| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 6/12/2006 8:33:33 PM | I think I have no clue as to what that is...other then what videos and internet sites show me. Heh! | |
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 6/13/2006 5:50:26 AM | | casual sex is fine as both people can be honest about who they have been with to many std out there scarey stuff. but do u realy think ur so called ****ing freiend is going to say i got some last week prob not... makes u think. well lets give some info here 1 out of 25 people in canada have the hiv virus ya a condom and hopes it never breaks can fix that. Gental herpies is the oldest std going and 1 out of 4 women have it and 1 out of 5 men have that. makes u realy think there. like what r u to say let me check u out for any bumps lol. naw i prefer the lets get tested together and the relationship thing, i know cheating can go on in any relationship but i still prefer the bf/gf thing myself....... | |
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 6/13/2006 6:47:40 AM | I prefer the relationship thing too...as was stated earlier in this thread, I don't drop my drawers lightly either. Maybe it's an age thing, but, once upon a time this was okay for me. I grew up in a different time though, and went through the hippy/free love stuff, all well and good then but the times have soooo changed from back then. Casual sex leaves me cold.
I'm fine with this way of thinking. Not everyone feels the same, to each his own. I know that at my point in life, I don't want casual in my life. It's distracting as well as after awhile it leaves you empty. I need that connection, and if it's absent I'll do without. If I've made any mistakes in my life, it's been about treating myself as I would like others to treat me....and vice versa. | |
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 6/13/2006 8:45:43 AM | I would like to know what it's like to have a penis then I would know how sex feels like for a man.....just for one day, err... night!!  | |
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Joined: 1/2/2006
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 6/13/2006 10:06:33 AM | | I have tried the casual sex aka **f**k buddy...... and for me it doesnt work because its hard not to start having feelings for that person esp when it becomes a regular roll in the hay and your start to get closer..... so for me i will do with out till i find that person that i want to have in my life all the time and **make love** not just have SEX | |
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 6/13/2006 12:55:07 PM | interesting article on www.savethemales. ca
For me it is more important to be in a relationship. | |
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Joined: 10/15/2005
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 6/13/2006 1:00:05 PM |
...then I would know how sex feels like for a man.....just for one day, err... night...
Er...
10 seconds... | |
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 6/13/2006 1:47:20 PM | | To me, sex=emotional involvement, if there is no emotional connection, theres no sex. I did it once and after I cried, have no heart for it, or too much heart. | |
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 6/13/2006 4:04:08 PM | /\/\/\/\/\/\/\ .....
I'm not one for casual sex either. I've only deliberately tried a one night stand once and it turned into a long relationship that I didn't want and both of us ended up losing with a lot of hurt, guilt and manipulation. I don't want to experience that again, from either side.
I would prefer to get to know somebody and build more than just a sexual relationship. I guess I feel a connecton should go deeper than sex, which is why that relationship went on as it did. I don't consider people disposable, and casual sex encourages that.
I want someone to Rock my World, not just my bed.
I'm patient. I can wait ... and wait ... and ...  | |
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 6/13/2006 4:32:51 PM | | Well I have to say that casual sex is good if both know it for what it is...however I would also have to say that making LOVE is soooooo much better.....but when you are not in love and you are with someone who is attracted to you and you to them....and BOTH know it for what it is....be safe and thats THEIR choice and no one else's. my two cents | |
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 6/13/2006 7:38:44 PM | I guess I see casual sex as something that's out there for those who are not emotionally available. Have I been in that category? Absolutely! I think most of us have to a certain extent.
When it comes down to it, if you're in touch with who you are, you're comfortable with yourself, you're healthy, happy, etc... it can be fun, but hardly fulfilling! You can really only get that true satisfaction when you wake up in the morning next to a person and know that the person laying next to you actually cares about you, cuddling up together, laughing your heads off, and knowing that you get to do it all again!
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 6/13/2006 8:04:46 PM | Probably in the minority here for guys but it's not my cup of tea...
I like the lead up..the tension...the non-contact foreplay..the thrill of the chase. I've done the casual thing...and all that somehow gets lost.
then there's the post sex stuff that's nice too...well not the "clean up"...LOL
The cuddling afterwards, the talking, and eventually the falling asleep...again..things that are not typically included in the casual sex thing.
Having said all of that...to each their own! I'm 100% behind casual sex if you're into it!
and having said all of that...(and I think Roxy mentioned this waaaay earlier in the post) if I go much longer without..the casual thing might start to look better! LOL!!! | |
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 6/14/2006 1:52:57 AM | I don't know about this one.... I'm sure as hell not going to say it's WRONG, though! That's just not my place.
Maybe wrong for me, though. I don't think I could leave my panties in a bed without leaving at least a hunk of my heart there. And then there's all the goodies that go along with sex that would be missing... I guess if it were a friend... but then... that crosses over that friend line and makes them a lover... hmm... Meh - most likely not... though I admit, a "casual" lover would come in most handy on occassion.
And a stranger/someone I'd just met? Hah. Absolutely not. | |
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 6/14/2006 5:58:43 AM | I find it really interesting that some women will meet a guy and then head to his place for a romp...how can one trust someone enough when they just meet him/her. I don't know maybe seen as I never done the casual thing or one nighter I wouldn't know. Any volunteers??? | |
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 7/14/2006 1:10:10 PM | Not into casual sex, too shallow/selfish. I feel people in that state of mind learn only how to care for themselves. They get so used to lying to themselves and justifying it to themselves it shows an internal battle is being fought for dominance, good..bad...well bad is ok if it helps me... becomes more grey and less black... opens a door for alot of other bad to become ..not so bad.... and sooner or later.. your life is a collection of moments and not a really fufilled life as it should have been.
I got into emailing a German lady, she and i got along pretty well and started calling one another after 2 weeks i asked her on hte phone what her plans were forthe upcoming weekend (Easter).. she blew my mind... she said ' think i will go to the bar and find someone to have sex with.. yes i think i will.' I was hunh what? she went on ' i will pick up a guy take him home and have sex with him... once maybe twice as the third time is when the trougble starts' i was your joking right? she goes 'no, nothing wrong with it everyone does casual sex'
I was really? i don't, i siad i would love to have you approach your mother and say... 'mom i like to take men back home to my place to have sex with them..once maybe twice mom.. but never three times as thats when the trouble stars... The same home your granddaughter lives play sleeps and feels secure, But don't worry shes never home... '
Course if you can imagine the multitude of possible endings to that you could see, why i feel it is a stupid idea in hte first place. But in life each to their own... I just hope no one is messing up their child's life, and as much as i feel that people do not realize how inteligent a child is, they may not be able to answer as many questions in life at a young age.. but in time some will remain in their heads until they do put the pieces together and realize alot of what has gone on.
Enough said i blab too much... | |
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 7/14/2006 1:25:17 PM | Casual sex must be exactly that. Not my style, but I would say,.......
Strangers meeting for first time, exchange nothing but bodily fluids and sexual pleasure.
Yeah! That about covers it.
Why on earth would this appeal to anyone? | |
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 7/14/2006 5:20:31 PM | | i find it hillarious how someone without a pic ask a question like this.. very typical behavior for someone that likes to waste peoples time with mindless questions. hmmmm you use the words "good sex" in your paragraph. i think that this could be put in a personal catagory. it depends who what and where and the woah factor. and how do you know what men want you assume men only want sex? are we all dogs cuz some of the men want sex? it seems only you are the one that is cool to screw some guys and want nothing from it but it being "just sex!"holly crap get off the pot if it wasnt of people like you give it out to the men . there wouldnt be hounds out there begging the wholesome ladies for sex. if you need sex that bad get a job in escortting. | |
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 7/15/2006 2:12:47 PM | | yeah i don't think there is anything wrong with it either. As long there is mutual respect for one another. Knowing what each other likes it can be very pleasing. | |
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| What's your take on casual sex
Posted: 7/15/2006 6:22:45 PM | | You know, I used to think nothing of it...be who you are, do what you want...until I had a few friends, who finally decided to go and do something out of character...i mean, live for the moment...and due to that, are living with non-curable viruses. So on that note, is it really worth it? I mean take a look at herpes for example. You can get it from someone, with no symptoms or lesions, just by their skin touching yours. Condoms don't really matter, they can't protect all of that area. So hey, let's go have sex..you wake up a few days later, and BANG there it is(simplex 2). Or, someone has a cold sore just starting on their mouth, only it hasn't come up yet, so you can't see it, they go down on you, there, now you have herpes simplex 1. 1 out of 4 people have it(herpes, period). How scary is that?Or how about venereal warts? Same bloody thing. You can't see them most of the time. ON a woman, they can be on her cervix. The virus can just be starting, such as a cold, and they aren't quite visible....again, condoms don't mean anything...so then what? I mean, we all try to think we are invincible, but none of us are. So really, is one night of good sex worth spending the rest of your life with a non-curable virus? Not in my opinion, but that is just my opinion. If you asked a few of my friends, they would tell you just how their lives have changed and just how unworth it (yes bad grammar i know) it was. Mind you, don't get me wrong, I am not saying my opinion is more valid than people who do go have casual sex..I have just seen a few people devastated by it, and it has completely changed my opinion, and I made myself get educated. Not only do they suffer excruciating breakouts, but, can you imagine how hard it would be to find someone who could be understanding of that? Or want to risk themselves? And these people are wonderful people..non-promiscuous and everything..so how is it fair .. but it is reality...my opinion, it's worth the wait..and hell, making love is so much better than casual sex anyhow, there i s no comparison... | |
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