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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 9/8/2007 10:38:48 AM | Love is warm and fuzzy. It doesn't matter if older or younger. I met and married my husband when he was 26 and I was 39. Had 2 great kids and was married for 17 years. Now I'm 58 and divorced. His new one is 10 yrs younger than him. Was it an age thing? I don't know. But I do know that men my age now don't want to go out with women my age now. I get calls from men that are 8 to 15 yrs younger. Do I like it. You bet. I try not to double think as to why. I just take it with lifes experience. I'm not dead yet.
My daughter says to stay with men my own age. They don't want me. They want younger. Well, so do I. This has been a question that has been around since dating began. Who cares and what difference does it make. If you have things in common and are meant for each other than so be it. Life is great. Go for the gusto...whatever age | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 9/8/2007 11:02:17 AM | Pet Peeve: ( OK, I will admit it is just one of many )
To the Folks who quote medical statistics and/or age as a reason to pick or reject a mate i would like to point out that we do not all have the same shelf life. Sure, i am more likely to be taking that dirt nap we are all destined for sooner than a person 20 years my junior, but the cement truck that blows an axle at 60 MPH does not check ID s before it lands.
My Grandfather, who was considerably older than my Grandmother, spent the last 20 years of his life worrying about what would happen to her after he died. He hit the Century mark and outlasted her by a number of years.
I think that women dating younger men is unfair only in that they got to date older guys when we all started inter-gender sports. Who says Life is Fair? Other than that, let’s shout out a resounding “ WHO CARES?”. If it makes the folks involved happy, great. The fact that it ruffles the feathers of some who are not involved, and just feel compelled to comment on the how others choose to live their lives is just gravy. | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 9/8/2007 7:43:51 PM | I think the single world is equally divided on this one, but my opinion is that it is not primarily based upon what we are physically attracted to. I can only speak for myself, but for most of my adult life, I've been pretty active. Now that I'm over 40, I've found that suddenly a lot of 40+ men have transformed themselves into pre-AARP, couch potato mentality, are dry as toast and can't keep up with me. If for no other reason, I certainly gravitate to younger men. How young is too young depends upon their own experience and maturity - but since women are living increasingly longer lives than men, this is starting to really apply to all of us!
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 9/8/2007 8:55:30 PM | | I became "single" at age 45 and started thinking about dating at about 47. Since then, both online and in real life, the only men who've approached me have been younger - ranging from a couple of years to about 10. It really doesn't matter to me, but I sometimes wonder where the men in their late 40s and 50s are. Married, I guess, or if they're single maybe they're more interested in women younger than me. Still, it's a bit confusing. Honestly, though, at this age, five or 10 years difference either way seems pretty immaterial. I date younger men because they're the ones who ask me out on dates. | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 9/8/2007 9:40:58 PM |  "I date younger men because they're the ones who ask me out"
Over and over...same "lament' (not really a lament haha!) from 40's - 50's women.
Men our age...well....where are they? Oh...setting prescriptions at way below...
If they are late 50-60, it's 30-45. If late 40-50 it's 25- 35. Just check the profiles.
Over and over.
Check the pay sites...most of the 50-60 men state 25-45. Interestingly...women in late 40's-50's seem to request more within their age category...hmm?
So what? HA!
MY experience has been, since I re-entered this dating world, is that the approaches I have received have been from much younger guys...rarely my age or close to it.
Fine with me. Actually...very fine with me. 
Way I see it...the guy who IS my age (or older) who thinks I am toast and not up to his level (???) is the one who just missed out!
Po bloke. | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 9/9/2007 5:27:41 PM | Not all guys over 45 are almost dead. We don't all go to bed at 9. We don't all need viagra. We don't all need a cane and an oxygen bottle to make it outside yet. Some people are born old.
Personally I'll aproach anyone I think is a good match for me, older or younger. I don't need a younger woman to make me feel younger. I feel fine just like I am. I might be "older" but I'm sure as hell not OLD | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 10/22/2007 12:17:39 PM | I have always dated someone younger than me. Unfortunately, I married someone 10 years older and ended up divorced 7 years later because it was always "his way or the highway." (meaning I was the maid, secretary, shopper, social director, slut of the month)
Internet dating has been a challenge because of the age range search. So I lowered my age in hope of being seen by younger men...then stated my true age in my ad. Well, someone blasted me for doing this...Duh! Sometimes I just can't win.
I will always prefer a younger man. Maybe you can't talk to them, but they are nicer to look at. I can't believe the guys over 50 (anyway, that's what they say). Look how they dress, sneakers and shorts showing us their tattoos on ugly arms. Get real! I know my body is not in perfect shape, but I'm not flaunting it and then asking for someone 10/15 years younger than me because I hike, bike, kayak, ski, sail, motorcycle, etc. Do these men really do all of those things and expect a woman to accompany them? Oh well, younger guys just don't expect you to do all of that.
So, in the end...how do we attract these younger men? Should I start a new forum? | |
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Posted: 10/22/2007 6:19:51 PM | What a wonderfully weird world. So many women my earthly age becry that men 'their age' seek younger women as they berate us ol farties as dead meat. Looks like I'll have to make do with the younger ones [but not he under 40s] that contact me. So sad 
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 10/23/2007 3:57:23 AM | | Why is everyone so concern about age and want to date some one younger or older. would'nt you relate to someone close to your own age? | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 10/23/2007 4:19:45 PM | Part of the reason is demographics. According to the last census, there are approx 2 available women 45+ for every available man 45+. So if more older women want to date, they are practically forced(taken as a whole) to go younger.
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 10/23/2007 7:25:05 PM | Married for 31 years, and dated and engaged for another 3 to a Younger Man, Yes,
They do Last!!!!!! Also it was not Infidelity that Broke Us Up!!!! Women with Younger Men is Nothing New at All!!! It's just now getting Much More Attention!!!! | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 10/24/2007 9:34:06 AM | | someone once siad age is just a number - dont put an age limit on your search - read the profiles and see if the guys fit what your looking for x | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 10/24/2007 9:48:06 PM | | My last two boyfriends have been 11 years younger. I am now seeing someone only 3 years younger. I actually like older men but they don't seem to like me. I had no idea that so many 30 somes want an older woman to learn something from until I started online dating. I really am not in the mood to be a teacher. i would like to learn something myself! I think you like who you like and it doesn't matter the age. | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 10/25/2007 5:37:45 AM | I've read a lot of the profiles and you are right. Women seek their own age group but the men who are 60 and above (who would normally be "my age group" are all looking for the 35 to 50 women! I know at 40, I wasn't looking at men who were 60. I was dating men who were around my own age.
And I've been amazed that younger men have contacted me more then older men!
I can certainly understand why women are dating younger men when the men our age don't seem to want us ............
Personally, even if it means being alone, I'm just not comfortable with younger men. I still prefer someone who is my age or up to 10 to 12 years older. I just find that I share more values with men who are older then the ones who are younger....... | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 10/25/2007 8:57:39 AM | Personally, I'd like to date men in my age range (- or + five years), but for the most part, it isn't happening, because the older men do seem to want younger women, or they (men in my age range) are at a "different stage of life" than I am.....maybe ready to retire, or already retired, and they want someone who can travel with them, or who doesn't work....yet they want the woman who can travel with them and who doesn't work to be wealthy in her own right.
With the younger ones, there are sometimes issues with children still living at home (I love children; had one myself 30 years ago), and some of them are looking for that woman who can eventually become a caretaker for the kids....and the demands of my career don't really allow for that.....and I'm not sure that I am up for helping to pay child support (been there....done that). But at least the younger ones seem more flexible in their understanding that women, too, are doing the same things men have traditionally done (worked, supported themselves and their families), and can't always be at their beck and call.
Confusing? Yes! What about a "partnership?" Two people who compliment each other, and work together on the common goal of happiness....why so elusive in this post modern world? | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 10/25/2007 9:43:23 PM | | Ah yes.. they are called cougars. I have been with younger, for me it was a ego thing. I definitely prefer men my age. They know how to please. It comes with experience. | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 10/26/2007 9:02:57 AM | Chocolate, why is it so elusive? I think that when we are younger, the goals are so much clearer..........Meet, fall in love, get married, buy a house, have kids.....not necessarily in that order. My friend's daughter bought a house with her lover, had a kid and then got married to him when the kid was two........
When all that is done though, I think husbands and wives look at each other and say, "Now what?" Some couples who have maintained the "romance" through all of that are thrilled and look forward to being able to travel and play golf together and retire together and stuff like that. But that's a point where a lot of marriages break up and we end up with women and men in their 40's, 50's and 60's who are suddenly back in the dating world........... Or sometimes a spouse dies and that person has to try to find someone else to do those things with.........
Some men have stayed in sexless relationships for the kids so when they finally are free, their main priority is finding sex as love. Some women have been under the thumb of a man for the sake of kids and so they bolt and love their independance and freedom finally..........I mean, there are all kinds of situations out there.
Some people, even men, don't know who they are once the kids grow up and are gone.
Guys tend to buy motorcycles or try things like kayaking that they never had the chance to do before. Women I think tend to be career oriented or move towards the arts, dancing....self esteem things.......things like that. The differences between what men do when they are "free" and women do when they are "free" tend to be more black and white then blended...........which is natural since each gave up some of that when they were married and blended more.
I personally am still that woman who wanted to retire with her husband and hop in an RV and travel across America or check out Greece......... Or play during the day with each of us doing things apart and together at times and then getting together that night and deciding if we want to go out to dinner and listen to music or dance or see a show or just stay home and putter ...........
The goals are just fuzzier particularly if people feel they have missed something for 10 years and are more focused on getting what they missed ........... I don't feel I ever missed anything! Even with kids, we had dates every Friday night and even went away for weekends. I've worked and been independant so I don't feel that I was ever stuck.
Most of my friends are married and doing the same things I would like to do if I ever find the right person again.......... | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 10/26/2007 9:21:58 AM | Passion58 Nice to see an honest strieght forward reply.
pst....... guess what guys dateing and bedding younger woman also do it for EGO! | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 10/26/2007 10:33:11 AM | | I'm a young senior and I do everything a young gal can do and probably alot better but every time I try to date in my age bracket , the guy has health ,financial,or sex problems and it is very discouraging so I say hooray for the younger men and if I find one that appeals to me I will certainly go for it. I'm not desperate or needing anyone to take care of me. | |
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