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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 8:58:47 PM | | I'm old fashion, but not that old fashion. Especially if when your referring to money when you say ‘Successful’. Imagine hearing a wealthy women saying ‘what’s yours is mine and what’s mine is yours!’ | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 9:25:29 PM | Honestly, with society the way it is, I'm amazed there still seems to be this double-standard. When things progress into a relationship, the whole, "What's mine is yours" theory SHOULD come into play! So who cares who's making what? If you're paying the bills, have a roof over your head, drive a decent car, and can go on vacation whenever you choose... Who gives a darn who's paying for it?
I'm one of the few who are fortunate enough to love their job. Not because of the financial gain it brings, but because I truly enjoy what I do. Everything else is just a bonus. You'd be amazed how many men are seriously intimidated by this though! Everytime I start talking with someone new and my job comes into the conversation, it's never a good thing!
I'd just like to find someone who is confident enough in who they are as a person. I recently started conversing with a fellow POF'er who seems to fit the bill... I'm going to stay positive! Wish me luck!!! | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/4/2006 10:11:29 AM | I guess this question is dependent upon how you define success. For me success has little to do with your job, your paycheck, or the things you own. All of these things can be lost at any time. Barring some sort of strange accident, your personality cannot be taken away from you.
Intimidation is a question of insecurity. Who wants to see an insecure person romantically? | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:40:22 AM | eyceprincess
I now see how you got that name might chip some off your heart for the next drink.
WOW!!!!!!! that is a new spin In texas and everywhere else they are calle C.E.O.'s or presidents just never heard that term is all . Here you would be called the COO Thats funny I don't give a dam whom you are !!!!!!
Yes I have experienced the real world the one thats real to me. I am not the one that flies to and fro. And has opionin and a check off sheet for people I chose to deal with in the dating world . Yes I crave family values enough to get get along with them . But that makes me neither normal or abnormal. So I a wondering how you got this job with such a outlook.
\And not thinking that was that difficult to understan is just a way you and all the re3st of the suits say I am not and idiot its everyone else.
Get A life
Larry Johnson | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:48:53 AM | NOPE...
never does... funny enough i date on both sides of the fence... those that make more and those that make less... sometimes they have a hang up either way. But that is never a deal breaker or intimidating... for me anyways. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:57:47 AM | At eyceprincess or other executive type females.
How would you feel about dating a Mechanic, Bus Driver, Prison Guard, Equipment Operator, Mason, Electrician, Truck Driver or other blue collar guy?
Would you be able to deal with the idea that he is going to work all the overtime he can, does shift work, has a boat for fishing not yachting, his place in the country is a tent in hunting season, believes that the only brand names that are important are Carhartt and Makita....I mean to say are you really comfortable with the idea. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/4/2006 1:30:39 PM | kr8ztwin :
Hmm... Wondering if my newest fantasy could consist of 29 year old twins. 
<--- Is wondering where she should put the drop box!
Fish-Slayer:
I'm sorry, but for the life of me I can't understand your posts, nor do I think I want to. No one is being rude here, so there's no need for you to be. I fail to see how I'm the one with the "chip" here. Seems like you're the pefect example of the guy who can't stand the fact a woman is more successful than he is. Otherwise, you'd have no reason to be putting down someone you don't know!
Robert Paulsen:
My earlier post pretty much already addressed this question. Frankly speaking, I could care less what profession my significant other has. Besides, he wouldn't have to work overtime if he were married to me. 
You mentioned fishing, hunting, etc... Well, that's getting off topic. That relates to hobbies, and having similiar interests. Personally, I enjoy fishing. But I'm not big on camping. (Mainly because we did it every summer for weeks at a time when I was growing up - I got burnt out!) I also am an avid animal lover, so I'd have a hard time being with a hunter! (Yes, I eat meat - but I couldn't go out and kill it myself!)
As for brand names... I've yet to meet a man who knows anything beyond Nike or Adidas who isn't gay! I think that's just a man thing. Personally, I might have to wear Anne Klein to the office, but I put on a no name tanktop and shorts the second I get home!
I guess the point I'm making is that the amount of money you make doesn't determine the kind of person you are... YOU determine who you are! | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/4/2006 1:40:17 PM | It depends ...
Are men intimidated by women who are more successful than they are?
Personally, I don't care if you have a pot to pee in or own a dozen banks. Money, or the lack thereof, has no relevance whatsoever to my feelings about a woman.
There are men, for whom this is a BIG problem. There are also women who will be inclined to use their financial wherewithal as an emotional battering ram. I don't understand either of those personality disorders.
A closely related financial issue would be couples who insist on maintaining separate bank accounts. I say, why bother being married if you don't want to become one? | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/4/2006 1:49:53 PM | | NO! I like it. Anyone who is successful Im gald for. Im more of a traditional thinker, though. Im the type of guy who believes that if I have someone, Im willing to go to work so that she doesnt have to unless she wanted to. Is it wrong to want to take care of someone? I can still easily recognize the fact the women can be independent and take care of themselves. But I cant help it. I like the fact that I'd be hooking my baby up. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/4/2006 3:00:40 PM | eyeceprincess. The reason that I brought up the whole issue is that I can see a lot of problems associated with the difference in socioeconomic status and I think that it's rare that a wealthy woman would be willing to join in with a guy's blue collar world, friends and day to day reality.
I am not trying to take a shot at you in any way here, it's just that I really believe that there are actual barriers caused by that level of economic disparity. A lot of guys would not be "intimidated", as you put it, but rather they would see these barriers and problems.
A lot of guys would be concerned that if they pursued a wealthy woman they would be percieved as being just after her money. They might be worried that her wealthy friends and family would see him as "white trash".
It's just that there are a whole lot more issues in play here than a guy being intimidated by you. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/4/2006 3:12:19 PM | MSG41 .... Well stated.
I know that if I ever thought for a minute, "she" wondered if I was there because of the money - I'd have to leave.
As you said, many of her friends and family would always look down at you. Still, I'm not there to marry her friends and family. It comes down to how she truly feels about me and my intentions. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2006 3:25:13 PM | eyceprincess, I have a question for you outside of the dating realm. Would you mind Emailing me so I can Email you back? Unfortunately, your filters make it impossible for me to Email you directly. It's a question in regards to our line of work.
Thanks in advance. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/4/2006 3:34:14 PM | eyceprincess
Hmmmmm!
Interesting question! Can someone be more successful than someone else?
Personally I don't think so. Success can only be obtained by overcoming challenges and everyones challenges are different as are their goals in life. For instance you might make more money than me but I more than likely wield more power.
This girl last night could dance better than me......go figure.
I consider women who exit bad relationships to raise their children alone and thrive to be the most successful. They succeed in real life.
The measurement of success is never exactly the same. There is no woman more successful at being me than me.
I certainly wouldn't want to date a woman who was better at being me than me though. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/4/2006 3:42:18 PM | I wouldn't say I was intimidated by a more successful man or woman. I measure success a little differently though and from my experiences and study success in the work place is as much who you know, timing, and self sales as it is what you know. I find that women who do make more money than average still want to find a man who makes as much money or more money. Otherwise they take the point of view that they are the winner and supporting the family, and we all know how women view a man without a job. If I pick up for one second someone getting an attitude because they are more financially successful, relationship/friendship is over, and you earned a label "a$$ hole" in my book, male or female. I have had good times and bad times (slept in my car a little more than I wanted but learned a lot from it), and am on an upward swing now. Money comes and goes, success and security does not come from money, and quite honestly I believe that those with more money tend to have more expenses and less freedom until they hit the numbers where they own what they have and don't have to work at all. I would never bring up the financial subject, a simple what do you do for a living is fine.
Oh and that is not to suggest that you are that type of woman, it is just my experiences with some. I have met other women who were very successful and shared my point of view about money as well. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/4/2006 4:02:17 PM | It just seems that women who make a lot of money usually want guys that are at least doing as well as they are.
Au Contraire; these women are usually very competetive, and looking for a place where they are FREE from swimming with the sharks.
But I have dated some guys who have achomplished less and felt insignificant as a result of being with me.
That runs both ways; as I am sure you can imagine.
If you're paying the bills, have a roof over your head, drive a decent car, and can go on vacation whenever you choose... Who gives a darn who's paying for it?
Add a swimming pool......and marry me.
:angel:
In texas and everywhere else they are calle C.E.O.'s or presidents
NO they're not.
And not thinking that was that difficult to understan is just a way you and all the re3st of the suits say I am not and idiot its everyone else.
And there's your prejudice. You hate all people in suits? Isn't that like racism by clothes?
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