It does seem many women have a long “laundry” list of things they are looking for. I think what they find more often than not are guys that can pretend to be all that they are looking for. What does it all mean? I don’t really know... I’m getting tired. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/26/2006 7:03:26 PM | | Just sounds to me like another whine of someone assuming they MUST be looking for perfect because they're not going for them. Sheesh! Remember that the second half of the about me section of your profile IS where you describe the type of person you're looking for. Some may overdo it and put down what they think is ideal, but take a chance and write them if you think you're even close. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2006 7:13:20 PM | First off, using the word "perfect" in terms of "the perfect man" or "the perfect woman", is like saying "the perfect flavor of ice cream". Yes, you can hypothetically think of flavors of ice cream that would repulse 99.9% of the population, and you can also find a few flavors that has a very high popularity... but in consideration of all the marketable flavors, there is no "perfect". Think "a good, fufilling man" -- otherwise, you're probably just judging by an on-paper basis only if the term 'perfect' is any key word.
Secondly, a lot of people actually don't even know what is perfect *for themselves*. Did you know what was perfect for you when you were 16? Probably not, but I'm sure we all thought we did. You change over time, your tastes change over time, and your experiences reveal things to you that change your desires. I think people can rule out what would be good for them, and narrow down the more mature they get.
In order to find the right person, you gotta be the right person. People don't want to hear that, and think it's negative when said in front of someone who is overweight, or has a strikingly unsymettrical face, or blatently unintelligent but sweet, or is in counseling, etc. etc. However, it's a concept that's totally overlooked, and drowned out by quotes like "be who you are" and "don't care what anyone else thinks of you" (like that second quote would be great advice for a relationship). When you improve yourself, you notice it, your esteem goes up, and you're happier -- then, your better self, along with your better feelings, shine through to potential mates out there. It's a win-win situation, but it's tough to do.
Within the online society, women have a lot of choices. The ratio's in their favor. At bars (from rowdy to quaint) and clubs, the ratio is many times in a woman's favor, and it does not take much to pick up a guy. A woman can easily get a handful of guys' numbers a week if she was really motivated to find a decent guy.
Unfortunately, an online place like this is like a shopping mall of the opposite sex -- some women (and guys) sure don't want to stop shopping. To some, that's perfect. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/26/2006 8:16:42 PM |
NoixDeCoco on 4/26/2006 7  06 AM most of the women on this site are looking for the nonexistant perfect man WHY Because we can.
Most women have all the "power" when it comes to relationships and/or sex...(there are a few who are so submissive that they let the guy run things...but these females are few and very far between)... The males have to try and impress the female and try and get noticed... All the female has to do is pick and choose one...or more and the rest of the guys end up going home and watching TV alone.... LOL
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/26/2006 8:21:46 PM |
daylillies on 4/26/2006 6  16 PM well i seen my share tonight .... our work is gettin some electrical ..an i close the buildin up....now we have a nice lookin petite blonde lady at work..as i was standing there talkin to these guys bout work related ...she walked in....all heads turned an the comments started ...holy..i couldnt believe what i was hearing. to be honest.. i expected this to happen and it did...no matter where i go...i see it...all the time. i just walked away...disgusted. so you tell me whos kidding now??? whos being superficial???
Women have fussed for years to be treated "equal" to men and yet when guys act like men suddenly women wanted to be treated special... the guys you were standing with were treating you as an equal... Men are going to act like men... Unless emasculated by women to the point where they are just another form of female with different sex organs...
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Posted: 4/26/2006 8:29:34 PM | the guys you were standing with were treating you as an equal...
^^ thats the problem they didnt treat me as an equal...all of a sudden i didnt even exist anymore to them....man that hurt....sorry but its true. so i walked away sayin nothing and feeling worthless for that moment..i am really trying to be patient with ...guys..but it seems to be gettin harder in the last 2 years...man afraid to gettin bitter...ugh ..my opinion..they werent men..theyr were idiots thinkin with their dicks..how pathetic
one thing for guy to do that but when a woman is standin there...sigh..oh well...not bout me anyways...
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| How true that is but if you dont think highly of yourself whp will
Posted: 4/26/2006 8:38:13 PM | | that was a sad answer man but in some ways its true Ive always aimed for what I find attractive some were beutiful some were not but I loved each of them and anybody can say whatever they want I'm telling you straight up we all have baggage dont let the**** girls tell you any different in the end were all human. | |
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| How true that is but if you dont think highly of yourself whp will
Posted: 4/26/2006 8:46:14 PM | Lord OP
What women really want is a man that is smart enough to keep the shit in check. Everyone has baggage. Smart men and women know enough to be fun and optimistic FIRST. There is no reason anyone should even know about your baggage until you both have come to the conclusion that you have alot of positive qualities and click. Then you start sharing the shit. Then if you have done the smart sale they will stick around because they also know about many of your great qualities and think you are worth it. | |
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| How true that is but if you dont think highly of yourself whp will
Posted: 4/26/2006 8:54:22 PM | Blondedevil... no i dont want Pam Anderson.. she got the Hep-C.. plus.. she is kinda nasty dirty.... and not nasty dirty good... and further more.. have you ever seen the size of Tommy Lees Junk....i would need a large tug boat to make sure i didnt fall in
FireStarter: I am with you i have been doign the online thing for about a year and have met 6 people.total and went out with only 2 of them more then 3 times, and one we dated for a few months....i do not think i am a bad looking guy....and i think my profile is not too bad.... send out email.. and never get a response... very frustraiting exspcially when the person is lookign for " Honesty and Communication" but they cant be honest and communicate to me they are not intereested by typing out " No thanks"? | |
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Posted: 4/26/2006 9:54:51 PM | | Lets be honest. Having allot of money has an ora around it. I was not speaking for myself. In public(this is a generalization). When you see odd couples male or female there tends to be a generalization towards odd couples. "He or she must have allot of money". If anybody was a server at one time or another, you know what I am talking about. Back in the day in the fine dining atmosphere I would see odd couples. You would see older women and men intimate with people twenty years younger. The first thing that came to my mind was the younger date was either an escort or after money that is the only way that relationship of that sort can happen. I am sure there is a small percentage off odd couples that are based on love at first site or true love. I did not mean to offend you in any way. As a psychology minor I just figured I would go that route instead of speaking from how things should be. Take care. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2006 7:27:44 AM | I can't agree with that comment. Everyone is going to disagree with someone, a friend, a family member, a partner. But differences expand two people's relationship. The perfect person is the person that you can relate to, trust completely, and accept the differences, maybe even expanding your own horizons and trying something new. Mind you, I'm a big believer in willpower, and the power of the mind. If you think there is no such thing as a "perfect person," you will never find one. If you keep an open mind and go with the flow, you will find them, and it will be amazing.
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/27/2006 8:31:36 AM | not a matter of being picky....i think its a matter of fear...i am sure we all been thru hell an back at some point in our past relationships...most still carry some kind of fear within them. they fear it will reoccur again when they get to close to someone...so it causes them to back off...being afraid and alone again. No ones perfect...no one!! We can overcome these fears...if we open up to another and trust them to be there for us. if the person really likes you an is willing to stand by you an support you with understanding an patience...then you should be proud to have a good friend like that who cares for you. Many arent use to having one who cares for them or even to be there for them with support an care. isnt that what its about? overcoming things together? growing together ? learning together? We gonna let this get in our way to living life an to be happy once again with someone or live being alone? i personally dont like being alone...but society hasnt left me much of a choice for so many...fear of loving again and opening their hearts...in fear of getting hurt again. so its a matter of getting past the hurt to movin on...for most they tend to hold on to fear for dear life an rather be alone....not thinking ...its does more harm then good and thats sad..  | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/27/2006 10:54:24 AM | It is not my task to denigrate either the men or the women here. Some good ones, some less so.
For both the fish women and the fish men, though, if they were finding romantic fulfillment in the real world, I guess that they would not be fishing.
Am I right? | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/27/2006 11:26:56 AM | Attitude, attitude, attitude--your positive attitude and outlook are all important in how attractive you are to other people.
To attract the person YOU want, you have to BE the person that person would want. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/27/2006 11:42:59 AM | You have to remember that no matter how wonderful, beautiful, perfect some person is and that's both males and females...... there is always someone who is sick of their shit, LOL.
Last I heard Pam Anderson was single again. There's a lot of beautiful people out there looking as well as the average Joe. I always seem to quote the ever wise Jonathan Livingston Seagull for this....... "Expect nothing, and therefore you won't be disappointed."
Oh I've met some real turds on this site, but originally I only signed up for the forums, so I only have one word for the turds......... NEXT!!!
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Posted: 4/27/2006 12:05:00 PM | | I love FISHING...I do it for the FUN of the chase..if you catch something that isnt BIG or perfect enough..throw it back....LOL....we are all on here fishing for that PERFECT girl or GUY..PERFECT is an ILLUSION...HOWEVER perfect is also a PERCEPTION...HOW IRONIC...I choose to find that one that is PERFECT FOR ME.....spoken so eloquently by many...the latest...alba 19 on this post...One LAST THING..I see your point as in No one wants someone with baggage or what not, so you think women are disillusioned to think there is a perfect man....well..Sometimes we have to look deeper....then the outside, trivial things, looks, money, baggage, etc...we are all guilty of choosing that perfect partner based upon what we REALLY VIEW AS MOST IMPORTANT TO US...for MEN: great looks, nice body, sexy, a classy freak., intelligence, girl next door personality with the home coming queen looks..Women: a man that is Hot, Smart, has MONEY (seems to mean that he has his shit together to most women) and is funny, sensitive, intelligent, and even some say tall, dark, and handsome...we are all guilty of that...to me it seems that I have the best luck when I do not look for things in my partner that I THINK would make them perfect but focus on what makes THEM perfect..their best attributes...you often times find that needle in the haystack when you least expect it and arent looking so HARD for that man or woman that fits your end all be all perfect MATE..LOL | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/27/2006 12:16:52 PM | Um, no, not looking for the perfect man....looking for a guy that makes me laugh and that I have fun with.....cheerio!
If this site sucks so much for you........get off! | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/27/2006 12:25:48 PM | There is never a good excuse for a man or a woman to settle when it comes to life or love.
Here's my cliche - "Nobody is perfect, but everyone is perfect for somebody" 
razzberry1: Love your shirt btw | |
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