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| Do nerds actually have girlfriends?
Posted: 4/27/2006 1:56:28 AM | | Don't worry, nerds always start out slow when it comes to love. I didn't have my first girlfriend until I was... um... well... I know it will happen soon! | |
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| Do nerds actually have girlfriends?
Posted: 4/27/2006 7:37:34 AM | Hey homeboy you got what alot of people want....your edumakated
You know a couple of other languages..which means your cultured....
The list gos on and on....I whish I had a 140 IQ....your lucky...If I where you....I would have the most confidence out of anybody.
You can be anybody you want...just think...when you get the high paying job, and you have the nice home....guys like me will just be passing through, your nice hood, wishing we were you..so in summation............you have so much, go out and make it all come true, then you will come around...oh and by the way..........
SMACK, SMACK SMACK.......that was me hitting you in the head for not haveing self confidence | |
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| Do nerds actually have girlfriends?
Posted: 4/27/2006 8:42:28 AM |
Nerd=academically excelling (think the brains from Saved by the Bell)
Geek=adictions to gaming, magic, anime, collecting strange things.
Dork=Silly, slightly socially inept (tends to make a fool of themselves willingly to make friends).
This is my ex husband to a T and this is one of the reasons he's my ex! Not that nerds aren't cool.....cuz, I love 'em....just try to be married to someone who is at at LEAST some kind of level 50 or some sh!t on World of Warcraft...has a raid, so they can't go out to dinner or have family night!  omg, the list goes on and on! Man, and he was so hot too.....my friends all thought he had anti-social disorder (or whatever it's called....) ::::sigh:::: | |
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Posted: 4/27/2006 8:48:38 AM | Come on now........ is Bill Gates not a nerd???? Of course he's a filthy rich nerd, but a nerd none the less.
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| Do nerds actually have girlfriends?
Posted: 4/27/2006 9:08:46 AM | Gotta get a social life, and mmorpg's don't count, i don't care how many Tauren Shaman's you can slay or how many Nightelves you can pwn, hanging out in Ironforge is just not the same thing.....
Get into sport, join a gym, do martial arts (worked amazingly well for one "nerd" i know).
Im trying to say this without being offensive, i was in your position back around 1998-2000, so i know where your coming from.
My biggest issue was losing my highschool friends, in many ways im glad i did though because id be in prison by now.
Its crazy, once you start moving in social circles its like a big uphill exponential curve... slow to start but fast once it has. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2006 10:13:49 AM | To the OP, let me ask you a question. I play WOW and I have a level 60 Feral Druid and a level 18 Rogue. I managed to do that over the course of a year in my spare time. In the meantime I've been going out with friends, having a good time enjoying life.
I have NO PROBLEM approaching women, anywhere - anytime. Now why is that?
Is it because I am some "hot guy"?? No. I'm 5'10, 160lbs and would consider myself fairly average. I don't often get turned down when I approach women. Now why is that? Given that I am just an average guy, you'd think that every woman I talk to would be turned off.
Not the case.
It's all about confidence. If you are confident in yourself, deep down, women will sense that. In the same context if you are not, they will see right through you.
My friend, it's like a golf swing. If you have never been to the driving range, if you have never swung a golf club, don't expect to smack the ball 320 yards down the middle of the fairway. Not gonna happen. However, if you pick up your clubs every day and spend an hour or so at the driving range, within a few months you'll be able to hit the ball long and straight.
It's like that with dating. If you never start saying "to heck with it" and just start talking to women, you'll never get good at it. How can you expect to succeed with women when you really haven't practiced at all?
The bottom line is it doesn't matter if you're a nerd, overweight, short or unattractive. If you have confidence in yourself, if you just practice and get comfortable around women you'll start to build up the kind of confidence and self-esteem that translates into success.
You can sit around and play WOW all day or you can go grab a beer with your friends and start practicing. You have to start somewhere.
The question is how long are you going to wait before you start? Women aren't going to find you my friend. You have to go find them.
And PoF might ban me for this but your BEST bet for meeting women is in person, NOT online.
Cheers. | |
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| Do nerds actually have girlfriends?
Posted: 4/27/2006 12:37:47 PM | Being or not being a nerd is all upto you.My sister could be considered a nerd because she is way too brilliant,gets all straight A's, but she is drop dead gorgeous too...and guys hit on her all the time......so go figure...all you have to do is have a fashion sense,dress up properly, keep up with the world and have some confidence and it won't matter if you are a nerd or not.Girls will flock to you.If you keep on calling yourself a nerd then everyone else is going to think of you as one.I have met many men who look like nerds but with a little bit of fashion sense and confidence, they could be goodlooking models.Its all upto you, you are 24 and I'm sure you earn money, so what is stopping you from getting a complete makeover and not being a nerd anymore?I never could figure out why does one have to be a nerd to be intelligent. | |
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| Do nerds actually have girlfriends?
Posted: 4/27/2006 12:44:49 PM | Here's a thought.....
I work for a software development company so you know this place is like nerd central. However, much to my surprise, at the Xmas party just about everyone had girlfriends or wives and interesting thing is....alot of these women were good looking. So is it the money? Or women really do like a nice guy? Who knows? I'm still shaking my head at it all because I'm not a nerd and i'm much cooler than these guys and i'm still single! | |
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| Do nerds actually have girlfriends?
Posted: 4/27/2006 4:08:22 PM | Pobricito, no debeas ser tan animal! Las chicas espanolas tienen un piensamiento que le dice este chico es muy malo y namas que quire ir al la cama. No tiene respecto!!
I date a nerd and we have little in common on the surface, but so much underneath. Just chill a little sweetie, look for women who know how to enjoy a person. Don't get down to just basics!!
best wishes
Excuse my spelling and bad grammar!! | |
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Posted: 4/27/2006 4:51:21 PM | You know this sounds alot like the guys on here complaining that nice guys finish last and that's not always true. Personally, I think you are being to hard on yourself. Quit adding the extra pressure on yourself and clean up your profile. Remember that females and males don't like self pity, be more positive and look at being smart as an advantage. Knowledge is power, remember?, and it leads to success in your life and if a woman wants no part of that then you say, "ok, well have a good life."
Give yourself some credit many woman love intelligence in a man and that you play video games or read the comic books, whatever the case may be. When it all comes down to it I think we all have our nerdy habits for example I play xbox games and loved buffy the vampire slayer because of the metaphoric meanings that related to life, that I love Zach Braff off of scrubs because I think he is the cutest guy ever. I too graduated with honours in highschool, and I worked hard for that. Does that make me a nerd?, well maybe, but these are things that make me unique and that I am proud of because it is part of who I am. Perhaps you should stop questioning these things and just get comfortable with you being just who you are. In my opinion no person has any business entering a relationship unless they are comfortable with being in their own skin. But in the mean time sit tight and enjoy the ride. Life is too short to sit there and question every motive. And lastly, be patient your time will come. | |
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| Do nerds actually have girlfriends?
Posted: 4/28/2006 6:47:32 AM | If nerds don't get girlfriends...then I am not a nerd
But, I am a bonafide NERD.
A true Nerd needs to be themselves, have fun and most of all enjoy who they are! | |
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| Do nerds actually have girlfriends?
Posted: 4/28/2006 7:08:35 AM | 140 IQ
Mines higher, though I find quoting numbers vulgar.
4.76 GPA in high school
We didn't have that in the UK, though I was very good at school and still am.
World of Warcraft level 30 human mage
Bit busy at work now, though in my mid 20's I was quake clan and good.
stays home and studies and surfs the internet on weeknights
I live and work online most of the time.
asked out 8 girls since age 18 and got the "boyfriend" answer every time
You might want to make an effort and get a 0 after that 8.
plays D&D
I used to write for TSR for competition gaming and DM'ed a lot of tournament games.
Dean's List at college
I was school captain at school, year head at college and year and head rep at uni.
Had 1 girlfriend, but in middle school
I've had 6 long term, and loved them all.
talks to other nerds
Me too, they have something to say other than "shoes are pretty" or "look at my sweet truck".
speaks three languages fluently( 2 learned in high school)
3 too can get by in 6.
Passes every nerd quiz on the net
I gave up doing them got boring.
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So what's the difference between us as I rate higher on your self imposed list of "woe is me nerdness list" , apart from a few years in age ?
I'm happy about being clever, don't feel the need to talk about it, I've no self pity or reason to blame life and I get out and talk to lots of people, guys and gals. Enjoy life, get out and don't think of girlfriends/wives/partners, I think of friends and good times.
Guess what girls come and talk to me and hang out, because I'm happy care free and seem confident. It's not a process, a exam you can pass to get, a 9th level spell that you can cast etc.
It's a state of mind, and yes it is that easy. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2006 7:14:34 AM | I suppose I would be considered a nerd. I few years ago, most definitely, but I've mellowed out a bit. I'm quiet and introverted, but less so. I have degrees in computers and sciences. I teach, in fact much of my work is online. I used to like sci-fi quite a bit. So that probably qualifies me as a card carrying member.  I wish I had the OP's ability to pick up languages though! Now that's talent in my book! 
I noticed the OP is from Florida and it may be a tough market for us. I've heard this from other nerdy singles. I don't know why, as there are plenty of universities, but then we are competing with the beaches. Having no luck once bothered me a lot, now only every so often. I've just developed new interests, started traveling and keeping busy.
The OP sounds like a real winner, don't beat yourself up. 
Tina | |
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Posted: 4/28/2006 7:32:32 PM | talks to other nerds
Me too, they have something to say other than "shoes are pretty" or "look at my sweet truck
Yes, issues that actually concern the world as a whole such as global warming, commercialization, overcrowding, and the Illuminati are better than "I'm the best basketball player alive" lol.
I wish I had the OP's ability to pick up languages though! Now that's talent in my book!
I'm going to learn Chinese, Japanese, and German next year at USF in Tampa.
I have come to find out UFO's are a big subject with the Hispanic community. That's one
reason why some nerds are going out with Hispanic women. Vicente, a Hispanic phone
operator at work is trying to hook me up with his gorgeous cousin, Samantha. Ella esta
mucha bonita! Que bonita! Me gusto el foto de ella que Vicente tiene mostrar mijo.
I'll have more on this subject later. Adios et bon voyage! | |
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Posted: 4/29/2006 12:56:41 AM | Have you ever thought about asking out a Hispanic woman? Your Spanish is better than average.
Just hang in there, you'll meet a nice girl eventually.
Don't give up, either;Barry Bonds doesn't hit a homerun every time he bats.  | |
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Posted: 4/29/2006 1:20:40 AM | Well after reading your profile, I can see why your not getting any action.
Everything in your profile is geared for: hot girls, british women, girls, Candian girls.
Your profile reeks of desperate. put that together with non-social that = lonely.
Get over your acedemic learning(so your smart, big deal), self-pity party (nobody wants me) and actually get off your butt and talk to people. Stop thinking of EVERY WOMAN you meet as a blow up doll or sex toy and treat them as people and it may surprise that women will want to go out with you.
That's my two cents. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2006 6:53:16 AM | Florida is quickly becoming (if it hasn't already become) California east. You do compete with the beaches. The only hope really is finding some folks in north florida who are real Southerners, or the middle of the state. Otherwise it's just jock and ho city.
~Aurora | |
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Posted: 4/29/2006 7:00:51 AM | nerd = just a meaningless label
stupid to call someone a nerd or anything else
narrow minds need to classify people in little classes little boxes because they are unable to comprehend the entirety of a personality... | |
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Posted: 4/29/2006 3:40:28 PM | The demand for so-called 'nerds' in developing nations has never been greater," explains sociologist Peter Pendlon. "They need lab researchers to battle deadly epidemics, computer wizards who can help to bring their economies into the 21st century, and many other 'science geeks.'"
These emerging African and Asian nations are rich in natural resources and money is no object -- brainy folks willing to work overseas are guaranteed handsome incomes. But the number of American pencil-necks is dwindling, as plummeting math scores demonstrate -- and overseas demand is fast outstripping the U.S. supply, the Washington expert says.
"Third World countries are racing to educate their own people in math and science as fast as they can, to generate their own crop of homegrown nerds, but that will take decades, of course," says Pendlon, speaking at a recent D.C. conference on global trends.
"To accelerate the process, at least 11 countries are quietly introducing 'intellectual-breeding' programs. And to ensure the best gene pool, they've begun to import Americans with proven math and science skills for the explicit purpose of reproduction."
While some countries like Nigeria recruit sperm donors, others entice the often-bespectacled, sex-starved social misfits with promises of a chance to bed down with one or more of "our beautiful, exotic local women."
Nerd recruitment ads are now cropping up on the Internet.
One particular ad cited by Pendlon calls for men "with a minimum I.Q. of 150, science background, glasses not necessary, wanted for sex, salary in high six figures -- guaranteed."
Intriguingly, Pendlon blames the war on terror for the U.S. nerd shortage.
"While nerds are in high demand overseas, the interest in quiet intellectuals has never been lower in America," the sociologist notes.
"Our leaders set the tone. As long as we have a macho president and are waging a war on terrorism, our society will devote its efforts to churning out square-jawed 'jock' types, more comfortable around guns than books.
"You could say that under President Bush, the smart, mild-mannered American nerd is fast becoming an endangered species.
"Perhaps this breeding program is coming just in time
I really,really want to sign up for this lol.
Words from an E3 booth babe:
"It's weird when they put their arms around me," she replies, "but then I feel them shaking and I'm like, whatever, if it's so important to you . . . it's funny when guys come up to me and tell me that it's their first time touching a girl."
They're more nerdy and wide-eyed and so excited that you're actually talking to them. They seem so un-used to seeing girls. I guess they just play videogames and don't go outside much
See, not all us nerds have girlfriends. Hell, some haven't touched a girl for the first time due to feelings about being inferior due to countless rejections and these females staying with the Neanderthal-like boyfriend.
In the real wild kingdom, there are some examples of female animals choosing the most aggressive, or "jerky," males for mating. And it's interesting to note that many species where females choose aggressive men are now going extinct.
"Human females need to follow the lead of our guppy sisters and progress to choosing men based on qualities that aren't ultimately damaging to us. We are choosing jerks, which, through the process of natural selection, is causing there to be more jerks.
If we keep this up, every single man in the world will be a jerk. If we can't give up jerks for our own good, we have simply got to do it for the survival of our species"
And guess what -- when he says he's going to call, he calls. And when he takes her to a movie, well, it usually has aliens in it, but that's a small price to pay for dating a nonjerk. A girl needs to do her bit for the survival of humankind, so ask yourself, are you doing your part?(this statement is to females) | |
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Posted: 4/29/2006 3:45:58 PM | | Dude, my estranged husband was a triple major in college(Math, Physics, Computer Sience), In a monthy D&D group the DM spent close to 20 yrs on nuke-sub, all the others equaly brainy/geeky none lack for companionship of the oppisit varity and we are all in our 30's-40's. Just got to get out there and present yourself well... I know it's hard, I'm starting over from scratch after 21 yrs... It can be done. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2006 6:10:46 PM | Beffers65,
You have to be smart to work on a nuclear sub. Sorry for the articles, but I had to post some information on this issue. Today, my female cousin Frances saw me on the computer
looking at real estate on the computer and said this to me: "Matt, I know how you feel. You're 24 and need to date and learn girlfriend-boyfriend relations, so I am trying to get my friend Karen's 20 year old sister to go on a blind date with you. You shouldn't be on the computer like this on the weekend." I immediately said "Thank you, Frances. It's actually something Holly(my younger sister) wouldn't do. I gave her a hug. She said she is
really trying to help me. She's had 4 boyfriends so far in her life and is only 13 years old,
but don't underestimate her. My cousin is smart for her age. I know I just gained more
respect for her. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2006 8:35:41 PM | 140 IQ... Mines higher, though I find quoting numbers vulgar.
Jemue, that would be "MINE'S higher"
I love all the posts from guys that say "hey, I'm a nerd, but I'm also a bad-ass, super-confident motherfrakker who gets tons of chicks and I don't need to brag about it."
Except in a public forum.
On a dating website.
If you're super intelligent AND really confident AND get lots of chicks AND - above all - you're bragging about it, guess what?
YOU'RE NOT A NERD. | |
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