| Took Him Back/Got Dumped Again: An Essay by 1coolchick™
Posted: 5/5/2006 12:00:21 PM | Speaking as a guy who went through a lot of that same stuff I can tell you one thing for sure....he doesn't trust women at all. Frankly he's also got damn good reason not to trust women at all... But is that your problem?
I have those same issues myself, and now am consigned to several short, intensely sexual relationships rather than a fulfilling long-term thing.
At least, that's the plan. :) | |
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| Took Him Back/Got Dumped Again: An Essay by 1coolchick™
Posted: 5/5/2006 12:50:52 PM | hey he knows hes making a big mistake so that bull about youve changed is just a weak attempt at convincing himself that there is a reason to go back to the other one let him go hell figure it out move on good luck | |
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| Took Him Back/Got Dumped Again: An Essay by 1coolchick™
Posted: 5/5/2006 4:13:20 PM | IMHO I don't think what you did was stupid or a mistake. To be able to see the good in people and truly forgive is an admirable quality, not a flaw, that few people posses. We're all human and mistakes will be made and most do learn from them. I too believe in second chances and giving people the benefit of the doubt, unless of course they secretly hide dead bodies in my trunk, won't fall for that one again, see even I can learn. I would have done the same thing in your shoes. I think it's better to take that chance then sit and wonder what if...even if you do have to hear your friends say I told you so. I'm all about learning lessons for myself, have the scars to prove it, not referring to emotional ones, actual physical scars, rollerblades, rockets, long story. NE way I hope this won't scare you off from dating anyone with kids in the future (there are some pretty great single parents out there) or taint you from seeing the best in people. That's probably part of what makes you your cool chicky self.
So don't beat yourself up hun, you know it's not about you. *hugs* | |
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| Took Him Back/Got Dumped Again: An Essay by 1coolchick™
Posted: 5/5/2006 4:14:07 PM | 1coolchick,
I did. Girlfriend cheated. I gave her another chance - we got back together. Dated for another six months.
Did it again (with different girl). Girlfriend cheated. Gave her another chance. we got back together - dated for another eight months. Broke up eventually. Now we've been best friends for a decade.
Wierd 1coolchick - I was just thinking about those relationships just the other day - for no reason - and I realized that I wouldn't change a thing. Love is such a rare thing that if you really really really think its possible (and not lying to oneself - which is usually the problem) then why not take the risk of heartache for the bigger jackpot?
And even though both relationships failed - it was worthwhile in my opinion. We had lots of good times after getting back together again. And one of them ended up best friends still (over a decade ago). I think ultimately it comes down not just you or me - but also them. If they're worth the risk or not. And how much risk are you willing to take?
(sorry i couldn't email you this stuff. you've blocked off my "type" of profile.) | |
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