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Posted: 10/27/2009 4:17:11 PM | I didn't read any responses based on the fact that this was a nice guy thread...
This is a dating site ...do you expect women or men for that fact to open up and tell you the truth.
people think that because I'm retired means a low income, it's been asked...and questioned. We are all programmed to automatically put labels on people based on their income or for that matter "type of employment". Some can see past that level of ideology but yet are "conformers" to the fact that they do care what their friends would think. I would like to surmise that we have evolved to a level of understanding beyond this but like they say " resistance is futile" JMO. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 4:44:33 PM | Income has nothing to do with it, I make my own money and never have desired for someone else to provide that for me. So it better be a choice of a sweet guy or nothing at all, period. If there are abusive traits--no matter what his statis would be--he'll get the boot, and mighty freaking quick too.  | |
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Posted: 11/15/2009 3:26:57 PM | | there should be some balance, in the middle, where a guy is firm and sure of himself, while also learning to let go of certain hang-ups. In other words, being cheap will make her leave, while being too generous will turn you into a doormat. Balance. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2009 9:45:34 PM | | I don't even have to think about this one..... my answer is the sweet guy with no money. It's not worth all the money in the world if he abuses you and doesn't treat you with respect. You have to respect yourself, and women who put up with jerks not treating them right just for the money have a real problem. The problem is actually with the woman.....she just can't leave. I met a guy who was really rich, but he treated women terribly. I knew this, but he asked me to go out on a date, which I did. He was ok for the first couple of times. Then he started swearing at me and talking really badly to me. I got up, told him I don't need this in my life, and he didn't deserve me and walked out on him right at the restaurant. He ran after me and told me he would give me $1,000 if I came back that night. I laughed in his face and told him what to do with his money. Only desperate women put up with this. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2009 11:59:50 PM | Hard to resist the opening for a little bad joke here.
In response to the OP, I don't see why not both.
Go for the bad guy with all the money, divorce, get a nice sum, then go live with the nice guy who is now no longer so broke.
The only one who loses in this scenario is the bad guy.
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Posted: 11/16/2009 7:14:45 AM | Awww there always has to be a choice ... I don't make that kind of choice. I only date men in the black who are sweet. Honestly there are tons of good men who actualy work and pay their bills on time, with a little extra change to go out and have fun too.
Again a trick question ... do we date a man who is broke and down n out but is so niccccce or a man who is sucessful and is nasty. So are we women gold diggers and stuck on money. Or wa wa wa do we pass by the nice guy. Please oh please tell me why nice men can't have good jobs too? Gawdddd don't you men get tired of being one of two things ...
Nice and broke
Ching ching and nasty.
Says more about the men than about the women I think.
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Posted: 11/16/2009 7:51:32 PM |
Truthfully, in my experience, most women would go for the rich prick everytime.
Sorry to have to say this.
Let the insults begin.
Pffft. Hasty generalization !
Here ya go !
http://www.nizkor.org/features/fallacies/ | |
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Posted: 11/16/2009 11:39:58 PM | Abuse is abuse ... with or without money
Nice guys finish last because they have no confidence in themselves and it comes across loud and clear!
Women would be more attracted to men with quality attributes if only they showed strength of direction and took more control.... women do not want to make all the decisions or control their guy. Well at least I don't. | |
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Posted: 11/17/2009 12:28:04 PM | | How about a decent guy who makes a decent wage. Or better yet how about a sweet,kind guy who makes a high wage. Why does it have to be one or the other. I have met plenty of nasty men who make only a small wage. | |
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Posted: 11/18/2009 10:09:10 PM | My fondest wish is that every thread ever written on every forum everywhere about the mythical 'nice' guy scorned for the mythical (insert pejorative here) guy would disappear, thereby removing the largest pool of whiny BS that has ever existed.
Bottom line, the 'nice' guy usually has no idea that/why he's not that 'nice' at all and he's too self-adoring to realize the so-called 'jerk' has a couple thousand better characteristics. If you weren't jealous, you'd think him a great guy.
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Posted: 11/18/2009 10:20:37 PM | Do people really weigh this in their decision making process? What a load of shit.
Well, he has money, but he beats my ass. I can take a pretty good punch, and I did want that new Prada purse... hell, bring it on, big boy!
Most jerks are only jerks because they tell it like it is, and if they're not interested, it hurts people's feelings who have their hopes up. I've always been mindful and respectful of others, never hit a woman out of anger, but I tell it like it is. I'm confident and capable, and make decent money according to Uncle Sam. I knew what I was looking for, and I didn't settle.
Being a jerk and being abusive are two completely different things. For a long time, I was the nice guy - the 'friend' material - and nothing more. Grow some balls and confidence, and most of those nice guys will become pretty damned good guys. Never hit a woman or child out of anger - that's just not good ju-ju, no matter how much money you have. | |
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| Sweet guy, low income OR abusive guy, high income
Posted: 11/20/2009 7:51:24 AM |
This is a question I've been wondering about for some time now. Would a woman be with a sweet guy who was responsible and not looking for a handout and would treat her with all respect, affection, love etc. but didn't have a thick wallet or would you be with a guy who had money to spare, but treated you like trash and disrespected you and abused you? I also ask this question because I've known many woman to be with an abusive guy even though he DIDN'T have money.....go figure.
These kinds of either/or questions are a bit ridiculous. It's a lot like the women who ask the men, would you rather be with a woman who was good-looking but had no personality or a woman who was unattractive but very sweet.
I'm not going to settle for someone who has less than what will make me happy, and I would expect any woman worth having would say the same about any man she might potentially be with. | |
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