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Posted: 5/2/2006 9:10:32 AM | Whether coffee will be served with a glass of water (as they go hand in hand in good establishments) or something else, the DATE on my calendar will be definitely circled 
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Posted: 5/2/2006 9:18:42 AM | | I call it the initial interview/meet. It's not really a date perse. Most of the time your trying to figure out if the real person is thesame as the virtual person you already met. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2006 9:24:56 AM | of course meeting for coffee is a "date". a date is anything that you pre-arrange, by definition.
you are "dating" someone when someone introduces romantic overtones (perhaps mutually). | |
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Posted: 5/2/2006 9:26:22 AM | It is just a meeting to see if you are even interested and might click.Hooking up to seee if this is someone you want to ever see again. Or just run for your car LOL.I usually don't meet people until I have talked to them a little first by either phone or IM.For me its not a REAL date,than after 10 minutes you can usually decide if there is any Chemistry!!! Than after you've decided,to go out for dinner than I would say it has turned into a date..  | |
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Posted: 5/2/2006 9:28:05 AM | ^^^^^^woohooo then i been on dates  i feel so much better  gotta stop confusing me here guys...wahh...
but seriously...wouldnt it be easy if someone made a manual book to do an donts for dating,..seems to be alot of talkin an thinkin bout this topic from many an yet..not enough action. in my opinion...better results goin out an meetin someone. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2006 10:05:47 AM | | Sooo, if you arrange to meet for coffee and instead end up ordering dinner then that's a date right?? Especially if he calls the next day & want's to take you to breakfast? :) | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 31 | |
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Posted: 6/4/2006 3:49:21 PM | | Why call to go for breakfast? I make a great cup of coffee in the morning | |
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| dating[is meeting for coffee a date?]
Posted: 6/4/2006 6:07:28 PM | I don't think meeting for coffee is a date. You should still try to look good just in case you want to make an arrangement for a date next time.
I have read somewhere else...for it to be a date it has to have three parts.
1. there must be food involved
2. there must be an activity
3. there must be some romantic interaction
sometimes #3 and #2 can be the same thing, but there must always be food. | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 34 | |
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Posted: 6/4/2006 6:11:15 PM | | I think coffee dates are the iffy dates. You know you are not really interested .. but feel obligated or something. A real first time meet should be a potential date. Meet for drinks first ... if you can handle being seen with him/her in public ... go for dinner and make an evening of it. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2006 6:32:26 PM | | Its a date by all definitions, meetings are for business. Since when have people started meeting to see if a date is the next step...I ask ladies out on dates not meetings. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2006 7:23:55 AM | Off the internet its a 1st meeting.... In real life its a date. Thats the way it usually is. I consider them 1st dates myself but from what I've expierenced most people I've met have called them 1st meetings when they've met someone off the computer for the 1st time, not dates..
Example if you got set up by a friend on a blind date. Would you call it a meeting or a date? Just like on the internet you havent met this person yet?
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RBM
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Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 39 | |
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| dating[is meeting for coffee a date?]
Posted: 6/18/2006 10:50:44 AM |
Why are you so hung up on nomenclature? It is a date if you want it to be a date.
That's what I was thinking. As long as both people are on the same page about it, then its a date. Or not a date, whatever the two people decide. I find it funny that so many people are so afraid of first dates these days; going out on an actual date with someone they don't know just seems to scare the living hell out of them.
Then again, isn't that what a first date is actually for? Learning about the person you're sitting across from? If two people decide they're going to meet for a 'coffee date' there isn't anything wrong with that, even if they've never met face to face before. If the first date doesn't work, so what? Setting up "meetings," "pre-dates" or whatever else just complicates the whole thing; people, just go on the date and if it doesn't work out, hey, you just made a new friend. Woo!
As for 'going for coffee' being a date, yeah, it sure is a date. I find that when I plan out a date, it usually starts at a coffee shop, goes on to involve something physical (get your heads out of the gutter...I mean like a walk by the river, wall climbing, bike ride, whatever) then ends with dinner (or lunch, depending). The coffee shop part just gives us a chance to sit and talk before everything 'really' gets started. So yeah, it could be a date on its own, or a part of a larger date. | |
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bill37
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Joined: 6/10/2006
Msg: 41 | |
| dating[is meeting for coffee a date?]
Posted: 6/18/2006 3:36:33 PM | When two people meet for the purpose of seeing if they are right for one another, it's a date.
To you posters who think it isn't....duh. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2006 5:15:34 PM | Hey, whanna go to Starbucks and get a frozen coffee? Sure.
Nice time out, yes, but it doesn't go down as a date in my book. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2006 6:29:48 PM | | Meeting a total stranger, no matter how many times you email each other and talk on the phone, can't be considered a date- it is just two people meeting to see if there is any chemistry, if there is, they make plans to go on a date. | |
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| dating[is meeting for coffee a date?]
Posted: 6/18/2006 6:42:00 PM | | Whatever you call it, it is a great way to meet someone and evaluate possibilities. It is my favorite way to meet actually. Bars are my least favorite. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2006 9:10:28 PM | coffee/drinks are fine
the only problem with coffee is that if the conversation gets really good and last long and you spend hours together talking alot... you are in a coffee shop and too much coffee is too much coffee (like Eric Cartman said: "No More Coffee!!! blarrrgg" )
I personnaly like drinks because you can drink your drink slowly and enjoy and spend more time talking rather then consumming,, if the converstation is going well, time is extended, get more drinks, if you don't to drink too much get something lite or a soda..
the point is,(in a not so loud place),
with drinks you can take your time with your own pace,
if things go badly then it will be a short stay and you got an escape
if things go well then stay longer, talk more, have more fun.
I never ever go for dinner restaurants on 1st dates just in case I get stuck with someone unpleasent and got no escape:
dinner/restaurants for a 1st date can lead to serious disaster or unpleasentness
1st agreeing on the type of restaurant can be up in the air for agreement, especially when you don't know each other yet
2nd waiting in a line up for a table can be quite uncomfy and unsettling, standing there with anticipation for a seat
3rd waiting to order,, try to have a deep conversation but to be interupted be menus, the drink and waiting for the food and the food's arrival...
4th try talking comfortably to get to know someone you don't know + chewing food at in between
5th, if you are not attracted to your date while eating your food, bring some Tums or Rolaids to help cope with the heart burns of not degisting a meal well
6th, until you finish the meal and take care of the bill, there is no escape,, so you got to put up with it, even when it's unpleasent | |
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Posted: 6/19/2006 7:37:56 AM | First meetings are hard enough. I don't call them dates, for the simple fact that is puts pressure on the two people meeting. Going for coffee/drink is a great first meet. No expectations, not too much time spent and just seeing if you get along in person. Besides, if you were to be together in the future, who wants their first date memory as a coffee shop meeting?  | |
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bill37
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Joined: 6/10/2006
Msg: 49 | |
| dating[is meeting for coffee a date?]
Posted: 6/19/2006 5:32:53 PM | Ok, so if it's done over dinner, or an activity, THEN is it a date??? lol
Too funny.
If two people meet to see if they like one another, it's a date. Period.
Then again, does it really matter what it's called? | |
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