| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/10/2008 5:54:01 PM | Those relationships are pretty much a joke. The women are dating younger because they can't find suitable guys their age (their contemporaries are dating younger women or foreign women, or are just loners). When you see these older women/younger men couples, they look like misfits. The guys rarely handle themselves with any confidence or class. I saw a couple like this the other day on a busy downtown sidewalk, and the younger guy didn't even follow the custom of walking on the outside (street-side) of the woman. As they held hands, she had his hand in hers and was leading him down the sidewalk. It looked like a mother and son.
These relationships may make sense for quick one-nighters, but they are a total joke for LTRs. A quick look at women like Linda Hogan proves this point. Older women would even be better off finding immigrants or foreign professional men in their same socioeconomic class rather than embarrassing themselves with younger boy-toys. It looks ridiculous. | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/10/2008 5:58:12 PM | Well, I guess I qualify as older, older than dirt. :) If young men find me attractive, who am I to look a gift horse in the mouth?
I was married to a most decrepit and sickly much older man...that I took care of. Been there, done that. Do not wish to repeat.
Everybody I now date are a little to much younger than I. I don't want to have their babies, what does it matter? Who cares what their motivations are? Who are we hurting? Mind you they like me for my personality, not my money. I make sure of that.
It is a whole new world, and had I known how good it would be, would have not stayed in the bad marriage as long as I did.
My good friends and clients here in DC, researchers for AARP--it is a whole trend. They did surveys showing that a goodly percentage of older women, divorced & widowed, date younger men--and both sides are very happy with the deal. The women are not begging them for marriage and babies (no biological clock), and they are getting women who are emotionally & financially secure and loads of fun to be with.
Guess what, many of us are very fit, play tennis, do Pilates & Yoga, in fact way fitter than most flabby teenagers today, who have never had to WALK anywhere. AND we are discriminating--we want men who are also fit and mentally active. No couch potoatoes. In a lot of cases they are younger. C'est la vie.
Men have been doing it for years. But somehow I think it works a whole lot better in the other direction, physiologically speaking. :)
One Happy Camper | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/24/2008 5:19:29 PM | | Well, since our "contemporaries" are dating the younger women or foreigners, that leaves the younger men for us "cougars". Since I'm not willing to be anybody's "one night stand" or "intimate encounter" (what an oxymoron), and am looking for character, responsibility, intelligence, interesting conversation, depth and similar values, I think anyone who judges others on preconcieved notions based on just one aspect, such as this kind of double-standard is a few bricks shy of a load. | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/24/2008 6:16:41 PM | Well, guess I am an "older woman"...way older! lol
I will say this about that....I would and have dated a guy younger than I...but I do prefer to date someone within a "few" years of me.
As we age with our partner I prefer someone who is my equal in regards to health and aging....seems if one or both suffer any health issues, etc..the other would be more caring and compassionate. Maybe more willing to sit on the "sideline" for a bit...than to continue to move on without the other.
I think with a greater age difference, either way, the younger of the two might grow impatient and lose understanding in the "golden years"!
Guess my "fairy tale" is happily EVERafter!!
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 1/22/2009 8:47:51 PM | | I have read most posts on this subject, but I don't think it's such a big deal that I like older women,, I always have and I always will :) | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 1/23/2009 3:23:41 PM | For some of us women over 40 (myself included) I've dated and been in relationships with both younger and older men...Age is really just a number, for me maturity, integrity, personality, passion which really has no age barrier....are the things that make me pick either a younger or older man. | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 1/23/2009 8:48:52 PM | | The man who proposed to me was alot younger then me. It wasn't a problem at all. We got along great and did many things together. So, I don't think age is a problem at all, its a number. But no marriage will be happening with me!! | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 1/24/2009 11:46:09 AM | Well lets see I have dated younger(5 years being youngest gap) and older woman (15 years being oldest gap) and id have to say that from what ive leared the younger ones where more about the hook ups and one night stands then the older ones most of the older ones just wanted me to go out and be there kind of arm candy but when we would stay home it was all about cuddling while watching movies and just having them in my arms. So from my lessons id have to say that me personally id have to say that i like the older woman then the younger ones just cause of the fact that id rather have someone that wanted me in there lives then someone that just wants me for a one night kind of thing.
But dont get me wrong, id love to meet someone closer to my own age that wants what i like and what id rather have in my life... | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:52:02 AM | Since my D-I-V-O-R-C-E I have been L-O-N-E-L-Y. I love women in general, granted the so called "better looking" is what I prefer but not necessary, what I don't like is the real UGLY ones. Age "don't matter to me so long as their not as old as my mother. I agree that a lady can maybe learn a little more from an older guy and that a lot of them "know" what is going on and a lot of the younger ones want either money or quick sex both of which I don't have a "lot" of money but enough, and I don't like the "quick sex" thing. Because with older guys it takes a little more attention & cuddling just to be comfortable with it. If you know what I mean I'm not that impotent, oh i meant to say important but sometimes a little patience goes a long, long way in making love "properly". And I did say "properly" A lot of the young guys don't know what that is, and they are missing out on a lot, both for themselves but more importantly to the lady. They appreciate a little cuddling more than the Feed em F**k em, & Forget em thing. Of course a lot of the yong ones don't in this day and age don't get it either. I do get it and I get much, much pleasure pleasing a lady than I do with just pleasing myself, that's just the way that I am, but I must admit when I was a lot younger that was my philosopy too, and how wrong I was. I would even, been
known to have, taken a gal out to a nice dinner and stop at the drug store on the way & say, hold on just a minute, I've got to run in here and buy some rubbers and then if she was still in the car I knew what was gonna happen and if she wasn't I would think , boy that sure saved me the expense of spending a lot money feeding her. How stupid was that, but I was a tyical guy at the time, and now I am not what some may call typical, really just the opposite. I was married for 39 years and was never un-faithful to my wife, but what ended the marriage was I found out, the hardest of ways that she started to be un-faithful to me I immediately told her I wanted a divorce and she said she wasn't ready yet. I replied well I am more than ready and I did, she got everything anyway though but I didn't care, I made it once and I can make it again, which I have. And it was worth 39 years of hard work and being faithful. I have made it again partially and will continue to make it and will be kind of, or should I say very picky to ever marry again. I would have to be very sure of her intentions before I would go through that heartbreak again. It almost, literally, killed me. But I just got up and dusted myself off and will continue trying, just like your supposed to do when you fall off of a horse.
And that's just the way that I am and they can take it or leave it, and if they decide to leave it that's alright too, sorry for such a log post but thats the way I feel. Thanks for letting me "vent" Jack  | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 8/24/2009 3:42:37 PM | Recently I asked my dance partner who kept calling me young man how old she thought I was. Reply: "50".
Reality is she [58] is 129 days younger than I. Did honesty blow my chances with a younger [spunky] woman. Bugga, bum, poop  | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 8/24/2009 7:04:20 PM | From personel experience, it is awesome! They like to do fun things and laugh and there is no huge drama or dilemma's most of the time and they say the same about us!. Heck, I wish there were more out there that will date older women. Anywhere up to 10-12 years, much more than that it can cause problems when you age, I think! | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 8/27/2009 12:10:32 PM | Not this camper although I am not yet 40
Something kind of creepy to me about dating someone closer to my daughters age than my own but that is purely my opinion and no judgement reflected on those that find having someone younger rocks their boat. | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 8/27/2009 5:19:32 PM | So this means two thirds date men their own age and older. No big deal. To each his or her own.
However, probably more then two thirds of the men date women younger then themselves. duh! Who cares.
Attraction is what it is.
But I cna't see me dating a woman young enough to be my daughter. Or so young her parents are my age. Now that would be creepy! | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 8/27/2009 6:52:16 PM | | Myself, i prefer younger men. They treat us women better. Im not talking about anything sexual. Usually the younger ones bring me flowers, open doors, etc. The older men that have been married for so long then divorced usually forget all these respectable practices. It's also looks. I am told I dont look my age, but when i look at most men my age, they are showing it. Its just a preference , but ill stick with the young ones. | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 8/27/2009 7:46:02 PM |
I saw a couple like this the other day on a busy downtown sidewalk, and the younger guy didn't even follow the custom of walking on the outside (street-side) of the woman.
Maybe younger men are not submissive like you and don't themselves as human shields to protect women from traffic. | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 8/27/2009 9:27:18 PM |
When an older woman dates a younger man, she spoils him for all the women in his age range that come along later. He will always be looking for that pampering and sexual experience. Also some people mentioned younger as being 1 to 5 years younger. I don't consider that age range young! Date someone 10 years younger, then you will see a difference! You will tend to become a big influence in their life and they will never forget you. The question of whether they stay around or not for the long term.. well does that really have anything to do with age! I think that has more to do with compatibility
What do you mean pampering? | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 11/15/2009 9:27:28 PM | I've been with a few young men myself and find them very disappointing. They lack experience and know how....i much prefer older men. I think older women go for younger men because they think the younger guys are going to give it to them better, and 2ndly for their own ego sake that they can still catch a young guy. Mind you, yes maybe the younger guys have more to give in certain "areas", but a lot of them do not know how to do much more. I don't really like younger guys.
I have received more offers than I can count from younger men, and all of them tell me they love older women. However, a lot of them say in their emails that maybe "you can teach me something". Sweetie, I am not here to teach, I am here to enjoy. I don't like trying to teach a man what to do. I tried that once to a very young man that literally begged to be with me. After a few attempts, and him not learning, I gave it up. I prefer the more experienced myself. | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 11/15/2009 10:59:24 PM | lots of younger guys hang out w older women for sx, dumps em when they find a younger, hotter chick. sometimes after they left em w kids, way it goes, cougah.
pretty routine thing, not sure why so many people are all worked up about it. remember The Graduate? think Dustin was ever gonna marry that cougah? hah. Who does he run off with in the end? (her daughter).
Even 3-4 yrs older makes a woman "acceptable 4 sx" to a man, but truth b told ladies (heard it all, don't bother correcting me, 'k? thx) he wants a younger woman. Just a matter of when he does it, don't care if he marries u, either--he still wants younger (just like u:).
Even if he's not scopin' out the younger action, the younger woman is ON THE LOOKOUT TO STEAL THE COUGAH"S MAN, she b scopin' out his action (best watch closely, mtn lion) married or not. just sayin, welcome to the jungle.
If you're not Demi Moore (you're not), you're going to get poached. Haven't yet? Operative word: yet | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 11/16/2009 1:25:19 AM | Thats very interesting.....
If you're looking at it from a sexual standpoint well women seem to be at their peak between 30-45 and men usually anywhere from 25-35 ..... BEFORE YOU GET MAD!!!lol
Im not saying there aren't women or men outside of that age bracket that aren't hot and heavy all the time ........
Looking at it from a Relationship standpoint some women that are older are very athletic and like a young guy to keep up with them, but really in a relationship it isnt really the age but more of compatibility and where the 2 people are at in their lives...
Everyone is different, my last like 4 relationships have been with women at least 8 yrs older than me, yet Ive had some women my age younger or even 2 years older than me tell me i'm too young for them.... Of course I laugh it off Obviously I dont generally attract and date older women because i'm still a kid or immature for my age....
Life experiences create wisdom which is a part of maturity, there are alot of close minded people in the world, if you really think about it age is just a number...You can be 25 and have gone through just as much if not more than people who are much older than you..... Age means nothing | |
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