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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/4/2006 6:55:37 PM | i HATE guys who think women are all about men with no shirts on a dating site.
If a woman stips communicating with you it is because of one of these..
1. Not that interested
2. He isn't contacting her backa nd she assumes he is not interested.
3. Emotional cripples
4. Immature
5. Sends a picture with no shirt or a picture of penis
6. A BIG RED flag that says.. he just isn't the guy for me..
KEEP LOOKING AND .. DUDE.. PUT SOME CLOTHES ON... | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/4/2006 7:18:23 PM | | The "perfect man" doesnt exist any more than the perfect woman does...What I am looking for a is a man who is perfect for me...I want a best friend as well as a lover..Certain personal flaws in men can be very sexy and charming...Id rather date a smart, warm, witty,charismatic, creative guy with a cute little pot belly than a beautiful model type with a no nothing personality, looking for a Barbie doll, who's emotionally immature | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/4/2006 7:38:50 PM | I disagree. I think that most women on this site are looking for self-esteem/ego boosts.
^^^ an this is comin from a guy who has to show his chest off to get attention....lol..yea ok..to funny 
look everyone has issues along the line...but come on...i have my own life to deal with...why the heck should i pick up his life for him...if your not happy with yourself then you will never be happy in life. dont rely on others to help you with self esteem ..problems..boredom...entertain him...an etc. i know so many men that have nothing...an i mean nothing..no job..no car..no nothing etc....now am i suppose to support his butt...not likely. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2006 8:08:39 PM | "True perfection has to be imperfect. I know that that sounds foolish but it's true" - OASIS
Remember that this site's free. It makes sense that there'd be a lot of profiles that aren't that serious IE ego boost.
Every girl wants her prince charming. Will she find him among billions of men? Perhaps, she could win the love lottery. Instead she'll most likely be attracted to Joe charming, aka YOU. The key is to be charming LOL | |
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Posted: 5/4/2006 8:35:49 PM | Guess what! That perfect, Hot, no baggage, sweet guy is right here! Great job, great personality (come off a little egotistical at times-it's more pride then anything) Mr. Hopeless Romantic! Great artistist talent! I have it all! Problem is the mindset and hinding behind their own insecurities. Met one woman who couldn't stand not being alone. Jumped on a dating site 10 minutes after her last boyfriend's stuff was moved out in the U-Haul. Said she could live without being in something. Met another who is on materity leave. The internet is a good place to hide. But from me you get the straight goods. I like shooting from the hip. Got to use that journalism degree for something. Blog away! Some on the other hand are looking for someone to take them out of their broing unexciting lives. They think money and looks will do that. Think again. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2006 8:36:04 PM | you want honesty...ok ....i been to hell an back to many times ...it took me to many years and alot of work to build an find myself again...thats right i am back to being me!!! not goin there again...i dont care if i remain alone...least i know where i stand.  and i'll be damned if anyone takes that away from me again...seems most ..to many are down and negative about themselves an life itself...its such a turn off....and why should i put up with that to only get dragged down again..no thank you..i'll pass. thats their problem not mine....i choose to remain positive even at bad situations...shit happens.... lifes to short to dwell on unimportant issues...which many do...again i'll pass.  | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/4/2006 8:38:31 PM | Have you seen how many women show boob shots, bikini shots, etc.
I have no problem with them doing that. They are surely getting lots of responses.
I understand that everybody needs a boost now and then and that's cool. The internet dating seems to have changed in the last few years, though.
I find it interesting that people attack my photo for me not wearing a shirt.
I am looking for an intimate encounter not a long term relationship. I feel I should represent myself the way I want to.
It's cheap to try to insult someone for the photo they choose to post.
Make an intelligent comment but please don't just criticize my photo. That's rude. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/4/2006 10:03:18 PM | | Not speaking for me, since I list no criteria, but maybe that way they have numerous reasons to reject someone if they aren't interested. The criteria may not be factual... but rather an "in case of emergency" fallback. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/5/2006 5:19:26 AM | I'm not looking for perfect because I consider that boring. I want someone who can just say my name and my clothes fall off. Or with just a look can make me cream myself. I want CHEMISTRY/PASSION for however long it lasts.  | |
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Qt30
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Joined: 3/30/2006
Msg: 111 | |
| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/5/2006 5:47:38 AM | | Men are looking for the same thing. Men don't want a woman with baggage. If a man has baggage fine we all do but I have a few expectations of a man that IMO I think I deserve to be asking for. | |
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Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 112 | |
| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/5/2006 6:24:18 AM | | Again, I am not looking for a perfect man, he does not exist. My idea of perfect for me is a man that has confidence and is secure with himself. Honest, loving and protective. A communicator. One that when I look at him, he is the only thing that I can see. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2006 7:12:59 AM |
Again, I am not looking for a perfect man, he does not exist. My idea of perfect for me is a man that has confidence and is secure with himself. Honest, loving and protective. A communicator. One that when I look at him, he is the only thing that I can see.
This is very true cat.....
Women who think like you are the ones that end up with the best guys because you are realistic. That is a very good and mature assessment of it...as well as romantic... | |
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Posted: 5/5/2006 7:35:58 AM | I think a lot of women of these dating sites are bitter. they are not happy with the baggage they have or their appearance, etc. My picture scores a 1.75. Come on! I'm much better looking then that. I score a 1.75 because of what I have to say. I'm beginning to believe what the author of this thread says.
There's a woman on here who is a professional and very attractive but scores less then 4 with women, but rate her above 8. They women are not rating appearance they are rating the fact the person is more successful then they are and has some really nice parts. And is in a lacy bra. I met a women on a dating site that I got along with just great and had a lot in common but she was bitter that I was attracted to her cause she was 300 lbs. Look sister if i'm not into you sexually it ain't happening! Same with children. Single moms well you've experienced having children already I haven't. I want to share that experience with my partner for the first time too. If I had a child already different story.
Heck I've been told I was fat and poor more times then I need to count. One ex said, "Jamie no one could ever love me as much as you do...but I want someone with a flatter stomach who makes more money". Hell that hurts it smashed what little self-confidence I had. I had nightmares, bad nightmares, about it for 7 years. Ten years ago I couldn't walk to the store without being exhausted. I was 300lbs. Now women say I have a hot bod. I worked on it. If your not happy with the way you look or your baggage change it. There's nothing wrong with Miss Lacy Bra wanting a hot guy. And there's nothing wrong with me wanting a woman under 30 with a nice bod that has no children. I deserve what I want for working this hard on myself.
If you're playing in one league and want to play in the other. Then work on it to get into that league.
Don't be bitter cause someone has been successful and proud of themselves. People generally hate others who are proud and a little arrogant or egotistical. Because they don't think they can be what the other is. You want it! Work on it!
The author of this thread may be right in many circumstances but he himself has to look in the mirror. What are you looking for? Are you playing in the right league? If you want those in a different league. Then work on it. I've been told people who use dating services generally are people who can't find dates under normal circumstances. There are many insecure people on these sites. I was one myself. That's why I'm not really looking here anymore, cause what I want generally doesn't have a problem getting dates. There are of course exceptions but from experience they are few.
What really bugs me is those that judge by wealth or what a person does for a living. Changing a finacial situation is not that difficult. But changing a person's personality is hard. You can always make more money but jerks will always be jerks.
Miss Catwm is right confidence and security goes along way. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/5/2006 7:53:09 AM | Ok ladies...let's all lower our standards just for today....NOT!
Let's face it, don't you think a lot of the men are a little picky as well - I mean not all of us are 5'2"/95 lbs with big boobs and overactive libidos!
Everyone has their preferences and things they will and will not accept in a partner. Respect that, and move on to the next. NOBODY, man or woman, should settle for less than what they want and feel they deserve, and NOBODY should tell them they are wrong for having those preferences.
The sooner you get rid of the "woe is me" attitude, the sooner you will open yourself up to seeing what's probably right in front of your face and appreciating it for what it is.
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Posted: 5/5/2006 8:32:57 AM | Yes the "Woe is me" attitude is the killer. When I wine I get no where. I fallback to that sometimes and have here too. But when your confident and secure you can do anything. My friends say I've lost a lot of that insecurity and now have more confidence. Work still needs to be done. You want it get it together!
And all men don't want a woman with big boobs or 5'2" and 98 lbs.
Anything more then a C is too big! And anything less then 125 is way to thin in my books. Women need curves and not just on top. | |
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Qt30
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Joined: 3/30/2006
Msg: 118 | |
| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/5/2006 10:49:54 AM | No wonder we're hanging out on a dating site and not getting anywhere with it. Face it men don't want women with baggage and women don't want men with baggage. HELLO we all have baggage, it's whether or we chose to carry it around with us.
There's going to be a lot of lonely men and women out there if there isn't a little give and take from BOTH genders. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/5/2006 11:02:27 AM | Groan tsk...its because they feel better about themselves when they are able to turf guys
its an erstaz form of self-esteem (every lil bit helps) and serves to validate their
"proof" of sexiness worthiness appeal etc but when you got 15 guys dying to get in your pants you must conclude how sexy you are INDEED, while a little self-deception is healthy
...only the mirror tales the true tale
to women a perfect guy is a man who is so decidedly normal, theres no way he could exceed
their expectation of perfection,let alone MEET it
thats why guys who just take it easy, laugh joke, have no probs. get a str8 up hand in life, go on dates...they are so breezy in conversation and in life a Cover Girl could fall of the page in a magazine as into their laps
they are cool without appearing shallow....such guys score dates all the time
Of course in my town, it helps if youre fair skinned or in some cases a black man who seem ok enough to prostitute themselves to the un-satisfied female cause...and the more willing the particpants the more trashy the outcome...acccorinding to some ppl anyway. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/5/2006 3:04:12 PM | If anyone wants to settle, can't you do that in real life in your limited circles?
But here you expand your circle with a chance of the medium of the internet to possibly increase the pool of those things that could potentially make you happiest. When both are happiest, the prognosis for the future is a lot better.
I am not Bruce Willis' better looking kid brother, I don't fly my own plane, I don't boot scoot nor do I Watusi, I am not an ambassador to the UN, I didn't design the international space station, nor when owning my own home instead of renting is a priority will I make a house payment on a Harley. But I try to show who I am in my profile and keep up the "real" if we chat and if I'm not their cup of tea, no offense taken. Don't settle. | |
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Catwm
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Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 121 | |
| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/5/2006 3:09:32 PM | Thanks guys, I think that everyone should try to take a realistic approach to this online dating game. There is too much emphasis placed on pictures, profiles and emails and not enough placed on the truth, honesty and other issues.
Realizing that you are not perfect really goes a long way in helping you find good dating choices.
Omg..................I sound like Dear Cat............lol | |
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Posted: 5/5/2006 3:33:50 PM | No wonder we're hanging out on a dating site and not getting anywhere with it. Face it men don't want women with baggage and women don't want men with baggage. HELLO we all have baggage, it's whether or we chose to carry it around with us.
^^qt30 ... its very true..an ur right ..its all how we carry it into our future...my past relationships have nothing to do with the next guy....an lets say...if he was to trigger something thats happened from my past then i guess its an issue that wasnt resolved properly..and its not his fault it happened. i guess what i was saying no ones perfect an we all have or had issues we dealt with...just a matter of puttin it to rest an movin on...seems most cant get past the resentment an hang on to the hurt. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/5/2006 5:23:04 PM | most of the women on this site are looking for the nonexistant perfect man WHY??
Probably the same reason many men are looking for the non-existant perfect woman. Because they disillusioned. | |
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| women on this site are kidding themselves
Posted: 5/5/2006 5:32:30 PM | | because if they lowered their expectations they'd get scum...........at least they can get 80% of what they are looking for and be happy | |
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