| | One third of older women date younger menPage 4 of 17 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17) | Gee, Island, I think your definition is too all-encompassing. #1 is what I see as a cougar and I learned about cougars from an expert. #2 - I think there can be lots of affluent, independant women in a midlife crisis without them being cougars and I think this kind of midlife crisis happens more with guys - you know, the 50 year old men with 20 year old girls saying 'look what I can do?' #3 - I think a cougar can respect men her own age but just make the choice to include younger guys for a time. #4 - this is too funny for words - a perfect definition.
Once again Island, you've given us wisdom - a little bitterness, perhaps, but wisdom none the less.
As for me - at 62, I'm receiving way more messages from 20 and 30 year olds than from guys my own age. Maybe I should be flattered, but I think my sense of self worth is strong enough that I don't need a puppy to train. I want an equal partner, not a puppy. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2006 8:27:00 PM | Just like Marcia 2 ..I recieve the under age 35 emails now and then . I chuckle and remind the person ,,thank you very much .. but why would you wanna date a woman old enough to be your mother with a kid at home old enough to be your younger brother?
Believe me I have dated an man under 40 and it was great as long as the lights were low and the door was shut. But that gets old and tired after an while and there is nothing left.
I think the main reason we went out was because we were both so lonely
We didn't like the same music . How long was that suppose to last? | |
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Posted: 7/11/2006 10:54:22 PM | I don't purposely "target" younger men ... I get emails from them and they ask me out. If the older guys don't want me and I want a date ... should I sit home waiting for an older guy to ask me out or should I just go out and have fun?
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Posted: 7/11/2006 11:22:46 PM | | Cotter...you should go out and have fun. Most of the women I have dated in the last few years have been older than me, usually 3 to 5 years older. When I was in my early 30's I had a pretty hot relationship with a woman in her late 50's. That sounds rediculous now,but I don't regret it...we had a lot of fun. | |
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Tansi
| | Joined: 2/25/2006
Msg: 81 | |
| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/12/2006 5:52:28 AM | "Date"
One third "date" younger men. No where does that say "trolls bars, finds a puppy, gets him drunk and forces him to go home with her and and have meaningless sex"
I know you crotchety, cyncial, tired of being rejected, no friggin picture on your profile, curmudgeons can't remember what dating is, but it can also entail going to a movie, a car show, skating, fishing, hiking....I still do that at 56. Do you?
What has age got to do with any of that? Sheeeeeeeeeeesh!
ooooooops, time for a coffee before I kill something.
~Tansi~
ps Ragz and Horselady are both personal acquaintances and could run circles around you codgers
Hi Moraima and Sorrall . Good to see you both | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 6:19:58 AM | If the older guys don't want me and I want a date ... should I sit home waiting for an older guy to ask me out or should I just go out and have fun?
Very well said Cotter, I guess the men our age feel that once they are done with us we should all join a convent and erect shrines to their memories. Amazing, alot of them don't want us but yet **** when there are those that do. And that friggin Cougar word....grrrrrr or should I roar instead. How about we are just women that would like to go out and have some fun and perhaps meet someone that we could have a meaningful relationship with. What in the world is wrong with that?? | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 6:33:55 AM | Interesting and I'm glad to hear it.
Right now I'm dating a man who is 15 years older than I am and it's not an issue, but I suppose if he were 15 years younger it might be. This past weekend I went to Eugene to hear my son sing in a bar and the next morning he told me that some of his friends told him they almost hit on me before they knew who I was. Flattering to be sure, and probably a little disturbing to my son, but I'm not interested in someone THAT young.
I have dated men 10 years younger and it wasn't a big deal. I guess I'm saying that age isn't so much an issue as are mutual interests, health, respect, and well, whatever maybe intangible things that make us attracted to another person. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 6:48:29 AM | | My experience is that women my age and older don't want someone my age or older. At least, that is what they have told me. It could just be they didn't want me in particular. I have heard this said by women generally, not addressed to me. It is expressed here at POF a lot, or else it stands out so I think it's a lot. Women who are younger seem to want men up until about 45. My guess is that women don't mention it if they like men my age, but the ones who don't make a point of it, so it seems as if the age range of 45+ is going unwanted. The stereotype seems to be that men 45+ can't get it up, are grumpy, and don't like women older than 33. I estimate that probably about 1 in 6,000 women over the age of 39 wants anything to do with a man who is older than 45, unless it is to kick him in the shins. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 7:13:59 AM | I estimate that probably about 1 in 6,000 women over the age of 39 wants anything to do with a man who is older than 45, unless it is to kick him in the shins.
I so love being unique because I'm the 1 in 6,000. Nothing wrong with a man that has a little seasoning on him. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 8:23:16 AM | Ochun...I so agree...always been attracted to older men myself.
Unlike the beautiful women on here, I haven't received e-mails from the 20-30's crowd...lol...and that's ok. I've probably forgotten what I'd do with a guy that age anyway. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 9:27:27 AM | I'm 48 soon to be 49  and I would never have consciously set out to date younger men.
The other day at work, a young man asked me out for coffee and to go dancing. After talking with him, I found his age to be 32. When I asked if he could guess my age, he thought I was 38 to 40. I couldnt help but laugh. Because he is a co-worker, I didnt take him up on the coffee but I am considering dating younger men. They seem more playful and in the moment, I like that.
Still thinking..........
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Tansi
| | Joined: 2/25/2006
Msg: 89 | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 9:47:44 AM | ^ Wanted to go riding with you? You ride horses don'thcha? You have that in common and maybe if you met for coffee you may have more in common. woman woman woman!!!!
Got too much to do to make a new friend? What if he dances? Hmmmm? You love to dance.
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Posted: 7/12/2006 11:11:15 AM | Yesterday, I finally got my container (just moved to Arizona from Hawaii) and needed to unload it. A friend (male, age 50) who is always bragging about his physical strength and abilities to out-run and out-do many men who are much younger stepped up to help. Bless his heart and believe me I am grateful.
We were unloading the container with a dolly and moving the storage tubs to another truck with that dolly ... no one had to do much carrying or lifting to achieve that. Not only did he become "winded" quite quickly when handling the storage tubs and helping to transfer them to the Uhaul ... he needed numerous breaks.
Yes, I also took breaks ... we're talking Phoenix heat at noon here. Okay, I was not running circles around him, but, I was handling just as much "freight" as he was and did not become "winded" and only took the breaks when he did because he demanded it. (He said he couldn't stand to see me working while he was sitting down.)
While I'm not putting this in here to put him down, I do want to make this point: I'm 57 years old and he was not able to keep up with me physically and he's 7 years younger than me.
Just a thought ... not meaning to stir up trouble here ....Could this be one reason older women are dating younger men?
He's a nice man ... just not my type. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 11:15:19 AM | | I doubt your being able to haul more freight than what's-his-name is a reason why other women date the men they choose. It might be why some cab drivers quit smoking. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 1:53:57 PM | | If I make an *connection* with a man the numbers do not really matter!! Yes, there are limits to that statement....do not want to mother anyone....do not want to nurse anyone.. I enjoy a man who I can laugh with, learn from and feel comfortable with...his age is not a pre-requisite....hope mine would not be for him!!! | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 4:28:49 PM | | One of the good things about hooking up with an older woman (older than me) is that she is more likely to be financially stable, and have fewer demands on her free time. That can be awfully appealing to a guy who is looking to travel and play and would like a companion! | |
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Tansi
| | Joined: 2/25/2006
Msg: 96 | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 4:32:32 PM | | Well, I'm partial to old Graybeards. But I live in a tiny town where I'm probably kin to 2/3 of them and the rest can't read and write. My only complaint is that many of the men my age or so are having medical problems, ED or something. If I'm married, I'd expect to make love once in awhile (daily would be nice, but I can compromise). And I get more messages from younger men. Unfortunately, most of them give themselves away (post #20) and never get to the point where I give them my IM id. I'd be happy as a clam if I found/got found by an old Graybeard who likes to dance, camp out, see the world and visit with both our families AND was reasonably healthy and able to make love at least once a week. (Good kisser would be nice, too.) | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 7:40:23 PM | Totally agree with you Hawk Dream....Too many men my age are just waiting for retirement for the travel and the fun of having a relationship. By the time the age of retirement comes along, they just want to sit back n relax...'take it easy' so they say.
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He is 50 & does not have any similar interests/goals, etc. with me at all - so what's the point.
