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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 7:02:53 PM | | Just really looking for insight, especially because I feel he's wasting the good stuff when he does that. I like my sex...I'd like more of it! | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 7:05:04 PM | Married men masturbate because they can.
Here is a little tip in the form of a wish, ladies...
The next time you "catch" your man masturbating, or masterbating, or any other kind of baiting to porn on the computer, Put a pillow on the floor, kneel in front of him, and take over the manual labor. (or oral labor) and let him continue to look at the porn. He will then tell everyone he knows that he has the best wife ever, even if you can't cook. We are such simple creatures. It only takes this one little thing to make us deliriously happy. What's the big deal???? You're married!
You may feel threatened competing with a 2 dimensional image on a monitor...GET OVER IT.
What say, guys? Gals? | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 7:08:29 PM | | LOL he gets blowjobs on a regular basis when he wants them I've done these things for him. The only thing I ask is not to be lookin' at trashy porn. It grosses me out. Why not make some porn with me...I would totally have fun doing it. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 7:13:45 PM | why not ask him ...wouldnt it be better? how we suppose to know what ur hubby wants. if hes masterbating then lend him a hand...join him...like goonq3 says...get off the computer.
21 an ur havin this problem already..yikes..got alot years ahead of you yet...start workin on the problem. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 7:42:29 PM | | Just a thought... you say you are eager to please, (I should be so lucky)... often what people want is simply the wanting, nothing more, something they can't have. Has never made much sense to me personally but I think, and am learning, that is a big part of it. Lets pretend you love crispy cream doughnuts or cheesecake. If it was placed before you on a silver platter you would rejoice and feast, until one day you realize, it no longer tastes as good as you remembered. As a matter of fact your tastes have changed. Where? oh where? are the steak and potatoes?!?! Instead of being eager to please perhaps what is in order is be eager to tease. Give him just a taste of what drew him to you in the first place, but remember, just a taste, then take it away. Make him want you so bad, he becomes like a kid infront of a candy store, drewling at the mouth. Let him know that what is right beside him is the best thing that has ever happened to him. Let him know that the only one he desires is you. Things may not happen as often as either one of you want, but when they do, believe me it will be worth it. Again that is a part of the wanting! | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:28:12 PM | Hmmmmmmmmm...to masturbate to porn together as a couple or masturbate to porn online while partner is sleeping?
Or is the question a response to am afraid , I felt what was sacred is lost in what he has done. Was I not good enough? Obviously you felt offended that your husband took to the visual pleasures of an exhibitionist (porn) and not you..
Its not only the fact that he masturbated to porn but the medium he used Am sure you have thought about this OP....is this a start to wanting not just inanimate pleasures but what if? Does one cross personal limits because its available? “I’ve always wanted this, its my right and I will take it because its here. Masturbation is masturbation .”
I noticed no one thought of sexual addiction or addiction to porn.
So if the pleasures of porn via the net are as simple as some of the responses here, what is classified as infidelity and would the definition be applied here to the OP’s thread?
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/5/2006 5:26:49 AM | It's a guy thing....
Don't be grossed out that he watches porn, it's nothing personal, dudes just like to look at porn and naked women. But if it takes time AWAY from you, then there is a problem... | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/5/2006 6:37:36 AM | The question remains if YOU enjoy the porn even a little bit. It isn't there to replace you. Use it as a tool to enhance what you have with him.
Someday he'll be old and feeble like me and wish he hadn't wasted his sexual energy on himself. Especially with a hot young wife on hand.... | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/5/2006 9:41:55 AM | | Thanks for all the insight everyone, I must have been doing something good last night because I got rewarded big time :P | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/5/2006 9:51:43 AM | I have to agree with the bulk of what has already been said: talk to him about your feelings. There are any number of reasons he may have done it, and only he can tell you which.
Might not have wanted to disturb you.
Might have wanted to "get off" without the complexity of a partner to prep and satisfy. Even if you are willing to just "go down cause he's horny without wanting interaction", he may have felt imposing for asking.
Could have a porn addiction or interest.
There's plenty more. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/5/2006 10:06:00 AM | JWA, I'll spank ya.....lol!
And back to this topic of discussion.....I'd just be a little upset I wasn't invited to watch him....
There is nothing wrong with wanting to pleasure yourself by yourself!!! Masturbation is a release!! | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/5/2006 3:08:02 PM | | It seems that a lot of people are missing one key point: he's not just masturbating, he's looking at porn while doing it. I think it's the fact that he's lusting after women on the internet where he's gone wrong, not so much the masturbation. If he were thinking about his wife while doing it or was doing it while she stripped for him, fine. But looking at porn while doing so, he's mentally cheating on her. And as others have pointed out, it's not like she was ignoring him...she seemed to want MORE sexual attention from him than she was getting. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/5/2006 3:40:08 PM | Brianiac...I'm with you 100% on that post...if my husband did this...I would print the porn pic out..toss the pic out the door..WITH HIS SORRY BUTT...and file for divorce...if I'm not woman enough for him and he's lusting after other women...then its' done. I may get bashed for this but we each have our own opinon about these things. Pornography promotes violence and disrespect against women, men, and children...no wonder we have so many serial rapists in Florida. How would he feel if she were 'masturbating' to guys on the computer??? His heart would be broken..if he thought he wasn't even 'good enough' to satisfy his wife while she lusts for 'male meat' on the computer.." I would tell him to let the picture keep him warm at night, pay the bills, feed the screaming kids, do his laundry, cook, AND work 40 hours a week!!!!" Pfft!! Sorry..going off on an extreme tangent here.....in my oh so humble opinion, of course.
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/5/2006 4:06:19 PM | I normally don't post replies in this type of discussion..but having been 'raped' by a 'married man' because of his 'porn addiction' may have something to do with it. Guess he finally had the courage to live out his 'fantasies on the computer'...unfortunately..I was the recipient. So please..re-think all of your replies that 'it's okay'...IT IS not okay. Or it wasn't for me. Hmmm..and yes..guess he's still watching porn....and married. With kids..think about it from another perspective. But that's how it starts..with the porn on the computer...now I have a concealed weapon's license. and a big gun..lol. Oh yeah..I forgot..and my cousin "Guito" in New York..lol
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/5/2006 4:11:10 PM | | Sorry to hear that. That is a horrible thing . And I definately agree it IS rape, just for the record. And you may have a point, but frankly each case needs it's own consideration, that said your consideration may very well be to toss him out. People have the right to be themselves, with or without anyone else if that is what it takes. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/5/2006 7:46:45 PM | Sweetheart walk up behind him..heheheh and help the man out... Can be a romantic moment for you both .. look at yourself your a beautiful wife and mother.. Girl YOU KNOw what to dooooo... | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/5/2006 7:50:05 PM |
Now that things have been semi restored to a viable point, may I remind all that off topic postings, chatting, thread jacking and insults will not be tolerated - period. As a result suspensions were levied.
Replies are to the OP and the subject only, anything else is considered off topic chatting.
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/5/2006 8:09:56 PM | | I agree with you, hell wake me up anytime that feeling comes over him. My boyfriend has no problem with getting him some in the middle of the nite rather I'm sleep or not. Nine times out of ten I sleep nude so it's no problem believe me once he gets started I will wake up. I think the problem is that most men feel that if they wake you up you will be mad so they just don't bother. So my advice to you is let him know that it's ok if he wake you up for sex, because communication is the key to a good relationship. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/5/2006 8:36:41 PM | Okay, first off...welcome to life, women.
Asking why a married guy masturbates is like asking why guys wake up with "morning wood". At least from this one guy's opinion, it's not done with any thought of an insult, or anything similar. The majority of guys that I know, it's (as one other person posted) something different. If I truly didn't enjoy sex (making love, whatever verb/adjective you decide to use to describe it) with the woman I was married to, I wouldn't be married to her. Granted, I may have different morals than anyone else, but I suspect that the situation is getting blown out of proportion. Of course, I also skipped a few pages of posts...but that's besides the point.
Communication is VERY important in any relationship, and without it...well, things are almost definitely going to fall apart, sooner rather than later.
Personally, my experience with my most recent ex, was that waking her up in the middle of the night=forbidden. Sex woke her up, and had her awake for a while. So for all you women who wouldn't mind being woken up in the middle of the night being poked (as I call it), why haven't I managed to meet any of you so far in my life?  | |
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