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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/6/2006 12:18:56 PM | dbndon - "In my case, the motivation is simple: I only want one. And, because I am in no hurry, I can take as much time to look around as I wish."
I am in a hurry [so to speak]; it's not like I'm 20 & I want to enjoy the rest of my life with that someone special. | |
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/6/2006 12:28:06 PM | OMIGOSH...I think I started doing this before "technical" online dating even started!!! Something called MIRC...heck I don't even know if it's still around. Anyways, went to Australia, no love match but met a lot of great people and had a lot of fun. Now I keep the profiles up but don't date much, enjoy the forums a lot and what a way to REALLY get to know someone!! I find myself actually looking for what someone has posted (or a lack of)because these forums seem to give a really good look at what someone thinks/feels/has opinions about.
Scary thing though...went to the nursery the other day and was all muddy and gucky, saw a great looking guy without a wedding ring on (I know, means nothing)and noticed he kept going to the same sections as me...the scary thing was I never even acted on it!!! Hmmm.. what does THAT mean | |
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/6/2006 12:52:37 PM | | I got quite depressed having read this forum. I think if you rely on this site only yhen you are in for a shock. Still need to out and meet people. I still have hope that i will meet someone ...............i have had 2 wonderful relationships and can't wait for my third even if it's when i'm 60 lol............good luck in your search. June x | |
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/6/2006 3:23:35 PM | | dhub....I was on American Singles for almost 2 years. I loved the 40's room chat. I too met some really great people there, in person and just online. But most didn't seem that interested in doing more than just chatting. I've been single since 2001, but lived in some kind of fog state until 2004, when a "friend" encouraged me to try this internet dating. He said "that way you can find the type of man you want...." Well, I've met several yes, but not my type yet. But I refuse to give up. I've tried the long talks and emails, getting to know each other, before we met. That didn't work out. Then I shifted to short talks and meeting more sooner than later, that didn't work either. I know there has to be some middle ground out there. | |
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/20/2006 12:23:29 PM | Hey "Whispersof love" isn't that so true about the guys with beer bellies. I am very accepting of people as I am not exactly "Miss America" myself, but I recently dated a man from an online site for a year on July 7th. He was not great looking, had bad teeth, and only saw the negative in me and our relationship. But I accepted his faults as we were about 110 miles apart and figured once we closed the geological distance things would work a bit better. But no matter how positive and encouraging I tried to be, he pointed out all the "BAD" and NEVER the good in anything about me and our relationship! So I tired of the rollercoaster ride and being continuously belittled by a man with as many (if not more) faults than myself! One of the things that drew me to him in the first place was his supposed connection with his daughter, but in the year we dated-I met her once and he always tried to exclude my children from the mix. If guys don't want children around (atleast sometimes)-then find a lady without any!!! His current ad reads-"That he loves kids and kids are our future" also reads that he is a small business owner- which amounts to about 10 bubble gum machines he owns which all (but 2 of) are in a storage unit not in use (2 bubble gum machines does not a small business make-atleast to my notion). That is just a few of the falsifications he is claiming.
I feel if there was a bit more honesty about what people are really looking for and about their lives, things would be easier to assess in this online dating game. Why try to make yourself look like something your not and then advertise for a long term relationship??? After you meet, the person is going to realize that you completely falsified your ad (basically lying) and how do you start a long term, short term, or even friendship based on falsifications???
In order to make a relationship work with someone else, you need to be ok with who YOU are and not have to make yourself out to be more-just to impress others!!! Lets get honest with ourselves and others and maybe then we will get somewhere!  | |
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/20/2006 2:24:12 PM | I feel if there was a bit more honesty about what people are really looking for and about their lives, things would be easier to assess in this online dating game.
ahhh Sweetiepie - truer words were never written. Unfortunately a lot of good people do not like themselves very much, and feel the only way other people will like them is to be someone, other than who they are. Stay away from really negative people though, and never waste time trying to 'cheer' them up - they need professional help, not a relationship.
There aren't too many Harrison Fords (my fav) nor Jennifer Anston's on this
site, but there are a lot of nice people who have their good points and their flaws. Please don't feel you have to settle, or put up with a not-so-nice man because you are not perfect. We all deserve to be treated with respect and caring, so do not accept that treatment from anyone. | |
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/22/2006 10:05:06 AM | | So true whispers...thanks! I am a 42 year old returning college student, majoring in Sociology-so I know these thing, just get disheartened sometimes by the headgames! Thanks though, as it easier to come back to reality and continue with the positive outlook with encouraging words from another!!! I have met some very nice people on here and would have to say that I just had the pleasure of meeting another! Thank you and have a wonderful day!!! | |
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Joined: 3/15/2006
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/22/2006 4:26:25 PM | It's been eleven months for me.
Met a "keeper" after 2 months online, but she threw the hook! 
Have met several very nice women since, but still no match yet. Takes time. | |
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/22/2006 4:43:52 PM | I know exactly what you mean! All the things you described are exactly the way I feel when I go to meet someone from online. The last one was a disaster, he only wanted sex, but thats another thread, LOL. Anyway, one guy told me my pic online didnt do me justice. So, you never know. We keep trying, that frog prince is in this pond somewhere!!!!! | |
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/22/2006 6:28:38 PM | ATTENTION....ON-LINE SHOPPERS
There's a 10 minute special on sandwich boards and bubble gum machines in the produce department!! Follow the red light ?????
I've been on this site for a little over 2 months...and never on any other dating site before.
I admire your tenacity.....9 yrs? 
Now I'm really depressed.
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Joined: 6/17/2006
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/22/2006 6:43:08 PM | I have only been here for less then a week and i have noticed that it would oh so help to put a pic. with my profile then my prince shall swipe me away (lol) .Oh am sure it will take sometime for the right one to appear.Wishing us all Good Luck for the right fish and in the mean time let the fun be part of the adventure  | |
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/22/2006 10:39:47 PM | The oldtimer of the class. Been dating on and off the net for 10 years;even married a fellow chatter; marriage failed for reasons that have nothing to do with on-line or chat (it still happens). Do I believe this is a perfect world? Nope? Do I have regrets? yea there has been times, but I am still around. I date a mix of on-line and "real world". Hey, what ever gets it done.
I am optimistic that somewhere out there is "the" one, but meanwhile I enjoy what I have.
To the disappointed or desperate.......this method brings no greater quanity nor quality;only you hold that key. | |
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/24/2006 9:14:18 PM | pretty long actually....
but to be honest, i only had one long-term relationship that started online.
made lots of friends that way, but it's way too hard to get the whole "gist" of a person thru this mode of communication.
i've found real-life interaction/meeting (non-net related) to be much easier & more "fruitful" - you're instantly seeing/hearing/observing.
others have had good luck tho, so it works for some obviously. | |
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/25/2006 2:00:06 PM | | It was nice to read that I'm not the only one who has been looking online for about 8 yrs. In those years I have had a few short term relationships, made a few good friends who I still socialize with, and learned many a lesson from people I've come in contact with. I've tried ALL the single sites and found they are pretty much the same, some things worse or better than others. I take breaks from it all and go on with my life but manage to come back again after a while. POF doesn't cost anything so it is easy to keep it going. I forget who said they aren't looking for perfection, just for the one perfect for them. I so agree with that. As we get older, we realize we want that one person who compliments our lives not complicates it. So we keep our options open hoping that person will find us. Don't give up people, be true to yourself and that person will show up. | |
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/25/2006 2:30:43 PM | I've been on here sometime in between "too long" and obvious "not long enough."
As far as POF, it's only been a few months, but I've been on other sites longer. I find that many local people do not want to meet, just want to chat. | |
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/26/2006 11:09:47 AM | Shellsmack
I haven't dated anyone from any of the sites. I can't say it is someone else's fault but rather mine. It took me several years to post a profile and now I tend to draw back when someone might be interested. I find it to be my lack of self confidence that is keeping me from dating. I know I am attractive as I get looks from guys when I am out and about but don't quite know how to respond. I didn't have a lot of experience dating before I was married and now the task seems so much harder. I would like to find someone and realize that I have to be willing to put myself out there or come to terms with living alone. My new resolve is to make myself more accessible and stop hiding when someone takes the time to write to me. | |
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 6/26/2006 12:45:23 PM | Too long...... I have been doing internet dating off and on for a couple of years.....
My Ex met her Fiance' on a pay dating site and has been with him a couple of years now. Her Sister also met her Fiance' on there as well.... I had a rather long and enjoyable relationship with a wonderful and gorgeous woman I met through an internet chat site.
Sure there are lots of flaws and draw backs to ineternet dating.....but there are positives as well. I am sure we all consider ourselves good catches and we are here.....So we have to assume that there are others like us out there.
I think the key to internet dating is to take periodic breaks.... that keeps your perspective fresh and your attitude good. Also, you can't rely on this as your sole source for meeting people......this is just a little help in addition to meeting people in the real world and interacting with flesh and blood humans.....LOL | |
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| How long have you been doing online dating?
Posted: 11/16/2006 6:29:31 AM | I started more than 6 years ago... & need a break...I have had a few LTR's but in general, I haven't had the success that I would have liked...but maybe it's ME, not them! | |
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