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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/19/2006 8:06:37 AM | “I disagree...i thig Dolly was a perfect reference…its about experience.”
Fine, how about we agree to disagree until you get at least another ten years on and then you can speak from experience. You are only 21 according to your profile.
“wow ouch help im passing out, get the idea.”
That is another problem with them. Once dating a guy 9 years younger, (we had no clue it was such a big difference when we started dating, he thought I was younger and I thought he was older LOL) and he passed out three different times. You boys trying to give the old ladies a heart attack with this stuff? Build up some stamina before you want to play in the big leagues LOL | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/19/2006 9:39:06 AM | it's all about experience! 20-somethings think they are great in bed, 30-somethings are great in bed, 40-somethings can suck start a leaf blower for ya! I had all 3 categories. Older women are the best lovers! It's a compliment!  | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/19/2006 9:57:33 AM | Not to knock myself, but there was no question that the last youngin who made a pass at me thought of me as low-ballin, and he clearly can't get a woman his own age. Strictly bottom of food chain himself.
One group was very open with me about wanting older women-he says the younger ones will ruin you and take everything while they find themselves and who they really want to be with. An older woman, if she wants to be with you, you can trust her not to change her made once she's made it. We're secure and provide security and that's sexy to the modern man.
Then there's the curiousity factor, I have a lot of young friends that are hot, male and rarin to go-with anyone- and they can't stand not knowing what someone looks like naked, how they are in bed, etc., they are willing to have bad sex, a gross experience, even something pain, just so they can have had it. Older women are just on the list of things to do before they get old and need viagra. Hell, they even try viagra.
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/19/2006 10:07:49 AM | well if being unable to get a woman is the only thing to rate a guy as being a loser, hmmm. I guess you deserve the guys that can get a thousand of them, here today and gone tomorrow, with a trail of broken hearts behind them as far as you can see.
What ever happened to being a big sister and helping out our fellow men, If every woman were to take one guy under her wing and train him on how to get a woman, as a community service project, how much nicer a place would our society be? Its not like he has his own gender helping him out ya know, guys dont go over to each others house, and help each other get groomed, or practice dance moves in front of a mirror, like the girls do. And yet its a guys role to do the pursuing? Its called creating a success bubble for others, a technique used in helping children develop also. AFter all it is written, "if ye are not one, then ye are not mine", said your maker. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/19/2006 10:49:41 AM | I have two sons 18 and 19, through them, a few dozen other *sons* whom I help out, and through them, some more, and there have even been a few who found me on their own. There isn't any question in mymind that when *some* of them broach the subject, regardless of how hot they are or not, that they are attracted to me as a mother figure.
One is 20, I actually got to know him when I thought he was ten years older than he was and he was in an abusive situation with a lover the same age as me. He was vulnerable and had lost his mother when he was little, was being raised by an lovely uncle but was surrounded by cousins who wanted him out of favor. I've known him for four years now. His uncle passed away a few months ago. Last week, I went to visit him, made sure he had everything he needed, and waited at a gf's house for him to come by after work, we were going out for dinner. His boss kept him too long and I finally had to return home. He spent the evening with my gf, a much older lady I've known a long time and she just came up to visit me. She spent a lot of time telling me how emotional he is over the whole thing and how much he loves me for all I've done for him. When I'm with him, he is very, um, proprietory to me in his body language and he's proposed, a few times. I know he means it, and he's pressed the issue enough that he's almost persuaded me, but I can't get over the age issue. He says he wants to take care of me now. I think of him like one of my *babies* the same way my full grown sons are my babies. I can't relate outside of the *mama* zone.
Guys ten years younger, instead of 20, approach me for very different reasons, they want a stable woman, but not a mother, and certainly not a big sister. They want a family, and they worry about divorce and custody and all that. I don't feel like their mama.
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/19/2006 1:18:30 PM | well, i tend to like older women more because they are more mentally mature....well most of them are.
I ain't the clubbing type of guy and i am the type that wants to meet someone special and settle down, raise a family, but most women my age are like clubbing this, clubbing that and getting laid.
I ain't saying ALL women are like that, just the ones i tend to meet face to face, which isn't many....most of them didn't even turn up. lol
Mature women tend to know what they want in their lives, while younger women haven't got a clue. lol | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/19/2006 2:05:59 PM | It's always nice to ht on an older woman now and again, after striking out on the young ones. Like real estate young females in shape are hot property, and it takes alot of work before you can own one, but occasionally now and again, when a man needs some reassurance to his self esteem he can pick up on an older women. They tend to be more desperate, thinking the love clock is ticking, their bodies are getting flabby, just the thing a young stud needs to refuel his self esteem before hittin the market again on the "hot properties". He He He  | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/19/2006 10:21:17 PM | Iron Wolf,
I agree with you, there's more younger guy that e-mail me than older than my age, I am honored but I do respond to them nicely and thank them for the interest. I feel than I havent lost my touch even though I am old old lol  | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/19/2006 10:31:18 PM | Bannanaman, you are mean to call us getting flabby and the clock ticking lol. Some of us older women do workout and our butt dont sag and our arms are not flabby either. In other word you look at us old women like a substitute if you dont make it or pick up younger women. You saying that we are going to yes to anybody because we are old and dont have enough time to get a man? For your info, I have more energy than a 20 yr old lady lol, i do work hard to keep my body in shape. Guys dont look us down in anyway, we all get old and there's not anything one can do about it.  | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/20/2006 12:15:08 AM | | Surely you can find that with a woman of your age instead of using older women to teach you the facts that you should have learned with your younger women in your younger days. We older women look for maturity and wisdom in a man, not lustful dodgers. | |
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| This is kindof a spinoff of "guys cant get there own age are losers" posted by someone earlier
Posted: 5/20/2006 7:33:05 AM | Let me put it another way, since most american familys dont teach their youth how not to become a slut in an effective enough manner, the hot girls are gonna have lots of experience, having been with lots of guys, if you dont have experience, you cant even compete for her attention.
(confidence can be substituted for experience here as they are interchangeable) I think when a girl says she wants a guy who is confident, what she is saying, is she wants a man whore, (a guy that knows how to treat a lady)? how bout a guy thats been with a thousand women? LOL
However there is a group of hot girls who are not sluts, they usually hang out in church, and were brought up in a strict moral responsible family. An average guy, who hasnt slept around much will stand a great chance finding a good mate there. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/20/2006 8:28:34 AM | | Just thought I'd add my 2 cents...I'm a 51...almost 52 yr.old woman...I've been divorced 4 yrs..I didn't date for the first 2 yrs then was approached by a young man 31 yrs. old...at first I was weirded out by it and wouldn't go out with him...but I WAS attracted to him...he was good looking, charming, a good dancer, good conversationalist and we had a lot of interests in common...he was very persistent and I did finally agree to date him...and found I loved it!!!...I'm considered very attractive, I keep in good shape, I'm intelligent, have a great sense of humour and he was very attracted to that...we dated for awhile and then he had to leave(he was a soldier home on leave for a few months)...I still think of him fondly...since then I date nothing but younger men...I like their energy...they are still into going out and DOING things!!!...All most men my own age want is to sit around...watch movies and/or sports on t.v...have me cook for them and be in bed by 11 o'clock....B-O-R-I-N-G!!!!...been there, did that for 25 yrs...now I want to live...usually date 30 somethings and having the time of my life....go out dancing till 3 in the morning...but that's ME...you have to do whatever feels right for you...but don't generalize and say "all they want is sex"...some..yes...not all...and I don't care anymore if I'm called a cougar or whatever...I know who I am and what I want and need...and I don't feel I have to justify my way of life or the things I do to anyone...My kids are very supportative of my lifestyle (they are 27 and 26)..and they're the only ones who opinions count with me... | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/20/2006 9:04:53 AM | O/P..just have fun with the young bucks.
I was once one myself.  and believe i was
the one that started the revolution.
Use the attention as an ego boost....and hey.
.....once and a while ."treat" yourself to the hit and run....
energy abound....doesn't last long ....young bucks.It'll make their life.
I do believe the older girls enjoy te sexual chat....
I'm still waiting for the young girls to hit on us old farts.and talk sex. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/20/2006 9:40:00 AM | | Ahh Asrai you make me glad I have given up on this dating thing...it is women like you that make me open my eyes wide and realize things. Even though I am alot of fun, that is considered immature by women even your age. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/22/2006 7:03:12 PM | | Personally I see older women as fine wine- getting better with age .To label me as desperate because I like older women is your perogative .I am very ok with myself so I sure as hell do not care about the negative opinion from someone else that probably has plenty of issues | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/23/2006 9:35:35 PM | Well i can't speak for all the younger guys on here, but personally for the most part i am more interested in older women. There are many a reason behind that, but the primary one being that you know what you want, you don't play games (for the most part) and you are usually more direct and straight forward. I am sick of the games and the run-around stuff of dating girls my own age who are still playing cat and mouse. I personally am direct and straight forward when it comes to girls, i'll make my intentions clear, and if i really like the girl and want it to be more then a friendship i'll come out and say that straight up. I would like to think it's cause i am more mature or past that point in my life earlier then some others my age. Now that is not to say there aren't girls out there my age or close in age to me who aren't down to earth and straight forward etc.....but not nearly as many, they are few and far between. Perhaps that's kinda like why you often see girls with guys who are older then them.
maybe that's just me tho | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/24/2006 2:43:40 AM | I believe as the years go on, less and less men in their 30's and 40's will be dating period. As more women our age toss us to the curb for better looking young guys who will make them feel young still and be more fun.
As a guy who is 37 and considered old by many my age, I accept it and move on. No dating means nothing to me now. Just comes down to the women's preferences these days and nothing will change their minds. Just have to accept it and think of it as their loss not yours.
Life is too short to worry about if you have a date or a g/f. Not the end of the world. Eventually many women will realize what guys they missed out on. Oh well c'est la vie...I will still live it up in Vegas..solo and have a blast...anyone coming with me??? | |
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