| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 7/28/2007 9:40:36 AM | | I am not condoning the fact that your husband was masturbating to porn while you were right there, however, reading your profile you state you are looking for a woman on a dating site...Am I missing something here? | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 7/28/2007 9:49:49 AM | | Seems like a lot of people on this site are very uneducated about sex, especially what is normal, and what is not. I'd suggest you do some reading. Never hurts to get educated about any subject, no matter what your age. Maybe if you read it in print,you will be more likely to believe that what your husband was doing is perfectly normal. I'd recommend "What Every Woman Should Know About Men" by Dr Joyce Brothers. Judging by the replies, there are a lot of other women who should read this book as well! | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 7/28/2007 9:52:00 AM | tchofclas: I couldn't agree more!!! I was just going to ask most posters here a question just as I read your post.
So here goes my question:
If one is in a relationship, it means we should NEVER masturbate?? Are you all crazy or just don't know much about human sexuality?? | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 7/28/2007 9:53:01 AM | | you both need to unplug your computers,, and be more into eachother, i have read your profile, and at your age 22 there probly insnt alot,of advice that may sink in home with either one of you, even your writtings on your profile show a hint of slipping into the alernate lifestyle scene,, yet the most sound thing anyone could say to answer your question is, that you two should get the computers out of your marriage, because marriages are hard to keep together these days, and letting these things come between husband and wife is a certain end to what may have been. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 7/28/2007 10:01:47 AM | It's common - I'd say 100%, so ladies - get over your illusions about gentlemen and princes - men have needs and they aren't going away - sometimes they just don't want to bother you or perhaps don't feel welcome to make a move. The on-line porn thing may be a little offensive but if it's a deal breaker - you may be breaking a lot of deals - and forcing all your guys into hiding - is that what you want??  | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 7/28/2007 10:04:20 AM | Silly, silly question...reminds me of an old George Carlin joke..."If god hadn't meant for us to masturbate, he would have made our arms shorter."  | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 7/28/2007 10:07:51 AM | wow... she is married, a mom , AND online seeking a woman to have a long term relationship with . This relationship would be of a sexual nature by the implications in her profile and She is upset because her husband is masturbating to porn.
Op.... do you masturbate? Is masturbation any worse than seeking a partner outside the marriage. At least it is just his hand that he is intimate with, as oppossed to what you are seeking.Maybe when you find a "friend" he will get to cuddle and play with her too. That may solve his desire to masturbate to porn. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 7/28/2007 2:13:34 PM |
pearl13 wrote:
If a woman is threatened by her partner masturbating or viewing porn.... does she use a vibrator?.... where is the difference? Why do you care where he gets his appetite as long as he eats at home?
Exactly. I equate women who are threatened by her partner masturbating or watching porn to men who are threatened if their girlfriend enjoys vibrators and other sex toys. I'm of the opinion that you can learn a lot by watching someone really get him- or herself off. But besides the educational value, it's also some of the best arousing visual stimulation around. I think both men and women would do well to welcome masturbation into partner sex. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 7/28/2007 5:54:40 PM | well sweety use one cell of brain
you looking for a woman to snugle and have a relation and you husbend is right there next to you and real. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 7/28/2007 9:26:59 PM | i have had and heard men masturbate because when they get to the actual act with me/the woman they can last longer  | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 7/29/2007 10:46:16 AM | Because we are married to ball breakers. If we try to express our desire and interest, we are told our timing is wrong. Because we are expected to deliver, the three times a year you decide it would be a good time. Because the three times a year you decide it is a good time, generally involves hotel rooms, dinner, theater tickets, airline tickets, standing around some stupid craft show we have no interest in. If we wanted to do all that, we would go out and get the cheap hotel room and grab a piece of strange, atleast then it would be worth it, and more economical.
Because, anytime we try to express how we are feeling, and our frustrations, you pull out some trump card, that makes us relive, pain, guilt or misdeeds from some other decade, that is designed to make us feel bad and to back off on the topic. Because the marrage therapist told us not to use blaiming statements, so instead we just repress our own emotions and continue to bottle them up untill something has to give. Becuase our fathers ****ed around and we saw how it hurt our mothers. Now we cannot inflict that same pain on our spouse. Because the kids are the only thing that bring us home at night, and ending everything else in the family unit is simply not a viable path or alternative to wanting to bust a nut now and again. Because any discussion of introducing or expanding the activities meet with a flat no - yet we are expected to understand, accept, modify our behaviour etc etc simply because you feel ignored if we go golfing and you wanted us to sit at home with your fat mother, and your dad for the entire afternoon, when we all know your dad is misearable because he has not gotten laid in years and your fat mother does nothing but tell you how you made the same mistake she did by getting married to a bum.
Because some one who does want to have some fun, lets us know it is a viable option and we simply can not be one of those guys that ****s everything that walks, and we cant **** the one thing we would like to.
Its like living across the street from the fair grounds and the only ride you are allowed to enjoy is the 25cent rocket ride in the walmart entrance.
Because we are sick and tired of going to bed horny and waking up with a hard on. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 7/29/2007 1:31:01 PM | Ok here goes, Women have sex on an emotional level when men just want to bust a nut. Not all the time but most. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 7/29/2007 8:07:20 PM | | Because the penis belongs to the man and he can do w/ it what he wants too, freedom of choice, right? | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 8/4/2007 12:04:05 PM | | because after eating that piece of cake and putting a ring on the womans finger they for get what sex is . | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 8/4/2007 12:14:55 PM | Probably for the same reasons married women masterbate...it's all perfectly normal...no need to get offended by it. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 8/4/2007 1:09:50 PM | | Hmm, so it bothers you that your husband is jacking off to porn. Yet you're seeking a relationship with another woman so that you can "snuggle." You're going outside the marriage to satisfy a need (not necessarily sexual) and he is also fulling a need by masturbating to porn. We can't be all things to all people, which is why we must place our faith in our partners because there will always be outside influences. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 8/4/2007 1:50:53 PM | | Because they can, but porn may be an issue. Can you live up to the porn expectation, is his fantasy better than what he gets? | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 8/9/2007 2:31:30 PM | Honey, don't take it personally! That's just how men are wired. Sometimes they masturbate simply because they're not up for having sex - and all that goes with it - with the wife/ girlfriend. They may be a little tired or simply just in the mood for a 'fast one'. Taking care of it themselves is just easier for the moment. I'm sure he told you that it wasn't any big deal and that he wasn't doing it to hurt you. And he meanis it! There's no reason to get bent out of shape over it. All men- married or single - masturbate. You can't change that! lol
Now, if you want more physical attention from him, technically, that's a different matter. You need to simply tell him. That comes down to communication, plain and simple.  | |
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