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Polly_G

Joined: 11/21/2005
Msg: 25

Finding a Relationship (Battle of Sexes) Posted: 5/11/2006 8:41:52 AM
I think the whole its easier for either or is a complete myth. I think it is much more related to the things you have going on in your life and whether or not you are actively seeking a relationship. I could probably be in one if I was actively seeking one but I'm not....I guess I think it will just poof magically happen when the time is right.

squirrly

Joined: 6/8/2005
Msg: 26

Finding a Relationship (Battle of Sexes) Posted: 5/11/2006 8:56:43 AM
In the early days of a relationship, I think you are right that there is a 'balance' of power that shifts from one gender to the other but I don't believe women have all the power all the time. First off...most of the time it is the man who is asking the woman out on a date. The power is in his hands. Once he asks...it's in her hands. Once the relationship gets to the intimate stage....it is in her hands because of our biology. After the intimacy...it is in his hands. ie. will he call after 3 days etc?.. yes I know we are liberated and we can ask guys out but it's not the way it usually goes.I find if I contact a guy on the site, it very rarely amounts to anything because guys like to be the ones with that intitial power. However that is just my personal experience. I don't believe once you are in a relationship that this power thing should exist because at this point you should feel comfortable and not worried about the other person's reaction because you know them so well.

Summer Teeth

Joined: 3/9/2006
Msg: 27

Finding a Relationship (Battle of Sexes) Posted: 5/11/2006 9:11:38 AM
What a bunch of crap. No one has any control in the beginning. Relationships--at first--are always distinctly out of control--and that's part of the fun and passion of the beginning. As far as which sex has it easier finding a relationship . . . give me a break. If you're just looking for any relationship, then it's easy for any sex. If you want a good relationship, then it's just as difficult for each sex because both sexes think the other sex is a pain in the a$$. But once the relationship is out of the "new" phase, there's a very simple rule for who controls a relationship: Whoever cares less about the relationship controls it. And that has nothing to do with whether you're a man or a woman.

MichelleRenee

Joined: 4/12/2006
Msg: 28

Finding a Relationship (Battle of Sexes) Posted: 5/11/2006 9:29:00 AM
It probably depends upon the indivudual. A great relationship will not have any one person in "control". Both should have balls to do what and say what they want--and to sacrifice where the others needs are more crucial. As for who does the asking and deciding. I guess that's also up to the individual and their character. I've asked huys out (been rejected every time), but still don't regret it. I never even felt stupid for it at all. I've rejected guys before, so I guess that's just karma workin itself out. I've actually been told before that women who ask men out are intimidating--or appear to be sluts--which I think is absolutely ridiculous. They say the things you regret the most are not the things you've done, but what you didn't do. I'd rather take a chance then to give up something that could've been meant to be. Ideally, my man would be the same way--but I really don't care who comes on to who first.