| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/18/2006 8:29:07 AM | chicaboom....I have to say that was a very generalized, and if i may add, very ignorant statement.
In Psychology, this would be called "Projection"...this means, projecting your thoughts on someone or everyone else, you in effect thinking that everyone thinks the same as YOU do. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/18/2006 8:47:05 AM | I am not saying that all people under 25 are immature, nor am I saying that all those over are mature (that would be just plain crazy). But I really don't think that someone that young can really say the they KNOW what they want. Maybe what they want at that time, but time changes a person a LOT. An example would my being stupid enough to get a legal degree when I was in my early 20s. Thought I could do something for the good of society yada yada, but then I found out how corrupt the system is, and couldn't stomach being a part of it. So, after a bit of experience, I changed my mind. I completed 3 other degree programs before I was 30 (yes I cram credits and one 18 month course I completed in 6, if anyone is trying to do the math LOL) Point is, people grow, change, and change what they really want, and a LOT of those changes happen in your 20s.
I am also sure that women who do not have a child in this age bracket may be less likely to see the reality of being that age, much less as squeamish about having a relationship with such a young person. Add in that my daughter (12) has told me point blank that she would be so horrified by my dating any guy younger than 29, she would want to live elsewhere LOL, and it makes it pretty much of a no go all the way around in this household. On the other hand, my cousin, who is only a few months different in age than me, and has kids, although a bit younger than mine, was dating a guy who was only 21, to the shock and horror of the whole family LOL. Maybe I should email and ask how that is going. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/18/2006 9:02:35 AM | oh but Contraire, Madam Delytful. someone that young can in fact make a decision of what they want in life that early...not likely, and maybe very seldom, but these things do happen.
for instance...at the age of 8, Dolly Parton sang in Knoxville, at 11 she had her own radio show, and when she graduated highschool, at the age of only 18 she looked into being a great singer, and she never looked back. look where shes at now.
sounds a bit like my life...at the age of 8 I had my first computer...a Tandy, i strted programming on it, learning DOS commands. but mostly playing games. since then i have become increasingly fascinated in computers. Now i have a Bachelor's degree in computer repair and programming, an A+, a MCSE, CCNA, and a CCNP certification. and i'm looking to go back to school for another Bachelor's or maybe even a Master's.
at this current juncture ive been offered an Internship with Exxon, but ive had to put that on hold to take care of my disabled father. the internship would require me to move.
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/18/2006 9:09:40 AM | no dear girl
i do not have the brightest bulb
but it is what it is
i'm a dreamer too, so i can sympathize
with these deprived depraved horny "old hags" (quote from a 20 year old who was thinking out loud in my presence)
i generalize cuz it's pretty obvious
welcome to the rat race | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/18/2006 9:13:18 AM | “not likely, and maybe very seldom, but these things do happen.”
Sure they happen, but few and far between, so much so that they aren’t a part of what you would call the “norm”. I just think that Dolly Pardon was a silly choice for reference on this. Singers are just born to sing, same as artists are just born that way. I was, and just because I have done a lot of other things as well, doesn’t mean my art hasn’t been there the whole time.
Using your example regarding computers, are you saying that what you once thought was awesome when you first encountered them is not obsolete today? Are you still as interested, or have you moved up to newer and maybe more challenging programs? I think there is a big difference between studying them and just playing games on them. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/18/2006 9:28:13 AM | I disagree...i thig Dolly was a perfect reference. after all, we are talking about making decisions at an early age, not following through with them, or much less, being successful at it. the fact of the matter was...she made her decision at 18 years of age.
and as far as being born to sing, ive been told many times that i have a beautiful voice, ive even been in a few bands, and even traveled to Dallas and Ft. Worth to do a few gigs, but i knew that wasnt what i wanted to do. i may have been born to sing, who knows. I just decided not to make a career of it, although i could have followed in the footsteps of Dolly, or then again i could have fell flat on my face. As Dolly could very well have done also. I believe everyone is born to do somthing, whether it be singing, playing football, or repairing computers...everyone has SOMTHING they are adept at. Dolly just found hr thing. as everyone may find theirs.
but in the end its all in the decisions you make at the end of the day. some may come earlier, some may come later, i dont believe age has anything to do with anything. its about experience.
an to answer your question....computers do become obsolete, computer languages die off, and parts may short out, but computers are ever evolving, just as i am ever learning. computer science is a key example of "when you think you know everything, that just shows how ignorant you really are" | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/18/2006 9:33:22 AM |
no dear girl
i do not have the brightest bulb
but it is what it is
i'm a dreamer too, so i can sympathize
with these deprived depraved horny "old hags" (quote from a 20 year old who was thinking out loud in my presence)
i generalize cuz it's pretty obvious
welcome to the rat race
*sigh* okay... first of all....Dear Girl? take a closer look please.
and as far as being a dreamer...i think that has nothing to do with it.
what i do think is...you need serious help. get in touch with reality.
HOLD THE PHONE!!!! YOUNGER MEN LIKE OLDER WOMEN???
yes, some do, you might even say some have a preference for it. so, please be kind enough to take that blanket off of me, and speak for yourself? | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/18/2006 6:27:55 PM | I've known men/women who were 60 that couldn't hold down a conversation and alternately younger men/women who were not afraid of responsibility. Older men/women who were young at heart and would put an 18 year old to shame and 18 year olds with their own businesses that put me to shame!
People come from all walks of life. "One man's poison is another man's treasure". Personally I would say 5 years younger is my own limit, but everyone's preference should be respected. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/18/2006 8:17:15 PM | generally speaking
and upon closer observation lol
young guys will do anything that moves (dont move)
thats why old chicks get some of the overload
young guys are also generally too stupid for girls their age
so they find some stupid old chick
generally
on the other hand love is blind crippled and crazy | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/18/2006 9:51:53 PM | I am not desparate by far. Since my separation from my husband I have been involved with younger men and I think its great. Younger men tell me that they like the fact that I don't play games and I know exactly what I want. This is so very true.But, I might be an exception because I don't act my age and I tend to relate better to younger men. I find it quite flattering that younger men want to be with me. But, mind you I have recently started dating older men again. I guess it's just compatibility. Doesn't matter what age you are as long as you enjoy each others company. Just my two cents!
Cheers!
Party_girl67
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/18/2006 9:53:46 PM | WE ROCK !!!!!!
YES !!.....OLDER WOMEN RULE
>>>> by Andy Rooney from CBS "60 Minutes".
This is for all you girls 40 years and over.... and for those who are turning 40, and for those who are scared of moving into their 50's...AND 60's...and for guys who are scared of girls over 40!!!!
Andy Rooney says:
>>>> As I grow in age, I value women who are over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:
A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask, "What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think.
If a woman over 40 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it's usually something more interesting.
A woman over 40 knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of 40 give a hoot what you might think about her or what she's doing.
Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.
Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated. A woman over 40 has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn't trust the guy with other women. Women over 40 couldn't care less if you're attracted to her friends because she knows her friends won't betray her.
Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40. They always know.
A woman over 40 looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.
Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off if you are a jerk, if you are acting like one! You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her.
Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/18/2006 11:06:40 PM | | Right on outandabout! Thanks for sharing that bit of wisdom from Andy Rooney. I agree with it all except the red lipstick. Just can't do the red lipstick thing ..... I've tried. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/19/2006 6:15:29 AM | Oh my gosh i knew i was gonna have to reply to this post being a 36 yr old who is dating a 23 soon to be 24 yr old...i had a problem in the beginning with the age thing...i used to say stupid things like "why do you have to be 22?" his response was "why do you have to be 34?" so that stopped me dead in my tracks...yea we have been dating for almost two years now...we both like to pretend it is just casual...but it is not he is very mature for his age but there are times when his age shows and i am not mad or disappointed in any of these times...they make him who he is...i dont know if it will go anywhere, neither one of us do, but we are special to eachother even if we dont label it as a relationship...yea yea i could go on and on about us...but i will just bore you with one other thing and that is when he busted out singing the theme song from "Urban Cowboy" I knew i was in love with his soul...it isnt meant for us to live happily ever after but we will always be special to eachother...
Now to what outandabout quoted from Andy Rooney...that is the best and oh so true but you dont have to be over 40 cause i dont whine about the sports thing i learned to enjoy the games and if i dont i go and do something else...and yes it is more interesting to me...and the red lipstick looks good on me now...
Younger guys tell me they like older women cause we are established and dont play the games that the younger ones do and we arent about what can you do for me?? We are about what are you gonna do to make sure you just carry your half of the load...I have never dated anyone that is more than 4 yrs older than me...i am not sure why i have not been attracted to them...
so that is my story and i am sticking to it...and my $0.02
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/19/2006 6:24:41 AM | I more or less have thrown in the towel at 37. no need to bother hoping someone my age or around it will think again and give me a chance. Too many women have this mindset that men thier age (mid 30's and up) are ALL boring etc. So for me I figured why bother with a headache. Let the women have all those young guys. And one less headache for me to have to deal with.
Women when they hit 30 want young in thier 20's alot now and more and more as the years will go on. I was bitter about it because I felt insulted when women say I am boring and they have never taken the time to get to know me. All judging me and others on our age. Now i just agree with them and move forward. If I am not good enough because of whatever it is, mostly age and looks, then fine. Not my loss. I will still be smiling and having oh ya...FUN...and just say oh well you think I am boring, I know I am not.
Good luck to all and I envy you guys in your 20's. Because when I was in my 20's, women older than 30 never gave us a first look, let alone a second look. So enjoy it and live it up. ladies...good for you, if you are happy with the young guys great. But please be nice enough to not stereotype us all in our late 30's and beyond. because I do not think you know every guy personally so if you like the age numbers to be in thier 20's than admit it, don't use some lame excuse that guys your age are boring, losers etc. Because all you are doing is trying to justify your reason for picking a young guy.
I know I am an awesome guy, but hey why bother telling that when it will only fall on deaf ears. I'll let those who make thier judgement early, realize years later. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/19/2006 6:41:38 AM | a man can only speak for himself, but i would speculate:
most of the people who come here, have come here because they're having a bit of trouble getting a date (duh).
for some of us it may be bad situations...geographical, moved to a new place, work with people not your age, whatever. but i think for the most part it's people who don't have the proper hunting tools (socially or aesthetically)
they found they had trouble swinging it in real life with girls their age. so they tried this with girls they're age. then they start making passes at older women.
I'm skeptical of most of the guys spouting things about how much they love maturity and such. I think the same thing about guys on here who talk about loving fat girls. I think that 9/10 of them are guys who can't get young/lean girls. and rather than admitting that they're settling (because hey, who wants to admit that they have to settle, and who wants to be told 'yep i'm settling for you') they claim it's what they want, and often while they're at it, they pat themselves on the back for not being a 'shallow idiot'.
i do believe there are guys who honestly are attracted to maturity, and yes even fat, but i think 99% of the guys who say they dig it, would sing a different tune if they could have a lean young lass on their arm. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2006 7:38:26 AM | I understand exacty what you are saying Virginia. Most of these young guys think we are desperate and want some hot young stud to satisfy us. I always tell them that if that was what I wanted there are plenty around everywhere I go of all ages. I don't have to look on POF for that. Don't think anyone worthwhile having a relationship with is on here just looking to get laid. And if they are, then they are most likely desperate people that never have anyone at all interested in them.
An age difference of about 10 years seems okay especially as you get a little older beyond your twenties.
But you point was: this young bare chested punk wanted to just "show you a good time". Most of them are just wanting to get some weird kicks, thinking that it will make them "all that". They must have real issues and can't get a real girl their age. | |
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