| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/27/2006 12:36:16 PM |
not all men have their shit together
Define what you mean by this (as in your personal definition). Cause I don't expect a guy to be loaded with money, have a huge mansion and 3 cars, however I do expect that he not be living with his momma unless he has a really really really good reason. So please define not having your shit together. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/27/2006 12:42:38 PM | OP, forumguy had it right...speak for yourself...the only thing that keeps forumguy from being perfect is he doesn't live in my city ;)
None of us women are looking for someone with no baggage or problems; we're looking for someone who can handle the baggage and problems in their life. It's called being responsible, not being perfect.
As for having their sh*t together, it depends on what the definition of that is; IMO it means someone who's not very responsible. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/27/2006 12:44:38 PM | I have high expectations for a future mate because I know that's what I deserve. EVERYONE should set their standards high and strive to reach the top. No one should think they need to settle.
I'm not looking for love. I'm going to let love find me. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/27/2006 12:50:12 PM | There's alot of foul fish on this service. However, the world is round and not flat. Just keep fishing. Oh...by the way. There are at least 10 women for 1 guy worldwide so there are plenty to go around. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/27/2006 1:05:32 PM | | It totally depends on WHY the guy doesn't have his shit together....is it choice? Or not? If it is something they can help....then hell no I wouldn't want anything to do with him. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2006 1:27:34 PM | I will not slam you the way others have. But to respond to your question as you posed it would be wrong. There are no women here looking for the perfect man. He does not exist. They all know that. it's not a matter of perfection be it body weight, size or looks entirely. It has nothing to do with so called baggage.
You do come off even in your profile like you are whining. You send negative vibes. Your profile reads like you know you are either fat, ugly or a whole lot less then perfect. Get rid of that attitude!
No one is perfect! I'm not. Far from it. But I know who I am, what I want and am very confident I will find it. Go rewrite your profile. Be positive, not negative. There's a woman out there for you if you take the time to find her and don't blow it with all the whiny stuff about your weight etc.
Even this thread that you started, just put you in a very bad light to any woman looking. Again, be positive. Write about only the good things about yourself. Tell them what your interests are. Show them an outline of the man you are. Statement like "get to know my insides" only suggests to a woman that you are not secure and comfortable in your own skin. Keep working that weight off. That's good! Do all you can to make the cover, your outside make a woman want to get to know the inside.
I hope you take the advice of those that took the time to respond with suggestions. But if you think whining and pointing out your flaws will work, well, you are wrong! Point out only the positive things and maybe they will over shadow the so called flaws.
Good luck to you. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/27/2006 5:55:26 PM | Well if ya ask me, you have to watch those perfect ones, One minute you'll be on your way home, then next thing ya know, your standing there with only one shoe on, a pumpkin, and four nasty looking rodents!... | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/27/2006 8:02:24 PM | Gawd now I'm not allowed to kid MYSELF I WILL find the perfect man I tell you..I will..That redhead caught perfect so I know it's possible! | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/27/2006 8:43:54 PM | LISTEN HONEY, NO ONE IS LOOKING FOR PERFECTION. BUT LOOKING ON LINE GIVES YOU THE OPTION TO STATE WHAT YOU WANT IN A PERSON AND TO LIST YOUR PREFERENCES. IT'S SORTA LIKE GOING SHOPPING, YOU CAN TRY ON ALOT OF STUFF WITHOUT HAVING TO BUY IT, IF THE FIT'S NOT RIGHT! sOME THINGS LOOK BETTER ON US THAN OTHERS!(AND THAT'S PUTTING IT SIMPLY) SO INSTEAD OF SULKING, DO WHAT SOME OF THE OTHERS SUGGESTED, RE-WRITE YOUR PROFILE AND LIST YOUR REQUESTS. IN THIS WAY THE TYPE OF WOMAN YOU ARE LOOKING FOR MIGHT FIND YOU AND RESPOND. HAPPY HUNTING!! | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/28/2006 10:18:14 AM | | hey alba..get over it..you bother me..quit deleting me..I have been done with you..dont flatter yourself..BTW everyone this is PROFILE like # a million cuz ol 2 yr. old has me deleted everytime..thinking I am stalking her...LOL..she wishes....now back to the topic....NO ONE IS PERFECT..the problem is is that PERFECTION is an illusion..but it is also a perception...I agree with whoever itwas that says...if you look past WHAT YOU THINK MAKES SOMEONE PERFECT and look at WHAT MAKES THAT PARTICULAR person PERFECT...then I have found that people you would have never thought were a match end up being VERY VERY FUN and compatible...hope this helps out man... | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/28/2006 10:39:55 AM |
most of the women on this site are looking for the nonexistant perfect man WHY???
We are entitled to our own personal preferences...and so does all men. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/28/2006 11:05:34 AM | I don't think we're looking for "perfect" because there is not such a thing.....but there is "close enough" to perfect for each person and that would include what we are willing to overlook in the other person and vice versa. Did that make sense....I think I just confused myself. Anyway....I truly believe that there is someone out there for everyone and you never know until you try some of those that are "less than perfect".  | |
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Posted: 4/29/2006 7:28:09 AM | | It depends on how you percieve "perfect".I know i'm not,but i've made some very special female friends,on this site.Everyone has baggage,etc,they do to.What i have found out,it's not, not having it that matters,it's putting it behind you,or keeping them out of it,that does. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 4/29/2006 4:38:53 PM | | No man is perfect, nor is any woman. We're all just looking for the man that is perfect for us, or as close to as possible, well I am anyhow, can't speak for all women. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2006 4:47:03 PM | I was fortunate enough to find the perfect man for me. To me he IS perfect, I love him as he is and wouldn't change one little thing about him. I see him as perfect in my eyes and I'm just thrilled that he loves me for who I am, too.  | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/3/2006 1:34:50 PM |
women on this site are kidding themselves
most of the women on this site are looking for the nonexistent perfect man WHY???
I had to go back and read the OP's question or comment again to sum up what I think.
In the first place, no one can say just one sex, male or female are any different in what they seek. The whole idea that woman are kidding themselves is ridiculous!
For those of us that are here looking for either love, a relationship or just dating. We all know what we want and we will not settle for less. Just because a woman or a man will not write or go out with anyone else does not make them "kidding themselves" as suggested. I know exactly what I want and why I'm here. No wait! I don't know what I want exactly just yet. But I promise you, if their is a mutual attraction she and I will both figure out what we want in time if it's meant to be. I have an idea what she's like. But I won't know until I meet her. Right now she is nameless, faceless, no size or shape to her. All I know about her is she is here looking for the same things I am.
I am not kidding myself when I say I am not for every woman here. duh!!
And not every woman here looking is kidding herself about what she is looking for. In fact, I'd say it was poor judgment to even suggest women or anyone is kidding themselves just because you are not finding what you want OP. Let's not kid ourselves OP, there is a woman here for you somewhere. But lie me, she is a rare one. Rare in that she wants what you are all about and what you look like etc. Yes, I said "look like" We all have a right and be attracted to looks as well as a heart and soul. in fact, I don't want to shock you, but it usually starts there. No, it's not everything for sure. But there has to be an initial attraction of some kind. So let's not accuse anyone of kidding themselves for not being interested in you or me or the next guy. We all have the right to be attracted to who we want and for whatever reason that is. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/4/2006 6:31:45 PM | alright...lets get real here.....am i being unfair here .......ughhhhhhh
gawd i have talked an met so many men that either have no job...or a car or license...and they rely on me to make them happy cause theyre lifes boring and wanna spend every minute with me....and most do drugs or drink alot....so much for accasionally...omg...wtf is up with that? i dont want a rich man but i want a guy who has a stable job...an can actually come an get me with his own car...an take me to a movies or dinner....or to come over an visit me ...is that so much to ask for now days. i hate people relyin on me. ( they dont know this) but i have a good payin job..a car..a home..an more to offer....but seems most guys dont have a pot to piss in...gawd its frustrating....ughhhhhhhhhhhhh.  | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/4/2006 6:48:51 PM | I disagree. I think that most women on this site are looking for self-esteem/ego boosts.
I know how important this is to women even though few, if any, will admit to it.
I've signed up here a couple of times in the past and always end up deleting my profile
after a bit of frustration.
The women will act all interested and then, out of the blue, stop communicating.
I'm not clingy, I'm decent looking, intelligent, and have a wicked side that many real women find sexy.
I think this just lets some people live out their fantasies.
I've read so many threads about women saying they hate guys with low self esteem. I find that amusing. | |
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