| | What is the ideal height difference between a man and a woman?Page 7 of 9 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9) | I must admit, I like a man who is tall (over 5' 11") and slim. I am 5' 6". I just feel protected and more feminine if the man is taller. I can also wear high heels if I want to.
My friend's husband is 5'5" and she is 5'7" which she says has never bothered her, but she always wears flat shoes and never heels. I would find that a pain because I like to wear heels myself. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2012 6:38:13 AM | Height preference seems to have a lot to do about how it appears to other people. "well, I wear heels when I go out so he has to be 7 inches taller than me so he's still three inches taller than me when I'm in four inch heels" It makes it sound more like he's an accessory than a partner.
Personally, I don't want to have to bring along scaffolding for every time I want to kiss my man, so I prefer him to be less than 6'... but if the man of my dreams is taller than that I'd get used to it I'm sure.
As for shorter, I've never dated anyone shorter than me. I think most men just tend to be 5'5" and over so the pool of men under 5'5" is pretty small. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2012 6:49:03 AM | As a petite woman I'm only 5ft. I am the shortest in my family. My one.sister. is over 6ft. I have not found many men my height or shorter. I do know dating guys over 6ft tall is a pain and I do feel like I am talking to their belly buttons.
What I don't understand is why men get angry if you aren't attracted to them for what ever reason. I am relatively thin and I don't like dating guys who are over weight. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2012 7:22:28 AM | | Being 5-4, I don't really have much wiggle room for negotiating. It's one of the things that gets me written off early and often in dating. I don't mind a woman that's shorter than me, my height, or even taller so long that it's reasonable. It’s a pretty frustrating thing to deal with, because I have other good physical attributes. I know I’m attractive and I do my best to stay in relatively decent shape. I’d also hope that my personality and intelligence would also help compensate for the difference in height, but sadly it continues to be one of the first things people use against me. If I were overweight, I could actually lose weight. If I had long and unkempt hair, I could get a haircut. If I had no sense of fashion, I could always change up my look. But my height? That’s one of those things that simply cannot be helped. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2012 8:45:15 AM | Presumably, you could wear high heels if you wanted to even if the guy was 3' 6" tall. Picking guys based on the shoes you like is sort of weird, but to each her own, I guess.
Well, it can't be much fun when your sense of personal safety and femininity are dependent on external factors (like who you're standing next to) and not from within.  | |
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Posted: 4/3/2012 9:15:55 AM | i cant date someone smaller than me., i dont know why i just cant. . . . .
tbh i didnt think someone to tall was any good either but after recently starting to date someone who's 6ft4 ish, (im only 5ft5) i love it :D
althought provided they werent smaller than me i wouldnt mind an height x | |
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Posted: 4/3/2012 10:00:26 AM | "I did date a guy that was 5 ft 4 - the stares we got in public were awful. People did a double take. I remember my friends even said he was too short for me. It did not really bother me - just their reactions got tiresome."
Now you know how men feel when we date fat chicks. Big girls are nice and worth dating, but the stares we get from other people and my friends' negative reactions when we go out is just unbearable.
Women want a tall guy first, a good & honest man comes second. | |
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| What is the ideal height difference between a man and a woman?
Posted: 4/3/2012 11:44:04 AM | | I am a fat chick and no one has ever stared at me when I was on a date, even when the men were very tall and thin or very short and thin. I did get some strange looks once when out with a man who was very tall and very large. Might have been cause I am 5 feet tall and a smaller bbw. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2012 3:15:59 PM | I don't think there really is an "ideal height" since really, it's all going to be subjective and more a matter of personal preference than anything. I'm 5'7" and-a-bit, and I've never dated anyone taller than 5'11", now that I think back on it. Not for any reason in particular, I simply don't recall ever being asked out by a man who was 6' or taller.
I suppose I would still be considered a height snob, though, in that I do prefer a man to be at least an inch taller than myself. Most of the men I've dated have been on average in the 5'9"-5'11" range; my husband is 5'10" tall. Since I don't tend to wear stilettos as a regular practice, my height in heels compared to a man has never really concerned me.
For myself, if it had been the right person then I suppose I might have, but too much of a difference in height either taller or shorter, and one of us is craning our neck all the time so I just never saw the point in seeking out giants. JMO. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2012 10:30:59 PM | I would guess zero to six inches in either direction would be ideal for handholding, or making out while standing. But like someone said earlier, we are all the same height lying down...
Honestly, if a guy is healthy, kind, stable, capable of commitment, compatible with me, free of diseases and alarming sexual fetishes, I couldn't care less how tall he is. | |
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Posted: 4/4/2012 3:40:08 AM | Sorry if you find that shallow, Luke, but everyone has their preferences. (and it's not just me who likes tall men).
I definitely don't see a man as an accessory either! I have dated men who were not that tall and it was more important that they were a nice person and that we had some kind of spark between us. If we hit it off, it wouldn't matter about their height. There are obviously much more important things than that to think about.
If you have chemistry and they are lovely and tall, then that's just a bonus! | |
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Posted: 4/4/2012 5:26:37 AM |
Well, it can't be much fun when your sense of personal safety and femininity are dependent on external factors (like who you're standing next to) and not from within
To be fair, that’s stretching what she said a bit much.
I’ve walked the streets of Denver with a guy friend over six feet tall, and being a 5’ 3” woman, you’re darn right I felt safe and protected. Besides that he looked like a badazz cowboy so that helped.
Also I don’t feel varying degrees of femininity in different pairs of shoes…unless I’m wearing four inch stilettos with black stockings but then we probably wouldn’t be out in public long, anyway.
I like long muscular man legs. That just turns me on.
Just like some men prefer blondes or redheads…. I don’t get all upset about it just because I’m a brunette.
Women want a tall guy first, a good & honest man comes second.
You’d know, right? (eyeroll)
How is being attracted to tall men being a hypocrite? Is being attracted to men with ripped torsos being a hypocrite too? If so sign me up.
Anyhoo most men are taller than me so I’m not gonna worry about it. | |
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Posted: 4/4/2012 7:59:22 AM | Ladies, I wouldn't dream of criticizing either of you for being more attracted to a certain physical characteristic in a guy (it is what it is), I hope I didn't give you the impression that this was my intention.
In the end, I appreciate it's not my place to tell anyone who or what they should be looking for or attracted to. I just can't relate to the thought-process of selecting a partner because of how it makes me look comparatively or feel about myself (as opposed to how I feel about them), or because it makes me feel more comfortable in the knowledge that our pairing properly conforms to established societal stereotypes ("women should be shorter than their partner in order for women to feel and be perceived as feminine, and the men to feel and be perceived as masculine") and that others won't stare at or judge us together.
I know that many women exist out there who are preoccupied with such concerns, and if this doesn't apply to you, then please disregard my comment. 
If wearing heels makes you feel good about how you look, does it really matter if those heels make you look a bit taller in comparison to your man? | |
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Posted: 4/5/2012 11:19:50 AM | | I am generally attracted to men who are several (4-5) inches taller than me. There are other factors, but that's the part about height. I guess that's pretty typical, seems like many if not most women have the same preference? | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 11:36:06 AM | A guy I used to work with in the past, he had a brother who was about 5'6. Well he met a girl who was 5'9 and got along really well to start and then they went out on a first date and apparently some people around them, like strangers, made comments. And when they ran into some of her friends, he overheard her friends saying he was too short and she could do better. So after the date, she ended up just telling him she couldn't see him anymore. And he asked why, that they were getting along so good, and she told him point blank that it was really bothering her about his height now. And she was sorry but she had not thought of the issue before really but she had decided that night she just wouldn't, under any circumstances in the future, date a guy shorter than her. And that she was sorry she hadn't really realized this conclusion earlier.
Six weeks later, the guy won the lottery. Not one of the huge jackpots that makes the national news, but over 10 million dollars, and it made his local area news. The girl came back about a week later and found him as his apartment, and said she had rethought things and she was wrong about her stance earlier and she wanted to give him a chance. About that time, this guy got like 10-12 phone calls from women he knew in the past wanting to reconnect and "meet".
My coworker told me that his brother just politely said no thanks and then went into his apartment and just cried in private for an hour. Apparently the guy doesn't even date now, just lives quietly and doesn't tell anyone about the money. I don't know what it's like to be a woman and have men treat you like a piece of ass or a piece of meat, but I'm pretty sure this was the equivalent for this guy. He wasn't even a person anymore, he was just wallet and a chance to get fancy dinners and a nice car or something out of it.
I've seen how some women in general treat me compared to some of my vertically challenged friends and it really sucks to see. Not just for dating, but for everything.
Sometimes I forget why I stopped dating. Why it just hurt my head too much to see how vicious people are to each other. Not just women to men, but also men to women. Then I think of this story I remember and I see threads like this and I remember why I just said ok, enough is enough. | |
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