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Posted: 5/4/2006 4:59:04 PM | frrosty:
Will a hot tub on the deck do?
Jumper3000:
If they're my "partner", wouldn't it be "our" money?
If you mean in terms of "dating", I'd honestly say probably 7 out of 10 of the last dates I've been on, I've paid for. (For one reason or another...) I hate the old-fashioned belief that men are supposed to pay for everything. In my book, if they at least OFFER, I'm happy. But I'll almost always pay my half, or pay for the first date. Then I don't feel like I owe anyone anything. If we make it to the 2nd date, then it's his turn to pay. I like to keep it fair. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2006 5:18:21 PM | Boy frosty that made me feel bad Hmmm!!!! hate people with suits heck no I wear one . I just don't like the look down on you attitude that extrudes itself from these people. Thats all
And yes I would again like to say I have never saw the word COO unless it was and over throug of a goverment or a company . So we as gentalmen can disagree  | |
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Posted: 5/4/2006 5:28:39 PM | No I would not be Intimidated, and I have dated women that are way more successful than myself. (If measured in $). I found it no different than dating anyone else. You should not hide who you are and be proud of your success.
Some of what the guy wrote is true, I was getting comments.
What I do not understand from your post, is when you say, downplaying to avoid uncomfortable situations?? Like what? | |
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Posted: 5/4/2006 5:50:15 PM | frrosty:
Will a hot tub on the deck do?
Yes.
I'll spring for the pool.
I just don't like the look down on you attitude that extrudes itself from these people. Thats all
Then we are the same. I do not enjoy ANYONE who looks down upon ANYONE for no reason at all other than their dress or look. I said what I said because MANY people who do not wear suits or who are not so educated automatically do not like, or look down upon, or on with scorn....those who are wealthier or who do have a higher education. (or those who are not like them, to keep it simple here)
For every prejudice; there is a reverse.
I owe you an apology. I misunderstood your comment sir.
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Posted: 5/4/2006 6:01:21 PM | Here are a couple examples from recent phone conversations:
Example #1:
Him: So where are you now, Michigan or California?
Me: I'm in Michigan.
Him: Where do you stay when you're in Michigan?
Me: At my house.
Him: You have a home in Michigan?
Me: Yes
Him: Well where do you stay when you're in CA?
Me: I stay at my house.
Him: You have a house in CA too?
Me: Yes.
Him: I don't even have one house, and you have two? Can I have one?
(No, I'm not kidding... This conversation existed!)
Example #2:
Him: So when are you going back to California?
Me: I leave on Saturday
Him: How long will you be there for?
Me: I'll be there for two weeks.
Him: Is this a normal thing for you?
Me: Yes, I do the trip once/twice a month
Him: Damn, how do you have time for a man?
(This conversation took place 3 nights ago...)
Those are just two examples off the top of my head. I'm tempted to lie at times. So what do I say? I'm staying in a hotel? I have two homes because it makes sense! I spend an equal amount of time in MI and CA. Michigan is where my family is, CA is where my business is. Why stay in a hotel, when a mortgage ends up costing about the same!?! | |
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Posted: 5/4/2006 6:02:48 PM |
Example #2:
Him: So when are you going back to California?
Me: I leave on Saturday
Him: How long will you be there for?
Me: I'll be there for two weeks.
Him: Is this a normal thing for you?
Me: Yes, I do the trip once/twice a month
Him: Damn, how do you have time for a man?
(This conversation took place 3 nights ago...)
NO offence; but I see this as a valid question. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2006 6:03:20 PM | it's a control issue. If the woman makes more than the man, she's going to have more say usually, and men are either "intimidated" and stay in the relationship, afraid to say "boo";or they won't put up with it and leave.
Don't let me make the wrong impression...
I'm not saying it's an either/or case... it's just that many times one or the other will happen, in which case neither is happy... but then were women "happy" when men called all the shots?
One wonders...
It's a common problem these days because many of the work skills possessed by women are more in demand and they DO many times make more money... | |
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Posted: 5/4/2006 6:19:57 PM | Generalizing is simple-minded, I think.
As for being out of town a lot...
When you first start a relationship, do you want to spend every second together? Besides, if someone wanted to be with me that badly, I'd gladly get them a first class ticket along side me, fly them to CA, and let them play in the mountains catching some rays while I'm working. Is that a good enough solution? | |
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Posted: 5/4/2006 6:40:27 PM |
Besides, if someone wanted to be with me that badly, I'd gladly get them a first class ticket along side me, fly them to CA, and let them play in the mountains catching some rays while I'm working. Is that a good enough solution?
Will the place in the mountains have a pool and hotspring?
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Posted: 5/4/2006 6:53:30 PM | So we could hear about that on here {{{ The plane ticket}}} . Yes get me a ticket so I can see that you did it on here {{{ complained or belly ached or even brought it up }}}Boy you need some help Phone conversation the you referd to seemed to some one like me sounded pretty normal . You know I am begining to think you have trouble with Normal people | |
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Posted: 5/4/2006 7:04:37 PM | I can relate to alot of what the women and some men are saying here...I have two masters degrees...I am articulate, intellligent, assertive, with high self esteem, and have high standards for myself and potential mate...Some men are intimidated by that but then its a blessing in disguise for me cos Im very independent, need my "space" as much as any guy and dont want to be controlled by someone who feels they have to be "better" than me or be the "teacher" or "leader" to me...I run into alot of guys who need a woman to be passive, needy, fragile, always in a crisis, so they can "teach" her something, be the boss, and be the calm, cool, rational one...Then they get sick of her high drama and high maintenence after a while and dump her after being exhausted by the whole game..Thats such a turn off for me...I wanna say to them: "You should have picked someone like me and avoided the whole damn thing!" | |
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Posted: 5/4/2006 7:30:36 PM | Fish-slayer:
Do you realize you're the only one on here being demeaning? Furthermore, you have the grammatical skills of a 3rd grader! I can't even follow your posts! Not to mention, why would I want a married man, (as your profile indicates) to go anywhere with me?
What is your definition of "normal"? I highly doubt your definition is anything close to mine, simply basing that assumption on your posts.
I don't know you, you certainly don't know me. Don't make assumptions. It makes you seem ignorant. So far you've told me to "get a life", and I "need help". What are you basing that on? You seem mean and bitter. Take your happy pill and call it a night. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2006 7:44:00 PM | It really doesn't matter to me. Should be as I see it...lol, what's mine is mine, what's
yours is yours and it is a 50/50 effort to make a relationship work.
I like independant women,who go after their dreams, and if she makes more money then
me, great! It's her money end of story.
I know I know, it don't work that way,but that's the way I would have it set up. Legal papers, her money is hers and my money is mine!!!
Two people should be able to love each other without letting money get in the way. Two
people can put their share of help into a home and such, but love,communication,truth and honesty should be all that counts.
And if the relationship goes bad, you lose half of what you own, but the money is still yours.
I must be having a real pissy mood night......that don't make sense to me either....All I'm saying is,money shouldn't stand in the way of true love!
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Posted: 5/5/2006 2:35:13 AM | eyceprincess Yep!!!!! that's me have a good day . My grammatical skills are what they are I have colledge education in Welding and a degree from G.I.A .But, hey!!! you understood WHAT I SAID. Can't follow my post seem to be keepin up pretty well ole' girl. Don't sell yourself short,Yes I am married and am dam glad its to no one of your nature.
Normal is being whom you are in many manners of action. But building walls and assuming everyone else is like you then complaining because they are not seems you might need a theropist... I aploigize for demeaning you I think it was just healthy bannter. And demeaning is your way of hiding. DON'T LIKE TO HEAR WHAT A MAN HAS TO SAY DO WE????
Honey!!! someone would gladly date, be freinds, or even chat with you if you lost that shell that has grown on you to protect you from the very thing you want Which seems to be love.
And last but not least you said Man married or not I am still a man but, I wouldn't . You whine to much a lot like the Barbie doll type you are so dreaded of being like .
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Posted: 5/5/2006 2:52:22 AM | Yes, when a guy meets a gal that is more productive than they are ..they expect the gal take care of HIM. Plan and pay for his entertainment since she wants be an equal partner...
I have had a couple of dates where they mention equality ...I tell them I can pay my own bills ..thank you very much...but that opens the doors to equal entertainment bills too...
So he can be entertained while he wines and dines another ..not so equal damsel in distress... | |
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Posted: 5/5/2006 3:01:26 AM | yeah i go with what frrosty says, i used to date someone in worked back office of a large bank she was earning bundles, i felt good knowing that my mrs was a good earner, but never once did i take p*** and take her money..
well... i think once in spain i did, but hey not bad in 7 years lol
so know ladies you go for it!!, get the better job and we stay home and look after the kids and do the ironing lol
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Posted: 5/5/2006 3:06:32 AM |
it's a control issue. If the woman makes more than the man, she's going to have more say usually, and men are either "intimidated" and stay in the relationship, afraid to say "boo";or they won't put up with it and leave.
Gee...someone neglected to tell me that rule...maybe thats where I went wrong.
In 4 out of the 5 long term relationships I have had in my life I have made more than my partner. In 5 out of 5 I would not say that I "had control" - and in 2 was very seriously controlled, one by physical violence, one by emotional blackmail.
I just look at it that I make decent living - enough that I can live a simple but far from extravagant lifestyle and maintain my independence. I don't jet set around the world, but I can afford to take a trip to the east coast to see my son graduate. I haven't got high tech stereo equipment or a big screen TV - but I have goldfinches singing outside the window as I write this, and a view of the sun rising over the Niagara escarpment.
In my mind those things make me a very rich person indeed. | |
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