| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 9:42:47 AM | All I know is I wish he would give me more attention cause I'm real...and I'm RIGHT HERE
Maybe it's the dog collar! Just a thought | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 9:57:00 AM | Wow what a clever thought that was.
Assuming she looked like that when he married her and how do you know he doesnt dress the same way | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 10:55:38 AM | Dark Kitten: Are you being the kind of wife who he looks forward coming to in the evening? Similar to what Libraguy mentioned in message #7, a women has complete control over how good or how bad a relationship will be. You woke up to him masturbating to porn on the computer. First of all, I would want to find out if this is an ongoing thing for him. It is disturbing that he watches porn. Secondly, perhaps you should consider taking some initiative. Next time, dress up sexy and lead him to the bedroom and tell him "hey babe, why go to the computer when you can have the real thing?" Do you tell him by your actions that you appreciate him for all he does? If a man is not horny, then he is hungry so make him a sandwich. Feed his stomach and his groin and he will do anything for you.
When sex is good in a relationship, it is 10-20% of the relationship issues. When sex is bad in a relationship, it is 80-90% of the relationship issues. And YOU have all the power to change that!! Just my 98 cents...  | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:18:06 AM | "a women has complete control over how good or how bad a relationship will be."
Ahhhh....The broken hearts believing this crap causes! But just think... if your man cheats, lies, replaces you with porn ;), It all gets too be YOUR fault!! Doesn't that make you feel better Dark Kitten? | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:20:15 AM | | I COULD BE HE'S NOT SATISFIED OR VERY HARD TO SATISFY IT HAPPENS OR HE'S NOT SURE OF WHO HE LIKES | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:28:00 AM | Hi there, interesting question. i've done this myself in long-term relationship. My ex-wife kept me very satisfied, but I enjoyed masturabating too. I needed to relive tension and get off frequently. Later we ended up masturbating together, and watched each other for double the pleasure. You know what I mean?
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:29:30 AM | I think maybe we need more specifics.
Does he have a fetish you don't prefer to indulge? Judging by the dog collar I might guess you do the dom and sub thing, but what if he is into, oh let's say something fairly bizarre, like watching a woman covered with grease and oil doing engine work naked? If he was visiting a "Women who work on engines while covered in grease and oil" web site, he was simply satisfying a fetish.
Or "Women who deep throat cucumbers...." .com
Serious answer?
Talk to him about it, not strangers. Everyone is wired differently. Some couples involve masturbation in their normal sexual routine. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:51:21 AM | if your man cheats, lies, replaces you with porn Fluxion (msg 32), pardon my mistake for omitting the assumptions. What I said in my previous post pertains to when there is no adultery, abuse or addiction involved. I should have mentioned it, which I neglected to do so. Mea Culpa. I made the assumption that such transgressions are not part of OP's (and her husband's) life. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 12:16:36 PM | No problem mykidsdadiam...
Women don't have complete control of the relationships was my point. We never did, never will. It always takes two. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 12:42:19 PM | | I think the problem is not that they masterbate but that they would do it when you were around and available. It is a little insulting if you think about it, especially if you have not discussed or asked for answers. Being married it should be something you can openly discuss. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 4:57:52 PM | | Lets face it... most womens idea of sex is to lay back and take it, maybe make some noise, but esentially it's pretty minimal movement. A man however, talk about a workout. You have to be constantly moving or else she is complaining. When you are pleasing yourself, you can relax and get what you want without having to bend the world around your partner. If you want more sex, you do more of the work. And don't tell me you are doing a lot of the work. Trust me, you're not. Make it mutual, and make it clear that you actually want it. | |
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Joined: 12/15/2005
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 5:05:55 PM | To answer the OP because it is normal. Masturbation is part of a healthy sexual life.
I do not know whether DarkKiten was more angry about him watching porn
or because he was masturbating. If it is both... Houston, you have a problem. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 5:52:15 PM | "Lets face it... most womens idea of sex is to lay back and take it, maybe make some noise, but esentially it's pretty minimal movement. A man however, talk about a workout. You have to be constantly moving or else she is complaining. When you are pleasing yourself, you can relax and get what you want without having to bend the world around your partner. If you want more sex, you do more of the work."
And there, ladies, is the crux of the "problem" if you feel it is one. Besides, don't most good women masturbate too.....? | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 6:28:02 PM | | All your comments were great btw. And no theres not really a problem with our marriage, I think I'm the one who thinks about sex every 17 seconds. Thats why I was wondering why he didn't wake me up for "wake up sex". Honestly he's 9 years older than me so I think I have a pretty active sex drive. Anyways the reason I don't like it is because I need sex more than these stupid computer porn vids. I would even masturbate for him if it would get him off thats what I don't understand. Whats the problem here? I love sex! | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 6:31:58 PM | | BTW I don't always dress like my photo, I enjoy a variety of clothing...some people do ya know :P | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 6:35:20 PM | | Oh and to reply to opticalnoise, I don't just lay there and take it. I'm the one who likes to bend over backwards to please. I love all aspects of sex, even when I'm not receiving. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 6:35:41 PM | | Ah well, he's not getting what he needs from you. It may not be your fault, but it's happening. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 6:39:25 PM | | I don't have a problem with the masturbation, if he was to do it in the shower that wouldn't bother me. It's that he's wasting his attention on those sluts in the porn. Why not ask me to make him some porn or video tape us having sex? I don't understand this because I'm open minded and eager to please. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 6:55:43 PM | Men do it because we can, same reason women do.
These were in your post, "I think I'm the one who thinks about sex every 17 seconds.
I would even masturbate for him
I'm the one who likes to bend over backwards to please. I love all aspects of sex, even when I'm not receiving."
If all this is true, dump him and marry me.
God I love these Canook women..................... | |
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