| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/14/2006 1:53:03 PM | Since I am raising a teenage granddaughter, maybe I should find a man who is raising children himself. The men my age freak out when they realize they can't be the only "baby" in the family.  | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/25/2006 4:14:57 AM | In many aspects it has to do with age, because of maturity.
Women of 45 are tired of being controlled especially of men of this generation just expecting to be the BOSS.. Men that have been brought up more modern, usually the generation after me are use to independant women and listening to a woman's views etc. Equality in a relationships ensures a lasting more loving partner. | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 103 | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/25/2006 4:55:11 AM | Most of this age stuff is because our age is PLASTERED on our profiles. I’ve been single for three years - have not “dated” much because I don’t really see the point of ***casual*** dating.
I think - a total of about 7 females I have actually met in person in these three years. Five of that seven were from singles sites and they knew my age before hand - it was PLASTERED on my profile - their ages were from 45 to 50 - they all were in that age group.
I’ve met two - out in the real world that did not have my age in their face before hand.
#1 - was 44 years old - she ask me “how old are you - no don’t answer that - I am an expert at guessing a guy’s age” - she stared right in my face (about 1 foot away) for a bit and proclaimed me 46 years old - I said “I am” - she said “yes you are - I just don’t want to be robbing the cradle and date guys younger than I am”. Who was I to argue with an “expert” - she dragged me home the next time I ran into her.
#2 - was about a month ago. I picked her up - we had met the night before at a QuikTrip (like a 7-11 only much bigger) - she had told me she was 43 the night we met. I brought her to my house - got up close - looked her right in the face and said - “I am older than I look - does that bother you” - she said “no - you are about 51 or 52” ...................
So - all you other old goats (like me) get out in the world where they see YOU first - age don’t seem to matter all that much then. | |
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ousu
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Joined: 6/2/2005
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/25/2006 5:19:20 AM |
Women of 45 are tired of being controlled especially of men of this generation just expecting to be the BOSS..
Never thought it that way - perhaps this is a cultural issue? I had always been thinking it is the other way round: with elder guys you as a female are supposed to be telling all the time what is needed to do next.
The problem with much younger men (generalization) is that they have still many things ahead of them - things which start to be in the past for me - such like starting a family. In short term expectations it is, naturally, irrelevant. | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/25/2006 5:43:53 AM |
So - all you other old goats (like me) get out in the world where they see YOU first - age don’t seem to matter all that much then.
As usual, we are in agreement, Ron...I have had the same type of experiences.
Age seems to be very important on the internet..in spite of all the discussions about 'its only a number', but far less important in face to face introductions. Perhaps it is because we all have preconceptions of what someone looks like at a certain chronological 'age'
I have met some women that defied logic....some are much younger than their 'age' in physical appearance, attitude and activity levels. I have also encountered the reverse.... | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/25/2006 6:39:34 AM | I have met some women that defied logic....some are much younger than their 'age' in physical appearance, attitude and activity levels. Yes ... and that's where we run into problems ...
Not all men ... I repeat ... NOT ALL MEN our age act like old farts, stick-in-the-mud, set-in-their ways, couch potatos. Unfortunately, they are few and far between and most are unavailable ... married .. or already taken.
So what should we do? Should we just get out there and run circles around the guys ...
... while fending off the younger gentlemen who are willing to keep up with us, embrace our younger attitudes and activity levels ... embrace the flexibility that we seek (make time for us in their otherwise busy schedules? I'm still a viable creature ... with viable needs.
I don't feel guilty about wanting a companion who will acknowledge that and make an effort to meet me half way. I refuse to feel guilty about not being able to bring myself to lay around all day ... spending time with a man who has no interest in exploring any kind of activity that takes him more than 5 yards from the house ... | |
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Posted: 7/25/2006 8:49:40 AM | Well...what to say... Compared to everyone here I am 'ancient' in age group, however, Cotter I do have to agree with you. When I speak of an older man, he is a lot older then what you ladies are talking about...SMILE.
I do date guys 'around' my age but also younger....3 to 10 years. When you get into this age group you are not talking about boys but mature men. Am not ready for that rocking chair, yet, and that is what a lot of older men are thinking of...those relaxing, retirement years.
I agree with most of the ladies and gentlemens post I have read because as you have said, is a matter of preference, attitude, energy level, etc. Just have fun dating and if that special person comes along that would be wonderful...but if not...the key is...have fun! We only go around once...and to quote what someone said one time...this is not a rehearsel, this is now or never!
Thank you for the post...has been very interesting. | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/25/2006 3:22:40 PM | Actually, each to his/her own as far as I am concerned.
However, I really dislike 40 some year old women that publicly bash 40 some year old men.  | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/25/2006 3:43:43 PM | One third of older women date younger men ?? ... That means that one third of younger women are without men to be with ... hmmm ... ?!? ... naaaah ... better not ... promised myself I wouldn't.
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/25/2006 3:46:30 PM | Not for me! I've tried it. I went out with a guy 15 years my junior. Adorable young lad. Lips as soft as the head on a root beer, hands with the knowledge of the ages, and a face that could launch a thousand daydreams.
And every time we were out in public, I sat there with the thought running my head, wondering what I would do the first time someone commented on how gorgeous my son was....would I kill them first and then myself, or just avoid the middle man and go for the warm bath and sharp razor?
Sorry, some women may need boy toys to get their giggles. I prefer real belly laughs (and rubs) with guys my own age, or even (actually especially) in the generation above.
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/25/2006 4:01:42 PM |
Lips as soft as the head on a root beer, hands with the knowledge of the ages, and a face that could launch a thousand daydreams.
Dang, sapph ... that's one powerful poetic image. K, heart ... you can resume beating now.
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/25/2006 4:15:02 PM |
Not for me! I've tried it. I went out with a guy 15 years my junior. Adorable young lad. Lips as soft as the head on a root beer, hands with the knowledge of the ages, and a face that could launch a thousand daydreams - DAM GIRL  How you doing? | |
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Joined: 7/15/2006
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/25/2006 4:23:39 PM | Well its just not for me.....I know alot of women that do and are quite happy but the whole idea just is too weird for me.......so I will just be sticking with the older man | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/25/2006 4:32:41 PM | Thanks for asking HL....I'm doing good. Up and around after surgery, drinking the milk of human kindness that abounds, knowing it'll dry up soon enough when they realize I can actually wash dishes and sweep floors again. :)
And thank you cdn guy for the compliment w/ regard to imagery.
It's good to be back.
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/26/2006 2:52:48 AM | | Older women are often more interesting and have a better mindset than a lot of younger girls. I'm 20 and often find older women attractive | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/26/2006 5:04:18 AM | Older women are often more interesting and have a better mindset than a lot of younger girls. I'm 20 and often find older women attractive
Just what do you mean by 'mindset'?
I'm not sure you could handle most of these women....
Ladies...do you want a
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/27/2006 4:31:34 PM | | I wonder how much influence the fact that many of us are still working full time has. And what about the fact that many of us are raising children or grandchildren and many men our age are retired and don't want to be bothered/compete with children? Then there's the whole other thing about men "our age" only wanting someone who is "financially secure" (which I guess means she was able to save most of her paycheck over the years or was left a sizeable insurance policy or divorce settlement), or has the freedom, time and funds (or at least freedom and time) to travel with them all the time (which I would happily do if someone wanted to support my granddaughter & me, for the next 3 years and me for however long I/he/the marriage lasts). | |
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Posted: 7/27/2006 6:01:25 PM | @hawkdream ... I hear ya' ... I'm fairly new at my career and still intend to work for some time. Without exception ... I have found that men my age are wanting to settle down and travel. Now I do not have the responsibility of a grandchild ... however, I do still have the responsibility of putting a roof over my head, food on my table, gas in my car, providing my own insurance benefits .......
I have had older men tell me how well off they are (and prove it ... one was a millionare doctor) and offer me the life of luxury if I quit working and just follow them around ... doing whatever they want to do ... golf, travel, sailing, lecturing ... the whole nine yards. But what if the relationship doesn't work out? Let's not mention that my work gives my life meaning. (hahaha ... I'll never forget that doctor offering me the possibility of doing "volunteer work" in a hospital in order to fulfill that need! WTF? My field of interest is Home Health Nursing ... I'd be totally out of my element in a doggone hospital.)
I've given up my career ... my house ... my whole means of supporting myself and providing myself with retirement security. If they decide to "dump" me ... I doubt they will have provided for that in a pre-nup! No sir-ree ... I'm on the street.
So dating a slightly (not talking about a man young enough to be my son!) "younger gentleman" is the best solution for me ... he's still getting up and going to work everyday ... gets his alloted vacation per year (as I would still get) and together we can work on taking it at the same time on some beach! Together we can build a life together ... fill it with our dreams and activities ... and hopefully retire at about the same age ... together. | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 7/29/2006 10:48:55 PM | | Ive always dated youger men and I married one because those are the ones that asked me out. I never thought to ask them their age I just wanted to get to know them. But i have no qualms about dating older men it just has never happened. | |
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 8/7/2006 1:42:25 PM |
One third of older women date younger men It's because:
*we can't find men our age who can keep up with us.
*men our age won't get off the doggone couch and do stuff with us.
*men our age are so stuck in their own agendas and schedules that they won't make room for our interests ... stuck in their ways!
*many (not all) are really out of shape and won't admit it to themselves (wow ... I'm gonna get bashed for that one ... I can hear it now ... INCOMING! ... time to duck!
At least that has been my experience ... JMO | |
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Posted: 8/7/2006 1:49:31 PM | hmmmm.... i will do my best to stay focussed ...
last summer i was at the beach and .. OMG this verrrrrrry hot young body strutted by .. and i know the he knew that he was steamy .. and i reallly don't care!!! OMG OMG OMG >.... i have been single a verrrrrrrrrrrrrry long time!! phew .. sometimes its not just a hot flash! .. anyway .. FOCUS!!! ... he caught my eye and i said "you should be fined for walking around looking like that" .. he had a very nice smile too ..
now .. where's that fan ...
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| One third of older women date younger men
Posted: 8/7/2006 2:27:04 PM | | My first husband was my age, my second husband was younger and my last LTR was older. Throughout my life, I not only DATED younger men, but have actually had relationships with them. By younger, I mean up to 10 yrs younger. I have also had relationships with men my age and men who are much older (20 yrs older at the time); however, I have to say at this age that dating an 80-yr old man would give me pause. This has to do with the fact that an 80-yr old man would not be very "active" if you catch my drift. I can't see myself dating someone 20 yrs younger than me either at this point, because of the emotional gap not the age. i have to RELATE to the man i'm with on a number of levels - doesn't matter what their age is. | |
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